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 ControlledFolly
Joined: 2/17/2011
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Truly sickening and appalling, my heart goes out to her and her family. I hope he gets the hard time in prison that a nonce deserves.

I know this isnt isolated, and we have discussed safety before, but i wonder how long it will be before chaperones are the norm like in other societies? Or i have to hand my passport into the police before i go around for my steak dinner?

Very very sad indeed.
 andy1961
Joined: 6/15/2006
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Posted: 3/19/2012 12:11:32 PM

I agree Marcus, sad story, but online or offline, shit happens unfortunately.


"Shit happens"! You're kidding right? What happened to that woman is a lot more than shit happening!
 blackbird76
Joined: 7/21/2008
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Posted: 3/19/2012 4:29:59 PM
What a terrible story. It makes me think of the poster that goes round Facebook giving advice for men to not rape women. http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-AAvaRJUytZI/TqaY02nTiiI/AAAAAAAAAEs/m0qarRsx7gg/s1600/poster+1.jpg Not that all men are potential rapists, just to counter victim blaming. As others have said, she could've met him in the real world just as easily - the internet doesn't magic them up, you'd think dating people is a way to vet people anyway, as people could just make up all kinds of crap up online anyway, and you can't go on dates being so paranoid anyway!!
 *rem*
Joined: 11/5/2008
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Posted: 3/19/2012 4:33:13 PM

and after four dates with the guy she must have had good reason to not want to kiss him, which to me doesn't sound as if she was keen on him anywa

She met him after talking online for 4 days. There was no other date.
He apologised saying he was sober now. So he was looking for another chance? The guy is clearly mentally deficient and plain dangerous even in the cold light of day.
I have always said that alcohol only gives you the excuse to do what you would do anyway if you had the guts when sober.

Maximum sentance and then some!
 HappyLibra70
Joined: 5/17/2009
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Posted: 3/19/2012 9:10:47 PM
One can never tell when someone is going to flip. My neighbour who is a Border Patrol Agent here in the U.S never gave any indication of being a violent man. This past Friday he called me to ask if we could take care of his dog, I said sure. He said to me that he would be off work late, and that he was leaving on Saturday, I said to him just give me a call and I will go get the dog.

He called me, I went to his home. . I never thought I would be handcuffed by him upon entering his home, much less that he was going to rape me. I was raped by someone that I respected, who I had no reason to fear. Now he has crushed my life into pieces.

How can we ever know who to trust anymore? I have a long road ahead of me, for this has just started. I know that I have to overcome this, and I know I will...

I just hope that he is stopped from doing this again.
 MsSunshine60
Joined: 10/7/2006
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Posted: 3/20/2012 6:38:30 AM
People act as if there's a special planet called "Internet" where the "not nice" people inhabit. The fact of the matter is this woman met a monster...who just happened to be on POF.

If she had met him in the pub the kind of character he has he would have acted in the same way. There are some men that have a sense of entitlement to a woman's body...this creature is one, but he's not unique to internet dating.
 stonecastle
Joined: 2/14/2007
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Posted: 3/20/2012 9:54:04 AM
Now watch the numbers on internet dating sites drop rapidly. What was the name of the Internet dating site they met on by the way?
 darkside0fthem00n
Joined: 12/6/2011
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Posted: 3/20/2012 9:57:43 AM
this one mate


Ramsey and the woman had spent four days chatting on plentyoffish.com which claims on its home page to be “responsible for more dates and more relationships than any other dating site”.
 CheriNickens
Joined: 5/8/2011
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Posted: 3/21/2012 8:44:56 PM
I agree that it's a game of chance, but she didn't have four dates with him, she chatted on POF with him four times. It was their first date and that is very scary.
 stonecastle
Joined: 2/14/2007
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Posted: 3/22/2012 6:04:12 AM
Dating websites should carry more warnings about the potential dangers of meeting people online. Most people warn children about the dangerous of meeting people in person they meet online but adults are just as at risk sometimes and need to be given proper warnings about what to do when meeting someone they met online.
 ControlledFolly
Joined: 2/17/2011
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Posted: 3/22/2012 12:31:10 PM
Its a step in the right direction thats for sure, i have a feeling the CRB people will be in for a booming business soon.

A one stop shop for dating/internet safety:

Sex offenders register, CRB check, AIDS/STD check..... hmm im going to patent this idea right away.
 try1more
Joined: 12/16/2007
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Posted: 3/24/2012 10:21:49 AM
why do i think this is a very poorly disguised promotion of other "paid" sites.
is it perhaps because the only two posts made by the op are on this thread?

is it perhaps because the op tries to suggest this rape wouldn't have happened if ramsey had been checked, in spite of there being "no" mention of any previous accusations never mind convictions?

or is it because the op does "not" engage in the discussion except to post what can only be described as announcements?

for whatever it may be worth, i think that anything that removes a need for personal responsibility can only be a bad thing.
oh! he/she must be ok as they've been checked!

in short it smells just the same as those hoax emails that you get sent by friends that should know better.
 UkSammie
Joined: 11/6/2008
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Posted: 3/24/2012 11:11:11 AM
Not being rude or anything but why would u meet someone on your own and show them where you live? obv need to meet in a public place with a friend not take him to ur front door,
 try1more
Joined: 12/16/2007
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Posted: 3/24/2012 1:18:24 PM
boy how times change!
in the distant past if you "didn't" walk a girl home and saw her safe to her door.
you would have been the biggest arsehole going!
now if you were to insist on doing that you would likely get arrested


erm note to admin.
just checked this post and found it's on page 3 of 2 ?
 stonecastle
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Posted: 6/23/2012 10:41:20 AM
It is very foolish to not take precautions when meeting people from dating websites. Even something as simple as taking along a friend could easily avert disaster. The best advice is to choose a very busy place, take along a friend and leave separately. Or you could tell a couple of friends to come along but stay discreetly in the background incase anything goes wrong.
 stonecastle
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Posted: 6/23/2012 10:52:31 AM
By the way the safest form of internet dating is to date old friends you knew from years back from sites like Facebook and FriendsReunited. That way you already know what the people you are going to meet are like. There have been many successful relationships from people re-meeting old friends this way.
 try1more
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Posted: 6/23/2012 11:01:40 AM
sorry but this is bloody ridiculous.
do you demand to see an up to date medical cert for the driver/pilot or a breathalyser result before getting on a bus, train or plane.
people have been attacked by cab drivers, do you take a friend or two along just incase?

quite apart from anything else, as has already been pointed out it was not a first meet/date.

on the other hand i've not tried a threesome before, so i guess it has it's upsides:-)
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