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 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
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I usually go alone; this afternoon I'm going to see "The Avengers" by myself.
 tuloa942
Joined: 2/21/2012
Msg: 31
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/6/2012 10:46:27 AM
^^ Trust me you won't be alone going to see the Avengers. The theater will probably be full! Great movie.
 balrog67
Joined: 4/1/2012
Msg: 32
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/6/2012 11:21:33 AM
Going alone allows me a possibility to interact in the back row with women that go alone. I'm just sayin'.....

;-)
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 5/6/2012 11:36:07 PM
I generally go to the afternoon showings of films with a friend ... but, as others have mentioned, going with a friend is potentially annoying ... e.g., one woman INSISTS on picking the film, refuses to see what I want to see ... and I'm not all that enthralled with HER choices ...

if applicable ... ("War Horse," "The Help," etc.) ... I ALWAYS ask her if she's read the book before we go to a movie ... she'll insist she HAS read the book but will then ask me questions thru-out the film ... "why did this happen?" "who's that?" etc. very annoying because I HAVE read the book and want to see the film!

on the way out of the theater, I'll say, "did you REALLY read the book?" and she'll admit she didn't ...

I'm going to be giving more thought to going to films alone!
 Openotebook
Joined: 12/8/2011
Msg: 36
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/7/2012 5:04:34 PM
I go alone every now and then...I hate it! A move isn't the best social event, but to me, the whole point of "going out" to a move is the meal or drinks before or after and discussing the movie, the good parts, the bad parts, the things that didnt makes sense, the things one person noticed that another didn't, the hidden messages, the things you figured out and the things that surprised you.

When I walk out by myself I'm bursting with things to talk about and nobody to talk to them about. I generally write a review and send it to my freinds...but it's not the same.

Going alone to the cinema sucks IMHO, I rather just rent a movie and stay home.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 38
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/7/2012 5:10:46 PM

I've never been to the theatre alone though, cos of the intervals where it's obvious you're solitary.

Is that a bad thing? If so...why?
 tuloa942
Joined: 2/21/2012
Msg: 39
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/7/2012 6:39:57 PM
Take a book, a kindle, put a game on your phone.
 Openotebook
Joined: 12/8/2011
Msg: 40
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Posted: 5/7/2012 6:52:23 PM
This sort of reminds me of the time a few months back when I went to a small venue concert by myself. I sat alone at a table. I remember the concessions woman came by and gave me some snacks to go with my wine, she said I looked so lonely all by myself. Here I thought I was being all brave and bold...apparently I just looked pathetic. Funny thing is I wasn't lonely, I was enjoying the concert...but who wants to look sad and lonely to the people around you...especially if "the one" might be in th same room.
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 5/7/2012 7:00:42 PM
If I want to go see something - a movie, a band, an art show, whatever - and no one is available to go with me (or the people who are available are not the ones with whom I'd choose to go), I figure going alone is better than not going at all if I really want to see whatever it is. I meet some nice people that way. Especially if I go to a Venture Outdoors event by myself.

If anybody sees me out alone and thinks I'm pathetic or weird, fvck 'em. That says more about their insecurities than it says about me.

It's more fun to go with a compatible companion, but if none of those have the free time, I don't punish myself for being alone.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 5/7/2012 7:02:18 PM

You know its a double standard when it comes to going to Movies alone, if a woman goes alone or with another woman, nobody bats a eye, if a guy went alone, most would think he's a loner, loser has no friends etc


I was thinking along the same lines......people alone have no friends, "poor sap", etc.

It is a little odd that movies, among the least "sociable" of activities, since you have to sit QUIETLY in a DARK theater, is one activity that most people almost always go to with someone else, either a date, or friends/family.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 5/7/2012 7:08:20 PM

I lived in Los Angeles a long time, and people often went to the movies alone


You must mean some specific theaters right in Los Angeles. I live in the greater Los Angeles area and have attended numerous different theaters and most people were there with someone else.


They even had a silent film movie theatre in LA, which was very cool.


Been there, done that. Yes, was very cool.



I also stay and read the credits, while every one else is filing out the door.


Ditto. I am usually the last person out of a theater.
The end of Ferris Bueller's Day Off demonstrates the benefit of such a policy.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 44
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/8/2012 3:47:43 AM

If anybody sees me out alone and thinks I'm pathetic or weird, fvck 'em. That says more about their insecurities than it says about me.

Absolutely. Honestly if anyone even notices that 1) I'm there and 2) I'm solo, I'd have to wonder how little they have going on in their lives for it to be interesting to 'em. I'm there to see something I want to see, not guess what others I'll never see again at the theater might be thinking of my social standing.

I don't punish myself for being alone.

Why should you? Life isn't chaperone-required.

I was thinking along the same lines......people alone have no friends, "poor sap", etc.

People alone in a place are without company. Beyond that anything else is a projection.

It is a little odd that movies, among the least "sociable" of activities, since you have to sit QUIETLY in a DARK theater, is one activity that most people almost always go to with someone else, either a date, or friends/family.

Exactly - so it makes no sense that someone ONLY go when they can find someone to go with...unless walking in and out of the building by yourself just bothers you, plain and simple.
 onlydateIF
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 45
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/8/2012 9:16:50 PM
yes, one of many things I'm ok doing alone. I've never lived in Vegas, nor am I Italian, but I have heard that's not the best place for a woman to go out alone (correct me Vegasites if I'm wrong, bc I really don't know for sure).Apparently, Saudia Arabian women aren't allowed out without a male escort. Won't be living there!
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 5/9/2012 6:28:54 AM
Nothing wrong with going to a theatre alone.
As long as you don't pull a PeeWee Herman, you're all good.




((munches on popcorn))
 tuloa942
Joined: 2/21/2012
Msg: 49
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/9/2012 3:31:31 PM
I go to restaurants by myself all the time. I take a book or kindle. Better then fixing food for one at home. Unfortunately, I can't do it everyday because it gets too expensive but I usually it the nicer fast food places. Panera, Chipotle, etc.
 ThatGuy1082
Joined: 8/23/2010
Msg: 50
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/10/2012 6:52:17 PM
I have once. I really wanted to see the last Clint Eastwood movie Gran Torina a few years ago. My work schedule wasn't in line with anyone I knew at the time and I just wanted to see the show. It was a good movie and really, nobody in the theater cared, why should I?
 Kohavah
Joined: 4/15/2012
Msg: 52
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Posted: 5/12/2012 5:46:15 PM
Of course I can go to the Cinema alone. However, being a female can get a bit complicated when I have to use the rest room. Everyone knows that females have to enter the restroom in groups of two or more. I simply wait out in the hall, explain the situation to one of the other females who is with a male companion. Then the two of us enter the restroom together being a lookout for the other in case a dangerous Transvestite or Lesbian comes lurking about. Safety first!
 NO_NO
Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 53
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Posted: 5/13/2012 1:36:37 PM
I think 90% of the times I went, I went alone.

I have watch lots of movies on theater, if I were to wait until someone agreed or invite me to go to see a movie, I would have missed many of which I really wanted to see.
 NO_NO
Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 54
Going to cinema alone
Posted: 5/13/2012 1:58:57 PM
Mysticalword wrote;


Those who are self-conscious about going alone can enter the theater after the previews have already started.
Some celebs are known to do this too.


I always try to miss the previews, unless I know it is going to be crowded, the reason being many previews are movies I like to see, and I like seeing movies without nkowing anything about it, or little as possible. If I go with someone, I excuse myself if the previews is still showing, if I go alone I usually bring my mp3 player and listen to music or play a game just to get my attention of the screen and the sound. It hard not to hear the sound, but I never had any memory of anything I accidentally heard from those previews.

I went to watch the avengers with my brother in law, and Hunger Games with my niece, I walk out on the new Spider Man Movie, and Twilight previews. My niece said the Twilight previews was really quick, so I missed a little bit of Hunger Games, she said there were some wrtinen words in the beginning, that is the only thing I missed, as far as I know.
FYI I have no idea of any of the cast in the new Spider Man movie, Hunger Games was the same, but I recognize most actors in the movie, specially the main ones. I had an idea on the Avengers since I watch the other solo movies.

BTW that is interesting piece of information, about celebrities avoiding previews, but I doubt they have the same reason as myself. :p
 chrisshrew
Joined: 6/13/2007
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Going to cinema alone
Posted: 2/22/2014 12:31:50 PM
"You know its a double standard when it comes to going to Movies alone, if a woman goes alone or with another woman, nobody bats a eye, if a guy went alone, most would think he's a loner, loser has no friends etc, if a guy goes with another guy , most would think they are partners.

You really see two guys going to a movie alone, I remember once going to movie with my buddy, this was back in High school and both wore our Football School Jackets, so we look like Teammates going, silly eh?"

Sorry you have completely lost me on that one. Why anyone would be judgemental because it was a man and not if it was a woman is just daft. Most shouldn't care who else was watching, its the film that they have gone to see not other members of the audience.

Going to the cinema has never really struck me as a social activity anyway . You can't talk in any case and unless you go for a drink after to talk about it can you really call it a date? I do sometimes go to the cinema on my own if its a film I want to see but its not something that I feel HAS to be done with others.
 Freeformed
Joined: 8/18/2013
Msg: 56
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Posted: 2/22/2014 4:08:06 PM
Who cares what others think. If you want to go to the movies, then go. You wont see those people again anyway.

I've done it.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 57
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Posted: 2/22/2014 4:28:39 PM
^^Exactly. Going alone is probably better...you can actually watch the whole thing. It's crazy to worry about what people you don't know and never will see again think. Most of them have their own issues and don't pay that much attention to others around them, if anything.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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Posted: 2/22/2014 6:20:11 PM
I can't imagine why going to the movies or a restaurant (or the bathroom), alone is some horrible social blunder. LOL I can't imagine caring what a bunch of strangers think of me. I do a lot of things alone, I do a lot of things with others. What difference does it make, unless you are going some place where you feel unsafe being alone. My only thing is that if it's on a family night type of thing, where taking up a table just for me is a bother, like I don't go out to eat alone during the busy dinner hours, I'll go earlier or later, but that's not because I care if some stranger thinks I'm* GASP!* alone, which I assume means you must not be desirable or some such silly thing.

I often take my granddaughter to the theater, one time about half way through the movie, I realize we were the only people in the room. That was kind of weird but the movie was entertaining and I forgot about the empty theater as quickly as I'd noticed it.

As for women going to the bathroom together, I find that kind of geeky, why do I need another woman with me in the bathroom? And I don't mean just in public, I've known women who want to go in the bathroom in pairs even in their own home. No thank you.
 chill78
Joined: 10/13/2013
Msg: 59
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Posted: 2/23/2014 7:55:39 PM
I have been to movies, bars, restaurants etc by myself. Sometimes my friends aren't available or interested. I don't think it is a big deal. BTW in my experience, there are usually other people alone at these places.
 NJgirl116
Joined: 8/11/2013
Msg: 60
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Posted: 2/24/2014 6:57:17 PM
I go most places alone - restaurants, bars, cafes, museums - that's just how my life is. Movies too.
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