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Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 73
SwingingPage 4 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
BOO for YOU. I feel bad SINCE all the super hoties WERE VERY skilled at what they do. (GOOFY SMILE ON MY FACE WITH tingly feeling in my pants.) I must have been very lucky in that they have been both BEAUTIFUL and talented in the sack. I guess it breaks down to the fact if he can dance he can ........ WELL you get the idea. If he cant dance he can lick but if that was interesting to me I would into pretty girls. AND since I am not..... Better luck in the future with that whole great sex from really hot people. I am sorry but Brad Pitt looks like he can f you into a coma. But that is just me. Practice makes perfect
Joined: 4/2/2012
Msg: 74
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Posted: 7/25/2012 5:41:40 PM
how dose one one find a swinger party to attend
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 76
Posted: 7/25/2012 6:03:53 PM
Sex isn't all about looks. If a guy isn't good, it doesn't matter what he looks like. And I can guarantee there are plenty of women on these forums who have met great-looking men who couldn't find their clit with a flashlight and a map.

Also, your comment seems to say that I don't go to the gym. I do. And when I'm there I see a lot of out of shape people, including many women. I do see a lot of people in great shape too but it's not like they outnumber the others. So the whole gym thing is a moot point.

I get it. Your shallow. And you can be. You're a woman and especially on these sites they can be shallow because men outnumber them by a very wide margin. You'll get a lot of messages from men. Not because you're gorgeous. It's because you don't have a penis.

And finally, no I don't feel the same way as you. But that's the thing about opinions. No one's opinion is ever wrong. Just different.
Joined: 7/16/2012
Msg: 77
Posted: 7/25/2012 11:22:47 PM
Me and my lover have been looking...

The hard part is finding people, without embarrassing yourself. There should be like a handle signal or a simple way of doing it. LOL
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 78
Posted: 7/26/2012 4:48:45 AM
I get it. Your shallow. And you can be. You're a woman and especially on these sites they can be shallow because men outnumber them by a very wide margin. You'll get a lot of messages from men. Not because you're gorgeous. It's because you don't have a penis.

She can afford to be "choosy", not shallow, and it's not just because she's a woman,it's because she IS beautiful and that is why she would get alot of messages...because she IS gorgeous and not just because she doesn't have a penis.
If she walked into a Swingers Club......the rafters would shiver.:)

Don't be
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 79
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:34:20 AM
It's not jealousy. It's honesty.

Choosy, shallow. You can call if what you want. Is she attractive? Yes, I won't dispute that. Does her attitude suck? Yes, it does.

Oh, and she wouldn't walk into a swingers club. Don't you remember? She thinks more people there should go to the gym. She'll be such a great catch. (I'm rolling my eyes as I speak).
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 80
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:57:01 AM
GUELPH thank you for the compliment (You too HeartOn64). And thank you for showing me the error of my ways. I have an attitude adjustment NOW. I will do men I am not attracted to. I will go out with them. And I will tell them how incredibly sexy it is to be ????? NOT sure why but I will tell them. I will tell the guys who are not really smart and kind of unattractive that I love to talk about rocks or video games. Yea and then I will lay there and act like a porn star when he is sweating all over me. Panting and sweating and spiting. I will watch the clock and MOAN real loud UNTIL he stops. THEN on to the next guy, as it would be UNKIND to reject him just because he wasnt there before the other guy. BUT I will make sure the others dont know about each because let's be real, that would hurt their feeling and make them feel insecure. AND put my cat's life at risk.

I do thank YOU for my attitude adjustment. I feel so much better now that I know WHY I AM HERE.
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 81
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:21:23 AM
Hey no problem Scottish. I love dishing out the compliments.

Glad to see the attitude adjustment. I've adjusted mine as well. I won't call out anyone on these forum on their bullsh*t anymore. I'm obviously oh so wrong on so many topics. I will make sure only to talk to women who think so highly of themselves that only an adonis could capture their attention. And I will definitely only meet up with women who have a chip on their shoulder the size of Idaho who think they are the best thing since sliced bread (who came up with that saying anyway?). I will make sure I help out all the women who are attention wh*res who always need to be told how great they are and how sexy they are and how they are always right with what they say and post on here.

Thank YOU Scottish for showing me the error in my ways. You are going to make some, um, gentleman happy, perhaps....yeah I'm tired of this. I'm just thankful you live far away, so there is no possible way we would run into each other. You keep doing what you're doing and I'll keep doing what I'm doing. Your opinion isn't wrong, it's just yours. Just like my opinion isn't wrong. Just not yours.
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 82
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:08:37 AM
How about the reality that we all have the right to our preference in people we have sex with.Period.
Her attitude is no different than the one you defended in another thread about a man who is frustrated with the opposite sex,she's just alot more snide,blunt and direct and actually pretty funny in my book because she's so extreme.If you can make excuses for why a man might be frustrated,not sure why you are less forgiving when it's a woman.Obviously both people have been thru a certain amount of "hell" to acquire thier negative attitudes.

They need hugs. ;) if I haven't asked you enough.

Why don't YOU post any photo's of yourself?
If your wife is having sex outside of your marriage and knows you are here,
,looking to do the same,don't you think it might "up" your odd's of finding some NSA Sex if women
knew what you looked like right off the bat?

And yes.....looks talk...blank photo's walk.
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 83
Posted: 7/26/2012 8:03:05 AM
Wow I thought you were a really sweet person...looks can be deceiving.

I do have photos. They are private. I used to have them up and I have taken them out of the public eye for now. Having them up didn't increase my odds. So that doesn't really matter. Thanks for the advice though.

I never said no one had the right to have a preference. I'm glad you think she's funny. I don't think that at all. And from what you've just said, you seem to think I am a sexist of some sort. Now that's funny. It's like someone throwing the race card down. Completely ridiculous and inappropriate (most of the time). You seem to defend more women than men with your posts and nowhere has that been mentioned. Double standard indeed...
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 7/26/2012 8:50:58 AM

Why don't YOU post any photo's of yourself?

and why does he have to explain himself to you?
You do realize he can attach a private pic to anyone he messages.........right?

.Obviously both people have been thru a certain amount of "hell" to acquire thier negative attitudes.

They need hugs. ;)

Do you need to make sure everyone has some sort of dysfunctional reason for having sex in they way they choose, to make yourself feel better about your own issues.....or what??

My aunt and uncle are swingers, have been for the 35 years they have been married. They have a wonderful, strong marriage, have 3 very healthy adult children, don't "cheat", show more compassion and respect for each other than most married couples........they just like to go out and have some sexual fun with others now and then.
For some couples, it works.........for others, it doesn't.
Joined: 4/25/2010
Msg: 85
Posted: 7/26/2012 3:19:14 PM

And thank you for showing me the error of my ways. I have an attitude adjustment NOW. I will do men I am not attracted to. I will go out with them. And I will tell them how incredibly sexy it is to be ?????

You forgot one... "You should perform lots of oral because the silence would be sweet!"

Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 86
Posted: 7/27/2012 1:28:15 AM
poluy is natural, mono is a religious institutional controling psche like marriage- it rarely works!
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 87
Posted: 7/27/2012 8:33:00 AM
I am also on a "sex" site so know swingers from just talking in chatroom. & emails or meet & greets. At first I didn't get it but the couples are happy w it. The ppl on the site are regular ppl u see everywhere u just dontv know what we private or semi private if were at hotel parties lol. Yes singles are there though single guys have to pay to play single women are free. I haven't done swaps w my FWB. They. Really aren't into it. If I was married or in a serious relationship I dont think I would. Im kinda too jealous.
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 88
Posted: 3/18/2013 11:57:03 AM
My wife and I have been swinging for 5 yrs now and its great. We both love each other unconditionally and do it to highten our sex lives. We both are content on our own personal sex lives but are really enjoying one another in new ways.
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 89
Posted: 3/18/2013 2:48:04 PM
I'm curious if you wouldn't mind explaining what exactly is swinging?
And how does it work?
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 90
Posted: 3/18/2013 2:57:21 PM
a good friend of mine, a lady who is in her mid 50s would always bring up her open marriage and swinging life style. i went to her home one time to bring her something and she showed me the hooks on the bed posts and the room with some of their toys. she said they would exchange partners with several other couples 3 or 4 times a month.she told me shes had this arrangement since they were married. shes now divorced, her husband and her best friend who was her maid of honor at their wedding has been enjoying her husband since they were married 24 years ago.when they got married the 2 other women hed had also been enjoying were in his new marriage. i dont see anything good coming from swinging
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 91
Posted: 3/18/2013 5:52:04 PM
I have a few questions. When at a Swinger's club do the husband and wife (couple) go with another husband and wife (couple) or can the wife or husband go alone being part of a 3-some?

If a 3-some is acceptable how can cheating enter into it? For example, let's say two couples are swinging buddies/friends/pals. We'll call couple number one couple "A" and couple number two couple "B". All four adults have jobs.

One Friday morning husband "A" decides to take the day off. Mid-morning he's sitting at home and decides to call couple "B" and leave a message to see if they're going to the club Saturday night. Wife "B" answers the phone. During the conversation wife "B" says she took the day off because she woke up with a terrible headache but she feels much better now and asks husband "A" if he wants to come over for cake and coffee. Husband "A" goes over and after they have coffee they decide to have sex. Would that be cheating?
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 92
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Posted: 3/19/2013 6:07:32 AM
As usual, the answer is, "It depends."

Do both A and B have an agreement that playing alone is okay, or not? If not, then your scenario is cheating, because it is outside the couples' rules and has not been okayed for this instance. If they each have agreed to allow playing individually with others (whether a single or couple), or specifically with this one other couple's members, then it is not cheating. If one couple had an agreement to allow this, and the other did not, the member of the couple who did not would be cheating.

I've never been to a swing club but know people who have gone. Couples may go by themselves or with another couple or group. Sometimes, a couple may bring along a single guest, but there may be specific days only that this is allowed, and may depend on the sex of the guest. Some clubs may have specific nights when single men are allowed entry (if must the male of a couple wants to go, that would be the only night he could alone). In no scenario is sex assured - that is up to the individual or couple being asked or doing the asking. Some people go just to socialize or watch others.
Joined: 8/8/2012
Msg: 93
Posted: 3/19/2013 6:30:11 AM
^^^^ Thanks for the info. A few other questions.

Do swinging clubs allow same sex couples? Or, if a bi-sexual couple visit can the man go with another man and the woman with another woman or does it have to be opposite sex coupling?

I used to date a gal and we broke up. A while later we bumped into each other and she said the man she's now seeing knows how to treat a lady.

"We had only been dating two weeks and he took me to an expensive club. We danced and the club was so romantic. And all the people were friendly. You never took me to nice places like that", she said.

Anyway, she told me the name of the place which I had never heard of and after checking things out I realized it was a swinger's club. Now, I have nothing against people who want to swing but if one has only dated a gal for two weeks aren't there a whole bunch of things they'd still want to experience with that gal before swinging
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 94
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Posted: 3/19/2013 6:52:12 AM
As for your question about same sex couples - I have no idea, but tend to think that it would be the exception and not the norm for most clubs.

aren't there a whole bunch of things they'd still want to experience with that gal before swinging

I totally agree, but not everyone does things the same way, obviously. If I were to pursue swinging, I certainly wouldn't want to start while also starting a new relationship - I'd want that relationship to be totally solid and be sure we're on the same page.

Some couples meet on swinger sites, so are already active swingers. Becoming a couple just means that in addition to this new relationship, they now have more opportunities to swing because couples are the majority and most want another couple.
Joined: 2/14/2007
Msg: 95
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Posted: 3/20/2013 8:55:37 AM
The trouble is most swinging clubs do not allow single guys so if you are single it is not a good way to get sex. I know a few women but none of them are interested in joining the swinging scene and none of the women I know want to go out with me so I am finding it hard to get any sex at all.
Joined: 2/27/2013
Msg: 96
Posted: 3/20/2013 8:57:46 AM
I've tried this but it bores me. Again, as in FWB relationships, people have a hard time (at least the ones I've encountered), with boundaries and rules and communication. I think it's natural for people to be in a committed relationship and want to be sexual with other people. I don't think as a species we are meant to be monogamous. I think monogamy is a choice and if both parties agree to that, like the swinging thing, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not judging. Just saying that as a species I don't think it's natural to be monogamous. With that being said if you want to participate in this lifestyle you have to have complete honesty and openess with your partner and it will not save an already bad relationship. Just like having a child does not fix a broken relationship neither will this fix one either. A swinging relationship requires certain components. If you aren't kosher with that best not to stick your toe in the swingers pool. Or anything else for that matter.
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 99
Posted: 3/24/2013 10:54:27 AM
well i have been swinging for years like it swingers are very truthful people are you on AFF
Joined: 12/18/2012
Msg: 100
Posted: 3/24/2013 11:16:20 AM

On the other hand, there is a major pitfall that one must be careful to avoid. There was a girl... a museum curator, who had charge of a very interesting collection. She wasn't extraordinarily pretty but prettier than my wife. She took a liking to me and I to her because she was a pleasant and interesting person. We would have sex and a long convo every week. My wife didn't like it. My wife didn't mind my having sex with the museum girl or anyone else. It was that the museum girl and I hit it off so well personally that made her mad. That can happen easily among swingers because they are such nice and decent people.

Is another one is the pitfalls that you can wind up divorced?
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