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 MusicFred
Joined: 3/2/2011
Msg: 959
You are Hot!!!Page 37 of 43    (3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43)
I wouldnt :p I like people who have good taste (haha its a JOKE)
 1968bobwi
Joined: 7/2/2011
Msg: 960
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 2:12:51 PM
I always thought "You are Hot" was a immature thing to say to a mature woman.
 Serephena
Joined: 4/17/2012
Msg: 961
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 5:35:08 PM
I agree. I cannot stand when a total stranger starts talking to me on here and says sweetie, cutie, baby, hun, etc. Those to me are nicknames that should be saved for people in a relationship. For a complete stranger to talk to me like that irritates me, they are obviously talking to all the women on here like that and I think it is disrespectful. It just screams "player" to me.
 Happy Dude 63
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 963
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:05:56 PM
You dont want to be considered hot?

What were you going for in the Red Dress pic? Demure?? I dont think so.

:}

Anyway, tell a guy when he says that, that it makes you uncomfortable. Many guys have only a few tools in their bag to compliment a lady. For some guys Your Looks is their best one.
 sweetnsmiles
Joined: 6/14/2012
Msg: 964
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You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:18:39 PM
Take it as a compliment that anyone even emailed u in the first place and took and interest in u. sometimes guys dont know what to say and find themselves saying something cheesey or whatever. just be happy that someone took an interest in you. because the man is suppose to choose you, ur not supposed to choose him.
 Happy Dude 63
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 965
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:25:41 PM
When I am first getting to know a lady I never talk about her looks. I feel it is obvious I am attracted to her, so in my eyes of course she is hot.

Besides saying you are HOT is boring. HOT...big deal...Let me figure out something about you. HOT is easy. EVERY guy sees you are HOT.

I am not lazy when it comes to you. Let me listen to you and hear you.
HOT is not gonna keep me happy. Your mind and soul will..HOT is just some more spice, that we need.

Hot...HOT..hehehe You are HOT...now love me!
 sweetnsmiles
Joined: 6/14/2012
Msg: 966
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You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:29:02 PM
and when guys call u sweetie, cutie, hun, baby, ect, they are the ones that are trying to show affection, not players. theyre trying to get u comfortable with them and trying to make a connection. southern guys are just charming and its their nature to say those words regardless and some ppl take it as flirting and i know its just their charm. i call a lot of ppl sweetie as well. its just my nature.
 whatagirlwants12
Joined: 3/13/2012
Msg: 967
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:30:54 PM
Insulted? No
Heck after 40 someone thinks you're hot enjoy it, doesnt mean someone that uses HOT as a description of you, you would consider dating....thats a different story.

Maybe In a few years you'll not have to worry about such offensive comments.......???????
I guess I'm just not easily offended....
 SpittyKitty
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 968
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/25/2012 9:09:59 PM

I cannot stand when a total stranger starts talking to me on here and says sweetie, cutie, baby, hun, etc. Those to me are nicknames that should be saved for people in a relationship. For a complete stranger to talk to me like that irritates me, they are obviously talking to all the women on here like that and I think it is disrespectful. It just screams "player" to me.


Nope. Not necessarily. Especially in the South
It's considered a compliment and friendly.
Maybe you're from the North or something.

You're very pretty, so you can afford to be more selective anyways
Besides, would you rather they call you an old bag?
Heck, here in the South women call other women those names!
 Dancedoll2012
Joined: 7/18/2012
Msg: 970
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/28/2012 4:36:37 PM
lol..thats funny
 Choporis
Joined: 6/25/2012
Msg: 971
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/28/2012 7:22:38 PM
If someone you started to chat/text whatever, and after a while before you meet them they will say You Are Hot do you think they are break dealers


It's a deal breaker if they didn't tell me I am hot :^)
( Jokingly of course... )

Just take the damn compliment, and enjoy life.
 drc57745
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 972
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/28/2012 7:40:56 PM
hard to say, he could mean that as a sexual come-on, or he could just be playfully flirting
 FATHERFISH
Joined: 2/24/2007
Msg: 973
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You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/29/2012 9:20:31 AM
isn't it wonderful that so many of us can still feel that way, at this age ?

Wonderful, yes, also frustrating having the passions of an adolescent in the body of an ancient.
 FATHERFISH
Joined: 2/24/2007
Msg: 974
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You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/29/2012 9:23:01 AM
stop talking to the dudes still discovering fire and painting on cave walls


NICE! Very well put.
 Maggie__x
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 977
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/29/2012 10:13:14 PM
I like when they say you are beautiful and gorgeous. Then it turns into sexy and hot, then it turns into a night of regrets hahaha
 mateforlife1958
Joined: 1/20/2012
Msg: 978
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/29/2012 10:41:23 PM
Very well put

A mind that see's with clarity is a beautiful thing.
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 979
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/30/2012 9:38:21 AM

like most women today you fogotton how to take a compliment. if he called you ugly fat, that better?. take as way that he finds you attractive, thank him, instead of it coming across your insulted, to stuck up(thats how it comes across) women ask how they on thier own, read/look and learn ladies!!!


if you are hot or sexy is a compliment I DARE ANY MAN ON HERE WHO THINKS SO to tell his buddy WOW your wife is sexy. Or walk up to a perfect stranger and tell him dude you girl is HOT. Then when you get out of the hospital tell how women are being too damn sensitive .
 arkycountrygirl1
Joined: 7/5/2012
Msg: 980
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/30/2012 10:18:46 AM
Personally telling a woman "your hot" tends to get taken as I wanna have sex. Men...get a bit more articulated! Women like to hear:
you're beautiful, cute, pretty, even sexy can be said, there's many more out there that aren't worded slang.
I assumeS when they say that to me that they aren't even discussing anything but sex and the track record of me still responding to them after saying thank you usually runs to sexual comments next. So men change your words, save "your hot" for after we meet you in person and something actually sparks between both of you. I've recently been speaking to men who say the lines I pointed out above and it's very appreciative and the conversations are wonderful! I
 Maggie__x
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 981
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/30/2012 10:28:38 AM
For some reason I have a ton of sex appeal that I find hard to tame so sexy makes me feel like you want to hit it
 _mr_brown
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 982
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You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/30/2012 10:47:27 AM
i would be flattered if some guy told me my gf was hot....
 alexvanlee
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 983
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/30/2012 10:12:57 PM
they're an idiot...

if you ever marry this person i can guarantee divorce
 andy1961
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 984
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You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/31/2012 1:31:31 AM
if you are hot or sexy is a compliment I DARE ANY MAN ON HERE WHO THINKS SO to tell his buddy WOW your wife is sexy. Or walk up to a perfect stranger and tell him dude you girl is HOT. Then when you get out of the hospital tell how women are being too damn sensitive .


Dear oh dear! Apart from completely missing the point, what a load of nonsense you're writing here anyway.

The OP's original post to start this thread was about the terminology "Hot" being used in messages on dating sites or through texting.


i would be flattered if some guy told me my gf was hot....


Well I suppose it would depend on the circumstances and who the guy was, but yes, on the whole it should be flattering. If on the other hand a genuine friend tells you your wife or girlfriend is hot, beautiful, very attractive or whatever, then of course it's a compliment that should be taken the way it's intended.
It's all about intelligence - only a complete KNUCKLEHEAD would hospitalise another human being, particularly a friend, for paying a woman a compliment.
 surfaceofficer
Joined: 8/8/2011
Msg: 985
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/31/2012 1:41:33 AM
I don't call women sexy or hot, but...ladies...

In the name of all that is holy, PLEASE stop calling us 'sweet'. That is NOT a compliment. Save that malarkey for men you've already sentenced to the 'friend zone' and your go-to-gay. I just want to perform a flying judo chop on women who call me that.
 strolly10
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 986
You are Hot!!!
Posted: 7/31/2012 9:16:33 PM
You stop talking to someone because they let you know their attracted to you? Maybe you should post it on your profile that your attracted to men that wont ever try to compliment you or show any interest. This makes no sense to me at all. good luck.
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 987
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partyon
Posted: 8/1/2012 10:37:24 AM
Did not read al post, just the first and last pages. As far as the OP delima, YOU should chalk it up to, some men will say anything to other posters get laid, at least in your case.

Why is it, that most of the women on here complaining about men objectifying them, are never "All That" at all and the female posters that seem to be more grounded are the ones that are in fact, actually the "Hot" ones (i.e. PP in SC).

I think most that complain about such things are actually not recieving the accolades the desire so much and try in a desperate attempt to convince the rest they, indeed, are deserving of such, all the while protesting.
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