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 jlz1002
Joined: 4/8/2012
Msg: 87
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????Page 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
I just recentally started talking to someone on here he seems like a great guy but I get confused. One day he will talk to me for over four hours via text...then the next day its very less and not so much. We have been having a time about meeting he has 2 daughters and i have my daughter full time so its hard to find time for where we can meet up and hes also a firefighter i really enjoy talking to him he doesnt live that far from me. it's just hard to find that time to actually meet and we seem to have alot in common what do i do?

Jamie

plus meeting people on here is great i actually met a guy almost 3 years ago we just recentally broke up a couple months ago our relationship lasted about 3 years...
 e7E8pt
Joined: 10/3/2011
Msg: 88
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????
Posted: 1/14/2013 5:04:30 PM
I met a man on this site he lives 56 miles from me.We have been together 16 months now.He is moving to where I live.He is not moving here just for me he has other reasons to.Our lives are so different we don't like the same things.I have let him have his own way I do love him,but it has gotten to the point where it is all about him.What he wants to do he likes going to bars and hanging with his friends.I am a home body .So far we have made it ok he has a lot of health problems.But no matter what I will stay with him till the end.So if you really want it to work yes it can.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 89
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????
Posted: 1/14/2013 5:59:24 PM
I would have to say the chance is slim .With a ratio of 25 guys for every women on a dating site , the women are having a fun time .In the meantime the nice guys that the women keep saying they want are getting gun shy.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2013 6:52:47 PM
I met the most amazing women i ever met in my life on POF. :). It can happen. Just have fun with it.
 makavali7dayz3
Joined: 2/15/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2013 6:57:15 PM
To the men saying there is 7 men for every one women. You need to stand out. I bet if you have a masters degree you will have a much better chance compared to a man with no degree at all. My ex loved my profile and that is the only reason she gave me a chance. She told me she had 7 pages worth of messages. She was super beautiful and intelligent. Timing and having a good profile means alot.
 nirvanawithu
Joined: 12/12/2012
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What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????
Posted: 1/15/2013 9:38:49 AM
Chances of contacting someone are great. Meeting them and having the right chemistry is slim. If you do have the chemistry, making a life together that's strong enough to endure the bumps in the road for the long haul is very difficult. Just look at the divorce rate. They all started out good, but it seems most people don't put the effort into making it last. It's pretty much impossible to quantify. But, the last woman I met here, was one in a million!
 Cheskat37
Joined: 12/25/2012
Msg: 93
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????
Posted: 1/15/2013 12:13:10 PM
I got a hopeful prospect I sent a flirt too when I first joined.. He just wrote me back and we got at least four things in common...plus I think he might just get me and I think I might just get him. Wouldn't it be exciting if the physical part is also a match .. Best prospect yet! I hope he'll be attracted to me, looks are more important to a guy, then a girl.
 _WinterGoddess_
Joined: 12/26/2012
Msg: 94
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????
Posted: 1/15/2013 12:24:11 PM
I think your chances are really good and I don't think it's much different than meeting someone in real life! If you meet someone you have amazing chemistry with and connect with on all levels then it could be a beautiful relationship regardless of how/where you met.
Many relationships& marriages fail today due to people not wanting to try and just giving up. I don't think where you met is a significant factor, but more so the people involved and if you want to put forth the effort to make it work long term.

Good luck!
 lowmiles2
Joined: 6/5/2007
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Posted: 1/17/2013 12:35:41 PM
what difference does it make where you meet someone? This is as good as a place then none.
 curviest
Joined: 5/28/2010
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Posted: 1/17/2013 12:41:19 PM
Wow a resurrected old thread!

I met my ex on Aff and we were together 8 years.
 wonderland013
Joined: 12/3/2012
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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:07:56 PM
as much as i've always liked this site for what it is and being free the chances are making it work from all the idiots of society i have met has proven to me its very very very very difficult to expect much.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:23:04 PM
I've come close enuff a few times
to think it doable.
:-)
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 99
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Posted: 1/17/2013 2:45:07 PM
There are NO guarantees in life...On anything. You just have to take your chances
 funny4uwannatry
Joined: 12/27/2011
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Posted: 1/17/2013 3:40:26 PM
I dont know if it could work for life, however I met my second husband on POF and we were together 4 years. I met another man on eharmony and it lasted over two years. So I know its possible to meet men who are capable of LTR,however both men lived near, they were not long distance romances, but hey I am back fishing again.. its the forever man I haven't found yet.
 funsort
Joined: 12/8/2012
Msg: 102
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????
Posted: 1/17/2013 7:02:59 PM
To be honest I have 3 sets of friends that met on dating sites. One set has been married for 12 yrs, the other 7 (with 2 kids and 1 on the way) and the other 3. So dating sites can work. They are living proof but, just like with anything NOTHING is guaranteed in life.
I have had several long distance relationships. They are hard to maintain and both people have to put in alot of effort to make them work and have trust in each other. Guess the bottom line is if two people really want to be in a relationship they will make it work and a relationship it alot of work rather it is long distance or local.
 KrazyChikk
Joined: 7/11/2013
Msg: 104
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Posted: 11/7/2013 5:23:19 AM
^^ Thank you for sharing....nice to read some positive stories in here, made me smile:)

It obviously happens, the above post attests to that. However, how often it happens is probably in the minority. Long distance is hard...brings a plethora of feelings you don't have with a close proximity relationship. You have to be totally committed and trust plays a huge role. And even with that, it's not an easy road.

I personally believe that true love conquers all.
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
Msg: 106
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Posted: 11/8/2013 2:50:02 AM
^^^^Agreed! I know several people who have met their spouses from online dating sites, even from PoF. So, it can be done.
 IsabelleClaire
Joined: 10/28/2013
Msg: 107
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Posted: 11/9/2013 3:56:06 PM
In my experience it's nothing but a bunch of pervs and tire kickers. So for me it does not work.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
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Posted: 11/10/2013 5:16:27 AM
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????


I'd have a better chance of being abducted by aliens or messin' with Sasquatch (Jack Link's commercial).
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 11/10/2013 12:05:09 PM
How you meet is rarely the reason it works out or doesn't work out. It really doesn't matter, does it, what's important is if builds into anything. You could meet just about anywhere. Why people make up all these silly cliches about meeting online as appose to meeting on the next corner boggles the mind, the point is...you met. What a dating site gives you is a wider selection of people to possibly meet, how anyone thinks it has any other powers is comical. You may be likely to meet more idiots online because the chances are vast, but you are just as likely to meet idiots at church, from family & friends introductions, social events, etc., they are always going to be out there, just that in your personal life you probably don't travel far enough to run into as many as you can in one day online. You are still the person who chooses, a dating site isn't changing any of that. So if you take the numbers down to what percentage is or isn't going to work out for you, meeting online or in some other way, it's all going to be about the same. It all centers on what you have to offer, what they have to offer, and if you should happen to come into contact with each other.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 11/11/2013 10:57:43 AM
Does it count if you make friends with somebody ... for life?

Friends are important too.
 GreenThumbz18
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 111
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Posted: 11/11/2013 11:20:28 AM
"Friends are important too."
I have found a few LTR's online, but I find that it's better to develop friendships. Of course, I'm always hoping that it turns into more, but if not, so what?
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 112
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Posted: 11/11/2013 12:14:21 PM
a. slim to none;
b. not a snowball's chance in hell;
c. the odds of winning the lottery are better;
d. you have a better chance of being hit by a meteor;
e. all of the above.

These are, of course, just my opinions. But coming from a woman who's never had more than 2 dates with anyone I've met on line who never had a problem in real life, I'd say my observations are spot on. I personally don't know anyone who has had a lasting relationship that started on-line.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 113
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Posted: 11/11/2013 3:34:13 PM
My daughter met her husband right here,and he was a surprising catch.Gainfully employed with his own home and good looking as well.

An even better question.What are the chances of meeting somebody in the forums and making it work for life? :)
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 11/11/2013 4:04:05 PM

I personally don't know anyone who has had a lasting relationship that started on-line.
I know several here on POF who met and married and are quite happy.

Several of my extended family members are results of marriages that started on line. My nephew met his wonderful (and really smart) wife on line. She's Russian and worked as a speech therapist in Russia. Her credentials are no good here so she went to nursing school and is now an RN. They both worked together to put each other through school and start their family. He is now an attorney and they have two beautiful and smart children. She is now not only an RN but still works at the hospital as a translator as well.

My sister's brother-in-law met his current wife on line and they are quite happily married ... have been for over 15 years.

I met my roommate in Hawaii (he has even left me a testimonial) here on POF and the roommate in Arizona is also a friend from here on POF. They are very dear friends and will be my friends as long as we are alive.

I must admit, that I think the odds of getting it "right" from an on line venue really decreases as age increases. I think part of the problem is that many of us just become very set in our ways. I know I have certain expectations and admit that there are things that I find intolerable ... and I will not settle.

For example: I've encountered men who are so set in their ways and so inflexible that they can barely tolerate breaking their ritualistic habits in order to even schedule a date. Some men I've encountered have their entire day / week / month so planned out that they can barely find time to have a cup of coffee with a woman in order to determine if she might be special enough to work into their schedules for a date.

At my age, most perspective partners are generally already retired. Many complain bitterly that they can't find a woman who is financially independent enough to just stop working and travel with them. I want monogamy and a committed relationship, but I've discovered that most men my age are not interested in marriage ... or any kind of a binding or committed, monogamous relationship. Maybe they don't get it that many of us are simply not interested in exchanging body juices with someone who is randomly sleeping around.

Unfortunately, since I worked in a clinic, I discovered that many of the men my age who have Herpes do not feel any obligation to tell their partners about their condition before having intimate relations with them. I've never had an STD and don't intend to start with it now. It wouldn't surprise me to find out that there are women out there behaving just as badly.

An even better question.What are the chances of meeting somebody in the forums and making it work for life? :)
I know couples who met in the forums ... those are the ones I know from here on POF. They met on line while posting and some met in the party threads prior to the parties and then hooked up in person.
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