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 cosmoboy1952
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 62
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I dated a girl who was into swinging. She always bugged me to go to clubs with her. I told her to wait till I get tired of you then we can swing togeather. She argued why wait. In my opinion Swingers are really tired of each other but don't want to divorce because they don't want to have to get rid of all there stuff, homes ,bassboats, money, etc. So if a guy wants to keep his bass boat that bad, it wont bother him to see his wife banging another guy especially if he likes to fish to. lol.
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 63
Swinging
Posted: 7/24/2012 10:19:55 AM
I'll become a swinger when they band all the creepy people and require gym membership.
 GuelphBossman
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 64
Swinging
Posted: 7/24/2012 1:19:14 PM

I'll become a swinger when they band all the creepy people and require gym membership.


Yes we should cater to the people with awesome physiques. Don't a lot of things (including this site) cater to that portion of the population already?
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 67
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Swinging
Posted: 7/25/2012 6:08:36 AM

It's a high risk activity. Stds, unplanned pregnancy and sexual predators are just a few of the risks associated with this kind of behaviour. I would not want anyone I loved male or female to do this.


Yes, dating is high risk. Swinging is actually less risky in all the categories you mention. Having an opinion and preference is fine, but actually researching the truth makes for an informed opinion, rather than trying to justify your own from your feelings, instead of facts.
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 68
Swinging
Posted: 7/25/2012 6:25:33 AM

Yes we should cater to the people with awesome physiques. Don't a lot of things (including this site) cater to that portion of the population already?


WEATHER you like it or NOT Guel sex is all about looks. IF I am not attracted to your looks IT wont be good sex. But if I want to touch you taste you and hold you then that is a very very good start. BUT if I am thinking WHY doesnt he go to the gym EVER? I really do see this being something I will remember in my old age. I am sure YOU feel the same way.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 70
Swinging
Posted: 7/25/2012 1:23:04 PM
as far as STDs are concerned swinging is risky behavior ....;dating is risky behavior..and considering all the people on here that have been cheated on by their EXs marriage is risky behavior ..actually in this day and time going to a theater to see batman is risky behavior

I know and have known a large group of swingers for many years ..and have yet to know of one coming down with aids ..I do know several single heterosexual people that have come down with aids ... i know dozens of homosexual people that have come down with aids ..and i even know three married couples that one or both have come down with aids.... so as far as HIV is concerned ..in my little survey swingers are doing better than any group..just saying
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 73
Swinging
Posted: 7/25/2012 4:14:02 PM
BOO for YOU. I feel bad SINCE all the super hoties WERE VERY skilled at what they do. (GOOFY SMILE ON MY FACE WITH tingly feeling in my pants.) I must have been very lucky in that they have been both BEAUTIFUL and talented in the sack. I guess it breaks down to the fact if he can dance he can ........ WELL you get the idea. If he cant dance he can lick but if that was interesting to me I would into pretty girls. AND since I am not..... Better luck in the future with that whole great sex from really hot people. I am sorry but Brad Pitt looks like he can f you into a coma. But that is just me. Practice makes perfect
 firstchoice85
Joined: 4/2/2012
Msg: 74
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Swinging
Posted: 7/25/2012 5:41:40 PM
how dose one one find a swinger party to attend
 GuelphBossman
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 76
Swinging
Posted: 7/25/2012 6:03:53 PM
Sex isn't all about looks. If a guy isn't good, it doesn't matter what he looks like. And I can guarantee there are plenty of women on these forums who have met great-looking men who couldn't find their clit with a flashlight and a map.

Also, your comment seems to say that I don't go to the gym. I do. And when I'm there I see a lot of out of shape people, including many women. I do see a lot of people in great shape too but it's not like they outnumber the others. So the whole gym thing is a moot point.

I get it. Your shallow. And you can be. You're a woman and especially on these sites they can be shallow because men outnumber them by a very wide margin. You'll get a lot of messages from men. Not because you're gorgeous. It's because you don't have a penis.

And finally, no I don't feel the same way as you. But that's the thing about opinions. No one's opinion is ever wrong. Just different.
 PleasureStick
Joined: 7/16/2012
Msg: 77
Swinging
Posted: 7/25/2012 11:22:47 PM
Me and my lover have been looking...

The hard part is finding people, without embarrassing yourself. There should be like a handle signal or a simple way of doing it. LOL
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 78
Swinging
Posted: 7/26/2012 4:48:45 AM
I get it. Your shallow. And you can be. You're a woman and especially on these sites they can be shallow because men outnumber them by a very wide margin. You'll get a lot of messages from men. Not because you're gorgeous. It's because you don't have a penis.


She can afford to be "choosy", not shallow, and it's not just because she's a woman,it's because she IS beautiful and that is why she would get alot of messages...because she IS gorgeous and not just because she doesn't have a penis.
If she walked into a Swingers Club......the rafters would shiver.:)

Don't be jealous.lol
 GuelphBossman
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 79
Swinging
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:34:20 AM
It's not jealousy. It's honesty.

Choosy, shallow. You can call if what you want. Is she attractive? Yes, I won't dispute that. Does her attitude suck? Yes, it does.

Oh, and she wouldn't walk into a swingers club. Don't you remember? She thinks more people there should go to the gym. She'll be such a great catch. (I'm rolling my eyes as I speak).
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 80
Swinging
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:57:01 AM
GUELPH thank you for the compliment (You too HeartOn64). And thank you for showing me the error of my ways. I have an attitude adjustment NOW. I will do men I am not attracted to. I will go out with them. And I will tell them how incredibly sexy it is to be ????? NOT sure why but I will tell them. I will tell the guys who are not really smart and kind of unattractive that I love to talk about rocks or video games. Yea and then I will lay there and act like a porn star when he is sweating all over me. Panting and sweating and spiting. I will watch the clock and MOAN real loud UNTIL he stops. THEN on to the next guy, as it would be UNKIND to reject him just because he wasnt there before the other guy. BUT I will make sure the others dont know about each because let's be real, that would hurt their feeling and make them feel insecure. AND put my cat's life at risk.

I do thank YOU for my attitude adjustment. I feel so much better now that I know WHY I AM HERE.
 GuelphBossman
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 81
Swinging
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:21:23 AM
Hey no problem Scottish. I love dishing out the compliments.

Glad to see the attitude adjustment. I've adjusted mine as well. I won't call out anyone on these forum on their bullsh*t anymore. I'm obviously oh so wrong on so many topics. I will make sure only to talk to women who think so highly of themselves that only an adonis could capture their attention. And I will definitely only meet up with women who have a chip on their shoulder the size of Idaho who think they are the best thing since sliced bread (who came up with that saying anyway?). I will make sure I help out all the women who are attention wh*res who always need to be told how great they are and how sexy they are and how they are always right with what they say and post on here.

Thank YOU Scottish for showing me the error in my ways. You are going to make some, um, gentleman happy, perhaps....yeah I'm tired of this. I'm just thankful you live far away, so there is no possible way we would run into each other. You keep doing what you're doing and I'll keep doing what I'm doing. Your opinion isn't wrong, it's just yours. Just like my opinion isn't wrong. Just not yours.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 82
Swinging
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:08:37 AM
How about the reality that we all have the right to our preference in people we have sex with.Period.
Her attitude is no different than the one you defended in another thread about a man who is frustrated with the opposite sex,she's just alot more snide,blunt and direct and actually pretty funny in my book because she's so extreme.If you can make excuses for why a man might be frustrated,not sure why you are less forgiving when it's a woman.Obviously both people have been thru a certain amount of "hell" to acquire thier negative attitudes.

They need hugs. ;)

Hey...question...as if I haven't asked you enough.

Why don't YOU post any photo's of yourself?
If your wife is having sex outside of your marriage and knows you are here,
,looking to do the same,don't you think it might "up" your odd's of finding some NSA Sex if women
knew what you looked like right off the bat?

And yes.....looks talk...blank photo's walk.
 GuelphBossman
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 83
Swinging
Posted: 7/26/2012 8:03:05 AM
Wow I thought you were a really sweet person...looks can be deceiving.

I do have photos. They are private. I used to have them up and I have taken them out of the public eye for now. Having them up didn't increase my odds. So that doesn't really matter. Thanks for the advice though.

I never said no one had the right to have a preference. I'm glad you think she's funny. I don't think that at all. And from what you've just said, you seem to think I am a sexist of some sort. Now that's funny. It's like someone throwing the race card down. Completely ridiculous and inappropriate (most of the time). You seem to defend more women than men with your posts and nowhere has that been mentioned. Double standard indeed...
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 7/26/2012 8:50:58 AM

Why don't YOU post any photo's of yourself?

and why does he have to explain himself to you?
You do realize he can attach a private pic to anyone he messages.........right?


.Obviously both people have been thru a certain amount of "hell" to acquire thier negative attitudes.

They need hugs. ;)

Do you need to make sure everyone has some sort of dysfunctional reason for having sex in they way they choose, to make yourself feel better about your own issues.....or what??

My aunt and uncle are swingers, have been for the 35 years they have been married. They have a wonderful, strong marriage, have 3 very healthy adult children, don't "cheat", show more compassion and respect for each other than most married couples........they just like to go out and have some sexual fun with others now and then.
For some couples, it works.........for others, it doesn't.
 Mfforal3
Joined: 4/25/2010
Msg: 85
Swinging
Posted: 7/26/2012 3:19:14 PM

And thank you for showing me the error of my ways. I have an attitude adjustment NOW. I will do men I am not attracted to. I will go out with them. And I will tell them how incredibly sexy it is to be ?????


You forgot one... "You should perform lots of oral because the silence would be sweet!"

Cheers!
 tensail
Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 86
Swinging
Posted: 7/27/2012 1:28:15 AM
poluy is natural, mono is a religious institutional controling psche like marriage- it rarely works!
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 87
Swinging
Posted: 7/27/2012 8:33:00 AM
I am also on a "sex" site so know swingers from just talking in chatroom. & emails or meet & greets. At first I didn't get it but the couples are happy w it. The ppl on the site are regular ppl u see everywhere u just dontv know what we do.in private or semi private if were at hotel parties lol. Yes singles are there though single guys have to pay to play single women are free. I haven't done swaps w my FWB. They. Really aren't into it. If I was married or in a serious relationship I dont think I would. Im kinda too jealous.
 bwadams
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 88
Swinging
Posted: 3/18/2013 11:57:03 AM
My wife and I have been swinging for 5 yrs now and its great. We both love each other unconditionally and do it to highten our sex lives. We both are content on our own personal sex lives but are really enjoying one another in new ways.
 ElenorGriffin
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 89
Swinging
Posted: 3/18/2013 2:48:04 PM
_redrum
I'm curious if you wouldn't mind explaining what exactly is swinging?
And how does it work?
 gofurguy
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 90
Swinging
Posted: 3/18/2013 2:57:21 PM
a good friend of mine, a lady who is in her mid 50s would always bring up her open marriage and swinging life style. i went to her home one time to bring her something and she showed me the hooks on the bed posts and the room with some of their toys. she said they would exchange partners with several other couples 3 or 4 times a month.she told me shes had this arrangement since they were married. shes now divorced, her husband and her best friend who was her maid of honor at their wedding has been enjoying her husband since they were married 24 years ago.when they got married the 2 other women hed had also been enjoying were in his new marriage. i dont see anything good coming from swinging
 dishearteneddave
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 91
Swinging
Posted: 3/18/2013 5:52:04 PM
I have a few questions. When at a Swinger's club do the husband and wife (couple) go with another husband and wife (couple) or can the wife or husband go alone being part of a 3-some?

If a 3-some is acceptable how can cheating enter into it? For example, let's say two couples are swinging buddies/friends/pals. We'll call couple number one couple "A" and couple number two couple "B". All four adults have jobs.

One Friday morning husband "A" decides to take the day off. Mid-morning he's sitting at home and decides to call couple "B" and leave a message to see if they're going to the club Saturday night. Wife "B" answers the phone. During the conversation wife "B" says she took the day off because she woke up with a terrible headache but she feels much better now and asks husband "A" if he wants to come over for cake and coffee. Husband "A" goes over and after they have coffee they decide to have sex. Would that be cheating?
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 3/19/2013 6:07:32 AM
As usual, the answer is, "It depends."

Do both A and B have an agreement that playing alone is okay, or not? If not, then your scenario is cheating, because it is outside the couples' rules and has not been okayed for this instance. If they each have agreed to allow playing individually with others (whether a single or couple), or specifically with this one other couple's members, then it is not cheating. If one couple had an agreement to allow this, and the other did not, the member of the couple who did not would be cheating.

I've never been to a swing club but know people who have gone. Couples may go by themselves or with another couple or group. Sometimes, a couple may bring along a single guest, but there may be specific days only that this is allowed, and may depend on the sex of the guest. Some clubs may have specific nights when single men are allowed entry (if must the male of a couple wants to go, that would be the only night he could alone). In no scenario is sex assured - that is up to the individual or couple being asked or doing the asking. Some people go just to socialize or watch others.
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