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 justlookingvt
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 51
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I wonder how much response a woman would get if she listed hunting, fishing and anything outdoors as her interests and posted a pic of herself in a dirty t-shirt holding a beer with unwashed laundry on the floor behind her?





Depends entirely on how attractive she is.




Not at all... her looks have nothing to do with it... I look at the brand of beer. :-)


I completely agree with Igor that there is no competition except for those for whom looks are the only thing that counts. For anyone that pays at least some attention to an individual's personality, it's a combination of a lot of things but, mostly personality. The looks just have to generate some attraction (and even then, that's not a must - I have been attracted to women whose looks initially didn't do anything for me until I got to know them - those are the matches.)

I can't help but comment on Jamie95622 msg 49. That is an excellent post, hit the nail right on the head. I have noticed that countless of times, it's a cookie cutter profile with, as he said, small variations. There is none of the individual's _personality_ in it. A profile like that is unappealing and the looks, no matter how great, won't compensate for that (at least not for more than a "short time" ;-)

I'll use as an example the profile of another poster in this thread as contrast, SmartBlonde has a profile that includes a good dose of personality. That's her real competitive edge. I know, she is a good looking girl but, it's her profile that really catches a guy's attention. It is also her profile that provides something for a guy to send her a good message. A good profile/personality along with mirror-safe looks, that's all a girl needs.
 STEVE4U22
Joined: 11/23/2011
Msg: 52
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Posted: 5/13/2012 10:27:02 AM
I tried it once a while ago & only did a search in my area. From what i saw i matched up with all the other average guys. Except when it came to height which was below average.
 jonabella
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 53
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Posted: 5/13/2012 1:03:38 PM
i live in the land of paradise ~it's all in perspective
& so yes Wow gymnastics educated financially secure, and modest, ..and not so modest youthful and beautiful fun and so many ppl just lovely women..men should b so lucky..
omg I try not to compare myself to other ppl but I do it all the time
we all want something different
makes life that much more interesting
and yes pretty competition
and we are all in the same plc
more power to love~
 stellavixen
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 54
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Posted: 5/13/2012 8:23:48 PM
No...
I believe I am just as unique as everyone else.
 luvyduvy49
Joined: 4/25/2012
Msg: 55
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Posted: 5/15/2012 8:52:07 PM
bettymcfattypants i luv you lol made me bust up
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 3/19/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 5/16/2012 10:51:34 AM
NO. I have not looked at women's profiles until being in forums and wanting to answer a question so getting a sense of who they are; and THEN I got curious; not because of them being competition since I don't date people in forums (I am geographically close to me only for a filter) but because I was genuinely curious who they said they were. I found the writing fascinating funny and interesting in many cases.

But I am not competing with anyone in forums; I genuinely like people and find everyone interesting; and in my own area; I guess I have never hurt for interaction and so I don't really think about who else is out there; I don't care who else I guess is out there so much as I want to know who fits with me. If people fit with someone else better, more power to them. I want everyone to have a happy ending; i'm not worried about mine so much.

So I have only looked in forums because people watching in here is so fascinating; and comparing who they are on their profile to what they write is incredibly interesting to me. So yes on this side I have done it for curiosity's sake.

But no I have never done it on the dating side. But if someone else has; more power to them... :)
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 5/16/2012 3:11:59 PM
Well, I sure don't want to show up in the Viewed Me lists of any Dudes. I am what I am and if any ladies respond favorably to me then I've made the semi-finals.
 FUNNYGIRLoo
Joined: 2/14/2012
Msg: 58
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Posted: 5/16/2012 3:52:04 PM
No not to size up the competition I am unique but I may look them up in the forums to get a feel of who they are as person.
 Plenty_of_FreeTime
Joined: 10/26/2011
Msg: 59
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Posted: 5/16/2012 4:39:51 PM
[Well, I sure don't want to show up in the Viewed Me lists of any Dudes.]
You can set your edit profile on "view stealth" mode,so you don't show up on anyone's View Me list.

In a small area where I live,it's kind of cool to ch.out the so-called 'competition'.
Some of the guys on here I know and play golf with,it's funny to read some of their profiles and go WTF!
Makes for good conversation on 19th. hole,like "hey have you ever gone out with so 'n so"?
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 5/17/2012 10:08:40 AM

itechman63
Well, I sure don't want to show up in the Viewed Me lists of any Dudes.


You won't. Men looking at men do not show up in the Viewed Me list.
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
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Posted: 5/17/2012 10:26:39 AM

You won't. Men looking at men do not show up in the Viewed Me list.


I did not know that. Still I won't view profiles to size up the competition out of principle. lol
 Babe1953
Joined: 10/2/2010
Msg: 62
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Posted: 5/17/2012 2:28:11 PM
of course, I do. I'm curious and wonder what the men in my age group are getting to see. I also wonder if the women are posting professionally taken photographs or web cam shots.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 63
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Posted: 5/17/2012 2:41:44 PM

Jamie95622: as someone else said,,,most guys are just walking boners anyways so what is going to be learned by reading there grunting filled profiles?......you forget...i am not going to fall for there transparent bullshit so it is of no value to me,,i am just going to assume they wrote a bunch of stuff THEY THINK YOU WANT TO HEAR.....and none of it will be genuine..



Whew...Glad Pam said something, I thought I was the only one going blink, blink, wow over that one...lol!
 Bikada
Joined: 5/2/2012
Msg: 64
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Posted: 5/18/2012 6:23:30 PM
Sure I have. I'm curious so I've also looked at the gay profiles too. I message men in different age groups too because I'm just here for the experience. That's why I'm on this forum to see what's going on. I've had nice looking young men contact me & what's wrong with that? How many 54 year old men would jump at the chance to have a 30 y/o FWB? I haven't taken anyone up on it yet but it's nice to have the option. I'm not anymore attracted to men my age than they are to me and I find them harder to please.
 Blue-Eyes-Shine
Joined: 11/26/2008
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Posted: 5/19/2012 12:15:19 AM
In the forums I am always looking at men and women's profiles, I enjoy the irony of what they say in their profiles and how they respond in the forums. ;-)

I have looked at women's profiles in my area, one I recognized and thought "hey, I should contact her and see if she wants to join me on a hike." I don't really think of it as competition, of course in my area there wasn't much to compete for. :(
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 66
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Posted: 5/19/2012 7:44:17 AM
Sure, I have searched male profiles on other dating sites when I was actively dating. I am always curious, so I went a step futher by contacting women that I wasn't going to date to chat about the quality of men they were metting. I chatted on email with a few men about what type of women they were meeting.

Most men are generally uncomfortable about talking to other men about other women. If I talk my experiences with women to other men, they often want to close communcations. Women are easier to talk to about their experiences with men. My guess is I would have to spend a lot more time to draw out what men thought.

Maybe 10 years ago I created a female profile on yahoo, I flirted with some men. Some guys would get obsessed with the profile and follow me around on sites. I quit when too many were asking for my address and phone number. Since 10 years ago, I don't bother with that because I know what responses I will get from the horny @sshats, and I don't what to jerk around some nice guys. And really, it takes too much time and I have to think a different way.

Now I just check on profiles on the forum, chat with a few people, maybe contact a few interesting people, but not much more. Even it I were dating I wouldn't feel the need to understand more than I already know about.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 5/19/2012 11:38:23 AM
Not until, I ran into this thread.....I guess I need a Harley, a sail boat and show everybody my little titties.
 Dmaj7
Joined: 5/13/2012
Msg: 68
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Posted: 5/19/2012 3:39:01 PM
Yes, it is very interesting. I would think everyone would do this. Sit down with a guy pal when you do it. Even more interesting. I've done that with a couple of gal pals. I'm often surprised at what they think works and doesn't work.
 fillyphilly
Joined: 5/12/2012
Msg: 69
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Posted: 5/19/2012 3:43:08 PM
Wow, a lot of men on here who have created female profiles. No wonder so many men on this site are so untrusting. Eww..just weird.
 LG2727
Joined: 1/20/2010
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Posted: 5/20/2012 8:12:08 PM
Of course! Its no different then walking into a room full of other single women and seeing what might be your competition! lol! It's just the way we women are natured since it is ingrained in us from birth that we should look pretty in order to get a mans interest. And I cant say I'm not appalled at some of these women! eeek! the shameless half nude pics and profiles that sound like something out of an escort advertisement! Makes me wonder just what kind of men are answering those profiles?
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 71
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Posted: 5/21/2012 8:50:13 PM
pami wrote:

One of my favorite emails was from a man who said to me "Why do all the good ones live so far away." We bantered back and forth for quite awhile very easily even though we both knew there was no chance of a relationship. Perhaps it was so easy BECAUSE there was no chance of a relationship!

Happened to me once before also. With a forumite. Thought I was 'safe' at 3,000 miles. Nope. We ended up meeting face-to-face about 5 days after that first email. Lasted a couple years. He gave good email ;-)

chance wrote:
I've heard the words NO chance spoken before only to find out they were wrong. I'll go along with little chance though

ha ha *insert non-existent knee-slapping emoticon here
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 5/23/2012 6:10:11 PM
Posted By: Bikada

I'm not anymore attracted to men my age than they are to me and I find them harder to please.


Interesting comment. I wonder how wide spread your perceived philosophy really is on both sides of the gender divide. Probably more than we can admit.

We all look younger than we are, Right?????

Where did the smilie faces go?
 lookingforsophia
Joined: 3/3/2009
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Posted: 5/24/2012 1:41:13 PM
Well, I like to think I'm wiser than my years but act younger.
Herding up all those Emoticons was'nt easy; ☺☺☺

 Acehonestlady
Joined: 4/16/2012
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Posted: 5/24/2012 5:11:39 PM
I did that on another site and only really saw one or two profiles that I found interesting. I certainly stopped worrying that I had nothing to attract a man with by what I had written in mine as i realised mine was quite good, if long. But a male friend sometimes emails me cut and pastes of women's profiles he comes across that are interesting.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 75
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Posted: 5/25/2012 6:15:27 PM
nope.

Cus I AM the competition.
:-P
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