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 blusurf
Joined: 4/13/2010
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Not all men over 50 are the same. This site is free so it's more or less like a giant clearance sale. Have to look around a lot to find the bargains. By the way, I don't know what profile gourmetchef was looking at. It certainly wasn't yours. Your look great don't change a thing. Maybe some more pictures, but that's for another forum. Too bad you don't live closer to me, if that is any consolation.
 ThusSpokeZarathustra
Joined: 4/24/2012
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Posted: 4/30/2012 1:56:30 PM

I'm new to dating sites and am starting to question whether men over 50 really want a women over 50 or do they have unrealistic expectations of finding a 30 - 40 year old?

I'm not sure that this is unrealistic at all. Most of my friends who are my age typically date women in their early to late 30's.
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 4/30/2012 2:40:57 PM
The dates that I have had so far are great, no complaints from the men I have met, it's just getting past the website that I think is frustrating.


I'm not following you here OP. What I'm reading is that the men you have dated in this relatively short period of time have been great. No complaints either from the men. I have no idea what you mean by getting past the website if you are meeting men IRL for these dates.

What is it that bothering you dear? You look fantastic. You should count your blessings on that. You are attracting men that you like. What's the problem?

To answer your question about men over 50 wanting the same. Since all men haven't given me their proxy, I can only speak for myself. But I would say I have shifted more towards women closer to my own age since reaching 50. I so dislike discrimination based on anything, but if I had to rate the likelihood of me with any age group I'd say:

20's I'd be more likely to win the 650 million dollar powerball lottery. It's not happening. That would almost be as bad as dating my sister.
30's Less than a one percent chance
40' The closer to 49 the greater the odds
50's Best chance
60's The closest to 60 the greater the odds
70's Less than a one percent chance
 justlookingvt
Joined: 5/8/2010
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Posted: 4/30/2012 2:56:45 PM
The lack of connection is very likely totally normal. It is not easy to find a person you really "connect" with. It's a lot harder than one would initially think (at least for those who are looking for a lasting relationship, maybe - hopefully - the last one.)

Obviously, there is a noticeable number of guys who want to date a much younger woman. I question their wisdom unless they are not expecting it to last. For those who frowned at that statement, yes, sometimes it works.

Personally, I will not even entertain the thought of having a romantic relationship with a woman that is more than 6 years younger than me. I highly prefer a woman that is at most 5 years younger. I say all this only to show you that there are guys out there that, honestly and genuinely, prefer a woman that is around their age.

Moreover, I won't date a woman in the age range I am looking into if I realize she would date a guy younger than 6 years than she is. I think it is just as unwise for a woman to attempt a lasting relationship with someone much younger as it is for a guy. One thing I want in my partner is wisdom and the corresponding good judgement that goes along with it.

Be patient. Finding the right person is an exercise in patience. Among the things we learn as we age is to be patient. :-)
 DeborahC56
Joined: 10/20/2010
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Posted: 4/30/2012 3:08:36 PM
msg 26, there is a time when some things are just better left unsaid. Further insult to the op is not necessary or nice.
 CINCHOMFLT1
Joined: 10/7/2010
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Posted: 4/30/2012 5:18:54 PM
I put my parameters for 4 years younger, to 9 years older. I don't eliminate anyone who contacts me simply on their age. But even then, the field seems small here. Maybe it is just a small state and surrounding area. I don't know.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 32
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Posted: 4/30/2012 5:44:37 PM

It seems that on her 50th birthday, a woman's recessive genetics kick in the "poor me" response. She becomes whiney and starts blaming those around her for her dissatisfaction with the behaviors of others. There is no known cure. It is a terminal condition. Men over 50 try to avoid this phenomenon, because, while not strictly contagious, the side effects can endanger the physical well-being of anyone in close proximity to the afflicted


marry me

Crap,,,did I say THAT out loud!!!!!!

Everyone is different OP. What I want, well, I want a lot of things,but, in the same breath, I'm pretty sure I ain't getting any of it. But I can still want it. I personally don't "connect" with a lot of people,regardless of age. It's the tude that drives me away,along with the "expectations", the "beliefs", the "actions", the "closed mindness" of those around my age. Age is a funny thing. We gain certain prejuidices,beliefs, and requirements with age, and when people show me this, I usually gotta go.I also don't like being told "how to act" or what I should be/or shouldn't be doing because of my age. "Some" women my age, have pretty good habit of doing so, though, the same will tell you that's because I'm not very mature. I actually agree.
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 4/30/2012 5:47:23 PM
My girlfriend is just a couple years younger than I am. What's important is that she is first of all my 'girlfriend' and not a mom, grandmother, mature woman, responsible woman or 'whatever'. She can be all those things in other aspects of her life but vis-a-vis me she is my girlfriend.... a sexy hot babe.

It's not about age. I don't know guys who want to date younger women. I know guys who want to date a woman who still has that spark in life...who gets a kick out of making out in the movie theatre. A lot of buzz words in womens'profiles (mature, responsible, etc.) are a turn off. Guys are searching for a mate and not a mother.

I agree with gourmetchef in a posting above...dress like a babe and not my mom. Let your hair grow. Re-kindle the spirit of the vivacious gal you were at 18.
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:05:02 PM

Everyone is different OP. What I want, well, I want a lot of things,but, in the same breath, I'm pretty sure I ain't getting any of it. But I can still want it. I personally don't "connect" with a lot of people,regardless of age. It's the tude that drives me away,along with the "expectations", the "beliefs", the "actions", the "closed mindness" of those around my age. Age is a funny thing. We gain certain prejudices,beliefs, and requirements with age, and when people show me this, I usually gotta go.I also don't like being told "how to act" or what I should be/or shouldn't be doing because of my age. "Some" women my age, have pretty good habit of doing so, though, the same will tell you that's because I'm not very mature. I actually agree.


I guess I'm not very mature either.

Notice how I didn't copy what you said before that? Yeah you said that out loud lol And now the NSA has it logged on to their data base.
 FishOwl
Joined: 12/13/2008
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:20:09 PM
I cannot speak for "men over 50" but I can speak for me. You see my age on my profile and I am will not contact a woman less than 60. As for younger, I don't need another daughter or a nurse or a support worker. What I need and want doesn't seem to be here - a partner. Patient, caring, trustworthy and honest, first with at least herself.

I am young thinking and looking - not my opinion, I have been told that many times - because I made that decision, not because I can date someone half my age. I probably wouldn't know how to begin.

Are there others "over 50" with the same attitude? More than probably.
 Rob3444
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 36
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:20:19 PM
First off it's in no way an unrealistic expectation. My last two wives were each approx 15 years my junior, the others my age.
I get a coffee date about every week or two weeks on but that includes this site, two others and, real life approaches.
Most are 50ish but some are 40 or even younger. (youngest 22 but she only wanted sex)
It's not like all young women are better looking or more appealing than 50's women either.
If I wanted to date only women 30 or under so what it's my preference and not you, but some here say "men like that" as if there is something wrong with that.
Are men in general attracted to younger women and women to older men, of course! There is an evolutionary, explanation for that. It might not be logical but it's in us for millions of years.
Some ask as to what one has in common with a much younger woman. Well if I am into things contemporary more so than many my age then I would find more common ground with a younger woman in most cases. I know that people in their 30's can be a zillion times smarter than me so why not. I don't want to talk about the good old days anyway.
That being said You're a good looking woman in good shape and I would date you as quickly as I would younger one.
 FishOwl
Joined: 12/13/2008
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:23:53 PM
"Hey Op..so u have had great dates from the website? Why didnt any of those pan out? You've only been on here less than a week. Give us a photo op on your profile with you dressed to the nines. A sundress and flipflops doesnt cut it. Show us what u got, when u go out at night on the town. My suspicion is that you are too casual most if not all the time."

Nice to know you're into appearance and problematic substance. Come to thin of it, that about sums up the majority of my female contacts on here.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:59:15 PM
Just about all who have emailed me are younger. Real young I know for sex but over 40 are.serious. I don't really get along with 5o yr olds. They are too set in their ways and not much fun.
 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
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Posted: 4/30/2012 8:40:05 PM
LOL..too funny.

I just date nice guys and don't usually ask for their ID anyway.
 nonchalantgal
Joined: 2/27/2012
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Posted: 5/1/2012 1:52:38 AM
I think everyone is different and had there preferences
 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
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Posted: 5/1/2012 6:08:12 AM
I agree with nonchalantgal...everyone has their preferences. I prefer a man who is open to dating all ages...not bottling himself to the 30 - 45 age group when he's 52 or 53. Same for women! I have friends who will only date men under 45 when they are in their 50's!

People age different, people have different attitudes. It really upsets me to see the rude things that many men say about women over 50! Especially men over 50! Hey...not all of us are wrinkled prunes .. not all of us have lousy attitudes ... on the same token, not all men over 50 are jerks!

Ok..that's my 2 cents..again..guess I've given 4 or 6 cents to this one.
 CulturedBlackMan
Joined: 2/20/2012
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Posted: 5/1/2012 6:13:09 AM
So lets stop trying to categorize men over 50. Perhaps youve simply not met the right one. Men over 50 have the same struggle in dating as women over 50.

Consider this. Women in their 30-40's often present with less emotional baggage as women over 50. That isnt an absolute statement, but fuel for thought. Women often think the attraction to younger women is about youth, sometimes it is, often its just about less tension.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
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Posted: 5/1/2012 6:18:30 AM
Most men in their 50 or over are pigs, on their way to being old men, who are sick and tired of their wives (or of being single, in those cases) and want to bang the ones they never had. (You should meet my happily married, 30+ year relationship Father, who seems to talk about anything but my mom, his wife....You should hear his friends, and their friends, and some of their friends, and..........)

Please note before the hatemail starts, I said MOST. MOST. That means there are exception, and statistically speaking those exceptions would be on a dating site, so don't take offense when its not due.
There is however a significant lot of those types. Personnal observation have shown me as much of this behavior, IMO... :thumbs down:
 Rob3444
Joined: 11/14/2011
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Posted: 5/1/2012 6:37:24 AM
@ capn "most" men over 50 I know are not pigs. If a small amount of them like younger women, that still doesn't make them pigs.

So your Dad and all his friends and all their friends are all pigs. You should get out more. I find this type of talk more prevalent in younger pig men but not most.
Yes you said most but that's still absurd.

Ever think of keeping your tongue inside of your mouth?
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 5/1/2012 6:40:47 AM

Gawd, ** some** of you men are RIDICULOUS.
Op is not here to fulfill YOUR fantasies. She's a mature adult who's 52 and she looks bloody fantastic.
STOP being so utterly superficial and unrealistic.


No we're honest. 52...'mature adult'...you don't get it.
Please, you are NOT a guy. My girlfriend is a year older and dresses classy. just because someone is 52 doesn't mean they should turn off the sex appeal. The grandkids might want 'mature'...I want hot. Older women can be extremely attractive and are not over the hill in looks.

As others have said. Get rid of the photos with the grandchildren, etc. It's fine to be a grandma but put forth a more upbeat image. Guys don't want a younger woman, they want vibrant woman.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
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Posted: 5/1/2012 6:46:12 AM
Ever think of keeping your tongue inside of your mouth?

Nope.

Another thing men (and this time women to) over 50 have is patronizing. In the sense that they've lived, as such they know the world. They KNOW. YOU don't. Because your just 30. Read here idiot. Hear that line often enough. "When you get my age..." as if they're freaking 92....
Your ONLY 50. This isnt the 60s anymore, when you were closer to being dead from smoking too much then being alive. 50 is NOTHING, so they should stop acting as if they know everything, and no one else knows nothing.
Unless its a generational thing? The Boomers STILL want to own the world.

Listen bub, I told you don't take offense, so don't. Judge me all you want (you will regardless), but I'm simply stating what I think to be the case. You got relevant arguments besides @all the guys I know arent pigs and the younger ones like you are@, go ahead and put them. I stand by what I said, men 50 and over do NOT for the most part want serious relationships, they want to live the lives they havent lived in 20 years.

And let's not talk about the younger generations. They only have sex on their minds, from watching too much tv. Us as parents REALLY suck for the most part. With all the new "ideas" and "techniques" for raising kids, some people forgot that your kid should be sleeping with anyone at 13, and its YOUR JOB to look over them...
 Rob3444
Joined: 11/14/2011
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Posted: 5/1/2012 7:29:05 AM
The I have lived you haven't stuff is BS. I mention on another tread that some in their 20 are a zillion times smarter than older people.

For you to say most men in their 50 don't want serious relationships is something you can stand by, but is inaccurate. But it is based on your experience, so since you spend all your time with your piggy daddy and all his. and all their piggy friends I'm sure you are an over 50's guys expert. They want the lives they haven't lived for 20 years. Must be nice to know all this.

Do you stand up to older men in the real world or just let them call you tongue boy?

You have daddy issues, I stand by that.
 Pinky127
Joined: 1/7/2012
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Posted: 5/1/2012 7:43:43 AM

Older women can be extremely attractive and are not over the hill in looks.


^^^ And,this describes our Op,imo.
Thank you.
You're welcome
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
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Posted: 5/1/2012 8:37:37 AM
Do you stand up to older men in the real world or just let them call you tongue boy?

You have daddy issues, I stand by that.


Let me just say I havent known a man I couldnt pop his teeth out.
I used my father and his friends as a clear example of retired firemen that I see regularly, truth me I know many more. I could tell you about the guys I know at work. I could tell you about the coffee store where I see 55 y old bub numerous times as the lil 20 y old clerk her phone number. She thanked me once for bailing her out, but I can't be a nice guy all the time. I could tell you about the sorry bunch of engineers at work, I could tell you about the President (well probably EX by now) of Sunlife Financial who had a steady stream of 18 y old (paid by Jean Chretien, ex PM of Canada, ooops did that come out loud and I'm not supposed to know that? Go figure....) that kept entering the Sunlife building while I worked there. I could tell you about cops in my area regularly "patrolling" and socialising way too much on Cegep de Maisonneuve private grounds.\
Do you want me to go on? LOL We'll sleep here.......

I hope I have time to continue this before the timer expires...LOL
Listen, its not a personnal attack or anything. Unless you have something concrete to convince me otherwise, I simply won't believe you. The divorce rate in the states, the main reason behind those divorces (if I trust a poll I saw in the paper, more than 60%, in Quebec at least, are due to a husband cheating on his wife for a younger woman. Didn't specify an age though). From what I have seen so far, a lot of older men just want to bang for their buck, if they're single at that time. If its following an expensive divorce, they probably just want to live a little and not want to jump into a relationship. If they're always been single, well...probably professionnal. But the majority of them (because fo the major gap differences in couples, as released by the gov of Canada yearly Census) tends to prove that older men cheat more on their wives, and hunt younger in a bigger percentage, that women their own age.
Again, I don't CARE if you believe me or provoque me. It's what I believe in. And NO, I won't pop your teeth in; I respect my elders, mouhahaha/ I just dont tell them their right all the time.

That might not be the case with YOU or the people YOU know, but your one guy in one city, just like I am. If our experiences differ its prob because the truth is somewhere in the middle, but...scary no?



Capn I know your post was somewhat tongue outside of cheek as most of yours are but maybe you should take your own advice and


It\s not a 'this is the truth post' its a 'this is what I believe post'. I didnt ask anyone to subscribe, I just state my opinion on it, and LO, everyone wants to tell me how wrong I am LOL. I do NOT care. It's still what I believe, I'm not trying to convince anyone. I stated this, and you subscribe to it or not.
But hey, up until now, you guys have been proving my point admirably....


Crap, 10 posts a day for too much banning LOL. Well, see you tommorrow guys.......
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 50
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Posted: 5/1/2012 8:52:26 AM
I stand by what I said, men 50 and over do NOT for the most part want serious relationships, they want to live the lives they havent lived in 20 years


Some men in thier 30's are still living this life they lived in thier teens and early 20's and some men in thier 50's have been grown bored of the life they lived in thier 30's and are looking for something a little more meaningful.

I have to wonder just how many men in thier 50's you know besides your dad and his friend. One think is certain. All of us men over 50 were your age once and you have never been our age. Just because you are a new generation it does not mean everthing has changed in the last 20 yrs or so. If you haven't noticed we have also been living during the last 20 yrs as well. Until you have walked a few years in our shoes you do not know what it is like to be a man in your 50's but most of us men in our 50's can still remember what it was like to be a man in his 30's.

Maybe you assume that most men do not learn anything past the age of 30 and life experience counts for nothing. I suppose that does not bode well for your future... you could after all end up becoming your father.

Capn I know your post was somewhat tongue outside of cheek as most of yours are but maybe you should take your own advice and


stop acting as if they know everything, and no one else knows nothing


I could even borrow and expression women like to use when referring to thier age. Doing that some men in thier 50's could be thought of as men in thier 30's with 20 yrs experience. Capn are you a 18 yr old with 14 yrs experience?

As for your quote


Let me just say I havent known a man I couldnt pop his teeth out


You are kind of a skinny guy to make such a bold statement. I don't think even the mouthiest guy in professional boxing ( Floyd Mayweather ) would make such a statement to old has beens like Mike Tyson on Lennox Lewis if they met in the boxing ring or a dark alley - heck I would bet he might even give old George Foreman some respect.
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