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 JSNC7
Joined: 10/31/2010
Msg: 135
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" I know. But hell, I can't stand people judging."

With some people, that's ALL they know. You, nor I can fix anyone : ) Of course there are a lot of stupid people out there. Some of these bigots happen to be so called educated.

Wasn't it Jeff Foxworthy who said, " you can't fix stupid " ? LOL And we shouldn't even try.
 JSNC7
Joined: 10/31/2010
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Posted: 4/26/2012 7:01:37 AM
"A decent person wouldnt even be on this thread; he wouldnt argue about other's moral fiber at all."

That sounds like a Marxist statement!

" I DON'T WANT TO BELONG TO ANY CLUB THAT WILL ACCEPT ME AS A MEMBER. " Groucho Marx
 ANTHETITIC
Joined: 3/1/2012
Msg: 142
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Posted: 4/26/2012 9:21:56 AM
THERE ARE DECENT MEN OUT HERE. I HAVE CLOSE FRIENDS THAT ARE REALLY GOOD GUYS, THE TYPE THAT I WOULD INTRODUCE TO MY SISTERS, BUT I DO KNOW ALOT OF WOMEN HAVE SOME MANY CHECKLISTS AS WELL AS WANTING TO LIVE A FAIRYTALE AND LIFE ISN'T A FAIRY TALE BOOK. I HAVE BEEN ON THE DATING SCENE FOR YEARS AND KNOW HOW DESPARATE ALOT OF GUYS COME ACROSS AND WOMEN I HAVE DATED AS WELL AS FEMALE FRIENDS TELL ME ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME, BUT IF YOU ARE AT A BAR YOU GOTTA KNOW WHAT TYPE OF DUDES YOU WILL ENCOUNTER, HELL AFTER I HAVE BEEN DRINKING I STARTING LOOKING FRISKY. YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF SOMETHINGS:
1. IS IT ME & THE TYPE OF GUY THAT I LIKE OR CHOSE?
2. AM I APPROACHABLE?
3. ASK SOME MALES THAT KNOW YOU WELL ABOUT WHAT KIND OF VIBE OR AURA DO I GIVE OFF?
4. HOW DO I PERCIEVE MALES?
5. CONTRARY TO POPULAR BELIEF, YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE!
 JSNC7
Joined: 10/31/2010
Msg: 143
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Posted: 4/26/2012 10:01:48 AM
" CONTRARY TO POPULAR BELIEF, YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE!"

I can't tell you how many women are out there, who think that they can attract someone, based on what they THINK they are worth. To many of them, that's what they THINK that they ARE. Since I don''t date men, I'll leave that discussion to someone who does.

They may have a good paying job, dress well, have good looks, and live in a nice looking, and well decorated, recently purchased house.

They ALSO might have revolving issues with their Ex, Teenagers who are out of control, a Princess Complex, etc. TO ME, discovering issues such as these, makes that kind of woman's value as a potential dating partner FOR ME, go waaaay, waaaaaay down.

Remember that when you own a house for only a few years, you have virtually no equity in it. In other words.. it's nowhere near being completely your's. A pink slip from work, or one of life's disasters can take it all away, and suddenly.
 rece1211
Joined: 4/19/2012
Msg: 147
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Posted: 4/26/2012 8:20:34 PM
I think that all men are decent in there own ways an it really goes on what ur lookin for an what type of person u are. I mean theres always 2 sides to a book an when u go through the same thing over an over again then u get use to it. But at the end of the day if its like this with every man then ur doing something wrong not them an if not then ur lookin wrong. I am a firm believer in u get what u give. OLD BUT TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 152
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Posted: 4/28/2012 2:52:28 PM

they want sex/dirty chat without a thought to my feelings

^^^^^^^^^^
Some people find it perfectly acceptable to talk graphically in mixed company..Men and women.

Most things do boil down to how your parents/family/friends behaved or talked when your personality was being formed.

It means you are NOT a match.

I still can't get over some slang terms for body parts people use since we always used proper terminology in our home..Unless you are joking around trying to be funny and still watch what terms and who it's around..

My jaw still drops at questions people think are appropriate to ask that you don't know very well.

It's not you. We all run into people like that from time to time.
 tuyk
Joined: 2/13/2005
Msg: 155
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Posted: 4/29/2012 12:26:18 AM
i will agreee,,,,,
 tuyk
Joined: 2/13/2005
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Posted: 4/29/2012 12:28:23 AM
true i will agree
 Peppermint_Petunias
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 157
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Posted: 4/29/2012 4:14:06 AM

I think she means they talk dirty as a prelude to getting her in bed, or they just come on very strong...

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Oh I got it and I meant both.
Such as Do you like ******** done to you?
Do you wax or shave"
With my last Gf I did ****** to her and she loved it, would you?

I call that graphic and inappropriate.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 158
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Posted: 4/29/2012 6:48:21 AM
I found your problem. Your talking to drunk guys in bars who want to get laid, and horny guys online who can't get laid... Try talking to guys in line at the store, or any other casual public place. There's decent guys all over, we just don't go to a bar to pick up girls
 romieyo
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 163
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Posted: 5/1/2012 4:06:15 AM
I agree with many of the post. In many cases, that decent person has been there all along. Whether woman or man. That person that cared most about your happiness, well being, health, etc.. The person that went the extra step to put a smile on your face, to please you, etc.. Most of the time, we have looked past them. And we dont realize until it is late. Maybe they moved on, maybe they are with someone else and now you see how great he/she is with that person, maybe you done been through all the trash and now you see that he/she was who you should have been with, maybe you are just plain used up and no one else wants you and you think about the ones who you pushed to the side. I am not directing this to anyone per say. Just speaking on what I have personally encountered, seen, or know.

Also some people are told too much. Based on the info given, they try to become what you like. They like this, they do that, they go here, etc.. For example if you say you like a guy who is comfortable in himself enough to cry while watching a chick flick, volunteers at animal shelters, take long romantic walks, you will get a whole bunch of guys saying that they are that person. Just like how some women want a tough guy, bad guy, etc.. News flash.......many of these guys aren't tough. They are just portraying an image. And it is only time before many women find out how tough or bad these guys really AREN'T.

Maybe you should get to know more about the men whom approach you, without giving up too much. In doing so, you may see more of him, rather then what he thinks you want him to be. Maybe you two do share a lot of the same interest. There are ways to tell if a person is genuine or not.
 Anna42
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 165
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Posted: 5/4/2012 12:43:44 AM
This is just my opinion on this topic. If you want to find a "decent man", then be someone your type of "decent man" will be attracted to. For example is your ideal "decent man" interested in someone who want to be "friends"[with benefits] (since you're in a dating site)... or to someone who is does not want to be commitment?
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 166
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Posted: 5/10/2012 6:32:50 PM
{quote]Men are dogs that is for sure

I know some dogs that would take offense to that statement.
 alondrajh
Joined: 9/19/2011
Msg: 171
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Posted: 6/1/2012 6:11:25 AM
OUCH!! why are you complaining? I appreciate The effort Men make to touch bases with me here. I realize we are not perfect, and all want to have a honey.I don't like being alone. I did give myself time to consider the personalities out there. Some are anxious to get back in the saddle! I say slow, and easy! There is plenty of fish, right. I want mine to be,The Catch Of The Day" and I have no problem throwing the little ones back in the pool! I won't go to a Bar,exct. I feel stupid even looking at a Man at Church. I don't put out my sexy side for all to see.Not to say it doesn't exist! I am private and respect myself. I have high morals, and expect someday on this site,I will be approached by "That Man", the one who doesnt't have to read between my thighs, oh, I mean lines! Lol I know you are there ,so don't stop fishing here! O>K>??? xo
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