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 F1fanIam
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 17
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Maybe you are looking for someone who is perfect ? And no one is..I would suggest seeking counseling..
 HoopoeBird31
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 18
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/8/2012 3:56:24 PM
The reason why I have been relatively quiet in this topic even when I am the op of this thread because I don't want to sound like that I am trying to gain sympathy. That is not the goal I am going to say it again. Most importantly, I would like to thank everyone who took their time to respond with their sincere and good advice.

Moving on, I did have a problem in interacting with people through out my high school and college life which was spent here as I came to this country when I was 15. I could just never come out of my shell for one reason or another. Now finally when I think the shell is broken I have realized that when you are out of school and college it is very hard to meet new people. That's why I joined POF at the first place.

I am not looking for perfection. However, I am a sucker for romance. I grew up watching many melodramatic romantic bollywood films that played a key role in planting this idea of the quest for true love. That's all I ask for. Also, I have been afraid that if I get laid to a woman then I would truly fall for her and then what if she doesn't feel the same way about me? I would have acquired the help of escort services , but the possibility of me falling for a random prostitute also scared the crap out of me.

It is confusing.
 SerendipityHappens
Joined: 1/24/2012
Msg: 19
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/8/2012 6:35:35 PM
The truth is that there is always a risk of heartbreak, but it's worth the risk because the feeling of being in love is so AMAZING that we are willing to risk heartbreak in order to feel that connection with another person. I'm not saying that you need to run off and be intimate with the first woman you see, but you need to put yourself out there. You need to allow yourself to be vulnerable to heartbreak in order to ever be able to reap the reward of a reciprocal caring and nurturing relationship. You need to have a fearless heart.
 HoopoeBird31
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 20
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/10/2012 11:51:49 AM
At this point I am very frustrated.

I don't know why I keep coming back to this site. I have decided to resign to the fact that I am not going to find any one. Some people are not born to have any sort of intimacy and to be loved by some one.

Therefore, I am deleting my profile on here. And, I have taken a vow to never to to sign on a pathetic dating site ever again.
 pofscksballs
Joined: 12/8/2011
Msg: 21
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/11/2012 11:32:17 AM
i want to **** some girls in the butt.. Where are all the girls who like it in the ***hole poop shoot?
 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 22
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Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/11/2012 7:50:15 PM
I meet my first woman when I was older then you. I am very shy.
 groovygirl69
Joined: 8/19/2011
Msg: 23
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 11:36:47 AM
In our culture, no it isn't normal. But that doesn't mean that you are a lesser person because of that. You get to choose when you want to have sex, but in MY opinion you are wasting your time. GET TO IT! ;)

jk
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 24
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 11:44:22 AM

Therefore, I am deleting my profile on here. And, I have taken a vow to never to to sign on a pathetic dating site ever again


Hmmmm just joined in Jan. No wonder still a virgin.

But then again, I see people that have been on here for 7 + years and are "still actively dating"
 MrCaliMan1
Joined: 11/16/2011
Msg: 25
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 12:33:36 PM
Dude.. I was 29 before I got Lucky. Do Not wait too long in your 30s. I did notice I wanted every woman after that. I was like oversexed lol. Now on the hand. I know a woman who is still a virgin and she is 43 yrs old. No shes not a nun. She told me she wont let any guy past 2nd base. and I saw on her fb page She will never marry since both her parents have passed away.
That Might not be normal.. Infact That isnt normal.
Well thats all I can contribute.
 optimismfirst
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 26
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 9:48:59 AM
Lol not normal at all...
I'm sorry but this would raise flags for me and i would be very concerned.
 Lykrian
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 27
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 11:54:05 AM
Sex isn't everything. It's great, but the gist of a relationship should be about bonding, trust, loyalty, etc. The only concern you should have is not having experience in the area of creating and maintaining relationships with women. Don't worry about sex or being a virgin. Consider it a blessing that you are still pure.
 Jsana
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 28
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 4:43:02 PM
yea, you are right, and thank you, I am a virgin myself. so that is the right idea for me to take.
 Jsana
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 29
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 4:43:44 PM
that is one way to look at it, and a good one :)
 americana83
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 30
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/16/2012 10:11:22 AM
Patience is a virtue. And as to "manhood," one could ask if its easier to give in to "urges" or to resist them. Given the statistics, I would say it takes more to resist than to give in. Moral courage and independence is rare in a society that promotes sexual conquest and promiscuity, which is just a pathetic satire of what manhood really is.

I would rather go through life single than to end up with the wrong woman.

I believe it is best to be married before sex. Putting off the physical pleasure and building the relationship will be more rewarding in the long run and will lead to much less drama.
 Xvvxbrianxvvx
Joined: 12/11/2011
Msg: 31
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/24/2012 10:50:45 PM
By "he" do you mean you? In this world I guess it isn't normal because sex is pressured into peoples lives, why? I'm not sure exactly people are just like "let's go out and get polluted and possibly get someone knocked up so we can have children as stupid as we are!" and then there's always the ball busters that watched one too many Seth Rogen movies and actually think if you don't get laid constantly then you're pathetic. Personally I'd say thats very normal and perfectly ok be who you want to be and don't worry about what's "normal" I had to completely change my life recently because I cared what people thought but honestly generally people just suck. You or "he" as you say should just wait til you find someone you really care about. It actually makes me more sad that you or this person actually cares about whether or not it's normal, just live your life you don't need to be humping everything anyways and people love you don't feel like you're trying to get sympathy because you're perfectly normal!
 ThreadMasterB
Joined: 4/15/2012
Msg: 32
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/25/2012 3:10:46 AM
Were or are you in a cult?
 DiamondMan32
Joined: 7/18/2012
Msg: 33
Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 9/19/2012 8:10:01 AM
^^^

I broke my vow and made the profile again. No I am not in the cult.
And seriously, I don't care any more if I find a woman or not.
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