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 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 101
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WTF - not wanting the five finger foreplay?!?!?!
Ok well if he was replacing it with tounge then fine, but otherwise bring it on!!!
 Bellatrix
Joined: 8/4/2006
Msg: 102
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 8:00:16 AM
I'm not a fan of it but that's cause the majority of men I have been with didn't know what they were doing and hurt me. They assume that cause their fingers are smaller then their**** they can shove 3(or more) of them in there...most often dry. Or finger bang you like a jackhammer and end up ramming your cervix 99% of the time(can you say OUCH!). Or try to manipulate your g-spot so hard that you are pretty sure it's going to come out of your mouth. Or rub your clit so hard and vigorously that you can't feel it for a week afterwards. A lot of guys treat their**** pretty roughly so the concept of a light touch=pleasure is lost on them. Sadly a lot of women don't voice their displeasure in what they are doing so they have no idea they are doing anything wrong, and, when someone does say something the man is dumbfounded cause "Well none of my other girlfriends have complained?". Men my advice is start out slow and gentle and if the woman wants it harder/faster she'll tell you and if she is to shy to at least you know you aren't hurting her. I would rather get no pleasure out of it then pain...But then again I have no problems asking for what I want, or don't want in this case!
 addictable
Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 103
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 9:05:47 AM
ya, have you seen some guys fingers!! some peoples jobs ie)mechanics etc give them perma-dirty hands....not particularily something i'd want in me, but thanks for coming out
 justneedsomefun
Joined: 3/2/2006
Msg: 104
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 10:24:05 AM
The only time I like it when a finger or 2 is used is when the guy is using his tongue at the same time
 surgeon_of_perversion
Joined: 6/7/2006
Msg: 105
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 10:32:21 AM
Were your nails cut properly? Maybe you were scratchin the snatch.
 fivecats8
Joined: 4/15/2006
Msg: 106
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 10:33:42 AM
Hmmm thats weird are you way more forceful with your fingers???
Tell they it is just like KFC finger licking good
 knytesprite
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 107
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 11:11:25 AM
personally I like a little fingering..lol BUT I have indeed pulled a few guys away from me...whatever they were doing hurt me...and I've had a couple whose nails were definately too long...
Some women are truely more sensitive there than others...
Some women are indeed worried about getting infections..and no it doesnt matter how clean your particular hands and fingers are..lol they will still worry!
some women just arent comfortable with the fingering thing...just as some women dont like a man going down on them...its all a matter of preference!
 getinmyarms
Joined: 3/12/2006
Msg: 108
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 1:57:47 PM
You asked for enlightenment, from the ladies, but, as a man, may I offer this?
Women are totally willing to teach their lover, though the man has to listen. Listening takes with your eyes, ears, and body.
Listen to her breathing, does she say "o yes" or squirm pleasurably? or dies she pull away to ease the pressure, or pull your hand (or mouth) away from her?
Is she smiling or expressing joy, enjoyment?
does she hold you more tightly, or pull your mouth into her in enjoyment?

Start out so softly , listen to her, she will inform you one way or the other. so softly that even you might not know if she even feels your touch, but, soft is more intense.
the second you get a positive physical response, don’t change what you are doing (me, I get all excited and forget and go back three steps and come forward again, till she is pleased. Its about her pleasure, not mine (at that point) so, remember, a woman’s body is like a musical instrument, to be studied, and practiced with attention to the art of her orgasm, which, my friend, is her gift to you.
 angelleys
Joined: 6/7/2006
Msg: 109
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 3:37:13 PM
Fingers work oh so much magic..I'd never stop a guy from using his fingers that would be like stopping an impending orgasm...and that is just wrong.

if the chick has issues with cleanliness....lead em to the bathroom and wash his hands for him...sheesh
 LaReina63
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 110
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 3:40:43 PM
Silly heiffas! Don't know a good thing when it's right there in front of em! Hell... as long as it ain't a hook.. bring em on!!!!
 hombre mercialigo
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 111
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 3:55:59 PM
learn how to curl the finger and make 'em squirt!
you wont be able to get ride of 'em! go slow to start and maybe get it alittle wet first.
cut the nails! ye'hawwww
 Red~Fire
Joined: 7/27/2006
Msg: 112
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 4:40:27 PM
Some women back away because they haven't done it to themselves to know where and where it does not feel good. You have to know your own body in order to communicate to your partner what works and gets you off.

Some guys are also very aggressive and think that they are digging for frikkin gold or something too... TAKE IT EASY! Haha.
~RED~
 Crashmaster
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 113
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/16/2006 5:39:41 PM
On the subject of 'perma-dirty' hands;

If it's not coming off from being scrubbed with 'Nitro-Gold' hand cleaner it ain't coming off inside you. He|_|_ two hours in the pool don't have any effect.
 Lil Red Riding Hood
Joined: 4/21/2006
Msg: 114
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 7:12:41 PM
Simple:

Most men don't know how to use them

Most guys just dig for gold or ram em home.....wrong wrong wrong.
Finger banging is fine once your sufficiently aroused. Use them more for clitoral stimulation first, work your way up.

My preference anyway.
 FitnessBunny
Joined: 6/27/2006
Msg: 115
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 7:16:42 PM
Yeah some of you men are clueless as to what to do up there with your fingers.
Some of you need to keep your nails trimmed better. Nice clean hands are a must.
Start out gentle and read her body for signs!!
 brokenpiano
Joined: 8/11/2006
Msg: 116
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/26/2006 7:36:53 PM
Well, unless you try to put in the whole four fingers and thumb...I dunno. Perhaps just one. One's good, very good...but two, three??? That's just too much, at least for me. But I can't speak for every girl, of course. Maybe she just want's intercourse? Maybe it's just not her thing. Maybe if you are doing it while giving her oral sex, it's just distracting her. I dunno.
 scorpiojenjen
Joined: 12/16/2005
Msg: 117
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 1:34:47 AM
Some men don't know what they are doing with their fingers and hurt us. <----quote



I so agree, also long nails YUK, smoker fingers YUK, Rough hands
(not talking construstion rough) but careless.....lol makes me cringle sometimes & i usually say "BE CAREFUL" first lololol
 Wild Heart
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 118
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 4:02:05 AM
This may have stemmed from the conversation that men don't go down enough on their women so they avoid using their hands? Then again, some people find going down more intimate than manual. There is also the misconception that oral sex is safe sex, so again people will tend to go for it since they have to use a condom? When a man is going down on a woman, he cannot really watch a woman, when fingering, one can watch and have your faces quite close which can be intimate also - some women cannot let go when someone is watching them so closely? Just some ideas, not sure if they hold water!

Personally, I think a varied menu is the way to go.

And using fingers does not mean sticking ones fingers in and out - it means g-spot and clitoral stimulation.
 weena
Joined: 7/21/2006
Msg: 119
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 4:53:57 AM
that's an easy one - men are usually too rough and don't know how to use them in the first place.
last guy I was with - in an effort to hit my g-spot was scraping his finger inside of me and being rough with my clit. Not a pleasant sensation.
 discussion
Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 120
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 5:56:57 AM
"1 in the stink, 2 in the pink...they love it!!!!!"

Do they love you calling it that too?
 take Time To Know Her
Joined: 7/21/2006
Msg: 121
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:32:06 AM
First of all ....fingers are just the begining, then him going down and then fingers again and then maybe my fingers and then maybe just maybe I will be ready for him to enter.
But no fingers?...and then not wanting him to go down?...all I can say is WOW..that sure is not me...lol
 ck4u
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 122
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:58:18 AM
"When the going gets hot and heavy, why is it that some women back away from a guy doing some finger-foreplay on her? Sometimes, it seems like they just aren't o.k. with anything going in there except for 'Big Jim and the Twins'...for lack of a better name"

The first thing that popped into my head after reading that was..."NO WAY!"...cz' I for one relish the thought of a a guy's hand going down for a "strumming session" with my ---- as a preliminary start. Then Big Jim n' the twins would have to follow, only becoz i luv it...I do, i do!!

So I guess the reason would probably be being your so manly...your probably playing too enthusisatically (too hard) down in the nether regions and not even know it...it's pretty sensitive our clits u know... and if your a regular guitar player as u say u are, I wouldn't be surprised if your fingertips r kinda callused/rough from all the strumming...
 sweetcurves
Joined: 8/6/2006
Msg: 123
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 8/28/2006 7:10:21 AM
fingerplay is great if he knows what he's doing

gentle gentle gentle

and if i say ow, i mean OW and please back off!!!

i don't know about other women, but my clit is ultra sensitive, and she likes very very gentle play--u want me to cum, go easy on me
 Upearly
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 124
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 9/2/2006 12:15:06 PM
I see most all the answers are female -So heres a tip for the boys . Finger play is extremely stimulating to most all ladies if done at the right time the proper way. It will inspire your lady in the utmost sensual ways . One must be very gentle ,lightly tactile and sensitive to her body responces .There are a multitude of variations which include , shared handson ,eye contact ,kissing , and body caresses . Simply put , its a touch -look -listen - learn .
 Ahhh!
Joined: 3/11/2006
Msg: 125
Why do some women back away from fingers?
Posted: 9/5/2006 3:24:25 PM

Some men have perfected the art of oral sex but have yet to master the use of their fingers down there.


yeah, love lying there wondering "WTF is he doing down there?!?!"...
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