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 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 88
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Well if Hugh Jackman is gay the rule of thumb is correct.

Handsome, charming, capable, employed, good taste, can sing, dance, smile and loves women.

He must be gay.

So are many many wonderful, female heartthrob men.

Ian Thorpe and Rock Hudson come to mind.
 runningout
Joined: 8/19/2008
Msg: 89
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Posted: 7/8/2015 2:54:48 AM
If that were in fact true, VK, especially with Hollywood's obsession with thin, why wouldn't he pick a stick with a head as said beard? If anything, I think it is more odd that his wife never married until she was in her forties. Maybe he is her "beard".

As well, as they stated in a recent interview, in their twenty year marriage, they have never been apart for more than two weeks. If their marriage is a farce, why spend time together or come across as being very insecure that he will have an affair with a co-star?

His wife is beautiful and one of the rare people who can carry both a short and long hair do. Not everyone is into sticks with heads.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 7/8/2015 11:41:07 PM

Well if Hugh Jackman is gay the rule of thumb is correct.

Handsome, charming, capable, employed, good taste, can sing, dance, smile and loves women.

Uhhh, his wife is Ugly though (especially when compared to himself). He can do SOO much better. Doing musicals, singing & dancing, and having bad taste in women -- yah, big sign his compass needle's not aligned heterosexually. :)

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 Eternitygracesme
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 95
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Posted: 7/9/2015 2:43:48 AM

Like it or not but its spreading to other parts of the country as well. Everyone wants the CA dream, Not knowing its only a dream not real life.


Some people are delusional. They don't have anything better do, other than engage in copycattery. Sometimes, they're incapable of doing anything originally, trail-blaze in anything; they yearn to exist as a consumer of culture, goods and services, ideas and ideals without so much as considering how their actions hurts others and more globally in scale -- instead of contributing to it.

These are the same people who believe they're contributing to the health of humanity by hawking Big Organic -- whilst creating food instability and staying malnutrition. All of their yoga mats, abnormal attachments to convenient animals, cultural appropriation, $5 lattes, and trips abroad 'to save the world' with their expensive communication devices make them look selfish and stupid. Their anti-vaccination lunacy has already cost one life in CA, as of late.

I'd like to know what CA dream they are trying to catch? Measles? To what end and for what purpose? Sickness? And what's next, when they're bored? Death.

I think some people need to really give more time to their mirrors of introspection.
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
Msg: 96
Prejudice and indifference against dating one's own age?
Posted: 7/9/2015 4:12:26 AM

I'd be safe and warm
(I'd be safe and warm)
If I was in L.A
(If I was in L.A.)
California dreamin'
(California dreamin') on such a winter's day


The big pluses here are the weather and cultural diversity.

That being said, the random quakes and cost of living balance that out.
 VolkanoKing
Joined: 8/1/2014
Msg: 97
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Posted: 7/9/2015 8:44:42 AM
"These are the same people who believe they're contributing to the health of humanity by hawking Big Organic -- whilst creating food instability and staying malnutrition. All of their yoga mats, abnormal attachments to convenient animals, cultural appropriation, $5 lattes, and trips abroad 'to save the world' with their expensive communication devices make them look selfish and stupid."

This is great! ^^
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 7/9/2015 10:02:29 AM

These are the same people who believe they're contributing to the health of humanity by hawking Big Organic -- whilst creating food instability and staying malnutrition. All of their yoga mats, abnormal attachments to convenient animals, cultural appropriation, $5 lattes, and trips abroad 'to save the world' with their expensive communication devices make them look selfish and stupid. Their anti-vaccination lunacy has already cost one life in CA, as of late.

Totally agree. It's much the same way as the super-religious folk out there. It's Strong Culture ingrained that has a strong affect on their lives, and thus, they're preaching that gospel and can't be wrong. Much like super-religious look at so many people doing everything from sleeping around too much, cheating too much, drinking too much, doing drugs, eating McDonalds too much with their kids, too many not having enough ambition, etc -- EVERYTHING they preach with an Aim for the better "Is True" and can't be tweaked/changed. If you challenge it, you're insulting them and their Culture which to them -- is them & God and whatnot.

Same thing goes for yoga-freaks and they're "style" and "way" about them in what they eat & how they roll, etc. It's just a Cultural-association thing. Like the super religious, it makes up who they are, associated with their lives improved, feeling better, feeling more fulfilled, etc -- and has a basis of Good to it underneath it all, but the bathwater (and lots of it) is thrown in with the baby. That culture they either were born into or breathed new life into their lives. Going against that and questioning it gets them p!ssed -- just like the super-religious.
 Like2dance
Joined: 4/13/2013
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Posted: 7/10/2015 1:07:25 PM
I only date women to whom I am attracted. In my late teens and in my twenties the women I dated were usually close to my age, sometimes a bit younger, sometimes a bit older. When I became single again in my early fifties I found I was attracted to younger women and that, happily, a surprising number of good looking younger women were attracted to me. Therefore I started dating younger, mostly from 10 to 20 years younger. Frankly, I date younger women because I can.
 rhinestonesky
Joined: 6/9/2015
Msg: 100
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Posted: 7/12/2015 11:20:22 AM
I've never understood the attraction of dating younger. I really enjoy shared cultural references and life experiences. I tried dating ( and marrying) younger and it was boring and unsatisifying. I think people should do what they want but it's not for me.
 Where_Is_My_Muse
Joined: 6/13/2015
Msg: 101
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Posted: 7/16/2015 11:06:58 AM
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What if your cultural references and experiences align with those tend to be younger? I try to talk about things with people my age and their eyes often glaze over.

Middle-aged Americans are generally boring as hell. Ninety-five percent of what gets talked about is work, kids (if they have them), and sports. It's awful, frankly...
 sealady111
Joined: 5/31/2015
Msg: 102
Prejudice and indifference against dating one's own age?
Posted: 7/16/2015 5:07:22 PM
Maybe I should give up on the foolish notion of finding a man my own age for an equal, loving partnership.

As of now I will become prejudiced and only date men 20 years or more younger than me.
And only the 'hot' ones.

Damn POF has that age limitation.
Before that came in I literally had hundreds of young men offering me their body a week.
 Where_Is_My_Muse
Joined: 6/13/2015
Msg: 103
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Posted: 7/17/2015 1:28:29 PM
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Seriously? What business does POF have in telling you that you can't date 20 years younger? Just go over to OKC. It's a better site anyway.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 104
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Posted: 7/19/2015 11:02:48 AM

I've never understood the attraction of dating younger. I really enjoy shared cultural references and life experiences. I tried dating ( and marrying) younger and it was boring and unsatisifying. I think people should do what they want but it's not for me.

You're 53 though. If you think that dating someone 43 is going to be boring & lacking shared cultural references & life experiences, you're completely wrong. That's just an age-bias thing. You can find anyone of any age who's not going to be on the same level, lacking, or on a different level in reference to cultural experiences & life experiences -- whether they're 33 or 83.

There's people who are 33 who have more cultural & life experiences than those who are 63. Would that 63 year old want to date that 33 year old suddenly, because they not only don't Lack it, but have more than they themselves? Wouldn't hurt of course, but, no. That's not the reason.

Same goes with (usually gals) who want to date older men or around their own age in the very least. It's just that they Feel (on-the-surface/association) more in-tune with it, and Feel out of tune with someone younger. Otherwise it'd be "I FIND myself Ending Up with guys/gals older than me because of X/Y/Z, but over time, sure, there were people notably younger than me because they were on the level of X/Y/Z, but that doesn't happen too often," when X/Y/Z are things of substance.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 105
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Posted: 7/20/2015 6:32:17 AM

Same goes with (usually gals) who want to date older men or around their own age in the very least. It's just that they Feel (on-the-surface/association) more in-tune with it, and Feel out of tune with someone younger.


I agree with this statement. My gf is 13 years younger than I. She told me that she preferred to date older because people her age were about to hit their middle age crisis and were more interested on exploring out there than what she wanted, which was to bring up a pair of small boys. Older men, but her meant more stable and knowing what they wanted and that had more life experiences already under their belt.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 7/20/2015 8:38:51 AM

She told me that she preferred to date older because people her age were about to hit their middle age crisis and were more interested on exploring out there than what she wanted, which was to bring up a pair of small boys.

Yeah, but a lot of people (men or women), if their kids are grown up, aren't going to wanting to be help raising small kids. Guys 40 lack that experience? I would say any guys who didn't have years of experience helping raising kids (their own or otherwise) would be lacking the experience. There's plenty of guys younger than her who have plenty of that experience. :)

When a gal wants an older guy, it's relative to them -- not an actual experience assessment (which would vary in ages enough where a vast majority wouldn't be considerably older than them if they were 40+). Nor is it a "certain age" that's objectively realized starting when they're, say, 25 or so. It's just relative to them -- they Feel like they're more experienced. Kind of like casting for a movie. And sure, of those auditioning, they are going to care about that experience -- but they're not going to feel that someone around their age +/- a few years fits the role even if he does on paper VS Jean Luc Picard who's 5-10 years older than she. :)
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