It may have been started by a younger man drawn to the smell of lavender and altoids , but women certainly got all up in it.
So, antidote, where hopefully men can contribute, and women can keep their cradle rocking antics to themselves.
The problem is that a lot of guys when they hit their 40s tend to stop looking after themselves, or they have been blissfully unaware there were problems within their marriage, got a bit too cosy and found themselves single again and not in the right head space or physique to deal with it.
In comparison, most women these days do look after themselves and are active and care about their appearance.
(Am I generalising here?) In the same way you guys don't want a lady smelling of lavender and altoids?, we don't want a man who looks pregnant with a huge beer gut, yellow fingers and wind.
I have to say having looked at your pictures, you don't look like the stereo type that I'm talking about and if I were interested in someone of a similar age and location then I'd be impressed. However, I can't and won't compete with someone half my age, which appears to be your preference, so we'll both be looking else where lol.