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 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 76
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How strange you should post this question.

My BF recently began wearing women's panties under his jeans after I found a pair in his car!

I guess he was afraid to tell me about his little "hobby."

I feel so much better now that I know he can be completely honest and open with me!
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 7/3/2012 8:28:56 AM
well as far as sex goes, I really like naked....
not into anything, I don't even like shoes on my woman
but , you broke up with him, because of that!!! really!
that is much more weird, then his fetish lol
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
Msg: 78
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Posted: 7/3/2012 8:49:16 AM
LOL! I think that finding my partner wearing my underwear probably wouldn't bother me too much.....UNLESS....he looked better in it than I do.....that might tick me off!
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 79
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/3/2012 9:15:24 AM
My BF recently began wearing women's panties under his jeans after I found a pair in his car!



wow, idk if I would believe it. I would think he got catch cheating and made it up. I admire your trust.


Hmmm ... I guess that might explain why he is now wearing the garter belt and thigh high stockings I found under our bed, yesterday!


you tell that slu.t I want my red pumps back he borrowed.


vvvvvvvv Dragon - we all know that each of your meets ends with you prancing around in your date's panties!

P. S. You can keep the lacey tap panties, FFS. I don't want them back, now!
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 80
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/3/2012 1:12:25 PM
Hilarious, LOL, would have loved to see the look on his face you surprising him like that.

Honestly though, not sure what my reaction would be in that case.............. trying to visualize my guy now wearing my lingerie........ and think after initially LMAO I could really not take him that seriously anymore. Guess I'm too old fashioned as I really prefer the more masculine men. Just as well that I go for the taller and well muscled guys so my itsy bitsy lingerie items would not fit them anyways.
 Indysweetpea2001_
Joined: 8/1/2008
Msg: 81
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/3/2012 6:24:17 PM
[But a guy who displays feminine traits? Nope. No takers.]

Read thru the thread again, there are women who will accept this. Maybe from your past experiences your gun shy of being rejected again? If you truely want to find a lady to spend your life with you will have to be willing to take the risk and hope for the best. Anyone that has experienced a loss or hurtful relationship is gun shy. Time heals all. Do not give up so easily!
 MDIYM59
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 82
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/3/2012 6:28:25 PM
Never had that happen but my ex would wear high heels, matching lace bra and panties under one of my dress shirts. Very sexy, she didn't need to say a word, I knew exactly what she wanted to do next, lol.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 83
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Posted: 7/3/2012 6:32:04 PM
It isn't the act it's self that would bother me, I wouldn't be appalled or shocked. What bothers me are fetishes, they take the place of actual arousal and I don't get turned on by game playing, be it a guy needing to wear panties or a guy needing to watch porn first or a guy wanting me to dress up like little orphan Annie, it's not my thing, it would bore me to death. That's one of the reasons I don't like dating sites for fat women, too many men there are fixated on the fat, not the person.
 newonthescene76
Joined: 2/24/2007
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Posted: 7/4/2012 1:37:52 AM
I've never personally run across this, but unless it was criminal (e.g., pedophilia, rape, or bestiality), I would think that I would at least try to be understanding about it. Lots of people have kinks, so I wouldn't want to judge anyone for what makes them satisfied sexually. However, saying that, I'm not saying that I would be able to continue to have a relationship with the person if I was turned off by the particular fetish; I just wouldn't bash the person for it.
 cr4zycupcake
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 85
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:53:19 PM
That's some fuked up hilarious shit! But what a bloody turn off! Dont care what anyone rekons.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 86
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/4/2012 1:18:18 PM

I was posting for sometimes-miss, cause he was complaining that he can't find a lady able to deal with it. I think the answer of his question was in your post. No clue why you clearly felt touched by it as there is nothing in there that can be related to what you said.

Uhhmmm, I guess I felt "touched" because you quoted me AND answered me:
Me:

Did it bother me that he sometimes wore frilly underthings? Not in the least. He was such an alpha male

Your response to me: Join the sentence together.

Would a completely straight woman that does not fancy woman or trans be turned on from a man dressed like a lady? No. It is the same from men actually. You are thinking about a completely naked girl wearing a long top, maybe bending over a bit showing a bit of ass, but nobody would be turned on by a girl dressed like a mechanic, and I am not talking about calendar pose, I am talking about a gross woman mechanic. Not so appealing.

Women aren't attracted by men with a feminine side cause they are often passive in bed. If you are passive find a dominant woman, she won't mind your feminine side and 'dominate' you. If you are not, show a woman that if she can get over the stiletto you can give her the best time in her life. It is not rocket science.

I can't believe I am giving advice to someone double of my ages...



I've read that lots of men started wearing women's underwear as children. The forbidden made it exciting for them. Most never tell for fear of being judged. It wouldn't surprise me if some of the men protesting in here have wore women's under garments.

Some years a man approached an Aunt of mine who was single and dating. He mentioned to her that he had a fetish and belonged to a "community" of folks who were into "Petticoat Punishment." This man had been dressed in girl's clothing/under-garments as a child for "punishment" while at a strict Catholic private school. This type of punishment went on (for him) until he was puberty aged. As an adult, he liked to dress up in clothes that represented little girls clothes and undies/petticoats. I'd not be interested in this myself (nor was my Aunt) ~ and it was nice he was upfront/honest about it before they met.

~OT~ I think there are ALLLLL sorts of things going on in the world around us that most of us wouldn't be open to. My man wearing my undies is far less "concerning" to me than some of the stuff I read or have read about. JMO
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 87
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/4/2012 1:21:30 PM

I can't believe I am giving advice to someone double of my ages...





Haha, I laughed so hard.
You know the images that come to mind is the older you get, the more regressed you become, till your 95 and your kids end up chainging YOUR diapers...

Ooops, okay, I`ll shut up now LOL.
 WildDNA
Joined: 7/22/2011
Msg: 88
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Posted: 7/4/2012 4:00:03 PM
I personally do not think you over reacted at all. For one he could have told you he had a fetish like that. It's a little over the fence fetish, when it come's to a man wearing women's clothing. I'd be shocked to and totally turned OFF.
My thoughts are as such: When it comes to having a relationship and you have a kinky side to ya... the least you can do is inform the person before going into the relationship. Other women will love it and play along with him and yet others will say it's not for me I'm outta here. To each their own.

I do think it is important to make sure you have no hidden secrets when you involve someone else in your life. Be it a foot fetish to a wearing women's panty fetish. He hides the fact from his family you know why ? Because he knows already they will judge him for it. So he doesn't have an open minded family is all that tells us. He hid the fact from you because he knew you would be appalled and wanted to keep that part well hidden. He got caught, he got the exact reaction he expected from you, and had he been upfront and honest in the first place....none of this would have gone this far in other words... You wouldn't have dated him, you would have left him to find someone else who enjoys this kind of fantasy.

I personally would walk as well. Sorry that is where I draw the line.
Men wearing women's clothing? Nope, never going to date one, never going to be caught dead watching one do his thing while wearing my panties or nighties or any other female outfit.

It all boils down to this. Be honest and tell them you have a fetish or a secret that may harm the relationship later on. If we all did that, we would allow the other partner to say no thanks it's not for me and he can then say you were never meant to be.

Honestly saves a lot of time and energy.
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 89
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Posted: 7/4/2012 6:02:11 PM
I probably wouldn't be dating someone whom my underwear would fit.
 DallasSBF
Joined: 4/14/2012
Msg: 90
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/4/2012 6:38:29 PM

I'd kill him for stretching out my expensive lingerie. Really if a guy wants to wear pretty panties he needs to buy his own in his own size.


TOOK the words right out of my font. WTF dude you are stretching my panties out of shape and they wont fit me any more YOU FREAK. Yea that relationship would come to a screeching halt.
 Indysweetpea2001_
Joined: 8/1/2008
Msg: 91
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/5/2012 7:48:15 PM
Hmm I would rather have his penis in my panties than 10 other women's vaginas. lol
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 92
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/6/2012 8:01:10 AM

Hmm I would rather have his penis in my panties than 10 other women's vaginas. lol


Speak for yourself
 Acehonestlady
Joined: 4/16/2012
Msg: 93
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Posted: 7/6/2012 10:21:13 AM
I wouldn't have been revolted, I'd find it fun. Only thing is, is I'd have to have the first choice on who wore each item!

Could it have been a subconscious excuse to get rid as it seems a trival reason to end up like that. The thought you had could be simply one generated by your conditioned mind on what is and isn't socially accetable. Such a shame that you felt about in the way that you did and that your feeling ended the realationship.

At one time men wore dress-like clothing and had long hair and women and another time women only wore dresses. Now women wear trousers - it could so easily be that we still don't and to wear them would be considered as strange as you feel it is for your ex to have worn your underwear. OK 'used' (if you mean unwashed) could be a bit nasty whatever gender!!
 purfectmeow
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 94
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/6/2012 10:27:17 AM
I really have no room to talk about what anyone else does or doesnt do, in or not in, their own little heads.
My brain videos are quite entertaining, and when I can find someone who can eat my branded dishes,
woo hoo! Live and let live has always been my motto. If he wants to wear my panties, I'll buy some in his size to keep in my drawer just for the occasion. Big freakin' deal. There are many objectionable behaviors I am much more concerned with.
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 95
Finding your partner wearing your underwear!!
Posted: 7/6/2012 10:31:15 AM
I'd give him a victoria secret gift card, thank him for the good times, explain it's not my cup of tea then leave.
 WinterIsComing80
Joined: 11/21/2011
Msg: 96
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Posted: 7/6/2012 11:02:39 AM
Everyone has their own little quirky kinks. Some are more mainstream than other. I have hard limits just like anyone else but minor stuff like the OP's example would be discussed and my partner could either keep it her private fetish to do solo when I'm not around or I could be involved. That would be for us to decide.
 Mysterio2001
Joined: 5/18/2007
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Posted: 7/6/2012 1:30:57 PM
Its a piece of cloth! Women can wear mens boxers and its suppose to be sexy. men wearing panties causes people to run for the hills???

WHAT???

WHo makes these stupid rules??????
 TheLongSpring
Joined: 1/29/2012
Msg: 98
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Posted: 7/6/2012 1:34:39 PM
If I was desperate and ran out of clean underwear............
 Mysterio2001
Joined: 5/18/2007
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Posted: 7/6/2012 1:42:20 PM
Ok, check this out. I LOVE to wear womens panties! Its all the underware I own. Been wearing all of my life. SOme of my friends know and I dont care. I am what I am. Now when I date a woman, I usually tell her on the second of third date. reason being is I do not want to waste my time with a woman that cannot accept that part of my life. This has contributed to my success. I eliminate a lot of wasted time with the wrong women. I am a very confident person, if she cannot accpet it, then I have 4 words for her,

there is the door! and I move onward. But all of that rejection is worth it when you find that rare gem that accepts you for who you are and lets you wear what you want because she is into YOU THE PERSON, NOT THE CLOTHES YOU WEAR!

Thats what I do and its worked out just dandy for me!
 moutainbreeze
Joined: 10/19/2011
Msg: 100
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Posted: 7/6/2012 4:38:28 PM
I find that repulsive too. Good for you for not participating in that crap. That anyone would put on your USED and dirty underwear is f*ing gross. You did the right thing. I see men on here all the time with pictures of themselves in make-up and women's clothing. They are looking for a specific type of woman and are 100% wrong to try to deceive someone else into accepting their bizarre behavior.
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