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 valleyguyaz
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 81
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?Page 4 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
i don't really like a woman watching me masturbate.

its seems like a waste and a pity that you have a woman in your presence and your jacking it when you could be doing her instead.
 AngelofHonesty
Joined: 1/4/2012
Msg: 82
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/25/2012 7:02:22 PM
Well that's not the case I have encountered, men whom I'm with rather enjoy the fact that I'm totally turned on by witnessing the very intimate sexual pleasing of themselves. They are totally turned on because as they are jerking the**** I'm fiddling my ****, hey let's have one big hell of a -take-care-of-yourself party, it's so erotic, damn I'm horny just thinking about it.... Hell to each their own, most men assume that a woman would be turned off but hell you don't know unless you ask right!!!! I on the other hand let them know right off the back that watching him masturbate is major major major did I say major turn on.....
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 83
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/25/2012 7:33:44 PM

I find now that I am very turned on by the sight of a man handling himself. For future reference, how would I approach this, or will finding a man who likes to do this in front of me be like looking for a needle in a haystack? Is this completely weird?

That is a trick question right,,my girl loves it,,and has asked me to do it,,wasn't my fav thing to do,, until I experienced how turned on she got,,it as amazing,, and yes,, old men like me can go more than once,, then it's all cow girl,, YEAH Baby..
 nikkisenko
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 85
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/26/2012 5:22:47 AM
I don't know where the original OP did her internet search. But, uh, I've not ran into this issue yet. In my experience, men love it. :)
 thepleasurema6
Joined: 6/1/2012
Msg: 86
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/26/2012 8:05:16 AM
i find it a great turn on if the woman wants to watch me. it is like she wants to be a little closer to me and also by her watching she can see how i do, what makes me happy and in return she can copy the way i do myself. this in the end give both her and i great pleasure. so anyone that feels uncomfortable with their partner watching you masturbate is only cheating himself out of unknown pleasure. im open, you can watch me anytime.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 87
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Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/26/2012 9:38:54 AM

i don't really like a woman watching me masturbate.

its seems like a waste and a pity that you have a woman in your presence and your jacking it when you could be doing her instead.

Sometimes I don't want sex, just the orgasm. Sometimes I don't want either. If my partner, who has a different libido than I do is aroused and craving his own orgasm, who am I to deny that? Sometimes if I'm not in the mood and he is, watching him for a while is enough to light my own fire. I'm a light sleeper and there have been many times I've woken up to his stroking. It's beyond hot to lay next to him, kissing him and holding his balls in my hand, lightly tugging and squeezing, yup... not a waste at all.

I really see this as just a part of sexuality, not a replacement for sex.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 88
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/26/2012 11:40:48 AM
i don't see what the big deal is... whatever turns you and your partner on is always my cup of tee...


i like watching a girl do it too while I watch...


hell, i usually put her to work if he's watching me do it -
 Love.Notes
Joined: 7/27/2012
Msg: 89
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/26/2012 2:20:19 PM
MSG 92 valleyguyaz
It is not a waste of time to masturbate in front of your lover, it's called foreplay. To say you don't enjoy or feel comfortable doing it in front of her is one thing. To say it's a waste of time is yet another.

 SaintLouisMichael
Joined: 7/10/2012
Msg: 90
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/26/2012 2:36:34 PM
Any woman who would feel uncomfortable about masturbation during intimacy is nothing but a mess of sexual dysfunction. Run, Forrest! Run!
 Love.Notes
Joined: 7/27/2012
Msg: 91
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/26/2012 10:29:08 PM
Not to mention that it's a great way to see how your lover likes to be touched. Fast, slow, hard ( boy some men are rough on their goods!) I'd rather show him then have to tell him he's to rough not rough enough and so on. Loosen up, you may end up enjoying it.
 Oncetwice57
Joined: 7/4/2012
Msg: 92
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/27/2012 5:16:10 AM
Well.....masturbation is somewhat of a private thing.....and most...men and woman consider it that way...Ive never had a woman ask me that but I would consider such if she did at the same time.....think that would be fun but..i still prefer a womans touch when Im with them...lol
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
Msg: 93
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/27/2012 6:10:00 AM
I don't mind & dated a few that were turned on by it. I'd stroke myself to remain hard between sessions, as we moved to different positions or if she got up for something, which is what led to their opening up about liking it.

Mind you I'm not a kid & those I date are in the 40 to 50 range. Some are a little more open to things they'd spent their lifetime being told was taboo or that's what your for & watching a man masturbate, as she masturbated, is one of them.
 SaintLouisMichael
Joined: 7/10/2012
Msg: 94
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/27/2012 6:14:51 AM

masturbation is somewhat of a private thing.....


Especially if you spend most of your time alone.


and most...men and woman consider it that way...


You shouldn't speak for "most men and women" as I doubt they think like you.

Why all the ellipses?
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/27/2012 6:18:54 AM
I enjoy being watched
 Unmetneeds
Joined: 10/21/2011
Msg: 96
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/27/2012 10:09:32 AM
Frankly, i love watching and being watched. A bit of strategic mutual masterbation, or just being watched, can be a very erotic situation whether in person, phone, or "other". He must have issues of some sort.
 daytimepm
Joined: 3/5/2012
Msg: 97
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Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/27/2012 11:56:38 AM
i like masturbating in front of a woman....even better if she is masturbating too
 MakeUTingle
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 98
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 8/27/2012 2:37:58 PM
I will put on whatever type of performance She wants to watch!
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 99
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 9/4/2012 1:27:26 PM
Visiting a few friends in the big city (high rise apartments) I noticed all of them had telescopes....a few women I had dated form the big city also had telescopes.....
 lookn4you
Joined: 10/5/2011
Msg: 100
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 9/4/2012 8:11:41 PM
Hi You..

It's all about the mental part of sex. Which, btw, IMHO, is the very best part. The Ex hated it and should never even have been a part of it or even brought up. You liked it, and he should have enjoyed that you did and given you a hell of a show.

I love a woman who can get in to the mental. The physical is good, but so easy and common. The Brain is the best sex organ...

Ron
 nipoleon
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 101
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Posted: 9/5/2012 3:26:30 AM
If you like watching men masturbate so much, then why do you keep calling the police ?

If women really liked watching it, they'd be buying tickets to see it.
 searching4truelove00002
Joined: 7/13/2011
Msg: 102
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 9/5/2012 11:44:02 AM
I'll be your needle.....I love being watched, it just adds to the climax...
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 103
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 10/14/2012 7:41:03 PM
You're kidding, right?

It's one of the biggest turn-ons to have your woman watching you masturbate... even better if she is doing it herself whilst she's watching you.


But in poking around the Net, I have found that most men DON'T want their significant others watching them jerk off and some say that they can't "perform" if they are being watched. However, men do like to see a woman get herself off.

You've been poking around the wrong places! lol
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 104
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 10/15/2012 6:51:16 AM

The only thing I want to put in here, is that like the guy you dumped, OP, I also grew up in a world where masturbation was considered to be an act of weakness or dissolution by a guy, and wherein the women I knew (as someone else mentioned) claimed that, along with looking at anything approaching porn, that it was akin to cheating on them.


I think Igor nailed here. The reality is that even I felt that masturbation was a bad thing until after my divorce and I began to attend the forums and realize that it's simply normal.
 Wedne003
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 105
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 10/15/2012 8:00:08 AM
My ex was like this, could not do it no matter what I suggested. Me I love to wank in front of a woman, especially if she is talking dirty to me.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 106
Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate?
Posted: 10/15/2012 8:02:37 AM
It's not so much liking or disliking her watching, it's more like why masturbate with a women in bed with me?

That is something I do when I have no GF.
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