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 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 26
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Everyone is not turned on by the same things. You may be in the minority, but it does not make you weird.
 smilingrock
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 27
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/28/2012 9:27:18 AM
Your not a man till you dine at the Y and fish out some used toilet paper. I remember this one girl that was fanatical about FDS spray others about douching. Its just best to relax and go with the flow. IF by chance you fish out some green beans and carrots while down there the guy before you threw up....
 Schr√∂dingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 28
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weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/28/2012 10:29:47 AM
Not sure what the big deal is. I've received oral aplenty and have never orgasmed from it. Do I turn it down? Hell, no. It still feels great but, after a while, we move on. For me, it's strictly foreplay and not an sex act in and of itself.

I'm alright with that.
 ArticLife
Joined: 2/25/2010
Msg: 29
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weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/28/2012 5:32:32 PM
Weird? Well, it's uncommon, but there are men who don't like giving it. I don't. I find it hard to find girls who don't want it.

You should not feel less about yourself just because you don't have the same sexual desires as everyone else.
 acsmith72
Joined: 12/3/2011
Msg: 30
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/28/2012 6:00:25 PM

I am however wary of men who place a lot on it saying they love to do it and prefer giving to receiving as I think this is a coded way to say they have ED without actually saying it.


That makes no sense. I would much rather go down on a girl than get a blowjob for the simple reason that I have a larger package than most guys, and it doesn't feel good with teeth scraping on it all the time. It's really hard for me to cum that way.

But, if anything, for guys with Ed that would be the holy grail considering by the time they returned the favor they'd be hard again and good to go for a while.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 31
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/28/2012 10:56:56 PM
Try it in different positions. Sit on his face 69 u on top. From the back doggie and have him.has him fingering u at the same time
 Tallyh0e
Joined: 2/8/2012
Msg: 32
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/29/2012 9:32:29 PM
I'm just not touching this one....
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 33
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/29/2012 10:44:25 PM
Oral sex isn't always easy for everyone. It's all about timing and technique. Some people think oral is just taking their mouths to the other persons genitals, and it is, but sometimes in certain situations with certain people, it's different and takes some know how.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 34
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/30/2012 7:41:05 AM

Now it is making sense to me as I reflect on what usually took place and I guess getting eaten is just not my thing.
Should I fake it to keep the guy happy or just lay there since he loves going down or should I just not do it at all?


Very good question.

Realize that we engage in sex for mainly two reasons. One is to please another person, the other is to please ourselves. I for instance, enjoy giving my partner pleasure and by her pleasure I derive mine. So while I have never achieved an orgasm through oral, my SO enjoys giving oral. So I enjoy it as part of the warm up, not the main event.

So my advice is, don't fake anything. But tell your guy that if he enjoys giving oral, no problem, but don't get stuck there because you do not reach orgasm through oral. Now, if you find it to be a complete turn off, then tell him as well, and skip this part all together.

What you may find eventually is that oral, as part of the foreplay part, may work wonderfully.
 cicicross1
Joined: 9/28/2011
Msg: 35
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/30/2012 10:15:14 AM
cautiousluv:

I don't see how ANY women could not like oral sex....it's one of my most favorite things in the world!!


Yeah, I am with you on this! I would say that 99% of my orgasms are from oral. Others are vibe stim and the very very rare orgasm with intercourse. It is why I pretty much ask the question about whether they do oral in the getting to know you phase, even if some consider it kinda slutty, lol. I once totally ditched a pretty boy on an almost bar pickup cause he said he didnt do oral...

Of course there are the men who brag about how good they are at it who wonder why you arent instantly cumming when they do their thing, lol. And then there have been several that are the absolute BOMB at it, although in totally different ways. Sometimes I wish I could put several of my exes techniques together into one to make the perfect **** eating machine!

As far as the OP, for me at first I had a lot of anxiety and had to really relax and realize that most men who are doing it are there because they like it, and that as long as you are clean and tidy it can decrease that anxiety and make it easier to let go.
 prairiecutie19
Joined: 3/28/2012
Msg: 36
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/3/2012 5:44:01 PM
Nope, im the same way. I get bored. Ive had a few guys bite me, I dont understand why guys assume its bubble gum?
 sexiimaiden
Joined: 3/8/2012
Msg: 37
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/3/2012 10:45:27 PM
i`ve never enjoyed it and i never will . i`ve had guys say "that`s just because you haven`t gotten one from me!" and they`re all proud of their skills, and guess what ? wasn`t good from them either . i don`t ask for it and i don`t want them to do it , i only let them do it if they keep pushing the issue , but then i have to fake so they`ll feel good about themselves .. just a waste of everyone`s time ..
 Brian_Thunder80
Joined: 3/20/2012
Msg: 38
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/3/2012 10:47:53 PM
I've had a few long-relationships, and each has not performed oral on me. However, with giving oral all the time, and having each new woman try to give me pleasure orally, I don't enjoy it. It's the mentality from the past. Any suggestions to get the thoughts of the past out of my mind?
 marie2107
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 39
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/4/2012 3:42:27 AM
[I've had a few long-relationships, and each has not performed oral on me. However, with giving oral all the time, and having each new woman try to give me pleasure orally, I don't enjoy it. It's the mentality from the past. Any suggestions to get the thoughts of the past out of my mind?]

Your post is confusing to me, but I will try to answer the question that you are asking. Have a positive attitude, believe that even if you do not reach an orgasm, you are capable of pleasure and enjoying the sensations while it is occuring. You are certainly permitted to have your eyes closed, so hopefully you can place yourself safely in a fantasy that prevents you from thinking about anything from the past.

I had a surprising experience once. I was performing oral with the man lying on his back. My partner grabbed my forearms tight but not painfully and pulled at me to guide my mouth to his lips and then placed me on top of him asking me to have intercourse. It was very hot and it can be a nice way out, if you get uncomfortable and want to stop. :)

If it is improtant enough to you, seek help with a sex therapist or a hypnotist; they should be able to work with you on visualization, desensitization and any past trauma that caused problems from the past.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 40
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/21/2012 9:09:57 AM

I once totally ditched a pretty boy on an almost bar pickup cause he said he didnt do oral...


Pretty Boy "Hiya sweetie can I buy you a drink?

Cross "sure"
(Pretty boy comes back with drink)

Pretty Boy "Wanna Dance"

Cross "wanna eat me out"

Pretty Boy "I dont do that kinda thing"

"Doh" Have another drink dumbazz. Good thing I wasn't there to overhear the conversation. I would have been rolling my tongue back in my mouth after picking it up off the floor...... :)
 cicicross1
Joined: 9/28/2011
Msg: 41
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/21/2012 9:58:34 AM
helloitsmeyourlookingfor says:

Pretty Boy "Hiya sweetie can I buy you a drink?

Cross "sure"
(Pretty boy comes back with drink)

Pretty Boy "Wanna Dance"

Cross "wanna eat me out"

Pretty Boy "I dont do that kinda thing"

"Doh" Have another drink dumbazz. Good thing I wasn't there to overhear the conversation. I would have been rolling my tongue back in my mouth after picking it up off the floor...... :)


Umm, yeah, not even close to how it went down but hilarious LMAO. It was more like a couple hours later at dennys while chatting about stuff in a group and they subject came up. Buh bye!
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 42
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/21/2012 10:46:40 AM
Couldn't resist :)~~
 thepigofyourdreams
Joined: 2/23/2012
Msg: 43
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 5/21/2012 10:57:28 AM

I once totally ditched a pretty boy on an almost bar pickup cause he said he didnt do oral...


What a dumbf*ck he was. I would have been all over that like Rosie O'Donnell on a Twinkie.
 scorpioinOregon
Joined: 7/20/2014
Msg: 44
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 8/7/2015 9:16:50 PM
Why do men just assume that we love it. I finally figured it out. It's like when someone tickles my back with their fingernails. At first, it feels really good having the fingernails go lightly across my skin. After awhile, it feels like they are rubbing the same spot over and over and becomes annoying. I want to slap their hand away.

Same with oral. At first it feels kind of nice. Soon,it's very annoying and I want to slap him and drag him off, if he insists that "everybody else just loves it"
 MaleFeasance
Joined: 3/13/2015
Msg: 45
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 8/7/2015 11:01:04 PM
Why do men just assume that we love it.
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Why do women think men are mind readers?
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
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weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 8/8/2015 6:57:30 AM
Some do, some don't. It isn't rocket science, but it helps to be a willing explorer. I guess, some men won't go beyond what they know. I took the approach of, If I wasn't deaf from the screaming, and not bleeding too badly, (But still felt beat up after), I'd found the good spots. Now, I'm good with women who don't like to give oral, because it does nothing for me. I always followed this philosophy-

Getting there is half the fun.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 47
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 8/8/2015 11:27:28 AM

Why do men just assume that we love it.


Porn.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 48
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weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 8/9/2015 5:44:25 AM
I don't like giving it or receiving it, at least as far as I have experienced it in the past.

We are all different and if you are not into it, don't feel obliged to perform it on a guy just to keep him around or to please him. You will feel resentful and that is not good for a relationship. Giving blow jobs used to be the province of prostitutes who were paid for doing it. Now women feel pressured to perform it as part of the routine.
 11qq
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 49
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 8/9/2015 8:00:36 PM
are you three ladies above saying your clits are numb and unfeeling when a guy pulls the hood back and runs his tongue across the magic button?
 07songsungblue
Joined: 7/10/2015
Msg: 50
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 8/9/2015 10:01:49 PM

I don't like giving it or receiving it, at least as far as I have experienced it in the past.

We are all different and if you are not into it, don't feel obliged to perform it on a guy just to keep him around or to please him. You will feel resentful and that is not good for a relationship. Giving blow jobs used to be the province of prostitutes who were paid for doing it. Now women feel pressured to perform it as part of the routine.[/quote ]

We like what we like. And no new should be pressured...try something a couple times before the NO comes out.

As for the comments giving blow jobs were left to prostitutes. This carried on with some age groups like my motherinlaw who stayed this and she's 87. So that kin of dates you now Letitia. My age group, it became a normal part of our sexual practise. Now the high school kids are giving blows jobs so they can say their still a virgin.
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