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 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 39
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Then he goes on to say that there are certain things that men can do that women just can't do and I am naive if I believe any different.

I just really hope that all men dont believe this b.s.


Your ex wanted/wants, whatever….are you still together? Who bothers with an ex if they don’t have to?

Anyhoo…..he wants you to believe that to have control over you. He just ends up looking like a pathetic piece of crap IMO. Let me guess…he decides which things women can’t do as he goes along, right?



God has cursed all men... he gave them a penis


If your dyck offends thee, cut it off.
 Narc
Joined: 5/3/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 4/11/2012 4:39:34 PM
I feel bad for the ladies that deal with this, I've spoken to a friend who is a girl a at bars before and next thing I know her boyfriends was going off on her because he thought she was flirting with me. I just hope you don't get jealous if he checks out other women while with you either.
 susy909
Joined: 3/21/2012
Msg: 41
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Posted: 4/11/2012 4:47:42 PM
Its called controlling .... I can enjoy the view but you cant. WOW!
 Tristle
Joined: 9/11/2010
Msg: 42
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Posted: 4/11/2012 8:02:23 PM
I don't believe this. I guess it depends on the context. .. it can be disrespectful, but in and of itself, it's not that big of a deal to me. I don't comment on other women's appearances in general.
 magicallaroundme
Joined: 3/9/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 4/11/2012 11:16:01 PM

Thats when the world came to an end!


It should have. At least the part of it where you were a couple. It doesn't really matter what he said or why. What matters is that he did say it. He determined that you were being disrespectful. How he arrived at that is entirely irrelevant. Once stated, it becomes your decision to either be respectful or begone. Evidently, you chose to defy him. He is an ex after all.

In a larger sense, you could not have made a mistake. If striking a blow for grrrl power or some other political bullshoot was more important to you than his opinion of you then he is better off without you. Another possibility is that he let you continue to disrespect him and took no action beyond whining. You came to despise him for his lack of resolve and his willingness to endure contempt. In that case, you are well rid of him.


I just really hope that all men dont believe this b.s. because i will be single forever if that is the case. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.


Single forever? Maybe but not because of this tripe. There are too many decent men who are willing to experiment with the goose/gander idiocy. There are too many manginae who will disgrace themselves in any manner that you direct. The only kind you will have to learn to do without are the ones who have ruled against the goose/gander foolishness and are firmly disposed.


Men tell me .. Do you all believe this nonsense?


It is of no consequence what a man believes or doesn't believe. If he observes continuing disloyalty in you then he should discard you or become a figure fit for ridicule.
 MIHockey22
Joined: 3/7/2012
Msg: 44
I hope all men don't believe this!
Posted: 4/11/2012 11:25:22 PM
I think your ex sounds like a insecure little baby.
I do however kinda agree that men can do things women cant. If I sleep with 50 women guys will embrace me and girls will be like...typical guy..
If a girl sleeps with 50 guys, guys will thinks shes an easy skank and girls will think the same way. Im not saying its right but, its life. So even though I disagree with him, its true men can do things and get away with it no problem when women cant, so in that sense its true.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 45
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Posted: 4/12/2012 2:17:01 AM
Men and women just think differently about sex and sexuality. The guy you're describing seems to be threatened in some way by your obvious appreciation of the opposite sex. He's your ex for a reason, stop answering his calls ;-)
 CarKam1
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 4/12/2012 6:04:27 AM

when our SO speak of how cute,hot,sexy someone else is, it makes us feel insecure. We feel like if the object of their attraction looks like that, then that must be what he/she is attracted to. This causes us to feel like we dont measure up in the looks department. just like when guys look too long or comment on other women, it creates a feeling of insecurity in us, same goes for men. they want to feel and think that they are the only ones who makes our loins tingle...


I believe this to be true, but more so when your SO is complementing other woman more so than he is complementing you. When your SO shows more interest in others than you then you can't help but feel the above when such comments are made. I don't think people should be labeled as insecure or controlling when they voice their dislike to having their SO ogling others. You never know what the circumstances are behind that, and usually there are circumstances. Sure it's fine to point out a pretty lady or handsome man, but don't forget about the person who is standing right beside you...

As for the original question? Come on now, do you really believe that Horsesh*t?
 Krissie59
Joined: 10/15/2010
Msg: 48
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Posted: 4/12/2012 7:13:17 PM
Even though he's your ex..he's still trying to control the thoughts in your brain... Why can't men be smarter?
 gregdad49
Joined: 11/20/2008
Msg: 50
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Posted: 4/13/2012 1:22:42 AM
Well first you can't put people in boxes, its not true that ALL men think like that. People do get insecure though, not that it should be an excuse. Second, what do you care what your ex thinks, part of moving on is releasing your emotional connections.
 briargate
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 51
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Posted: 5/13/2012 8:16:34 AM
Neither men nor women should make remarks to each other in a relationship about who else they feel is attractive. It's just dull conversation at best and potentially irritating on average. Everyone, just STFU about it. You can enjoy your little crushes in silence.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 5/13/2012 8:21:39 AM
You're still rehashing old arguments with your EX?
Are you a masochist or something? This is what I don't understand about some people.

He's your EX for a reason. Why still keep talking about your past disagreements and wasting time?
You could have be en talking to a new guy instead.

What a waste.
 rockondon
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 53
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Posted: 5/13/2012 9:24:06 AM
So you were talking to your ex about things you fought about and felt like ranting about it here. How constructive.

Maybe I should do the same - make a thread where I'm an angel and she's awful - should be really easy since it doesn't even have to be true, and then everyone can chime in saying how awful my ex is so I can feel better. Its fairly petty actually.

As for the subject matter, when I'm in a relationship I kinda like it when my SO tells me when guys are attractive - so long as she isn't panting like a dog or anything - because I like to know what's attractive to women. I'll even point out guys that I think she might think is cute for her to check out so I can get her opinion.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 55
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Posted: 5/13/2012 10:42:12 AM
Two people who are secure in themselves can have a lot of fun with this. Once upon a time I was involved with a woman … (You, the heckler in the back row! Shut up and sit down, it could happen!)

Now what was I saying? Oh, yeah, once upon a time I was involved with a woman. We were watching a Brad Pitt movie (DVD at home), and I asked her:


Me: Do you think he (Brad Pitt) is hot? I know many women do.
Her: No, not much. I’m really more into Johnny Depp.
Me: Oh, yeah? You think he’s hot?
Her: Most definitely.
Me: So you get hot watching him?
Her: Yeah??? And exactly where are you going with this????

We wound up ditching the Brad Pitt DVD, and watching a Johnny Depp movie. And a very interesting time was had by all.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 56
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Posted: 5/13/2012 10:50:41 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Omg....you don't know women at all!
 Confuzzled4ever
Joined: 6/9/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 5/13/2012 11:13:12 AM
LMAO LMAO LMAO!!

I'd start pointing at every man saying he's cute. lol If he's gonna accuse you of being disrespectful might as well make it so. lol I don't know any man who thinks that way. lol..

PS.. Vin Diesel!! isn't cute.. HE'S HOT HOT HOT!!
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 58
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Posted: 5/13/2012 11:21:29 AM
Your ex is horrendously insecure, and you are right.

Nothing wrong with it from either side, if one thinks its a personal insult of some kind then its their own insecurities - I might add in there unless the other person is 'using it' to say/insinuate "I wish *you* looked like that" (ie, a "put down").
 WD1094
Joined: 9/11/2011
Msg: 61
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Posted: 5/13/2012 12:59:23 PM
1) It is disrespectful to comment on your attraction to other people.
2)You are both disrespectful to each other.
3) He seems to be more insecure about your attraction to him than you are to his attraction to you. So it's possible you do it more than he does and he has reached a boiling point where he has had enough of those comments or possibly looks you give other men. I'm incredibly handsome so I don't have that issue.:)
 deletedpost
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 63
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Posted: 5/14/2012 4:14:20 PM
Your ex has the issue.. sounds a little nuts.
Hes disrespecting you totally. Its a sign of abuse.
 celrian23
Joined: 3/27/2010
Msg: 67
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Posted: 5/16/2012 10:00:45 AM
I think it depends on the situation. If your partner makes comments like this there should be no reason why he can't handle you making similar ones but it shouldn't be done in a hurtful way and I think as long as these comments are made mostly about celebrity types who are unreachable anyways there's no real harm (so long as its not the only thing a person talks about)

However if your partner is the type never to say these kinds of things in front of you and it seems it hurts them when you make such comments you should withhold such comments around them.

I generally don't talk about being attracted to other men around my bf's but I'm open minded and don't necessarily mind if he comments on someone elses attractiveness so long as it feels that our connection is secure.

J.
 Snagg
Joined: 10/26/2010
Msg: 70
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Posted: 5/16/2012 10:39:54 AM
My opinion....

She is either a cheater or not a cheater. Nothing you say or get angry about will change that fact either way

Soooo.....

I actually am happy when the Girlfriend/wife/ significant other comments about how sexy some guy is...

Why? you ask?

Because if she looks, there is no way she can get angry when she catches me looking. Im a guy, Im gonna look when I see Anne Hathaway in a cat suit or Scarlet Johanssen in a spandex super hero outfit. I will likely look and growl, and I dont want to catch any hell for it. When she purrs because she sees Brad Pitt, im just gonna smile my secret smile.

Any man that thinks his anger will STOP his wife from cheating, is just silly.
I hope all men don't believe this!
Posted: 12/2/2012 4:06:17 AM
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You simply shouldn't be with this guy, or anyone like this at all. But I think it's more accurate to say - it's not necessarily that you should be with a guy who doesn't mind you doing something that he does (equality), but you need a guy with whom you don't feel the need to do something that's not you just because he does it.
 freshstartbraveheart
Joined: 11/9/2012
Msg: 72
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Posted: 12/2/2012 7:12:36 AM
No, not all men believe that. He's insecure and it's a double-standard. If he can talk about women he finds attractive, he shouldn't get all butt-hurt if you admit to finding another man attractive. Just be glad he's an ex. Having said that, while I think attraction to other people is normal, I don't think you need to talk about it (whether a man or woman) all the time to your partner. I think it's better for the relationship to compliment your mate instead. I think it would do more harm than good over time to hear about every single person your spouse/lover finds attractive. In my daily goings on, I can spot at least three men that I find attractive, at places I frequent just doing my business. I don't think it'd be helpful to a relationship - no matter how secure of a partner I had, if I admitted that to him on a daily basis. Just as I wouldn't want to hear about every hot cashier, coworker, acquaintance etc. my partner came across in his day-to-day.
 Zuglo65
Joined: 4/19/2012
Msg: 73
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Posted: 12/5/2012 5:21:28 AM
Wouldn't bother me at all.
Now if she starts rubbing herself, or cries out his name during sex..
But if she just get excited, and TA-DA..I am there to finish the job..That guy just did me a favor..LOL
 chelseajkt1
Joined: 8/19/2010
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Posted: 12/5/2012 11:51:58 PM
I would've told him to take a flying leap.
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