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 Test_Pilot
Joined: 10/15/2005
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If she shys away then you aren't doing it right. For her. Some like it hard and rough, some like it soft and gentle. You have to figure it out. Sometimes they want it fast... sometimes it's just timing... damn... I am confused already. LOL
 M_Thoma_58
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 26
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 10/23/2005 8:11:16 AM
I would like to say that I think it could be the age of the woman and if she has learned to enjoy foreplay, or maybe been shown how to enjoy foreplay. I use to want to skip the fingering and get to just ****ing. Thank God I have come out of living in that world.
I do know some women will give a guy sex because she just wants the affection and a guy will give affection to get the sex. So sometimes if a girl in her teens has just been shown buy the boys, this it makes her learn that it goes kissing then ****ing. She got what she wanted and so did he, so they think.
I wish when we were young we could all teach each other the art of foreplay before we ever learn to ****. But for a girl if she does just the foreplay she gets labeled as a prick tease and a slut. I guy gets labeled as nothing but horny.
So the problem isn't with you I would think, it's probably some mind game the girl is playing with herself. She has to learn how damn wonderful it can all be if she lets herself relax. I had to learn this myself.
Now I am the slut I always wanted to be. LOL
 mustangsally1273
Joined: 8/30/2005
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Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 5/29/2006 4:27:40 AM
I totatlly agree with ANDIMWRITING...and also used to apprentice as a mechanic, so you can have rough hands, but there are many ways with fixing that!

But usually it's that or oral that only causes certain type of orgasm, penetration is sometimes a totally different kind....ask! Most are willing to tell, especially when in the heat of the moment and wanting to climax, just like you!
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 7:33:27 AM
WTF - not wanting the five finger foreplay?!?!?!
Ok well if he was replacing it with tounge then fine, but otherwise bring it on!!!
 Lil Red Riding Hood
Joined: 4/21/2006
Msg: 32
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 7:12:41 PM
Simple:

Most men don't know how to use them

Most guys just dig for gold or ram em home.....wrong wrong wrong.
Finger banging is fine once your sufficiently aroused. Use them more for clitoral stimulation first, work your way up.

My preference anyway.
 Wild Heart
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 33
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 4:02:05 AM
This may have stemmed from the conversation that men don't go down enough on their women so they avoid using their hands? Then again, some people find going down more intimate than manual. There is also the misconception that oral sex is safe sex, so again people will tend to go for it since they have to use a condom? When a man is going down on a woman, he cannot really watch a woman, when fingering, one can watch and have your faces quite close which can be intimate also - some women cannot let go when someone is watching them so closely? Just some ideas, not sure if they hold water!

Personally, I think a varied menu is the way to go.

And using fingers does not mean sticking ones fingers in and out - it means g-spot and clitoral stimulation.
 discussion
Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 34
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 5:56:57 AM
"1 in the stink, 2 in the pink...they love it!!!!!"

Do they love you calling it that too?
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 2/18/2009 3:53:57 PM
I have no idea. That sure isn't me. I'm the opposite
 flappo77
Joined: 2/6/2009
Msg: 36
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 2/18/2009 3:55:27 PM
women don't know jack from a pot hole. if you want to use your fugging fingers go for it. if she objects, tell her the joke about what the five fingers said to the face....SLAP! keep control don't be a douch.
 GreenEyesGoldenLocks
Joined: 6/10/2008
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Posted: 2/18/2009 4:58:44 PM
I have seen guys with jagged nails and hang nails that I wouldn't let near me .. but then thats really just poor grooming so they probably would not get that close anyway.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 38
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 8:29:47 AM
personally the main complaints that me an friends an other woman have is,, NOW wait i can't speak for everybody eles just my friends myself an some others..

A) it reminds us of teenage days an the immature in exsperienced boyfriend/boyfriends feeling an poking around down there in an effort to act like they knew what they was doing,wow score 1 gold star for you you found the zipper to my pants ooooo, o wait he found my clit ouch what the f uck is he doing ok it's not a button on a shirt theres no need for that just stop,,sorry but don't need to be reminded of thoses days..

B)most have no clue what thier doing when they try to "finger" some have a bad flick flick motion like there flicking at a piece of lint like really are you serious? who is suppose to enjoy this do you even know what your looking for?

while some do the poke poke jab poke poke jab..that's the same annoying feeling as when somebody comes up behind you an pokes you then jabs you in ur shoulder to get ur attention,, it's like sir really is it that serious? quit it ya i know you found the hole!good for you!

C)an the worst of the worst is if the person has dirty hands an ragidy an jagged finger nails an they just start ramming thier finger/fingers in,see the guy may think wow she's loving this meanwhile the only thing your doing is causing pain an scraping an scratching up the inside of the vaginal walls which this can lead to bleeding an itching an infection..
so maybe she's not squirming from pleasure but she is squirming an making weird faces because she's in pain an is thinking what the hell is he doing!! he has no f uckin clue.. an sometimes this leads to the woman to burst out cussing an just saying look lets skip this s hit..

overall you can't just jam your dirty fingers an jagged nails in there an think it's cool or "hot" just like you can't just surprise somebody with a finger or penis in the ass an think the person wont notice or you not realizing that your meer seconds away from being kicked an punched by them because you thought it was hot an they wouldnt notice..

it just doesnt happen like that in real life,, we dont live in porno movies.. well maybe some people do guess that's why some has such ridiculous exspectations,, it's like dude she gets paid to do that..an can't you read the look on her face she hates it too.

personally now i'm upfront an will say if i wanna be fingered while in the middle of an act or before i'll do it myself don't need anybody eles down there fumbling around or scratching me up with thier hands an nails..women know thier bodies better.. well atleast i know mine..

 openlybi775
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:05:22 PM
The problem is that NOT TO MANY MEN know how to use the fingers very well at all!

With some women it could be a nasty childhood molestation issue or rape or something!

Others just dont like fingers, they'd rather have that****

Most of the time its the men that don't know how to use the fingers correctly!

Here is the problem,women are to shy to spread em and show you in the light what the hell to do right!

heheh

Happy
 catkin2007
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 40
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:13:45 PM
Could be that some of the men have not been good at using their fingers. There is an art to it and some just don't understand. Of course the best answer might be, why not ask her and see if you can work out the issues together. Communication always works best... in all situations... including and especially good sex.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 41
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 12:50:24 PM

Kinky**stard said:
Ah just dive in with your tongue, eat and enjoy!



good answer good answer
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 42
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:19:40 PM
and i'm thinking about that gal who gives you a blow job and scrapes her teeth on him to the point of it being painful, or squeezes your balls like she's trying to crack walnuts... ummmm thanks but no thanks -i dont like it when woman do that to me
(meaning -i really love it when women do that to me -just not you -ouch!)

-its probibly the way your doing it to her, since guys dont have a practice pussy or any instructions, were expected to just jump in and fly without crashing. porn isn't helping -the guy is usually trying to ram his whole arm inside of her or doing that finger pounding thing like in the movie "kill bill" to break the coffin lid open. -maybe watch a little lesbian porn -that looks a bit more realistic since the girls are being gentle, careful and precise -(like a watchmaker tuning a rolex)
-when all else fails -ASK HER!
 Blondecharmthe3rd
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 43
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:52:46 PM
I can be more turned on by a guy's hands than any other part.... mainly because fingers give me great pleasure (and no, not a substitute for their johnsons)...
 caitlinlawless
Joined: 4/3/2009
Msg: 44
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 1:58:22 PM
sorry hun, i would'nt know. i love it...not going down orally is different..i gotta be real comfy with a guy for that to happen...like a few months of dating comfy.

happy posting:):)
 caitlinlawless
Joined: 4/3/2009
Msg: 45
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 4/15/2009 2:02:49 PM

women don't know jack from a pot hole. if you want to use your fugging fingers go for it. if she objects, tell her the joke about what the five fingers said to the face....SLAP! keep control don't be a douch.


you apparently have no idea what your talking about.
im surprised you have ever gotten a woman within 5 feet of you, because that comment oozed stupidity.
 michaeld70
Joined: 5/6/2009
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Posted: 5/18/2009 6:04:05 PM
I can say that I've never experienced a woman not liking a finger, and I think that this was the first time that I have even heard about it.
 easyrider2
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Posted: 5/31/2009 11:03:58 PM
The only time I back away is when the hand is too heavy. Most guys seem to think a woman's **** needs the same jack-hammer approach they use to get themselves off. Slow and easy just does not seem to be a concept men can understand. When he does get it, then I can cum with one flick of his finger. Try backing off, touching ever so lightly, making sure she is wet. It that doesn't work, tease her by touching everything except her clit. Stroke her inner thigh, right up to her lips, but not inside her until she begs you to go there. Even then, watch her reaction, if she pulls back, chances are it is too much pressure or faster than she wants. If all else fails, ask her. I know, it's kinda like that direction issuse, but it often works to simply find out what turns her on.
 3Therm0pylae0
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 48
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Posted: 5/31/2009 11:53:48 PM
I have NEVER met this problem... sorry bro.
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
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Posted: 6/1/2009 2:09:38 AM
ah, playing the old germ card. "they're everywhere! they're everywhere".
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