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 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 72
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I am not thin but I like guys way bigger than me. I've tried guys thinner than me and guys my own size and it's just simply not comfortable in any aspect. All 3 of my ex boyfriends are significantly bigger than me (both in width and height), so I know it's not just coincidence, it is my preference.

It's not that it doesn't matter what you look like, it's just that some people have figured out long ago what exactly does it for them.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 73
thin/hot women into overweight guys?
Posted: 9/24/2014 12:01:10 PM

Many thinner women are tolerant of a few extra pounds---however, as a general rule, most of them are not going to seek out obese men.


I agree with HalcyonSkies. I have to admit that since my racing days are over I have gained some extra weight around my waste. Still, my girlfriend, who is super skinny, likes the idea of my size. She says she feels protected. Also, if you go to one of the watering holes around town frequent by first dates, you will notice a lot of very attractive women with guys that have a few extra points, yet not obese.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 74
thin/hot women into overweight guys?
Posted: 9/24/2014 12:48:50 PM
If a woman is thin b/c she believes being healthy is best, and works out...she will feel most comfortable around someone who believes and acts the same. who wants a date that involves a three course dinner when they'd rather have a date that involves a physical competition?

If she's thin b/c she thinks looks matter the most, and thinks that way b/c she gets more preferential treatment when she's thin and "in"...she doesn't want to be around someone who thinks comfort food is great and inner beauty is best. who wants a partner who makes them feel superficial?

Kate Moss allegedly once claimed, "nothing tastes as good as thin feels." In her world, she's right. In other peoples' experiences...she isn't.

if you look hot, and act comfortable, you'll get attention. if you gain weight...your face and attitude expressed on it, will still get you attention. It may not be from the same people, however.

some people are only looking for looks. some want looks and brains. some want looks and personality. some just want to make up for what they didn't get as a kid.

we're complicated :)
 overunity
Joined: 8/16/2014
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Posted: 9/24/2014 3:29:11 PM
My experience over the years is that "thin is in" and hell, it works for me. Actually I've found it quite easy to achieve as well. As have my relationship partners. It's our eating and exercising habits that make the difference.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 76
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Posted: 9/24/2014 4:29:17 PM
People don't choose what they are attracted to about other people, they just are, and sometimes that matches what they look like and sometimes it doesn't. It's just common sense.
 gingham7
Joined: 7/26/2014
Msg: 77
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Posted: 9/24/2014 7:34:12 PM
Being a little overweight is not a dealbreaker. But I'm not interested in obese men.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 2/14/2014
Msg: 78
thin/hot women into overweight guys?
Posted: 9/24/2014 7:52:48 PM
Sue me, but I'm not at all attracted to guys who even have only a few extra pounds. I've dated a few, and I don't like the feeling of something squooshy when I hug him. I love it when a man has nice hard muscles. But I don't like skinny thin either. I have to say though that I'm VERY hard on myself when it comes to my shape. I don't expect a guy to be physically attracted to me if I had a gut, just like I would not be attracted to a bear-belly or spare tire. After having dated several very athletic, ripped, six-pack guys, it's very hard to look at anything less than. Just the plain truth. Now, if I met someone who was ripped and fell in love with him, I would be a lot more forgiving if he packed on a few pounds, but initially no, I would not be attracted.

As a side note - I have been on first dates with several guys who turned out a little overweight or not as "athletic" as they claimed in their profiles. You would think that they would be a bit more forgiving to women who were also slightly out of shape, but no, they told me that they were glad I looked like my pics, because they were tired of meeting "fat chicks". On the other hand, most of the super athletic, ripped guys appreciated some curves (boobs and butts and thicker middle, but not oveweight) on a woman and were not into think women at all. Just my experience though.
 Silverhawk_tkn
Joined: 12/3/2010
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Posted: 9/25/2014 3:39:53 PM
Generally, I've found that taking care of myself physically is proportionately equal to the amount (and quality) of women I attract.

The better I look and take care of myself, the more women are attracted to me.

FWIW, I've never had a preference for skinny women. I prefer porn star assets and ample curves.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 80
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Posted: 9/26/2014 12:48:07 PM
I believe this:

You are as attractive to others as you are comfortable in your own skin. The more you are OK with where you are, the more others will be agreeable to it.

Thin people with low self esteem generally don't attract the same quality of people that heavier people with great self esteem attract. The happier you are with yourself the more others are drawn to you. I also believe if you aren't happy with yourself but you are working to improve things people will be drawn to you as well.
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
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Posted: 9/28/2014 5:33:27 AM
How did this idea get started that one can decide how attractive one is to somebody else,i am attracted to someone because I am and have made the decision...if I am at the point where I allow another to make such a personal decision for me then I'm in big trouble and not in control of my own life.
 briandante
Joined: 9/1/2014
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Posted: 9/28/2014 7:11:59 AM
This is probably the most accurate and realistic statement here. Women period are into athletic guys, with handsome faces. Notwithstanding, status power, money, confidence etc. A broke good looking muscular man can get successful women. Its biology, hypergamy or a fact of life doesn't matter, it is real. Being large just means you have to work harder and compensate in other ways.
Put it this way, the more weight you lose/Better shape the more attractive the women you can get. a direct proportional relationship. I have seen it personally and i have tested it on this site.There are exceptions, but i would personally be skeptical and immediately think she being nice, and not look too much into it.

Remember, she has options and women at any ages are capable of flaking/flipping at any moment.
 hintofsaffron
Joined: 5/24/2014
Msg: 83
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Posted: 9/28/2014 5:31:33 PM
I absolutely agree. Your weight is YOUR issue, not hers. If you don't like your weight, then do something about it. Guys can't change some things about themselves, but that is one you can do something about. You have to love yourself to be "loveable." If you don't consider yourself to be loveable, why would anyone else see you that way?
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 84
thin/hot women into overweight guys?
Posted: 9/28/2014 5:38:22 PM
I think it goes back to childhood, maybe the father or the favourite uncle was a big man and there are happy associations and a feeling of familiarity and comfort. A lot of this is sub conscious. Often bigger people have pleasant round faces and you feel safe with them. However I find a big pot belly unattractive physically and wouldnt be interested in sex with them. It looks unhealthy although I know that you dont necessarily have to be a drinker to acquire it. Of course confidence and money make a huge difference to many people.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 9/28/2014 10:21:48 PM
I don't care how tall a man is...not that interested in looks...hair, optional. However, he has to be fit. No extra weight..,trim... This just goes with matching my lifestyle.

A well kept body trumps a crooked nose or third eye.

My guy and I are approaching 60. Could still fit into our college clothes. No health issues. No meds. As physically active as ever. Expect to still be out hiking and dancing when we are 90.

As a nurse I am skeptical of the term 'a little extra weight'. A little extra weight 5 pounds...not 15 or 20. That is overweight. Our perceptions of healthy weight are off the mark in our culture.
 basilisk123
Joined: 12/17/2011
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Posted: 9/29/2014 6:35:54 AM
I have lost a good amount of weight before to meet women. Went from 250 to 190. Didn't help at all. Women ignored me fit as much as they ignored me fat. I realized that my mind is what makes me unattractive to women. There is nothing that I can do about that.
 rftv1020
Joined: 5/13/2014
Msg: 87
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Posted: 9/29/2014 3:43:49 PM
Average I agree.
Being active and staying in shape makes a person feel better mentally, look better physically. When we feel and look better our self confidence increases. Exercise does a body good. I love that release of endorphins from a runners high. Being overweight is a choice.
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 88
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Posted: 10/8/2014 8:13:47 AM
My last bf of 9 years was overweight and we had a fantastic relationship. The reason why we broke up has nothing to do with his weight. We're still friends and still have lunch together once in a while, and he's long married now.

I would never give up the possibility of a great connection because of some extra weight.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 10/8/2014 10:14:39 AM
Many of these issues are similar. Most here are trying to meet and date someone new...not a known entity like a coworker or the guy living down the block.

Sure, a person with one less-than-desired trait may make a potentially good partner but....how would we know that? There are dozens or hundreds of potential partners OLD...why choose to meet a particular guy and not another? We are going to use criteria to choose. Most women will choose a fit male over one who is overweight...all else equal. We choose a male in the same town over one a 100 miles away ...choose a man near in age, etc. How else can we decide whom to meet?

So sure...a thin women can have a great relationship with an overweight guy. It isn't likely to happen often OLD...even less often than in real life. Other positive characteristics are just not going to come through. It's like applying for a job...an employer sifts through a hundred applicants to eventually interview 5. Many applicants not chosen may have made an excellent employee but they are not going to make the interview list.

I'm sure that most of us women enter variables when searching. Most thin or athletic women are going to search for men similar or at most 'average'. Sure, there are exceptions but they are few. Go on to Match...it lists what body shapes are sought on a woman's profile...athletic or average...90% of profiles of women seek guys of similar build.
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 90
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Posted: 10/8/2014 11:19:06 AM
Most people prefer someone who is in good shape. But there are always outliers. The phrase "There is someone for everyone" comes to mind.

But in the OP's case, she knew the guy ten years ago, so it's not necessarily that she is into to fat guys - she probably had a crush on him a long time ago, finds herself single, and fancies exploring that option - she probably cares more about his personality than his weight.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 91
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Posted: 10/8/2014 12:30:06 PM
reading this post, then checking out womens' profiles listed above...reminds me that everyone has a different definition of what, "overweight" means. Some women list themselves as thin, but their waist would be labeled by most as, "not skinny". some think their body is average, while some men would look and go, "va-va-voom!"

so, its possible a person might say, "hey, weight doesn't matter to me, look at my date!" and someone might do so, and think, "well, they ain't overweight. They're healthy." or "she's voluptious, not fat. Let me show you a woman who's gut exceeds her chest by more than a fist's size, and see if you're hot for her then."

people want to say, "I don't find George Clooney attractive, therefore neither does anyone else with intelligence.", but in reality, he gets paid for his ability to attract butts to theater seats. Actresses above a certain age get fewer movie offers just b/c no one wants to see them in a sex scene.

you can find exceptions to the rule. It will take you some time to do so. Or you can put the odds in your favor, if you wish to play the odds.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 92
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Posted: 10/8/2014 8:07:32 PM
So sure...a thin women can have a great relationship with an overweight guy. It isn't likely to happen often OLD...even less often than in real life.


I would think that is relatively more likely to happen in real life than on a dating site. Because she got to know him over time and liked his personality.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 11/19/2015 4:23:29 PM
She may like you as a person but not sexually. Who knows??? You need to spend some time with her to find out. At your weight your health would have to be quite seriously compromised. She may want to help you overcome that. She may a caretaker or rescue type of woman who is here to help you get your life back on track .
 Railrunner
Joined: 12/1/2010
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Posted: 11/24/2015 3:36:38 AM
Thin/hot woman interested in an overweight guy? I believe those go by several names: Con artists. Thieves. Frauds. Scammers. Gold Diggers. Those would be the common ones.

Due to a permanent work injury, I put on a substantial amount of weight (Holding steady around 330 now). THe only women who have expressed any kind of interest since have turned out to be frauds, scammers, or gold diggers. One of them knew of my injury, and the pain meds I take, and tried to steal a bottle of a narcotic based pain medication when I cooked dinner for her at my place. Luckily, as I have friends over, and because I work out of my home, I place decoy bottles for that very reason. She tried to take a decoy. I had her arrested. So some of these despicable frauds will think "Injury related weight. Prescription pain meds" and try to get their fix that way. Or steal the pills and sell them.

There probably are legit tin/attractive women who go for big guys. But that's like saying "Unicorns probably exist".
 Lasthookbringsme
Joined: 11/8/2015
Msg: 95
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Posted: 11/24/2015 4:14:53 AM
Right, because "thin/hot" women don't have loving hearts, feelings, interests beyond what is stereotypically labeled of them . Because you suck at dating and choosing suitable women, "thin/hot" women must be blamed for your ineptness.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 96
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Posted: 11/24/2015 10:45:55 AM
While I enjoy model trains, I think you may be on the wrong track. personally, I find people like a partner who makes them feel comfortable. An opportunist may prefer to date someone who is also an opportunist. they may not chase the same opportunities, but will feel comfortable around a like-mindset.

If a lady is thin and hot b/c she works out in a gym, and buys only the "look" that shows herself off, will she enjoy someone who lacks the discipline she has, and thinks buying a look is a waste of money? She might not feel the compatability. Depends upon how important she thinks a healthy look is in life.

If our boss, from now until age 50, gave us $20 each time we went for lunch in order to buy ourselves lunch....would we ever shop the $1 menu? or would we get out $20 worth? I can't blame anyone who wants to get their $20 worth. Still, it behooves fellows to understand what IOI (indicators of interest) look like. Find out when someone is really interested, subconsciously interested, versus just saying the words.
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