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 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
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@ Teacher Boy: Unfortunately I can not email you directly, therefore, w/o going into any details (about affordability of fresh fish, fruits and Blue Mountain coffee and overindulgence in the affordable "blessings" like red stripe, appleton, ray&nephew overproof, ganja, West Indian starches, KFC and the reggae that has deteriorated into dancehall which is even referred to now as reggae) :
You sound like one of the many Jamaican expats romanticizing the harsh realities of "life in the tropics", spelling Jamaica.
 Horus_MCMLXX
Joined: 6/2/2008
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Posted: 5/1/2012 8:08:45 PM
I will be 42 this summer and I sure as hell WANT SEX "all that much" and than some!
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 5/2/2012 7:52:25 AM
I believe that some of the catch and release may be due to the economy more than due to whether or not a man's sex drive is up to snuff. I'm pretty sure they might be becoming a little more particular, perhaps cautious, as to whom they want to spend their time with this time around so hopefully it will be the last time they have to spin that bottle.

While I will assume that men may not want sex as often as they used to I also feel that they are better once then they were so I think it somewhat dismal to categorize your male counterparts as mere couch potatoes.

People are different thank goodness. It makes for interesting times and matches.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 31
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Posted: 5/2/2012 9:28:15 AM
Capn_America


I don't want sex anymore. Ever again. My wee-wee has dried up, I put a knot in it, now I only take it out to whip unruly people into submission. Or when friends of mine need a tighrope to cross deep chasms.
Or to play the clarinet. Pretty funny especially when drunk and high on Redbull.


Now I get the pic on your profile.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 32
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Posted: 5/2/2012 9:56:48 AM
I have YET to meet a man who isn't humping my leg 24 hours a day (ages 47 and above).

When I do find him, I'm gonna marry him. :-)
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 5/2/2012 6:37:01 PM

Besides I don't think all those younger guys are lining up to push aside those older guys when it comes to keeping the company of older women.


To hear some of the women over forty brag here it does indeed sound like younger men are more than willing to fill in for the older guys.You look quite fit but many are not.They forget about sex and their women wander,or divorce ensues.In a new relationship,as of yet we don't really understand how our sex drive can go up....for a time.

In the OP's case I can see evidence that his body was indeed suffering from low test,rectifying that has resulted in an improvement in his outlook and physical well being.
 chrismako
Joined: 1/28/2012
Msg: 34
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Posted: 5/2/2012 9:35:44 PM
First off, you are on a Sailboat which help's me respect what you have to say and second...dang I am thinking about what you said. Thank you for your incite.
Chris...
 oneofakind704
Joined: 12/28/2010
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Posted: 5/3/2012 1:40:12 PM
I'm 51 and i love sex and my drive is high!
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 5/3/2012 3:03:10 PM
In my personal experiences.....(and I only date my age'ish and older).......
the amount of times per week isn't as high......but the actual sex time is longer.
And the sex is way better!

I have no desire to date a youngun.........give me a mature man that likes to take the long, winding road anyday!
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
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Posted: 5/3/2012 3:57:09 PM
men under 40 sure do.............
 splfree
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 5/3/2012 8:30:12 PM
I am 54 years old, if the person I am dating and I have a physical attration it is game on...

In my experience , it is the woman that is the one who wants to wait for several dates till they feel in the mood.

I am one of those, if we hit it off, whether it is the first date or the second, etc. if the attraction is there why wait till that magic number of dates, we are adults, we are sharing something between just the 2 of us, what is the big problem..
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2012 12:16:52 PM
So how many of that 30% are raising the child of a man that was married to another woman when he got the woman pregnant???

Very easy to make women sound like the evil half here.....without presenting all the facts of those having affairs.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 5/4/2012 4:02:23 PM
I sure hope not !!!


I'm 39 and my hasn't wained at all....



I think some are buying into too much "'statistics"" and taking it to be fact


as a way of putting down a man.


remember - men can majke babies, basically till we die, so don't go buying too much into a declining sex drive as muich.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 5/4/2012 6:39:21 PM
I'm 39 and my hasn't wained at all....



I think some are buying into too much "'statistics"" and taking it to be fact


as a way of putting down a man.


remember - men can majke babies, basically till we die, so don't go buying too much into a declining sex drive as muich.


39 isn't old enough.42 or 43 is when a real physical decline starts for most men,with 45 being the upper limit.The stats for morning wood have been available for many years....over fifty is a marked decline for the majority.That said I know a guy that is in his 70's and still goes like the energizer bunny,with about 40 mg of Cialis.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 42
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Posted: 5/7/2012 7:08:29 AM
bilby886
Already 30% of supposed genetic fathers are unknowingly looking after another guys offspring! Thats what we find out already since 20 years of DNA testing! Hmmmmmm....double standards?!? I hear woman say?


I think 30% is just a stupid rumor, where did you get that?

I numbers I read were about 1 in 25, which is 4%, and sounds plausible.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 5/7/2012 7:35:07 AM
Saveta

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Some men have never wanted much sex; some men really like all they can get. Not all men's sex drive declines after 40, you know. The guy I have sex with likes sex a lot and we are proving, single-handedly, that after 40 a decline in sex drive doesn't necessarily happen. In single sittings (or should I say, lyings) we'll have sex 3 to 4 times. This has been unheard of for all my previous partners in our younger days. I could have expected twice in a night, but now we are actually going hammer and tong for hours on end, and him getting an erection up to 4 times! Pretty good, eh.


Pretty good, but I have had 5 orgasms in a single day last year. But it was after an absence of several months, I have really good chemistry with my GF, and I was taking Nebido. That was very unusual, though probably not so much when I was 30. It's not like I kept track. Other days I don't know, less than 5 for sure, likely 1-3 at least the first month.

Sciencetreker

Wanting sex and performance are two separate issues.


Quite true, many men want sex mentally, but they don't have anyone or anyone that wants to have sex many times during the day. So they never really test out how often they can perform.




I'm in my mid 50's and am as horny as ever. No, I don't walk around with a permanent erection as when I was 16. However, I now know what to do with one when it does happen. At 16 I wasn't too sure what I wanted but was just horny. in contrtast these days I know exactly what I want and that's sex ALL the time with my gal.


Chemistry with my partner is critical for me, without that I can always go the first couple of nights, but quickly lose interest if I find that a women isn't likely to be a LTR. It has nothing to do with her body, a hard body women age 35 I felt the same way about, it's more mental for me once the initial attraction wears off.

I have no real desire for sex 5 times in a night, the first 1 or 2 are always the best. Ever since I lost my virginity my goal was stamina and delaying orgasm. Now that I am older, delaying climax isn't a problem, while I stay hard it's sometimes more of a problem getting one off. Who knows, maybe working on our technique will improve that also, it;s been a long time since I had a partner I was so in sync with.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 5/7/2012 8:22:21 AM
Capn_America, in the grand scheme of things I find appalling, this does not register.



One in 25 is still too big. It's appalling, wether or not the number is true.


And anyone I would have a LTR with I know well and know well.

I would bet that before birth control the number was higher than 4%.



Calculate it in your every day life; name 25 people with kids that you know.
#25, his kids? They arent his. But he THINKS they are


Also not really how stats would work. Since I mainly know professional men working in high tech, they would be different than a person working at MickeyD's living in a poor neighborhood in Chicago. I am quite sure that stats are higher for those with poor education, poor futures and less access to quality health care.

Not sure why this is a hot button issue for you.

ciao
 SiRCaSaNoVa
Joined: 8/7/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 5/7/2012 5:12:02 PM
I have no idea what your talking about. I'm 45 & screw like a jack rabbit. i want it all the time. so you can only speak for yourself & not all men. I wake up with hard-ons 3 out of 7 days on average.
 Mediagirl4e
Joined: 3/23/2012
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Posted: 5/7/2012 6:30:10 PM
I think they are less able to get it up after 50 ( so I have heard never dated anyone 50 0r over) I think that men in there 40s would be ok. It over 50 I think they cant do it so many times a day or night. I have heard.
 DumchikBrewsky
Joined: 10/24/2010
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Posted: 5/8/2012 1:33:00 PM
I'm delighted to report that men in my age group (55-plus) really do want sex all that much.

Of course, Type II diabetes has affected many of them by this time, so they have to be more creative because they can no longer rise to the challenge. That's fine, too. :D

ETA: some can and DO go more than once a night, but sex isn't an Olympic competition and older men have learned what's important.
 PureCubanPassion
Joined: 2/9/2008
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Posted: 5/9/2012 3:15:17 PM
Perhaps there are too many tight young sheep in Oklahoma and the mature men are too busy servicing them and getting exhausted!

I guess everyone's experience is different but I can absolutely tell you that at 62 I am as sexually aggressive as I was in my 20's and 30's except now I am a much better lover because I have learned the art of titillation and seduction. Since we are speaking of libido (desire and the ability to carry it out), let me state I typically desire sex sometimes as many as three times per day and a minimum of 3 or 4 days per week. I currently have a great monogamous sexual relationship and assure you a typical session for us is no less than one to two hours to include lots of foreplay and penetration. So my advice for this Oklahoma beauty is to find yourself a hot mature Cuban man... and he will give you more tongue and C_ _ K than you can stand!
 oldhippie37186
Joined: 7/30/2011
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Posted: 5/14/2012 8:48:19 AM
well i cant speak for all men but im 54 and still havnt reached my sexual peak i cant seem to get enough my gf says i need to go to rehab for it hahaha
 want to travel
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Posted: 5/14/2012 4:17:02 PM
That is just not the case
the truth is my sex drive is just as strong as ever,as is the case with most men
women who are my age,and older, are just not so concerned with what is thought of them, they also know what feels good ,and not afraid to ask
young women are still living in a society that is jugdmental of women with a high or healthy sex drive
 fuzzywuzzy11
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Posted: 5/14/2012 7:11:00 PM
I agree...the forums are no place to get a statistically significant research /poll result!!

I guess I could only supply my own experience --in that my sex drive has never decreased===and is always at an unusually high level---i am a very sexual being---and so yes i want it much! I want my partner to be pleased as much as possible.

There must be volumes of things that contribute to any one persons drive/attitude/ethics and more...
 fuzzywuzzy11
Joined: 11/11/2010
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Posted: 5/14/2012 7:14:21 PM
I so disagree!

One cannot generalize...there are women who have given up in their 30s, and men who are humping everything that moves in their 70s...

I am cursed with the humping condition discussed above!

i love sex
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