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 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 26
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To the OP:

The man I am with now is only 4 years older than me but is fully gray, dresses "older" and is mistaken as being my father often. Before him I dated 2 men, both younger by 5-9 years and everyone assumed I was their age or younger. I actually look better/younger in my 40's than I did in my 30's. Happiness with life has a lot to do with it.

Younger looking older women are hanging on to their looks longer because women have to work now, so to stay competitive in the workplace, we dress sharper, exercise more and use makeup . Also, not smoking or drinking and using sunscreen to keep skin and eyes looking younger. Tooth whitening, flat irons, contact lenses, hair dye, etc and better dental/medical care also plays a role even without cosmetic surgery or botox.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 27
'Younger' older women. Why?
Posted: 3/19/2012 11:40:49 PM

It's a little uncanny (in a positive way) how so many women are maintaining their youthful looks as they reach 45, 50 and well a beyond.

Did you ever consider the possibility that you're older and because your friends are older, that your frame of reference has aged and your preferences have aged along with you?

(my eyes are fine!)

Your frame of reference has aged.
 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
Msg: 28
'Younger' older women. Why?
Posted: 3/20/2012 6:09:32 AM
Abelian,
ALthough I have to agree you have a point....there are MANY women that look a lot more youthful at 45 and up than in the past? Let's keep a positive thread...positive....
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:02:11 AM

Did you ever consider the possibility that you're older and because your friends are older, that your frame of reference has aged and your preferences have aged along with you?


I will go along with this.

I also think that it is very dangerous to assume that we see ourselves "correctly" or that the comments of others are anything more than compliments. If I believed what friends and strangers tell me, I would think that I look 49 instead of 59.

There has been some discussion of skin care products, but they can only do so much. To truly have youthful skin, I echo what others have said and add:

1. Choose your parents wisely--genetics plays a huge part.

2. Zsa-Zsa Gabor said a woman can save her face or her body, so, gain weight--people who are overweight tend to look younger than thin people because the fat puffs out the wrinkles.

It is more about attitude than looks!
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:08:47 AM

Happiness with life has a lot to do with it.


^^ I think this is the most important aspect of looking younger. If you feel good you look good and like attracts like!!!
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:23:26 AM
If you are happy with yourself......you seem to attract those that are happy as well, and if not as happy as you are, they would like to get there by hanging with you. Being happy seems to happen inside and out, and once that is there, your body has a tendency to follow.

Now, if your genetics are good, it all falls into place, but, and we need to know this, unlike our parents and grand parents, the chemicals and procedures that exist today, can help those who choose to use them, the best they can be.....and that is in the eye of the beholder tooooo.....

If we act and dress like our parents did, we end up looking like our parents, so put away the old people clothes, keep exercising, stretching, and touching yourself up as needed.....it does make a difference.

cd.......
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 3/20/2012 8:30:32 AM
Mr. Deac? i thought I read that you said "keep touching yourself as needed"! OMG...lmao...I don't dare share my thoughts oh this!
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 3/20/2012 9:07:45 AM
If it works Moonie....it is all good....and even better when you get someone else to do the touching up for you.....so to speak....

cd...............
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 3/20/2012 9:10:27 AM
K then, I will take your advice..let me get back to you on that!


VVV: Miss Star? I have no comment to that one! lol...
 egowitch
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 3/20/2012 11:52:20 AM
It seems to me that both women AND men, who have chosen to take care of themselves throughout their lives, and are people who also "think young" , stay young.

I've met folks of all ages that appeared way older than they are, simply because they've abused their bodies in some way, or begin to say things like : "I'm too old to do such and such ...". If they THINK they are, they ARE !

But yes - in general , we are not aging at the same rate our parents did. And if we choose to take advantage of all the current ways to extend ones life well - we can do that !

I often keep the company of people young enough to be my children, and I find I often run rings around 'em health and energy-wise.

And thank you , for posting a positive, and observant viewpoint !
 icefishingrl
Joined: 1/8/2012
Msg: 36
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Posted: 3/20/2012 12:55:35 PM
Now....I gotta go check out this obagi stuff...

Stargazin' 53, ....

I don't own stock in Obagi but have told a lot of people about it. It was recommended to me by a skin specialist in the mid 1990's, and have been using it since. I noticed last time I ordered there is a line now for mature skin so I am going graduate to that. But trust me, the all ages line will also give you a great result.

I have had one fraxel lazer treatment, last year (like the old alpha-hydroxy peel, without the chemicals) and would highly recommend that too.

I'm actually surprised to have nice skin at this age, because I had one bad sunburn after another as a kid growing up, and had a ton of freckles at one time. So even sun damage can be reversed if you are determined.

Hugs, ladies.
 lotustemple
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/20/2012 1:01:49 PM
1. Cosmetic surgery
2. Prescription skin products
3. Exercise and diet

One of my girlfriends is 62, facelift, boob job, exercises daily and gets so much attention from men it amazes me. We are lucky campers living in this day and age able to maintain good looks as senior citizens!
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 2:02:50 PM
Gail:

And I don't know a single guy who use sunscreen without a reminder!


So true! I've always been fit and led a healthy lifestyle...but never voluntarily use sunscreen. My girlfriend has to get me to sit still and rub it on me.

Re tanning. It's a cultural thing. I come from Montpellier in southern France and we like fair light skin on women....the tourists would come and want the reverse...deep tans. Local girls are all covered up and tourists often in just bikini bottoms.
 lmbinottawa
Joined: 3/13/2012
Msg: 39
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Posted: 3/20/2012 6:32:05 PM
I believe it's genetics. I do find that people who exercise a lot, especially runners tend to look older than their age. And just stay out of the sun, all those trips down south aren't doing anything for your looks.
 lacalli
Joined: 3/17/2012
Msg: 40
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Posted: 3/20/2012 6:36:27 PM

I do find that people who exercise a lot, especially runners tend to look older than their age.

Yay! Finally a reason not to exercise. I've been waiting all my life to hear this!
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 3/20/2012 7:24:06 PM

I do find that people who exercise a lot, especially runners tend to look older than their age.


I find ther reverse.. Athletic, toned women have youthful figures. A healthy glow. In contrast, a roll around the waste looks like grandma. People in great shape also are more agile and lithe in movement. Youthful people bounce along as they walk whereas older people shuffle.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/20/2012 7:29:32 PM

believe it's genetics. I do find that people who exercise a lot, especially runners tend to look older than their age. And just stay out of the sun, all those trips down south aren't doing anything for your looks


Genetics for some people it seems.A well known fitness instructor at a popular aerobics club here aged dramatically....don't overdue the cardio,take days off to rest would seem to be prudent.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 43
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Posted: 3/21/2012 5:48:58 AM
I'm not sure I agree, maybe it's because I'm in the midwest. When I look around at members of my age group, I'm struck by how many overweight people I see.
 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
Msg: 44
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Posted: 3/21/2012 6:00:50 AM

I'm not sure I agree, maybe it's because I'm in the midwest. When I look around at members of my age group, I'm struck by how many overweight people I see.


I'm not sure about the mid-west, but it is a regional thing. In cities where the weather is better, people tend to be more active..even if they aren't doing sports or working out they walk more. It's also the food and lifestyle. My ex was from the mid-west and the food he was used to eating wasn't as healthy as the food that I was accustomed to.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 3/21/2012 7:56:01 AM

When I look around at members of my age group, I'm struck by how many overweight people I see.


That's because you are basing "youthful looking" on being fit. Many others in this thread are not--they are basing it on how one's skin looks. As I said earlier, obesity can actually plump out wrinkles and give a more youthful appearance to the face--IF one is only going by the lack of wrinkles.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 46
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Posted: 3/21/2012 8:50:18 AM
That's because you are basing "youthful looking" on being fit. Many others in this thread are not--they are basing it on how one's skin looks. As I said earlier, obesity can actually plump out wrinkles and give a more youthful appearance to the face--IF one is only going by the lack of wrinkles.


From what I've observed, carrying excess weight tends to make a person look older rather than younger. (All other factors being equal...)
 JoseMadre
Joined: 1/9/2012
Msg: 47
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Posted: 3/21/2012 9:06:07 AM
I really think a lot depends on how well they take care of themselves. My best friend is 30 and looks her age. Her mom looks like she could be her slightly older sister. Another friend's daughter is barely 25, has a history of substance abuse, and looks to be at least 40. You put these two together and you'd think the 25 year old is older than a lady who is, literally, twice her age.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 3/21/2012 9:18:33 AM
Have to agree with Jose here. I have seen people 20 years younger than myself and heck, they look my age! Some profiles I review here make me think that life has not been kind to some. The luck of the draw maybe?
 loveoutside
Joined: 12/28/2011
Msg: 49
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Posted: 3/21/2012 9:43:56 AM
Is there wishful perception and reality difference? Do people see things differently? When someone says I'm young and youthful looking, then I go see their profile and I don't see it. Its like someone defined their body as athletic and I can't see any muscle tone.

I used to get lots of comments about my look or how old they thought I was - one group will see me younger and another group don't. I know when someone is taking care of themselves (skin/wrinkles, attitude) and perhaps that may translate into youthful looking, but I typically guess their age correctly (plus minus 5). It is very rare (I only saw 1 lady that actually looked 10+ years younger) that people look so out of their age range, but this could also be due to my own perception reality. Generally when someone says I look young, I think they are just being nice.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
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Posted: 3/21/2012 9:52:51 AM

Is there wishful perception and reality difference? Do people see things differently? When someone says I'm young and youthful looking, then I go see their profile and I don't see it. Its like someone defined their body as athletic and I can't see any muscle tone.


Probably wishful perception..I do not think we can objectively say how we look.. We are more or less saying how we feel..

Namaste
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