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 barra62
Joined: 10/18/2012
Msg: 151
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Women strive to remain young ... me strive to enjoy life ....
 wackadoodledoo
Joined: 4/14/2011
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Posted: 11/3/2012 2:51:38 PM
Who really cares if we look older or younger for our age. It is what it is, and the years continue to accumulate. Be happy with who you are and more importantly, what you are!!
 dkabbiah1
Joined: 5/13/2012
Msg: 153
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Posted: 11/3/2012 4:16:13 PM
It doesn't matter! They are all the same. They both have pros and cons
Younger-Cons: inexperienced, some of them need a baby siter not a man, They are not reliable
Older: Cons: they carry bad experiences they accumulated over the years in relationship. If they are good, they are really good and they are reliable.
I would not be in relationship with any woman under 25. That's my judgement
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 154
'Younger' older women. Why?
Posted: 11/4/2012 5:12:42 PM
No, not all people look their age. I have met women who look horrible for their ages. They have led hard lives, spent to much time in the sun, taken to many drugs, smoked too much, treated their bodies like crap, ate too much junk food, etc. Same for guys of course. Then there are those who are fit, healthy and happy. Can look much younger than their ages.


Of course you can find people that look terrible for their ages,coughing and wheezing and stooped over already.My point is,you have some people here that feel they don't look their age,maybe they have a positive outlook and a few less wrinkles.Then you see their legs or waistline....yeah they look their age.I am very fit but quite grey for my age,been going grey since 18...
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
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'Younger' older women. Why?
Posted: 11/4/2012 5:38:56 PM

Women strive to remain young ... me strive to enjoy life ....


I find it strange that you seem to think that those issues are mutually exclusive. I do not strive to look young, but I do strive to look the best I can look. I DO enjoy life--I don't have to strive to do that.

Today is my 6oth birthday. I can do nothing to stop the march of time, but I will enjoy the journey.

As for looking younger, I have said many times that many people are delusional about how young they look. I am60; I look 60--why should I be ashamed or claim that I look younger? If I try to be something other than what I am, why would a partner be interested in me?
 lightninbug22
Joined: 6/23/2009
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Posted: 11/5/2012 1:45:49 PM
In guys my age, I can usually pick out the smokers before reading their profiles. Smoking does bad things to the skin, in addition to the heart and lungs. Genetics can help a person look younger, but so can healthy living.
 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
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Posted: 11/6/2012 1:23:42 PM
Others have already mentioned genes, avoiding long sun exposure, cosmetics (including moisturizers), and various medical/surgical assistance. All of these play into why "older" women remain youthful. But there are other factors I consider at least as important.

First, the particular lady's outlook on life. If she doesn't "feel old", she is less likely to act or dress "old". I'm not talking about hanging out with twentysomethings and adopting their fashions. A woman whose outlook is youthful knows she isn't a kid any longer, but that doesn't mean she can't still have fun doing some of the things she enjoyed when she was younger. And a woman with a youthful outlook is more likely to adopt classic styles in fashion, hair and everything else that reflect her outlook on life.

Second, the eye of the beholder -- or perhaps, the beholder behind the eye. This is a matter of outlook too; I'm 63 but I do not consider myself old in any way (except perhaps when I can get a senior discount). Women much younger than I am may be attractive physically but beyond the eye-candy factor they don't interest me, because I know we don't have nearly as much in common as I would have with a woman closer to my age. But if I don't think of myself as "old", I'm not going to think of a woman near my age as old either -- unless she gives me reason to think of her that way. In fact, the more I look at her the more likely I am to see traces of the young woman she was not too long ago; perhaps that image influences how I see her today, making her appear younger to me than she does to herself or other people.

Am I weird? Of course I am -- but perhaps not when it comes to noticing how youthful many "older" women are. Whatever you are doing, ladies, keep it up!
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
Msg: 158
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Posted: 11/7/2012 6:32:00 AM
I think we are more aware of ways to stay as free of stress as we can. Yoga and pilates are mainstream ways to exercise, while years ago they were considered quirky. Some women (and men) don't realize they are walking around showing their agony in their faces. Its not very becoming.

I think younger people are a lot less prone to stress and less likely to accept it. They know how to handle it better and tend to be more positive. Probably because they watched thier parents always sweating the small stuff.

My son had a trip ruined by a number of things that happened, but he chuckled and called it 'a really good bad time' :)

A little girl in my life can pick up when I'm feeling stressed, and she always says " if you were a bird you could drop dead from your stress. "
 timeforall
Joined: 8/26/2012
Msg: 159
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Posted: 11/7/2012 9:26:12 AM

I think younger people are a lot less prone to stress and less likely to accept it


Utter nonsense. Mature adults are much better able to accept stress than young people. You are falling into a classic falacy that because you are a certain way or the people you associate with a certain way, that other people are the same. Not true in the least. If you cannot adequately handle stress, you will never be a successful and productive member of the Human race. Of course a little stress is good for everybody because it keeps us moving and motivated.
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
Msg: 160
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Posted: 11/7/2012 11:25:45 AM
Utter nonsense. Mature adults are much better able to accept stress than young people. You are falling into a classic falacy that because you are a certain way or the people you associate with a certain way, that other people are the same. Not true in the least.
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This from someone who believes "life is very difficult"...
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 11/7/2012 4:01:10 PM

I think younger people are a lot less prone to stress and less likely to accept it. They know how to handle it better and tend to be more positive. Probably because they watched thier parents always sweating the small stuff.


I must disagree! Because I teach at a community college, I see hundreds of young people at school (not in my classes) every week. Many, many of them are stressed and it shows--they are juggling families, jobs, and schools. They are worrying about getting jobs when they finish school. And before one says that's only students, no, it isn't. Our economy has still not recovered: I see young people working at low-paying jobs--stressed. They stress over relationships and the same issues that old people stress over, including long range life plans and money.

At my stage of life, I handle stress much better than do my sons and their wives!

As for people still claiming to look younger, do NOT believe what others tell you. If I did, I would think that I looked between 39-49, and I don't. Also, I have lost 23 pounds in the last six months or so--as a result, the wrinkles in my face are more prominent; however, overall, I look better. There also seems to be a general fallacy that looking younger automatically equate with being more attractive than those who don't look younger--ain't so, m'dears, ain't so! I look better at 60 than I did at 40 when I weighed 250 pounds.
 Ingemouse
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 162
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Posted: 11/7/2012 9:08:12 PM
Genetics mostly, the makeup, hair dye, and attitude. I'm beginning to wonder if I should lie about my age, I'm 60. I've been on a few different discussion forums in which some jerk commented on my face being unnatural in appearance and I must've had plastic surgery! When I said I had never had surgey or injections of any sort, I was called a liar! I don't feel my age and am tempted to not admit to being 60. Probably a bad idea.
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
Msg: 163
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Posted: 11/8/2012 6:56:20 AM
Ingemouse, I'm just a couple of years behind you. I get those comments too, and I think its a mistake to get defensive about whether we have had procedures done, they are not the men we want to be with.
I would never inject whatever into my face, and I'm holding my breath about the wrinkles appearing overnight, (I got through meno without any of the sudden changes in appearance)...but when I start to bag and sag, I'll still just be happy to be here.
The men our age who have kept up to date with their appearance are scarce, I know, but they're out there.
I don't think you should fudge about your age.
 americanwoman67
Joined: 7/18/2010
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Posted: 11/9/2012 6:14:05 AM
I am still a kid at heart. I am around college kids allot. I think genes has allot to do with it and lifestyle. My sister never worked and was an old lady before her time. I feel like I am still 16 sometimes but I have worked all my life.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 165
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Posted: 11/11/2012 2:44:55 PM
As for people still claiming to look younger, do NOT believe what others tell you. If I did, I would think that I looked between 39-49, and I don't.


I'm not naive enough to fall for that kind of flattery. Some people tell others what they want to hear---often because they have ulterior motives.


There also seems to be a general fallacy that looking younger automatically equate with being more attractive than those who don't look younger--ain't so, m'dears, ain't so! I look better at 60 than I did at 40 when I weighed 250 pounds.


I've noticed this, too. Plus, what's the point of having smooth, unlined skin, if a woman's face is so puffy, her eyes are mere slits? The neck gives away the true age, anyway. By the way, congratulations on your weight loss! That takes tremendous self-discipline.

From reading other threads about aging, it would appear that given a choice, most men think a woman with a nice figure and a few more wrinkles looks better than one with fewer wrinkles but who has a thick, matronly figure. Having fewer wrinkles is only part of the "youthful-looking" equation. Having a nice white smile is another factor that some people seem to overlook.
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
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Posted: 11/11/2012 3:28:27 PM
Also, I have lost 23 pounds in the last six months or so--as a result, the wrinkles in my face are more prominent; however, overall, I look better.... quote, Gwendolyn
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I agree, staying fit and flexible are the best advice at this age, and we owe it to ourselves to stay as close to our ideal BMI as possible. It's a 'quality of life' issue as we mature.
I am at my heaviest right now after a fall from a high place that sent me straight to physio over a year ago. I will be doing physio homework forever, I'm sure.
Before the injury I did have more a few more lines on my face but overall I felt so much better. It's a trade off I'm happy to make if it's true we really do have to choose between our face and our azz at a certain age.
 funnershine
Joined: 10/6/2012
Msg: 167
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Posted: 11/13/2012 1:23:33 PM
[quoteSo true. The skin differences between many of those those in the southern USA and Canada is quite apparent. My girlfriend grew up in Scandanavia and has lived in Canada as an adult...her skin is still soft and rosy.

Yeah you get real rosy here out in the cold.. They say people who live in cold climates tend to live longer as well.. Nothing like keeping our bodies on ice for the majority of the year here.. lol
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
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Posted: 11/13/2012 1:36:15 PM
I agree with Funnershine ,especially in Vancouver and on the island, everybody looks 35 because of the moisture in the air, and all the rain of course.

A few years ago I heard that the Canadian women live the longest in Saskatchewan, where you can get a very dry -40. Brrrrrrr, I'll never forget my husband lighting a fire under my diesel car to get it started in Saskatoon.
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
Msg: 169
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Posted: 11/13/2012 4:24:52 PM
[Same for England regarding the cold weather but it's also damp...plays havoc with your bones you know! :)]
quote, Opal66

I can't imagine living back in the day, before car starters and Helly Hansen ... ;)
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 11/14/2012 5:25:41 AM

especially in Vancouver and on the island, everybody looks 35 because of the moisture in the air, and all the rain of course.


As for moist air keeping people young looking: I lived on the North Coast of California for 40 years. The last year that I lived there, it rained constantly, night and day, for three months. The flooding was horrific. After the rain stopped coming down constantly, it rained intermittently. This was normal. The women there did not look any younger than women anywhere else.


They say people who live in cold climates tend to live longer as well..


The longest lived women in the world are in Hong Kong, followed by Japan. http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/08/21/life-idUSRTR370JF

People in Bermuda live the longest: Iceland is third. Canada beats the US! http://www.cbsnews.com/2300-204_162-10008886-2.html?tag=Gthumbnav

Living a long time (and being healthy while you live that long life) has more to do with genes, diet, and exercise—regardless of where you live. This goes for looking young, as well. I was looking at a picture of my grandmother recently: it was a shock to realize that in the picture, she was in her 50s; she looked 70. It was her life that beat her down, dirt poor, poor nutrition, and trying to keep five kids alive. As my mother said, it was the miles, not the years that affected her.
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
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Posted: 11/14/2012 7:20:02 AM
Well Gwendolyn, I have not reviewed the studies, (I'm a little too busy, and I like to choose my battles ,this one is trivial...) but when I'm on the coast, my skin feels amazing, it glows from the hydration you can never get with any serum or cream. It's one of the reasons I have a humidfier going at night in the winter time.
It makes a huge difference.

Yes, our ancestors had it rough. My own mother stepped over bodies in WW2, worked physically harder than any woman today needs to, had more than her fair share of worry and ate a diet like a lot of Europeans high in trans fats, in fact 'lard' was a food group.
Her exercise was all work related, she certainly didn't go to the gym or do pilates, and wouldn't have.
She passed away at 86 looking radiant with barely a wrinkle, and about 15 % of her hair was grey. It was just starting to come in.
So yes, genes, survival genes, tenacity, faith in yourself, faith that good things happen, humor, all factor in to how you look, and how long you might live.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 172
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Posted: 11/14/2012 7:32:23 AM

Living a long time (and being healthy while you live that long life) has more to do with genes, diet, and exercise—regardless of where you live. This goes for looking young, as well.


I concur. Plus, as we all know, smoking has a negative effect on skin with decreased oxygen flow and free radical damage. Pregnancy, along with major weight fluctuations, can also affect skin elasticity and reduce collagen.

Applying Retin A cream (Tretinoin) to the skin at night can help to restore collagen, and wearing a good moisturizer with at least 50 SPF can help protect the skin during the day.
 britepurdywmn
Joined: 10/21/2012
Msg: 173
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Posted: 11/14/2012 12:03:22 PM
["Applying Retin A cream "]... quote halcyon_skies

great advice, but not for those with rosacea.

Hyaluronic acid creams and serums are flying off the shelves at the Health stores and anyone can use them... they are pricey but not nearly as expensive as the cosmetic counter lines.

Yes to sunscreen, every day...it's the only cream you need on your face. I have been a believer since the 80's.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 11/14/2012 1:52:30 PM

great advice, but not for those with rosacea.

Hyaluronic acid creams and serums are flying off the shelves at the Health stores and anyone can use them... they are pricey but not nearly as expensive as the cosmetic counter lines.

Yes to sunscreen, every day...it's the only cream you need on your face. I have been a believer since the 80's.


It really depends on how sensitive one's skin is. My mother has mild rosacea and uses Retin A every other night at the lowest strength, which is .025%, and it has helped hers.

Also, one can purchase moisturizers that contain both hyaluronic acid and SPF 50 sunscreen for around $24.
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 11/14/2012 2:29:13 PM
sounds to me you are appealing to women's egos and my guess this thread got you a few good dates:) sure, good genetics, exercise, etc.-- but, also botox and restylane and hair dye and facials and dieting and hormone replacement. this is an old hippy/university town where i live, but even here some of the older men are catching on and doing same. often more to look younger for work interviews, as they seem to think women don't care as much about how they look. but still, there they are, sitting in line for their injections. plus, many more finally catching on to testosterone replacement instead of viagra!

i think those in the singles "market", versus married people, struggle more with this. some sadly give up. i personally noticed a multi-fold interest in me, when after a very long period of illness, i did most of the above. it was very strange at first, as this was more like the attention i got prior to being sick, but so long ago. in fact, even women were more friendly. kind of like tyra banks experiment when she put on her fat suit and entered the public domain.

we all think we are so open and liberal minded. but, let's be honest. many of us go with chemistry and if we want to attract a decent opposite sex member, most of us do our best physically. it used to be, i am told, that men just needed money or power, but i never saw that in my circles, although admittedly often oblivious to that situation. i do find, that many women in their younger 50's will date an older man. they tell me that they "cannot find" men their own age, but i'm not sure why. however, with women looking much better, i think they might be demanding more of the same from their men in the looks department. just an assumption, but we do hang with many single friends and it does seem things are changing given the media pressure and more technologies targeted at "youthfulness".... or, the alternative, to give up on finding "the one" altogether.
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