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 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 101
Homophobia -- the DealbreakerPage 5 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
@bluemoon #110
Is there a gay gene?I know they keep looking for one.People choose to be gay because it suits them,maybe a role model they look up to.Jian Ghomeshi once referred to gay dating as progressive dating.Maybe to get a job at the CBC.:)Yes most gays are in easy jobs like gov except for cops in places like NYC which has about 20,000.I know of one gay person in construction,a girl.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 102
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 11:43:38 AM
Are you following me? C0ol, a fan.

Geez, if you only know one person in construction that is gay...I'm sure that she's the only one. And if all children grew up to be what they deemed a role model...all children would be policemen, firemen, cowboys or some cartoon figure...maybe Batman or Superman. I can just see it now, walking downtown Vancouver or Toronto or Calgary and every second adult male is Superman or Batman or Gretzky. I'm thinking that most kids are like I was where I thought my parents were the best things in the world - my role models. But that's just my opinion.

As to a gay gene. I don't know either. It's the old question of nature or nurture.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 103
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 12:09:24 PM
^^^^
I thought you were following me.In the Arab world Batman and Robin are considered totally gay.Superman was in the closet, I don't know.Gretzky NOT!Downtown Toronto or Vancouver every second male is gay.They don't want other gays.....they want straight men.Real men.:)
 _babblefish
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 104
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 12:17:36 PM

Very few gay cowboys,that was just a fantasy of the gay producer to make Bareback Mountain:)

BC bud from those giant ops isn't that good,we have better here,but I don't smoke very often.....maybe if a pretty girl asks me.:)


lol, you're ghey and i see you have a penchant ^ for gay porn, good on you coming out of the closet
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 105
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 3:07:12 PM

Is there a gay gene?I know they keep looking for one.People choose to be gay because it suits them,maybe a role model they look up to


Is there a "straight gene"??????

How about a "tupid gene"?????

How about an "ignorant and arrogant gene"?????

And to think a young man died last week standing in belief of our country, it's ways and it's "people".
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 106
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 3:25:10 PM
@babblefish
I never saw the movie and I don't know anybody that did.I've been trying to explain to a few people that these macho types they believe are gay are just gay fantasies except for the cops in some cities.I don't believe Calgary has this culture but New York does.

@Walts
Is this an NDP thing?My logger buddy hates the NDP in BC.You're talkin' about the young man that died in the attack.Your leader Muclair won't even admit it was a terr attack.
 _babblefish
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 107
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 4:16:00 PM

I never saw the movie and I don't know anybody that did.I've been trying to explain to a few people that these macho types they believe are gay are just gay fantasies except for the cops in some cities.I don't believe Calgary has this culture but New York does.


i don't watch gay vanilla porn either, unless by that freudian slip you actually meant Brokeback Mountain, that
i have seen,

still think you're ghey tho'
 BeckyHT
Joined: 1/1/2013
Msg: 108
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Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 4:58:41 PM

Is there a gay gene?I know they keep looking for one.People choose to be gay because it suits them,maybe a role model they look up to.


Did you know there is homosexual behavior in many animals? I suppose this happens because it suits them?

Did you know 7 billion on this planet are not all physically perfect? I'd suggest you google 'sex chromosomal abnormalties'. There is the Turner syndrome. There is the Triple-X syndrome. There is the Klinefelter syndrome. There is the XYY syndrome. I don't think this happened because "it suits them".

I've had gay acquaintances/friends for 30 years. Women couples, and men couples, and singles. I know there are some gays in cities who are strange and like to flaunt it, but all of the homosexuals I've become friends with, are "normal" in how they've interacted with the world. I've not seen evidence it was caused by some role model they looked up to.

When my daughter got to college, she informed me she was gay. I had no idea until then. No role model was gay where she grew up. I've met many of her friends, all very educated, fun, intelligent people.

I think if one wants to keep their blinders on, they won't understand.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 109
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 5:19:43 PM

When my daughter got to college, she informed me she was gay. I had no idea until then. No role model was gay where she grew up. I've met many of her friends, all very educated, fun, intelligent people.


Becky,I lived in Montreal when I was young,burbs.Ya know what,in Montreal nobody ever was nasty to women that turned gay as we used to say.You know why?Because we knew at some point she would get a hankering for some beef again,and be back.....and maybe she would bring her friend!Yah,they give permission to one another. :)

@babblefish
Yes I know it's Brokeback,it's a joke.Bareback is the number one reason they catch something nasty...we won't mention it eh?
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 110
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 5:27:05 PM
It took me awhile Calguy but I figured it out. If I, or we, say blue...you will say red. You post to get a rise out of folks or to stir the pot, as they say. Well, I'm not going to play anymore. It's become boring. I suggest the rest of the folks in this thread, especially those that opened up about having a gay child, do the same.

OR, Walts is correct and there is a "stupid gene".
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 111
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 5:55:52 PM

It took me awhile Calguy but I figured it out. If I, or we, say blue...you will say red. You post to get a rise out of folks or to stir the pot, as they say. Well, I'm not going to play anymore. It's become boring. I suggest the rest of the folks in this thread, especially those that opened up about having a gay child, do the same.


Seems a few people are mentioning pot and kettle eh?

Ok,I have been thinking about Eternity.....and I feel she certainly wants her son to feel not pressured....I understand a fair number of people here have had some rough experiences with the opposite? sex,and we can certainly see this at times.I don't know what went on in her life,but from a guy's perspective....sometimes I just couldn't read her posts anymore because she came across as just spitting venom at any man that ever angled for some nooky.I am thinking that possibly her son is moving away from a "typical" male role because of the pain he has seen his mother go through.Not blaming her for this....Shiite happens.The young can be influenced,despite what some here will say.When we were young parents used to worry about us becoming hippies and never working....
 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 112
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 6:40:25 PM
mike11091 wrote:

So, anyone else think the obvious troll is obvious?


I bowed out a time ago, but:

It took me awhile Calguy but I figured it out. If I, or we, say blue...you will say red. You post to get a rise out of folks or to stir the pot, as they say. Well, I'm not going to play anymore. It's become boring. I suggest the rest of the folks in this thread, especially those that opened up about having a gay child, do the same.


Obvious troll IS obvious.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 113
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 11/3/2014 7:50:32 PM
Obvious troll IS obvious.


Metro...er Mike...I didn't notice you were from Kansas dude....lol.I've simply seen more from a younger age,five or six I was....my youngest uncle came up from Toronto to the cottage with his buddy.He sat in a lawn chair beside his friend,my other uncles alongside.And my granddad took a lawn chair and sat opposite them all.And stared hard,and it was quiet.I don't remember the exact words,but at one point my uncle's blond friend turned to him and said"your family"and left alone.And my uncle was broken up about this and my granddad continued to stare hard ...and questioned him about his relationship,and kind of an understanding between them became evident.

Another time maybe a year later my uncle was visiting and he and a few of my younger brothers and myself were wrestling around playing.And my father said something to the effect that it was not appropriate... he was really hurt,and left and never visited again.I've seen my youngest brother go from young man to lonely older man who no longer visits the clubs for at least ten years now.I don't see anything real and fulfilling about it,I suppose plenty of people here might feel the same about their lives...I don't agree with public school agendas introducing sex ed that might be slanted,private schools are popular here and the parents have more control.Who pays the bills?Some educators have fought against private schools...why?Go across the border to B.C and they are far more socialist leaning for some reason.
 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
Msg: 114
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Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 2:00:55 AM
The majority of people who are homophobic were approached (or worse) by pedophiles. They wrongly equate homosexuality with this perversion because of their scary encounter.

Once they realise that homosexuals are nothing like the perv that bothered them when they were vulnerable...they can come to acceptance that gay people are the same as them..just different.

Gay people should know this fear so they aren't so quick to judge the "homophobics" as bad. Most homophobics are fearfully confused/ignorant.

The rest are religious freak a zoids or in denial about being gay themselves.

Pedophiles give homosexuals a bad name.


 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 115
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 7:25:34 AM

The majority of people who are homophobic were approached (or worse) by pedophiles. They wrongly equate homosexuality with this perversion because of their scary encounter.

Once they realise that homosexuals are nothing like the perv that bothered them when they were vulnerable...they can come to acceptance that gay people are the same as them..just different.

Gay people should know this fear so they aren't so quick to judge the "homophobics" as bad. Most homophobics are fearfully confused/ignorant.

The rest are religious freak a zoids or in denial about being gay themselves.

Pedophiles give homosexuals a bad name.


This whole paragraph is wrong on so many levels.
What is pedophilia doing in the same conversation as homosexuality?
People are homophobic because they were approached by pedophiles?
Are you farking kidding me?

"I hate the word homophobia. You're not scared...you're an ***hole"
Not my quote...but true IMO.
 bluemoon24_7
Joined: 4/18/2014
Msg: 116
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 7:40:07 AM
I agree with you Browneyes...what a stupid post. What IS pedophilia or pedophiles even brought up in this conversation. Being gay does not make you a pedophile...being a fvcking rapist, child abuser, child molester makes you a pedophile.

And no, I wouldn't date a homophobe...they are in the same group as racists and bigots.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 117
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 8:03:26 AM
Certain behaviors are hardwired into us, no one chooses to be gay, LBT or Q.
I have a T friend who is very intelligent & writes a lot about being T & my s.o. has a T relative.

It's none of my business what another person's sexuality is.

I prob couldn't be a close friend of a homophobic person. I live in a town that has a large GLBTQ population. People need to get over it or mind their own dayum business.

And yes animals can be gay. My cats are neutered but one of my male cats humps (or tries to) another male cat regularly. Don't know if that is a sign of dominance or his sexuality.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 118
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 8:50:49 AM


Metro...er Mike...I didn't notice you were from Kansas dude....lol.I've simply seen more from a younger age,five or six I was....my youngest uncle came up from Toronto to the cottage with his buddy.He sat in a lawn chair beside his friend,my other uncles alongside.And my granddad took a lawn chair and sat opposite them all.And stared hard,and it was quiet.I don't remember the exact words,but at one point my uncle's blond friend turned to him and said"your family"and left alone.And my uncle was broken up about this and my granddad continued to stare hard ...and questioned him about his relationship,and kind of an understanding between them became evident.

Another time maybe a year later my uncle was visiting and he and a few of my younger brothers and myself were wrestling around playing.And my father said something to the effect that it was not appropriate... he was really hurt,and left and never visited again.I've seen my youngest brother go from young man to lonely older man who no longer visits the clubs for at least ten years now.I don't see anything real and fulfilling about it,I suppose plenty of people here might feel the same about their lives...I don't agree with public school agendas introducing sex ed that might be slanted,private schools are popular here and the parents have more control.Who pays the bills?Some educators have fought against private schools...why?Go across the border to B.C and they are far more socialist leaning for some reason.


That's a sad family that you are part of there.

I don't know anyone who choses whom they love. They just do. Doesn't matter the gender, or the if the person is a "bad boy" or "biatch". A person loves a person because they do. I am at a point in my life I don't question someone's love for another, no matter what I see. It's a sad state of affairs when people start slamming others because they love. A real sad state.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 119
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 8:53:38 AM
@browneyes
Thats right,when I was a kid almost all had been spooked by roving pedos.They were everywhere in society,not just priests.

Angel your poor tabby needs a puddy cat.

@Walts
I don't care who they LOVE.If they can find somebody genuine,great.This was the early sixties dude.My grandad worked as a prison guard.:)He was a hard man.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 120
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 9:06:00 AM

.This was the early sixties dude.


And this is 2014 and yet, the words you type tell us that the family "tradition" continues thru your own thoughts and beliefs,,,,,



dude.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 121
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 1:29:06 PM

Charmin if you polled most women about what constituted a real man do you really think they would mention gay?


They wouldn’t mention “heterosexual,” either. What does sexuality have to do with being kind, considerate, loving, strong, intelligent, etc. Seems you might be having difficulty understanding what being a “real man” means.


This was the early sixties dude.My grandad worked as a prison guard.:)


So his idea of homosexuality was violent prison rape. Too bad he couldn’t tell the difference between prison inmates and his son (?), who lost his family through hate. Very sad.

OT: Homophobia would be a dealbreaker for me. I don’t date bigots.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 122
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 3:00:41 PM
^^^
Of course they wouldn't mention heterosexual,that would be assumed.If you want a gay male friend feel free to seek one.Take the positive qualities you mentioned and combine it with a man that desires a woman and you won't be searching anymore.How did this convo get so silly?I don't know any women that give a ratz azz about gay men,they see them as competitors for their men, gay men will try to steal their man right in front of them.In case you didn't know,gay men don't think much of what's upstairs in a woman.Just thought I might let you in on something I've known for more than 30 years.

I think my grandad couldn't understand why a man would be interested in another.My paternal grandmother was an extremely fit and attractive woman.
 ozsealady1
Joined: 6/13/2013
Msg: 123
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 3:22:47 PM
My ex husband could not stand to be around gay men, (when he knew they were gay).
To the extent that after we went to a bbq and he discovered that the hosts, a study buddy of mine and his partner were gay.
My ex only realised during the tour of the 3 bedroom house.
'This is the study, this is the guest room and this is our room'

On the drive home he berated me.. now could I do that to him and I was never to do that again.
He was forced to shake the hand of and eat food prepared by..... (insert inappropriate word for gay men)

He had never had any bad experiences with gay men, or none that he had ever told me.


Yet was fascinated by lesbian women.
Absolutely fascinated.
Was super excited when two ladies, (friends of my family) came to stay at our house.
I could not convince him that they had no interest in him at all.

When I told the ladies they roared laughing.
Saying that it was a very common fantasy.
 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
Msg: 124
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Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 4:18:14 PM
browneyes: It is so right on so many levels because it is actually true, so no, I'm not kidding you.

Did you comprehend what I wrote?


"They WRONGLY equate."
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 125
Homophobia -- the Dealbreaker
Posted: 12/24/2014 5:30:01 PM
Show me where they interviewed all these homophobic people
and they all claimed to have been visited in some way by a pedophile.

Otherwise, I think you're pulling this stuff out of your ass.
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