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 want to travel
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women after 30 get interesting, but women after 40 (and up), get great!(sexually)
in my teens, and 20's, I had a huge sex drive,but I also had ambition,I worked a hell of a lot, at one point 3 jobs,broke my back to get ahead
now that I pretty much have all I need,I find my sex drive is not only still there, but very strong
youg women,(young people),are beautiful, but for the most part, very....,
boreing
at this age, inhibitions, are not as strong,communication, is comfortable,and if you don't know what you like sexually, you never will
as for all the midication,well most of that is not needed,I read a great article on painkillers, and other meds, Americans use 80% of all the 'legal meds in the world
in germany for example, anti depressants,are only used as a last resort, their studies have shown, that 90 min, of exersise, is usually enough to deal with major depression
north americans are exploited by the drug, and insurance companies, its no wonder that we are out of shape,and uptight about sex,a lot of people are being fed very strong drugs, like candy
 edmerckx
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Posted: 5/16/2012 10:06:26 AM
That depends on the individual. In general there will be some loss of interest, with that affecting some guys more and others not at all. Although there are plenty of testimonials here of guys with plenty of interest, there could be a "truncation error" if guys who have lost interest aren't even reading this section of the forums.

At 57, I'm not sure I've lost any interest, though I guess there is some decrease in stamina, but that just means I'll sleep through the night with a girl instead of waking up at 3 AM wanting more. I suppose as long as we're both getting enough to put smiles on our faces, it's not a problem.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
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Posted: 5/20/2012 12:10:08 PM
cautiousluv. I was aware of the increase rates of autism from older fathers. While the increase is dramatic, 470%, the absolute numbers are small. 33 out of 10,000 births is ~0.3 % are autisic Vs for men older than 40 years Vs 6 out of 10,000 for men younger than 30.

The risk is acceptable to me.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 5/21/2012 5:58:20 AM
cautiousluv
And that's fine, there are many of us that knows the risk of doing something, but we do it anyway. There is a particular poster that is always posting messages insinuating that men have no Biological clock and say's things like: "men can have babies until the day they day" So, my main point for posting that information is to make him aware that isn't particularly true. While a man *may* be able to have babies until the day he dies, it doesn't mean he should because as men age, so does their sperm. So men DO have a biological clock and if they want to produce the healthiest children possible.


The entire world is aware that men can produce babies in old age, the need to post about it to women reveals something.

IM view men that post they can make babies till the day they die aren't really interested in children. IMO those men have some insecurities about their relevance to women. They seem to be trying to say they are in some ways better than women.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 5/21/2012 11:04:01 AM
cautiousluv, I first noticed a significant change when I was 44, not sure about libido since I was married to someone that wasn't really into sexual pleasure, but I did see a decline in energy. But never did anything about it since I wasn't sure about the cause and it wasn't that important at the time.

As I read, it significanlty affects 50% of men by age 60, and it doesn't actually affect mental desire as much as performance / ablitily. Surely it will affect every man the older you get past 60.

I did measure serum testosterone levels at least twice in my life that I have records for.

In 12/3/96 I had my serum testosterone checked, it was 376 ng/dl the lab report said normal range was 270-1070.

In 12/05/2011 I got it checked again, it was 635 normal range 348-1197. This was 2 months after hormone treatment.

No idea why the normal range should be different. The second time I also got free and weakly bound checked, it is actually more important but a reflection of serum test.

It makes a huge difference for me in everything important, energy, libido and mood. I read about other benefits, but they are longer term.

I can't really say how my performace with the right women would have been without treatment. I react strongely to emotional intimacy so sex with someone that I don't really have good chemisty with has never been anything to brag about. Right now with the right women 5 times in a day is possible, but not all that common. (If I get a bag of chips to go along, then I am in heaven).

Excluding sex, I think at the least it is an important aspect to men's health.

It's all good for me, take care.
 spiffykatt
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Posted: 5/21/2012 9:17:57 PM
lets see..do men over 40 want sex?um do women want chocolate?lol.i would say a resounding yes to both.lol:)sex involving chocotate?my nirvana:)
 tammae1971
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Posted: 5/22/2012 1:23:33 PM
The age thingy is bullshit. It is different for everyone.
I have a good friend who is only 34 but his sex drive has plummeted because of health reasons. His wife is 40 and she is frustrated but understanding and they are working on it together. It is completely a person to person thing and age has nothing to do with it. Men or women either way can experience trouble with labido because of all sorts of reasons and having sex well into your senior years is very healthy.
Some like to have sex every day and some do not. Some people are affected by stress and health issues and their sex drives suffer.
It is pretty much different for everyone and age is just a number. I am 40 and many of my friends my age have a lot of issues but I do not. So you can't compare things like that according to age.
 Helloitsmeyourlookingfor
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Posted: 5/22/2012 1:41:43 PM
I do I do

I wake up every morning and make sure the boy is standing at attention...... Thats how I know I am still alive.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 5/23/2012 8:19:27 AM
cautiousluv
Hopefully I'm not getting too personal by asking you this, and if I am.....don't feel obligated to answer but I'm curious did you have your testosterone level checked before starting hormone treatments? If it was 635 AFTER hormone treatment, I'm curious as to what it might have been before treatment?


:) No more personal that what I already posted.

I don't recall the doctor (endocrinologist) in Bangkok checking levels, and if he did I don't have the record. Later it seemed to me he should have checked, but ...? He did an EKG and PSA test. ? EKG, is my heart good for the extra activitity? PSA is a prostate test, that is common to do with homone treatments.

Since I self pay for all health care, I tend not to want to run tests that neither I or the doctor require. In the USA you can order most tests from private testing companies that just do what you ask for. Sometimes a doctors office won't run a test unless you first pay to see a doctor and then get him to order the test.

The doc in Bangkok did suggest cialis, I was thinking at the time it was because they have a higher profit margin on that, since I didn't ask for it. But i was curious so I bought some and tried it, works but I don't care for it. Now there doesn't seem to be a good reason, but I do know of some young men <30 that take it when they want to go crazy with sex.

The doctor I typically use in the USA is a GP, if I wanted treatment from a USA doctor it would be easier to go to a endocrinologist or someone specializing in homone treatments. But then no doubt they would want to rerun all tests over again, monitor on constant basis, running a lot more money. The doctors I have talked to in the USA seem not to value my own judgement and you have to manage them differently. Sort of tell them the symtoms they want to hear and let them come to their own conclusion, you have to play stupid with them as far as I can see. Maybe just the doc I have here.
 platypus_man
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Posted: 5/23/2012 9:28:59 AM
This is really a reply to the OP, though it addresses the topic too. Of course men over 40 (well, the vast majority of us, anyway) want sex. But not every date is going to wind up with both people having sex just because they go out again. We all know that. It's not necessarily a 'disappearing act'. The first date is always one of high expectations, and often, also disappointments should the potential partner not live up to what we're looking for, or worse, has something about them that unfortunately turns us off which would make having sex an impossibility (and if that's the case, why waste time trying to pursue more dates?).
 DragonBits
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Posted: 5/23/2012 10:44:16 AM
sometimes-miss, part of the reason I created this topic was that I read reports from several women that had made it obvious they sexually aggressive. And they said often men would back out or be a no show. I was wondering what was going on about that?

[quote ] often, also disappointments should the potential partner not live up to what we're looking for
When a man is 22, men are looking for any women that says yes or looks like she might say yes, that is all they are looking for, so there is a big difference.

I think the pivot age is 45 for men, and by 60 about 50% are affected by lower hormone levels.

For me the first sexual experience when I returned to dating I was 57 , no problems in bed. But it's like any other athletic sport, just because I can finish a race doesn't mean I am performing at my peak, there is a big difference.

Also as I have said, the benefits are beyond sexual, and more to do with general health.
 bovarious1234
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Posted: 5/23/2012 4:14:05 PM
Don't know about most men, but I am 67 yrs. old and my desire for sex has grown rather than deminished. In fact the last woman I went to bed with who was 38 yrs. old called me a dirty old man. I never have heard about men in their forties not liking sex. That is a new one to me.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 9/18/2012 11:07:15 AM
A lot of women believe that men over 50 can't perform well in bed, one reason I asked a general question.

Could be some want sex but when they find someone that is hungry they can't perform up to their own expectations. Hard for me to tell about about men, I only see a lot of threads about age in only a number / women 25 wanting to date a man who is 50. A lot of women then comment about a man losing their sexual prowess as then get older.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 9/20/2012 9:19:26 AM

this question really over simplifies the subject


No doubt you are right, it does over simply. But most people cannot parse complicated issues.

Really, it shouldn't be want sex, it should be how much sex can a man between 50-65 handle? Certainly for most performance does decline, random sex isn't as appealing and there are topics about older men / younger women relationships that suggest a younger woman will get frustrated by an older man.

Also many women report that older men just can get it up when needed.

I really didn't expect a lot men to admit this.

It really shouldn't be in the sex forum, as this is more relationship question, but the mods saw fit to move it.
Do men over 40 REALLY want sex all that much?
Posted: 9/20/2012 4:59:04 PM
I'll repeat donald duck's question (155) - is this question a joke?

My appetite, and capability, is just fine, at 46. And was someone talking about love, relationships, and soulmates? I still want all that too. And not just lately, but always have.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 9/20/2012 7:43:21 PM
^^^ No disrespect meant, but your profile says.

"I’ve never been married, and have no children. I also was a 30 year old virgin, and might as well still be. By now, I probably shouldn’t bother with having a single’s profile anymore, but here I am anyway. "

I don't believe sex makes even your top 5 list of priories in life. How can you know your capabilities in the past and how they have changed?
 MAB54
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Posted: 9/21/2012 7:57:26 AM
I'm 58 and don't have any problems getting an erection at all. I stopped smoking and cut back on my drinking. Now it seems I'm hornier than I ever was. Never realized that changing those two aspects of my life would boost my libido so much and give me a harder, firmer erection without having to take the little blue pill.
 cakforya
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Posted: 9/21/2012 9:02:39 AM
yes i am so glad i quit years ago, but to find a woman who wants it too is a problem in my case.
 rubyhunter61
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Posted: 9/22/2012 10:12:08 AM
i can not speak for other men but my drive has not decressed if anything it has incressed since 40 my ex sayes that sex is all i think about but if you dont get something you like it will stay on your mind a lot besides i love to make my partner fill the best they can
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Posted: 9/23/2012 1:00:40 PM
speaking only for myself ( and the many guys I've gotten opinions from). It's no more than a question of what I wanna spend my energy on. i.e...I'm self centered and I like to get off but not willing to spend hours of time and physical labor to do it--lol...at least not as often as I used to.
 MAB54
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Posted: 9/23/2012 2:23:40 PM
Why not before and after the Tango Spitfiree?
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Posted: 9/23/2012 7:26:21 PM

Do men over 40 REALLY want sex all that much?


I'm 48, I think that qualifies as "over 40", and I'm still very much ready, willing and able. I've become more selective about who I would want to have sex with. But yeah, I still want it! Maybe that's what the original poster 2 years ago was getting at. Are men over 40 less likely to jump into bed with just any willing female? If that's the question, then I believe there probably is some truth in it. But gosh, until my doctor tells me my heart will explode if I have sex again, I think I'll be all about it!
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Posted: 9/24/2012 1:15:06 PM
Not really that much more than 15 yrs ago...but...I've been Widowed for 14....
I'm not sure if I Envy...or Pity the next Lady that displays an urge to catch me up!!
 GarnerGirl71
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Posted: 9/24/2012 7:49:27 PM

Elgalawaat: you are not one bam thank you mom any more.


Ummm... ew!


. Do men over 40 REALLY want sex all that much?


I sure as hell hope so! The guys I have dated showed no indication of declining sex drive.
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Posted: 9/24/2012 7:59:51 PM

It's no more than a question of what I wanna spend my energy on. i.e...I'm self centered and I like to get off but not willing to spend hours of time and physical labor to do it--lol...at least not as often as I used to.


That didn't read well......sounds as if you want serviced and not have to spend any time giving your partner pleasure.

Which is the total opposite of what I have found with men over 40! They seem to be far more generous of a lover than guys in their 20's and early 30's.
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