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 lotustemple
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 194
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?Page 8 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)

Modern culture encourages, allows, and psychologically conditions, young women to "cash in" on their beauty which in practice amounts to exploitation for personal gain. Pretty much all are infected and they will only compromise when they have to and at the last minute. Plain Jane better.


Why is this a gender specific thread?
 quietdays
Joined: 4/14/2012
Msg: 195
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 3:54:10 PM
I find myself more attracted to women who have minimal makeup, simple hairstyle and teeth that are their own, no veneers or blinding white forced smiles. Plain Jane does not sound like a compliment but it really is. Maybe we need a term that sounds better for women who are have "that simple look that just works" and makes me want to look at her just a little longer.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 196
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:12:44 PM
I know of atlist 2 women who are 10 in looks and have a 10 in personalty. Plenty of plain jane that can peel paint off the wall just with there looks let alone when they dicide that something is not to there liking. But most of the time I would agree that the real good looking ones need some attitude adj. They just expect thing to be done for them. As a guy you can't control your self and go out of your way to help them out. Which seem to work less and less the older we all get.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
Msg: 197
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:31:52 PM
Wow...

Yeah, well you gotta sleep with that plain jane wife ! Good luck with that (;

Just by this statement.....shows your character...mind boggling to me.

Beauty is in the "eye of the beholder" and I must say...how you look may get your foot in the door but you better have something more to have a successful relationship!
 Thomas_Andronicus
Joined: 6/17/2012
Msg: 198
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:47:19 PM

Why is this a gender specific thread?

I don't know. I guess the PC police aren't out there doing their job.
 SSC-SAF
Joined: 5/20/2012
Msg: 199
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:48:45 PM
One man's plain Jane is another man's hottie.
 KeepinCool29
Joined: 7/20/2012
Msg: 200
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Posted: 8/1/2012 5:52:24 PM
Not only are the plain janes nice, I kind of have a fetish for average looking women for some reason. Not ugly women, just not supermodels. All the really "hot" women look the same to me and all look like that stupid fake porn on the net. They are quite ridiculous.
 _diamond_in_the_rough_
Joined: 6/6/2012
Msg: 201
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:55:14 PM
People aren't necessarily one or the other you know. You can be pretty and have an amazing personality& be down to earth and you can be plain or unattractive and have a horrible personality & be flaky as heck. It's ignorant as well as shallow to assume people are one or the other based on their looks, lol. =)
 privat33r
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 203
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Posted: 8/1/2012 8:28:30 PM
I thought pretty women had entitlement issues. That was a serious error on my part. They certainly realize that they're pursued. If you walk back from a pub 4 blocks and six cars stop.. leave a bar to find 8 guys in the lot and two guys follow you into your locked in parking ..

That does not mean they're commonly trying to trade looks for great relationship because that does not work. I wish my sis would comment as she's been working high end in the exotic entertainment industry for a while but..

.. I still love the plain Jane's, miss 'em
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 204
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 9:07:02 PM
Isn't it amazing how we end up seeing what we expect to see?
 cdg2688
Joined: 7/8/2012
Msg: 205
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 10:13:58 PM
I completely agree. Although I am the type of woman that is really into makeup and clothes, I do not think it should be a prerequisite for a woman to be considered "attractive." My best friend has always been a tom boy. We are complete opposites, and she sometimes feels that men would like her more if she were more dressed up. She dresses neatly and her hair always looks nice. I always tell her she shouldn't change a thing because she has tried the girly stuff ,and she didn't like it. I think there is something seriously wrong with a guy if he can't stand a woman in her natural state. Of course, this makes me look like a hypocrite since I like to try to look nice most of the time, but I have always felt that my mate should like me whether I'm dressed up or not.

Well, that's my two cents....
 tensail
Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 206
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/1/2012 11:10:21 PM
yes ver real women, most of v pretty ones have low eq n generally r ok only 4 short periods so ok to date but not marry. vey tend to b princessess n manipulators.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 207
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Posted: 8/2/2012 2:53:43 AM

yes ver real women, most of v pretty ones have low eq n generally r ok only 4 short periods so ok to date but not marry. vey tend to b princessess n manipulators.


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 Janet_Always
Joined: 6/20/2012
Msg: 208
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Posted: 8/2/2012 3:12:09 AM
There are plenty of bad attitudes to go around -- pretty, plain or down-right homely.

In general I think "most" men want someone that is "simple" in style and comfortable with casual.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 209
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Posted: 8/2/2012 3:45:59 AM
Thanks for the help in deciphering the post I quoted earlier. No offense to the bloke down under.
 RAMPERBILL
Joined: 2/16/2010
Msg: 210
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:43:19 AM
Maybe we need a term that sounds better for women who are have "that simple look that just works" and makes me want to look at her just a little longer.
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"The girl next door" comes to mind. You'll see her dressed up, heels clicking away as she leaves to go out dancing, and the next day in flip-flops as she checks her mail.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 211
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/2/2012 5:54:30 AM
The flip flops of today can be very ornate. I wear mine that have bling on them when I check my mail. guess we now have a new type of girl next door. Maybe a combo of Ginger and Mary ann?
 patrick28t
Joined: 7/28/2008
Msg: 212
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:06:34 AM
I find the most significant factor determining a woman's sense of entitlement is the environment she works/lives in.

I've spent enough time in male-dominated environments (the military, followed by engineering school). Because of all the male attention, rather plain Jane women at the bottom end think they command super high prices. Even if I just say hello in a friendly manner, some by default interpret that as a romantic overture, and are creeped out...

Good looks are always nice to have. Depending on the degree of plain Jane-ness, and depending on the person of course, the insecurities about her looks can be irritating.

As far as the comments saying that looks are subjective, that is true, but some people invariably will get higher average ratings than others. Thus, it is possible to compare people; there is a certain degree of universal beauty.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 213
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:12:00 AM
I actually find the whole plain jane/pretty stereotype odd. Took me years to see that people who view a woman as either pretty or plain are not ones I associate with on a personal basis. Having been the plain one where my sister was the pretty one (people were forever saying that to me) made me realize how insensitive and tacky people can be. When I realized that some men found me pretty and her to be plain, life made more sense to me.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 214
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/2/2012 8:42:08 AM

I think the inner beauty should be more important than the outer, regardless of how conventionally beautiful (or not) a person is.


This sound cool and good, but I am sorry, if the outer beauty does not get me close enough, I will never get around that inner beauty.

With that said. I have to include the caveat that outer beauty is 50 percent looks, and 50 percent attitude.
 pipedreams1111
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 215
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/2/2012 3:22:48 PM
50 percent looks, and 50 percent attitude above. Well said, this also describes how I think. If she is 85 percent looks and 15 percent total biatch then I instinctively pass on her. If she's less then 51 percent looks she falls into the Plain Jane category and I couldn't date her if she had proof that she saved the world.
 Wonder5750
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 216
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Posted: 8/2/2012 3:30:57 PM
You get what you give. Look in the mirror, be honest then... find your match
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 217
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Posted: 8/2/2012 3:50:18 PM
Mean is mean, regardless of the outer packaging, nice is nice, regardless of the outer package...

Beauty is skin deep, but ugly is to the bone.
 CaptainA.D
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 218
Plain Janes Better Than The Pretty Ones?
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:03:23 PM
Plain jane and pretty one dosen't exist i think. Its do i find her attractive or not? Heck, the only gal i fall in love with was not a 10, more of a 5 maybe 6 physicaly. Go figure
 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
Msg: 219
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Posted: 8/2/2012 9:03:13 PM
"Pretty" is a subjective judgment. A woman you might find drop-dead gorgeous, I might consider only moderately attractive, and vice-versa. Personally, I think almost every woman is at least potentially attractive, just not all in the same way. A great smile can do wonders for an otherwise "average" face, and a good personality is worth more to me than a perfect figure.

I see attractive women everywhere I go. Some are too young to interest me, others are married or otherwise involved; but POF helps me find attractive women who are single and available, which is why I'm here.
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