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 Nj2ut
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 76
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Shouldnt the real question be..."why are we so caught up in what everyone else prefers or does with their love life?"
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 77
Prejudice and indifference against dating one's own age?
Posted: 7/7/2015 12:04:01 PM

I love sushi. And puppies.


That is disgusting dude. Do you put wasabe paste on your puppies too? Dip it in Tamari sauce, or just eat them Sashimi style.

Blah.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 78
Prejudice and indifference against dating one's own age?
Posted: 7/7/2015 12:11:00 PM
It is hard to date in LA area. I haven't checked profiles lately but from memory it seems that most profiles I did see had something with entertainment in them. Everyone is trying to make it big and work hard at it. It has everything to do with perception on how people see you. Guys lie and cheat to get the hot girls and girls lie and cheat to get the hot and rich guys. Many are obsessed with famous people, That's a driving force for many of them.
We are at competition with everyone and the one who ends up with most toys wins.
people like to compare notes on what they did or where they went. You cant just have a phone or a smart phone you must have the latest and greatest phone or people would keep showing you how good there phone is compare to yours.

Everyone is on the phone some cause its part of there work others cause they just must stay on top of everything and everyone.
I had a woman run a red light on a main street almost take me out on my bike. I were so pissed and chased her down the all time she was on the phone. Got her to stop and she still didn't get off the phone. It seemed that as long as she was on the phone nothing else was real. Even when I kicked her door and left a dent in it. I could hear her talk to a friend about her day. So I punched her mirror as well and just left, You cant even get mad at people how are stupid.
You sure cant date someone who's phone is only realty with nothing outside is as important.
It sure seems that the older people are more into the technology then younger ones. Maybe its one way for them to show how young they are? Capture the youth by acting how they think younger people act.

Money beauty and how young you are is the most important thing. That's what attracts both men and women. Women use there looks to snag the best man while men use the money to snag the hottest woman. How often you see a famous guy with a woman who is 40lb over weight ??

Here in LA I seen many profiles of women over 40's who never been married or had kids. We are not talking about fat or ugly women but good looking women who had other goals in life.
The number of singles over 50 grows every year. What is the chance that someone who been single all there life would settle down after 50??

Like it or not but its spreading to other parts of the country as well. Everyone wants the CA dream, Not knowing its only a dream not real life.
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 79
Prejudice and indifference against dating one's own age?
Posted: 7/7/2015 12:43:24 PM
"How often you see a famous guy with a woman who is 40lb over weight ??"

Hugh Jackman. But then, she's a beard.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 80
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Posted: 7/7/2015 12:45:13 PM

Here in LA I seen many profiles of women over 40's who never been married or had kids. We are not talking about fat or ugly women but good looking women who had other goals in life.
The number of singles over 50 grows every year. What is the chance that someone who been single all there life would settle down after 50??


You guys make me love my town. Not Atlanta in general, but Decatur. People here are more down to earth, less materialistic. There are a lot of attractive women that let their grays show, or wear low platform shoes instead of high hills. There are a lot of natural beauties, as opposed of what you get in the suburbs or an area of town called Buckhead, which is all decked out, super materialistic, bleached-blond, plastic surgeon perfect.

However, I do not drink beer, but we have a few micro-brews in the area, and up the street they opened a beer shop where you can buy these bottles of beer that go for 30 bucks a bottle.
 Where_Is_My_Muse
Joined: 6/13/2015
Msg: 81
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Posted: 7/7/2015 1:40:42 PM
I don't know what to tell all y'all. ¯\(°_o)/¯ I keep reading all these articles about 30s, professional women who want to couple but can't because men don't want to, are underemployed, undereducated, unambitious, have baggage, etc., etc. and I'm just sitting here thinking "Well, WTF?".
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 82
Prejudice and indifference against dating one's own age?
Posted: 7/7/2015 4:55:20 PM
volkanoking- My daughter has indicated that she will move when she graduates to increase her employment opportunities in Graphic design.
She mentioned LA, I think I might beg her not to move there after reading your posts.
It reminds me (on a much smaller scale) of what happened to my home town.
Growing up, every one knew everyone else and people looked out for each other. Everything was centered around two things, farming or the bay.
It really was ideal, for a while.
The change started in 1979, when hurricane Fredrick struck.
Real estate prices bottomed out, but unlike some towns that never recover, people started moving there because they could buy on the water at rock bottom prices.
Slow but sure, home prices increased and then in the early nineties, the town was rated in the top ten places to live, nationwide.
That's when things really went to heck.
The next thing I know, it's a status symbol to live there and the mind set of people moving there wasn't pretty.
You had to have a brand new, expensive car, live in a high priced home and wear expensive clothes or people looked down their nose at you.
This was the opposite of what the town used to be, how I was raised and how I raised my children. They HATED going to school there.
The town is thriving, but it's soul is dead.
When I was still married, we looked for a house there and couldn't afford it, a position that many original residents found themselves in.
That's how I wound up in Mobile.
8 times out of 10, when I tell people where I'm from, they will say "You left THERE to move HERE?"
SIGH! Some people just don't get it.
Money is not the root of all evil, the LOVE of money is.
It seems like my home town, and LA, are not a good place to be if you understand that.
(and now everyone knows why I rarely go back across the bay)
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 83
Prejudice and indifference against dating one's own age?
Posted: 7/7/2015 4:57:33 PM

"How often you see a famous guy with a woman who is 40lb over weight ??"

Hugh Jackman. But then, she's a beard.


^^^ Be careful Volcano.

Debra Lee Furness is a wonderful woman.
Was nominated and a finalist for Australian of the year.
Champion advocate for adoption.
Is an accomplished actor in her own right.
Supported and pushed / encouraged Hugh in his career.
He pursued her.

Other examples of where bigger women love less large men.
(or should I say, 'hot' men love less 'hot' women.
The definition of 'hot' is ALWAYS by others NOT the couple themselves.)

Dawn French - Vicar of Dibley
The Thorn Birds - Colleen McCullough

Taller women who love shorter men also abound.

I am not sure what you mean by 'she's a beard' but it does not sound complimentary.
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 84
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Posted: 7/7/2015 5:12:32 PM
I think VK is making an allusion to his sexuality/orientation/preference.

Another one that blew me away is Pierce Brosnan and his wife. The last time I saw an image of her she was rather larger. I think there was accompanying commentary and his response was that he loved his wife and liked how she looked.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

Then there is the one about throwing stones: it occurs to me that both Messrs Jackman and Brosnan are not single - and yet here WE reside.

TK
 Ladyinred4755
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 85
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Posted: 7/7/2015 5:25:20 PM
For sealady,
Beard-Any opposite sex escort taken to an event in an effort to give a homosexual person the appearance of being out on a date with a person of the opposite sex.
Half of the women on the red carpet at the movie premier were not real dates, but beards.
(I didn't know either. I had to look it up)
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 86
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Posted: 7/7/2015 9:09:29 PM
A beard is a woman who serves as a wife for a closeted gay man.

"Be careful"...of what? Does she read these forums? I'm free to express my opinions.

I work in entertainment, my ex worked directly with Jackman. The inside scoop is that he is gay. :)
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 87
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Posted: 7/7/2015 9:52:58 PM
What's the term then for a straight man married to a closeted gay woman?

A broom??
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 88
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Posted: 7/8/2015 1:32:54 AM
Well if Hugh Jackman is gay the rule of thumb is correct.

Handsome, charming, capable, employed, good taste, can sing, dance, smile and loves women.

He must be gay.

So are many many wonderful, female heartthrob men.

Ian Thorpe and Rock Hudson come to mind.
 runningout
Joined: 8/19/2008
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Posted: 7/8/2015 2:54:48 AM
If that were in fact true, VK, especially with Hollywood's obsession with thin, why wouldn't he pick a stick with a head as said beard? If anything, I think it is more odd that his wife never married until she was in her forties. Maybe he is her "beard".

As well, as they stated in a recent interview, in their twenty year marriage, they have never been apart for more than two weeks. If their marriage is a farce, why spend time together or come across as being very insecure that he will have an affair with a co-star?

His wife is beautiful and one of the rare people who can carry both a short and long hair do. Not everyone is into sticks with heads.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 7/8/2015 11:41:07 PM

Well if Hugh Jackman is gay the rule of thumb is correct.

Handsome, charming, capable, employed, good taste, can sing, dance, smile and loves women.

Uhhh, his wife is Ugly though (especially when compared to himself). He can do SOO much better. Doing musicals, singing & dancing, and having bad taste in women -- yah, big sign his compass needle's not aligned heterosexually. :)

http://www.splashnewsonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/spl604312_001-wm900.jpg
 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 95
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Posted: 7/9/2015 2:43:48 AM

Like it or not but its spreading to other parts of the country as well. Everyone wants the CA dream, Not knowing its only a dream not real life.


Some people are delusional. They don't have anything better do, other than engage in copycattery. Sometimes, they're incapable of doing anything originally, trail-blaze in anything; they yearn to exist as a consumer of culture, goods and services, ideas and ideals without so much as considering how their actions hurts others and more globally in scale -- instead of contributing to it.

These are the same people who believe they're contributing to the health of humanity by hawking Big Organic -- whilst creating food instability and staying malnutrition. All of their yoga mats, abnormal attachments to convenient animals, cultural appropriation, $5 lattes, and trips abroad 'to save the world' with their expensive communication devices make them look selfish and stupid. Their anti-vaccination lunacy has already cost one life in CA, as of late.

I'd like to know what CA dream they are trying to catch? Measles? To what end and for what purpose? Sickness? And what's next, when they're bored? Death.

I think some people need to really give more time to their mirrors of introspection.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 96
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Posted: 7/9/2015 4:12:26 AM

I'd be safe and warm
(I'd be safe and warm)
If I was in L.A
(If I was in L.A.)
California dreamin'
(California dreamin') on such a winter's day


The big pluses here are the weather and cultural diversity.

That being said, the random quakes and cost of living balance that out.
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 97
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Posted: 7/9/2015 8:44:42 AM
"These are the same people who believe they're contributing to the health of humanity by hawking Big Organic -- whilst creating food instability and staying malnutrition. All of their yoga mats, abnormal attachments to convenient animals, cultural appropriation, $5 lattes, and trips abroad 'to save the world' with their expensive communication devices make them look selfish and stupid."

This is great! ^^
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 7/9/2015 10:02:29 AM

These are the same people who believe they're contributing to the health of humanity by hawking Big Organic -- whilst creating food instability and staying malnutrition. All of their yoga mats, abnormal attachments to convenient animals, cultural appropriation, $5 lattes, and trips abroad 'to save the world' with their expensive communication devices make them look selfish and stupid. Their anti-vaccination lunacy has already cost one life in CA, as of late.

Totally agree. It's much the same way as the super-religious folk out there. It's Strong Culture ingrained that has a strong affect on their lives, and thus, they're preaching that gospel and can't be wrong. Much like super-religious look at so many people doing everything from sleeping around too much, cheating too much, drinking too much, doing drugs, eating McDonalds too much with their kids, too many not having enough ambition, etc -- EVERYTHING they preach with an Aim for the better "Is True" and can't be tweaked/changed. If you challenge it, you're insulting them and their Culture which to them -- is them & God and whatnot.

Same thing goes for yoga-freaks and they're "style" and "way" about them in what they eat & how they roll, etc. It's just a Cultural-association thing. Like the super religious, it makes up who they are, associated with their lives improved, feeling better, feeling more fulfilled, etc -- and has a basis of Good to it underneath it all, but the bathwater (and lots of it) is thrown in with the baby. That culture they either were born into or breathed new life into their lives. Going against that and questioning it gets them p!ssed -- just like the super-religious.
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
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Posted: 7/10/2015 1:07:25 PM
I only date women to whom I am attracted. In my late teens and in my twenties the women I dated were usually close to my age, sometimes a bit younger, sometimes a bit older. When I became single again in my early fifties I found I was attracted to younger women and that, happily, a surprising number of good looking younger women were attracted to me. Therefore I started dating younger, mostly from 10 to 20 years younger. Frankly, I date younger women because I can.
 rhinestonesky
Joined: 6/9/2015
Msg: 100
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Posted: 7/12/2015 11:20:22 AM
I've never understood the attraction of dating younger. I really enjoy shared cultural references and life experiences. I tried dating ( and marrying) younger and it was boring and unsatisifying. I think people should do what they want but it's not for me.
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