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 Willy.Wonka
Joined: 1/21/2010
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Sixty is too old for dating. At sixty all one needs is a good night's sleep and warm socks.
 barrone61
Joined: 2/20/2012
Msg: 52
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/27/2012 6:22:58 PM
Do yourself a favor mate ,, this is a waste of time ,, I'm 61 and haven't had a date off these sites in years ,, too cynical now , and tired of the bullshit.
Quit while you still have some self-esteem left.
 BrookfieldGentlemanTom
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 53
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/27/2012 7:16:34 PM
it's scaring me too. i'm 59, soon to be ...59! lol

it's getting more and more difficult to
find 22 year olds to date, might have to go up to 25.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 54
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Posted: 2/27/2012 7:31:41 PM

Sixty is too old for dating.

True, too old for dating and other games. That's why it's best to start with sex on the second or third date.
 southmeetswest
Joined: 4/26/2010
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Posted: 2/27/2012 8:25:41 PM
why do people ask questions like this?

it is all so subjective. there is a different answer possible from every person on the planet.

but, here is my answer. it depends, on the person
we all have our preferences, our perceptions of ourselves, yada, yada

so, my experience is that 60 is not a cut off for a large number of men when it comes to finding a woman.

i also think there are a large number of women who don't consider 60 a cut off point.

but then i could be wrong.

work with what you have, with who you are and what you want. that is the best you can do.

and i agree with someone who said
what makes you think a woman your age or older cannot keep up with you? i would venture to guess that that whole statement is a veil (unconsious or not) over your desire for someone younger to affirm your self with. but then i could be wrong. but then that is just one of the things that figure into our preferences and needs so no faulting you on that. your choice.
 gagn1
Joined: 11/24/2008
Msg: 56
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/28/2012 11:41:36 AM
I absolutely agree with you on this one bob, well said.
 MondoVman
Joined: 4/26/2009
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Posted: 2/28/2012 1:24:05 PM
Hey OP, some whine to go with your cheese. A relatively small, timely adjustment we all make on POF is re-learning to comprehend what others write/want, too. Not doing so only prolongs one's confused experience in the gi-normous sea of sexual fecundity. *pant pant*
Poor guy. You wrote "seems most profiles I ch.(choose?) the woman will have an age bracket that tops out at 60." So what? Well, for all of us, it seems a silly lot of effort to be forced to access a profile in order to discover I'm either within or out of her age bracket. But that's one of POF's dating obstacles at present.

POF matching still does not consider my search age bracket against hers. (Have always thought "what the hell?") Since I'm 61, and my bracket is 56 to 63 (I think), then if she's only looking for 59 and 60 year olds, I would prefer an option for her profile to NOT match. Similarly, a 51 yr old looking upward of 61 could optionally match me in her searches or not.
 Plenty_of_FreeTime
Joined: 10/26/2011
Msg: 58
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/28/2012 5:33:31 PM
Obviously some didn't get the semi-sarcastic nature of my first post,and no I'm not whining!
Just making an observation of what I've run across in my particular small town POF area,
and yes I've tried the dating/POF scene of the closest large metropolitan area (Vegas).
But it's been my experience with a long distance relationship,just too many pitfalls and hoops to jump thru,to make it worth my while.
For some guys, Vegas is a smorgasbord of available(?) POF women,it's just not my cup of tea.

Something I have noticed from reading this one and a few other threads,and it never occurred to me,is the perception that some,maybe many women think that a lot of men over say 50/60 suffer from ED.
I totally understand how this unfortunate situation,can be a major deal breaker for certain/most women.
So I took the liberty to change my goofy little DISCLAIMER:at the bottom of my profile,to maybe let an interested lady know I haven't reached that stage....without being too crass or direct.
I do wanna die sportin' wood though!

I'll let you guys know how it goes....YEAH RIGHT!!
 gagn1
Joined: 11/24/2008
Msg: 59
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/28/2012 5:53:11 PM
There's a danger they will think you are only looking for sex. I think that most people that are on plenty of fish assume that you are able to have sex.
 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
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Posted: 2/28/2012 5:59:45 PM
I certainly hope 61 isn't the cutoff age! I'm 62. :)

To offer a slightly more useful answer, I'm sure there are some women in your area who want to date men your age or older. That doesn't mean all of those women will say so in their profiles, for a couple of reasons: 1) they may be hoping to find younger men, even though they will consider dating older ones; and 2) they may have been on POF for a year or more -- perhaps including "time off" during a relationship that didn't work out. but now they're back (or just moved into your area) -- and just didn't update that part of their profiles.

You also have the option of dating women a few years older than you, who may be more interested in you as a "younger man".

Or you could try being a "sugar daddy" to a younger woman; that's probably as close as most men can get to being the equivalent of "cougars". :)
 PutYouOnBlast
Joined: 1/18/2012
Msg: 61
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/28/2012 7:58:16 PM
Anthony Quinn fathered about two kids with his 20-something year old wife....anything is possible.
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 2/29/2012 2:08:05 AM
i'm 63. my guy is 57. my 63 year old male friend dates a woman 52. my 68 year old female friend dates three guys all around 60--who cannot keep up with her hiking! most of my friends date in a five year range.

no rules, just barriers, interests and hanging out in the same places or sharing interests. so, go for who you are and the rest follows. but, it does help to keep physically attractive.

i never lied about my age in my profiles and typically men did not have me in their search for that reason. knowing that, i'd click on about 100 profiles at a time, w/o reading them! if someone then wrote me, i knew age was not a problem and then evaluated if we were a match.

my guy did not search my age, but he saw my pic on a website that posted daily newcomers and changes. he took it from there :)

personally, i keep away from more than ten years difference and before him, stuck to five years younger. tried older, but no matches to suit me. as i get older, my priorities, concerns change. even now, i feel the older one, but we have such attraction that we work it out. eg. i have lymes and no longer work. he is still plugging away. so our availability is different and his working affects where he lives.

whatever.....

ED? most guys have viagra if needed. better foreplay when they take their time, ha ha.
 seki1949
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 63
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/29/2012 2:10:59 AM

We humans do not come with an expiry date


Oh yeah we do, about 116 to 118.

Slouching toward Expiration, Seki
 seki1949
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 64
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/29/2012 2:14:58 AM

Anthony Quinn fathered about two kids with his 20-something year old wife....anything is possible.


If you believe the 20-something year old wife....

Doubting, Seki
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 2/29/2012 2:24:24 AM

Anthony Quinn fathered about two kids with his 20-something year old wife....

About two?
What was the exact number? 1.75, 2.01, or more than 2.2?
 swtcarolinej
Joined: 11/11/2006
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Posted: 2/29/2012 5:29:58 AM
Drumming .....it could happen never say never even on POF!!Im still "thinking"about it and Im at the Everyone out of the Pool,Lake,River...stage of life!!! LOL!!!
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 2/29/2012 6:25:08 AM
I am beginning to believe that once a woman reaches 40, on these dating sites, she is toast.....I would enjoy meeting a man who is in the age range of 55 to 65, but most of them want someone young enough to be their daughters........or they are mean and grouchy.....
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 2/29/2012 6:32:33 AM
^^^^Well, you are young enough to be the daughter of a fellow in that age range!

I am moving into the zone thinking that most women in their 40s would not be too interested in a guy my age, not matter what physical shape he is in. That is rather depressing when one scans the crop of people in general that are my age.......nobody to play with any more.....
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
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Posted: 2/29/2012 7:00:09 AM
Actually, I was born in 1953, so I'm not "young enough to be the daughter of a 65 year old man...."
 GASailor
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 2/29/2012 7:04:22 AM

I hope not, I prefer older men...

Why is it all you women with the right attitude live in Canada???
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 2/29/2012 7:06:52 AM
^^^^^^Canadian women are generally better looking, so don't have to limit themselves so much.......
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 72
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:03:56 AM

^^^^^^Canadian women are generally better looking, so don't have to limit themselves so much......


Got to agree with you there.. When I first returned home to Montreal that was the first thing I noticed was how good looking the women were here.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 73
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:14:34 AM

It just seems most profiles I ch.,the woman will have an age bracket that tops out at 60.
Plus I tend to like women a little younger than myself,must be the SoCal in me.
I best get hustlin', times a runnin' out!!!



Let me clarify "younger",I'd say in the mid to late 50's AARP range.
I don't think that's being too unrealistic,'cause I can be a handful to keep up with sometimes!
An ex-g/f said I had one of those AADD afflictions or something like that.


OP, women in the mid to late 50s are not "younger" women. I am 59 and I don't consider a man 45+ a "younger" man. Most of them look at old as I do (probably lying about their ages, anyway) and in the ones whom I have met and dated, there is no discernible differences in activity level, etc.

As for you being AADD, I had too much experience with children who had ADD, WHY would I want to date an adult with the disorder? That has nothing to do with energy but the inability to focus.


With every passing year, you will find that you will be culled out of more and more age search parameters. When I joined POF, I was 56 and I received quite a lot of messages. Every year it's gradually decreased as my age increased. I'm sure a lot of men missed my profile initially since when I joined I was over the dreaded '55' cutoff. Their loss, not mine.


The waning number of emails can also be due to the lack of new men joining the site. I think that I have met or refused to meet most of the men in my town who are on this site.


I am beginning to believe that once a woman reaches 40, on these dating sites, she is toast


No way! I didn't join dating sites until my early 50s and I have met dozens and dozens of men and politely refused dozens more!


Canadian women are generally better looking, so don't have to limit themselves so much


Tsk, my friend--I do not live in Canada. (Grin.)
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 74
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:25:06 AM

Canadian women are generally better looking, so don't have to limit themselves so much.......



...I think the long cold winters tends to perserve our skin...all that ice and snow is like being in a deep freeze for seven months of the year.


...mae
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 75
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 2/29/2012 8:35:27 AM

Why is it all you women with the right attitude live in Canada???


Simply because we are your friendly neighbors.. I actually think the cut off age is 58 for women.. Okay I must admit I get asked out plenty offline so not really complaining but would like to accept one of these days.. The prospects are not good!!!
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