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 OCRebellion
Joined: 2/8/2011
Msg: 101
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As much as men have a hard time figuring out what women want, guess what men - we have a hard time figuring out what you want.

I don't want a cookie.... I want a diet Coke and a Tylenol.
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 102
What do women really want?
Posted: 10/28/2012 12:50:53 PM
Re: #136
women look for a good guy that will be open and honest with us trustworthy so to speak we want to know that our man will be there for us when we need them the most. A "good guy" is loyal treats his woman with respect and accepts her for who she is.
My experience says that this is exactly the opposite of the truth. Women say this but really go for the bad boy criminal with more tattoos than bare skin who will cheat and screw them over every way they can. If your statement were true, then I should have a dating waiting list, but I'm lucky if I get one date a year from this place.
 SFGIANTSFAN_IN_SOCAL
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 103
What do women really want?
Posted: 10/28/2012 9:53:55 PM
Women want a man with personality and swagger. CONFIDENCE! It all comes down to confidence. It doesn't matter if he's a good guy, a bad guy, an indifferent guy, what have you. If he has confidence he'll be okay with the ladies.
Personally, I LIKE big personalities. I think because (while it may not look it) I am introverted I need a yang to my yin. If a guy I'm doesn't display confidence, we're not going to go very far. Too often, I've really liked guys and they have to go and ruin it by not challenging me, by expressing an opinion and then after hearing mine, change theirs to mine. That's not confidence.

I also want someone who will accept me for who I am, just as I am accepting of them. I'm not pretty in the morning, I'm a **** before I've had a cup of coffee, and I have a short temper if I have to explain myself more than once. I want a man who's not going to be intimidated by my assertiveness and is not afraid of standing up to me.
 OCRebellion
Joined: 2/8/2011
Msg: 104
What do women really want?
Posted: 10/28/2012 10:55:31 PM
To msg 146... women do look for a good guy; not all but the ones I know, myself included. But what we need to even get that ball rolling is ...wait for it....attraction (physical and personality). So, just because the statement does not apply to you does not make it untrue because you don't have a dating waiting list. Perhaps your lack of dating stems from lack of attraction by prospective females...and nothing more.
 Green_Jello44
Joined: 6/19/2011
Msg: 105
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Posted: 10/29/2012 9:43:46 AM
After dating all year, all I can conclude is women want a free dinner, entertainment and to give zero in return before they find the next better looking guy......its a gravy train.
 SFGIANTSFAN_IN_SOCAL
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 106
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Posted: 10/29/2012 8:07:01 PM
We can go round and round on this.

What do men really want?

When they have a woman who loves them and would be with them through thick and thin, he leaves her for some messed up piece of trash who blows smoke up his ass, has a great body, a manipulative brain, and empties his bank account.
 Miked0gg
Joined: 10/16/2012
Msg: 107
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Posted: 11/10/2012 8:46:00 AM
Women don't know what they want why do you think their on this dating site? They all say they want the good guy MR. right all that BS, but then ask them about their past relationships it's all filled with so called jerks, a-wholes, and badboys as they consider them..lol and you wanna know why they attract those and why nice guys finish last? because the so called badboys/ a-wholes, and jerks mess with their emotions women are emotional creatures so when u play with their emotions you challenge them..Nice guys give no challenge because their 2 nice they give in to everything she wants and they put them on a pedastol where as the a-wholes and all that could care less about her.. So tap into your inner a-whole a lil bit and watch how women react..
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 108
What do women really want?
Posted: 11/10/2012 2:57:30 PM
Agreed: Women don't know what they want. They say one thing but their actions say another. I've seen that consistently.
 Wonder5750
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 109
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Posted: 11/10/2012 4:15:06 PM
lol... and why are you guys here?
 MotoGPatrick
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 110
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Posted: 11/12/2012 9:38:14 AM

lol... and why are you guys here?


Me... Mostly entertainment value..
 boredinnipomo
Joined: 11/7/2012
Msg: 111
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Posted: 11/12/2012 12:52:15 PM
They want everything..right now... all the perks of being deferred to, and none of the reponsibilities. They get the lions share of tax money for their health, while men die 5 to 6 years earlier than them.
 Jennywillwin
Joined: 12/27/2011
Msg: 112
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Posted: 11/12/2012 1:26:34 PM
What do I consider a good guy? There are a lot of good guys out there. Does it mean any of them are right for me? No.

For instance, you could be a great guy but you're an atheist or New Age or ???. If that great guy does not have a Christian belief then I wouldn't want to pursue a relationship with him. Friends are fine but he can't be anything more.

By the way, it's disappointing to see how many men do not represent themselves genuinely on here. An example would be to not post "Christian" when they later claim to be Christian while we're chatting. An excuse I have heard more than once is that "it is nobody's business". How many men have I thought they were something else based on misinformation? The other point to make is that if you deny your faith, I probably do not want to know you.

The bottom line is to volunteer the information on your profile. No one wants to waste time or pass someone by because their profile was so limited.
 OCRebellion
Joined: 2/8/2011
Msg: 113
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Posted: 11/12/2012 7:30:21 PM
Oh hell! No one knows what they want anymore. We have too many people with too much access to too many things and it has created a society of individuals unable to make a simple decision because they are too fearful that if they do, they will miss out on something, which may or may not be fact, but even the concept of, or possibility of, makes it impossible to have a clearly defined set, list, doodle on a napkin of what they want (irrespective of gender).
 James44P
Joined: 11/5/2012
Msg: 114
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Posted: 11/13/2012 11:35:35 PM

Women want a man with personality and swagger. CONFIDENCE! It all comes down to confidence. It doesn't matter if he's a good guy, a bad guy, an indifferent guy, what have you. If he has confidence he'll be okay with the ladies.
Personally, I LIKE big personalities. I think because (while it may not look it) I am introverted I need a yang to my yin. If a guy I'm doesn't display confidence, we're not going to go very far. Too often, I've really liked guys and they have to go and ruin it by not challenging me, by expressing an opinion and then after hearing mine, change theirs to mine. That's not confidence.

I also want someone who will accept me for who I am, just as I am accepting of them. I'm not pretty in the morning, I'm a **** before I've had a cup of coffee, and I have a short temper if I have to explain myself more than once. I want a man who's not going to be intimidated by my assertiveness and is not afraid of standing up to me.


Swagger? overrated. The problem with many women is that they take arrogance for confidence. Arrogant people usually are the most insecure people around. If you are confident you dont need to act the fool or make sure people know you are there.

And many woman that say they are assertive aren't assertive. They are high maintenance people that want their way all the time. I'm not spending my life with snooki meets Kim Kardashian. I dump them like yesterdays news.

I think you are right though when you say so many times some guys go for a sleazy hot girl when they have a good girl that loves them. Men cheat like never before and it's wrong. So often though woman keep taking these losers back because they think they can't live without them. We need to be secure in ourselves and not let people treat us like crap.

It takes two to tango and we teach people by how they treat us. I tell everyone I've dated; you cheat once it's over. I'm not going to worry about your guy friends or where you are but if you cheat, I'm done. No second chances.

I haven't been single for a long time and boy how things have changed. Many men are worse than ever and women seem to be trying to catch up to them.

There are lots of great women and some great guys though but you have to pick them. It's easy to blame the opposite sex all the time but no one put a gun to our heads and made us date anyone. If we pick the wrong person part of the problem is on us for picking them. And some for taking them back over and over.

It's easy to claim we are victims when in reality the answer often lies within.
 irish_smackie
Joined: 3/13/2012
Msg: 115
What do women really want?
Posted: 11/14/2012 8:04:37 AM
I can't speak for anyone else, but as for me, I want a man I can trust to lead. Yes, I CAN lead (and as a single woman, I obviously do), but it would be nice to let someone else do it once in a while. I guess that's not very progressive of me. haha
 MotoGPatrick
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 116
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Posted: 11/14/2012 9:04:41 AM
Freud tried to figure this one out, threw up his hands and said **** it.. I agree.

Instead of trying to change myself to align with estrogenic mood swings and passing fads I have decided to be a bit like Cartman "I do what I want"... except I am not short, fat and annoying..
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 117
What do women really want?
Posted: 11/14/2012 11:42:46 AM
Who knows what women really want... As for me I'm not even going to try and figure that one out.. It's more of what time of the month you talk to her. Never even heard of two women agree with each other 80% of the time.
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 118
What do women really want?
Posted: 11/14/2012 4:37:28 PM
RE: ^ - Was her name Sybil?
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 119
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Posted: 11/17/2012 5:13:39 PM
Not every man will run away if you tell them what you want, but they will if they catch you talking to the mirror, especially if it's the Evil Queen's mirror from Snow White.
 OCRebellion
Joined: 2/8/2011
Msg: 120
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Posted: 11/17/2012 5:24:27 PM
^^^^ Well there goes my Saturday night fun! Guess it's back to martinis for me.
 Wonder5750
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 122
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Posted: 11/18/2012 6:11:49 PM
Okay I don't want a cookie anymore, I want someone to help me move furniture. :) Hey.. you asked. lol
 CapricornAquarius
Joined: 6/13/2012
Msg: 123
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Posted: 11/19/2012 10:12:14 PM
security, to be loved unconditionally and commitment.
 MacInOC
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 124
What do women really want?
Posted: 11/20/2012 11:57:31 AM

security, to be loved unconditionally and commitment.


Unconditional? Commitment? You mean like that "til death do us part" thing? LOL.

Almost every woman posting in these forums recommends leaving the man if he does anything bad. One strike and he's out - the PoF way. Most women say if a man is not "secure" enough to support himself , he's out. Yet in general, men still are still willing to provide for / supplement their women. Oh and something like 70% of divorces are initiated by the woman. It's a new age - women have earned their independence and they are not afraid to use it to end relationships. And if these trends keep up, men will adapt (ok, we men may not be the smartest, but we can learn slowly).

In order to earn unconditional love and have commitment, you have to be willing to provide it. And unfortunately I don't see a lot of allegiance.
 CapricornAquarius
Joined: 6/13/2012
Msg: 125
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Posted: 11/20/2012 6:21:44 PM
Well that's what I want. And I'm pretty sure I'm a woman. I'm independent as well an always have been. It's never stopped me from loving that very same way. My answer is my answer. Please don't challenge my truth with your projections.
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