You may have experienced this before, and if yes, i would like to know your opinion.
First date with a beautiful, well educated European girl went very well..after waiting for 24 hrs, I sent her a text message..BUT she doesn't respond at all for 48 hrs.
Why are you texting her only 24 hours after the first date? Give her and yourself room to breathe. 24 hours is too soon. You should wait MUCH LONGER. You should pick up the phone and call. Once you start a habit of texting in a relationship it will be impossible to break in the future.
You don't have a good sense of what's going on in their head when you're texting. I.e. - hesitating to answer a question versus giving direct answer, etc. Regardless, it'll make her think you're a chump for only texting.
And FYI - you never told us how the date went and what happened.. that will tell us a lot about what's going on here..
48 hours means somehow or another her interest declined. That happened because you text her.
Then she responds and says it was nice to meet and she expresses desire to meet again, on the coming Sunday. I accepted the offer and suggested lunch and some sightseeing.
Until Saturday night 11pm, she didn't even ask what time we were meeting
YOU got asked out. Talk about scoring one for the team! Yeah! But, you should have secured the time immediately
..when I texted and suggested 12 noon, she requested to delayed it by an hour..I accepted.
So you texted her with a follow-up about the time..not good..that told this woman you were sitting around waiting for her beckoning call and that you have no life. When she delayed it, she was beating you at being the "alpha" in the relationship. Being that she waited that long to even give you a time in which you had to ask her for even though she had suggested it..you should have said "that you were busy and you will call her soon" ..go do some laundry..work or something..call her in a few days and set up a date in which you have the time and meeting place together.. she'll respect you more....her actions say she's either disorganized (with her life or she didn't have anything really carefully planned) or not all that interested...I say the former. Disinterest is when she shoots it down with no alternative at all.
on the morning of 2nd date, she texted around 10 am that she doesnt want to meet in afternoon as its RAINING and she has some work...instead she suggested for meeting at 7pm same day.
Most women don't want their hair wet and I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be in the rain either and would be glad she rescheduled. If she canceled, different story. Night time is even better. That meant that after she met with you in the morning/afternoon eating food on your credit card that it was highly unlikely that she was going to be with her Joe Schmo in the evening for the real fun.
This shows she's actually thoughtful and can think on her feet. A big plus.
I didnt like the fact that
a) She was responding slowly
b) Everytime I was the one who was initiating
c) She kept on changing her mind
a) Someone who waits a day to text says they aren't all that interested. But, then again you texted her instead of calling her, so you shouldn't be surprised. b) she did initiate when she pretty much organized the second date. c) mixed signals are never good. But, she's clearly disorganized as well and the rain is a valid reason to switch the time. Changing her mind is best described as her saying no altogether.
I refused to meet in the evening and (intentionally) suggested we will do it some other day.
Now I am waiting to see if she REALLY want to meet me and if yes when does she initiates communication.
I am not sure if I did the right thing..just want to take your opinion folks...
Glad you put your foot down and said "no." Finally! Now, you shouldn't wait for her to initiate communication as she probably will not -- since her second date idea was foiled. Normally, when a woman asks me out I realize that it takes a lot of courage to do that since our society has placed the entire workload on us in dating/relationships. Therefore, I'll give her some "wiggle room" to get her game together - unless she does anything that would raise a red flag.
Here's where you'll shine again: by picking up the phone, calling her, and saying: "Let's get together on Thursday, I'll pick you up at 8." That'll kill any awkward communication between the date and the phone call.