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 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 937
You are Hot!!!Page 34 of 43    (3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43)

Fleuron I read all your posts in this thread and it sounded like Misandry to me and that surprised me as I didn't of you that way.


I’m sorry you choose to misunderstand me even after clarification.

You’re so wrong. I love men. :heartyou:

ETA


Fleuron I wanna go with for girls night out..............I have the ruler ;)


Spitfireee, it’s on.

Hope we don’t end up on CNN. :wink:
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 938
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 6/23/2012 9:12:51 AM

"Your Hot" generally means your appearance has done something for them in most cases.

Absolutely. I would think something like "You look nice this evening" would carry less weight than "You know what? You are hot." The latter is bolder to someone you don't know, and there can be issues about it being given or taken too strongly, but the whole issue of it not really meaning they find the gal physically attractive is kind of silly.

I think you should approach this on a case by case level as not every man uses this euphimisim to imply sexual content.

I think it's guilt-by-association. Just as a simple "You're hot" is a quick, simplified statement (ie general), it's generalizing in return if/when the woman thinks in any context or tone, that the guy MUST be the same as stereotypical construction worker whistling at a cute gal walking down the sidewalk. And of course, even if it does seem a bit that way, ya can't say said guy doesn't find you physically attractive.
 justlookingvt
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 939
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 6/23/2012 11:27:58 AM


Fleuron I wanna go with for girls night out..............I have the ruler ;)


I guess it's time to put that extender I got at Home Depot to good use! :-) I knew there was a reason I bought the dang thing! :-)
 gujifijian78
Joined: 12/21/2010
Msg: 940
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 6/23/2012 12:18:49 PM
yes! lol

if a men tells me I'm HOT with the intention of thinking that that's what he needs to say to get me into his bed, i would prefer cutting his balls off or perhaps crushing his balls but since i could get jailed for that, i would simply just put them on my blocked list and move on! They clearly want to get laid!
 justlookingvt
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 941
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 6/23/2012 1:00:24 PM


if a men tells me I'm HOT with the intention of thinking that that's what he needs to say to get me into his bed, i would prefer cutting his balls off or perhaps crushing his balls but since i could get jailed for that


gujifijian78, You are Hot!!! .... tempered!
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 942
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 6/24/2012 10:43:37 AM
So when I'm in the store or something, and the cashier tells me that I have nice eyes... Is she up to more than just giving me a complement?
 ExitingTheStage
Joined: 5/25/2011
Msg: 943
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 6/25/2012 1:44:37 PM
There should be an automatic internal POF thread eliminator that can detect redundantly stupid threads that are hot.
 ExitingTheStage
Joined: 5/25/2011
Msg: 944
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/24/2012 8:35:16 PM
It's been awhile.
Almost seems like my last post did it's job?

It's all the same threads hashed over and over and over....

Annoying... like this thread.
 enterurusername
Joined: 4/9/2012
Msg: 945
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/24/2012 9:23:16 PM
I know I'm insanely good looking, I don't need someone else's confirmation.
 Plenty_of_FreeTime
Joined: 10/26/2011
Msg: 946
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/24/2012 9:30:51 PM
I think it has a lot to do with geographics,back in the beach cities of So Cal the expression "You are hot" is pretty common place and most will take it as a compliment.
Hey it beats the hell out of being called,"You are cold"!
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 948
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:28:33 AM

how about being approached on the street and asked for you number "because you're hot"? Would most people be offended by that?


I guarantee you they wouldn't be here to complain about it.

There was a thread about approaching women, and I think it really fits this topic too. Pretty much the best way to put it:

If they're interested in the guy, they probably won't have a problem with it.
If they're not interested, he's a creep just looking for sex.

I think most people know that's the reason that the initial approach ever happens. But it seems like they don't want to accept that as reality.

But then there's the people who say it lacks originality... There's not really anything else you can say that's any better though.
 bostonkev
Joined: 6/5/2008
Msg: 949
partyon
Posted: 7/25/2012 9:15:32 AM
would love to party with both of you. you are way hott
 JoeClyde0853
Joined: 6/22/2012
Msg: 950
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 10:36:57 AM
I think most people are here to meet a potential partner. Guys should be upfront with women. If they find her sexually attractive. I think the women should know this upfront. So that she doesn't have plausible deniabilty and places the guy in the "friendzone". Knowing full well he has aspirations of sleeping with her.

I doubt you would consider the comment a dealbreaker to a guy you were equally attracted too. So in actuality. He is saying the both of you time and money. Honesty is the best policy.
 Tall-Italian-Prize-1980
Joined: 4/5/2012
Msg: 951
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 10:40:19 AM
How about you don't drink n type, there should be a breathalyzer attached to your computer . LMFAO !!!! And if a man tells you your hot prior to meeting u in person, u should be elated n thankful n repay that generous man by performing multitudes of felatio upon him.
 ComplekCity
Joined: 1/17/2011
Msg: 952
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 10:46:05 AM

I want your opinion men and women. If someone you started to chat/text whatever, and after a while before you meet them they will say You Are Hot do you think they are break dealers.


It would be irrellevant to me whether or not they sold automotive parts.
 surfaceofficer
Joined: 8/8/2011
Msg: 953
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 10:50:55 AM

how about being approached on the street and asked for you number "because you're hot"? Would most people be offended by that?


No...but I still wouldn't give them my number. If she thinks I'm THAT caliente...why not give me HER number?
 just_a_zippo
Joined: 12/8/2010
Msg: 954
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 10:53:02 AM
let's face it, it's completely different for men and women

dudes don't really hear it all that much or get approached randomly.....so it's different

now an attractive woman hears it how many times in a week?

now whispered in my ear, as you walk by ====Hot

slurred to me @ last call=== not so much
 _Full_of_Awesome_
Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 955
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 11:32:27 AM

how about being approached on the street and asked for you number "because you're hot"? Would most people be offended by that?


I would love it!
 basschops
Joined: 5/2/2012
Msg: 956
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 12:38:01 PM
geeze alot of women wana be called hot, be flattered
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 957
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 12:48:54 PM
'What causes a woman to be "hot" generally for a guy? I think all it takes is to not be dead, mostly...how flattering.
 just_a_zippo
Joined: 12/8/2010
Msg: 958
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 1:12:17 PM
^^^^

stop talking to the dudes still discovering fire and painting on cave walls
 MusicFred
Joined: 3/2/2011
Msg: 959
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 1:30:10 PM
I wouldnt :p I like people who have good taste (haha its a JOKE)
 1968bobwi
Joined: 7/2/2011
Msg: 960
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 2:12:51 PM
I always thought "You are Hot" was a immature thing to say to a mature woman.
 Serephena
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 961
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 5:35:08 PM
I agree. I cannot stand when a total stranger starts talking to me on here and says sweetie, cutie, baby, hun, etc. Those to me are nicknames that should be saved for people in a relationship. For a complete stranger to talk to me like that irritates me, they are obviously talking to all the women on here like that and I think it is disrespectful. It just screams "player" to me.
 Happy Dude 63
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 963
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:05:56 PM
You dont want to be considered hot?

What were you going for in the Red Dress pic? Demure?? I dont think so.

:}

Anyway, tell a guy when he says that, that it makes you uncomfortable. Many guys have only a few tools in their bag to compliment a lady. For some guys Your Looks is their best one.
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