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 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
Msg: 137
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I've been looking for a nice guy in his late 40's and early 50's and have YET to find one who is interested...so I started dating younger men...it's not by choice, but by necessity. Men over 45 treat me like dirt..expecting sex on the first date, texting and emailing about sex...where men in their 30's seem to treat me with respect...don't know whats up with that. I really prefer someone closer to my age..but they all have grandkids and that creeps me out.
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 138
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/19/2012 10:00:09 PM

I'm new to dating sites and am starting to question whether men over 50 really want a women over 50 or do they have unrealistic expectations of finding a 30 - 40 year old? I have found many men that share the same things I want but for one reason or another we don't seem to connect. I don't get it!


I'm a man over 50 and I have a 50-year-old woman and I'm pretty happy about it!

Of course, I can only speak for myself, there are also plenty of 50-something women who go after younger men and good luck to them too.

It's a big wide world out there OP and I'm sure you'll eventually bump into a bloke your age who's on the same page.


I would love to date a peer, a real one. But have not once, ever, met a man who didn't try and sexualize the simplest of relationships, without dropping a dime on even coffee. So I date younger, because for whatever reasons, younger men generally don't think that way or try to "trick" a stranger into doing them. So, younger it is. Forever.

That's such a shame, must be something in the water where you are? Although I'm not entirely sure the attitudes of those bad apples you describe are age-specific. I'm sure these men may have held those attitudes when they were younger too.
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 139
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/20/2012 6:14:34 AM
Both suggested we first meet for lunch then make some other plans. One invited me also to share a trip with him for free, something he did each year with his friends (cruise to AK then fishing, yes!)


Is this attractive? Seriously, if someone started to fantasize out loud about me going away on an overnight trip with him before we even met I would find that an unsettling indicator of the type of dating objectives he is pursuing.

I imagined since he was with other couples, that he wanted someone to check out the scenery with.

You are, ostensibly, an adult. What you "imagine" your role could be in fulfilling a strange man's objective on a trip just goes to show how easily you are led and manipulated into believing that the outcome would be something that you would desire and could control.

Essentially, by expressing your interest (yes!), you have told him that you are available and that he has established the "price" for your "company." You should be astutue enough to know that, as the one who is footing the bill, it is only what he imagines things should be that count. The Woman is an interchangeable fixture. I hope you can't truly be so naive as to believe it was you, specifically, in whom he was interested. You hadn't even met!!!

I would not find it flattering or in any way reassuring. As a matter of fact, the idea of going out of state to "share a trip with him [a man I have not met] for free (... yes!)" makes my hair stand up on my neck and lends the idea that ANY woman would be a candidate to plug in to his "traveling companion" position.

Yet lunch didn't ever materialize. What did was an invite to "lunch" in the guys motorhome, after he had driven us to some remote beach (ie, no way out or back)


Maybe it was just the audition for the Alaska cruise.

Not sure by what stretch of the imagination a woman could feel safe and reassured enough (after being presented with such a proposal by a stranger - after all, that is what it is) to then jump in to a vehicle and put herself at the mercy of a driver for a first meet after he has as much as told her that any female will do to fill his fantasies.

I guess as we "mature," the type of candy that the pervs dangle changes and the type of individuals that hear what they want to hear in the vain hopes of being presented with their particular brand of "candy" just keep marching forward ... Always hoping that next offer of some implausible and, frankly, compromising situation will be their Willy Wonka gold ticket to a "free" vacation, a lavish meal or some other incentive to leave your common sense behind while indulging some princess delusions. (This is the kind of behavior that reeks of desperation to me. The "promise" of a yet-to-be-deliveredfree vacation, yes! and all boundaries and common sense evaporate.)

Remember, if it sounds too good to be true ...
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 140
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/20/2012 6:21:58 AM

Do men over 50 really want the same?


As SOON as I reach 50, I'll come back and post here.
No wait...end of the world is this year. DARN....

My answer to it, and many other questions on here, will always be; it depends. Some do, some dont. Some men just want to ****. Some men want a serious romantic relationship.

It's up to the women who date them to figure out which. Because most of them wont come outright and say it lol
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 141
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Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/20/2012 11:17:29 PM
I'd readily accept a Lady of my own age...if she still had' The Fire' to make a quality partner.
(Not 'The Fire' to argue and fight over trivial junk...I've had More than my share of That!)
I'm not saying that there aren't any quality women over 50...But the percentages of that fall sharply as age increases...
 SpeedracerSmith
Joined: 3/5/2012
Msg: 142
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/21/2012 6:06:50 AM
Natgoat...I'd say the percentages of quality men over 50 fall sharply as age increases!
 socialnfun
Joined: 9/3/2009
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Posted: 6/21/2012 2:32:44 PM
I find the same thing since I turned 50. The men that would be in my age range want younger.
 Lks2bhappy
Joined: 5/16/2012
Msg: 144
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/21/2012 3:45:57 PM
Its rather hysterical the 60 yr olds who make there age 50 on here and then chase 30 yr olds. It is very common on here I have heard from many woman. If your in your 50s you should stick closer to your age. I dont think they will get anyone to answer them since there pictures really loook like they are 60. I feel bad for the 50 and 60 yr old woman on here. I think the 20 yr olds might be hitting on them LOL
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 6/21/2012 4:29:37 PM

It is very common on here I have heard from many woman. If your in your 50s you should stick closer to your age. I dont think they will get anyone to answer them since there pictures really loook like they are 60


However, many women in their 50's look like sexy hot babes. Drool!!! My girlfriend is quite serious when she says she'd wear a sheet over her head before she'd get the granny look...'short hair, glasses and sensible shoes'.

The worse piece of advice ever dished out....dress your age. Ugh!!! The best advice is actually to dress some compromise betweeen classy and slut...sort of a vamp.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 146
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/21/2012 4:33:52 PM

Its rather hysterical the 60 yr olds who make there age 50 on here and then chase 30 yr olds. It is very common on here I have heard from many woman. If your in your 50s you should stick closer to your age. I dont think they will get anyone to answer them since there pictures really loook like they are 60. I feel bad for the 50 and 60 yr old woman on here. I think the 20 yr olds might be hitting on them LOL


In the end it all works out, the 30 yr old women the old men are chasing are really 50 year old women lying about their age and using old photos.
 scrider
Joined: 9/24/2011
Msg: 147
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/21/2012 6:49:27 PM
Absolutely! You just haven't found the right one yet. This online dating is weird....and there are a lot of them out there.....both men and women. Hang in there. Someone will come along. It just takes time.
And, if you would like to talk to some one.....give me a shout. ;o)
 Thomas_Andronicus
Joined: 6/17/2012
Msg: 148
Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 6/21/2012 8:39:06 PM
I've gotten better with age. More handsome, smarter, in better shape cause I work out, and I'm more serious, dignified, and funny, lot's of gravitas, still have some hair and still strong, silent and humble. If any 50+ woman has done the same I would probably want to date her. This isn't likely so I tend towards the twenty-somethings, since the 30 somethings think they know it all. My only problem is that if I get into a serious relationship, I'll run out of time, actuarially speaking.
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