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 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
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"She responded that its none of my business, she doesnt owe me ****, and she will call whenever the hell she feels like it."...THEN you had the argument? at this point, I would have said "Don't bother", and hung up.
 Gertrude13
Joined: 5/14/2012
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My latest dating experience (was I wrong?)
Posted: 5/23/2012 8:40:27 AM



Dating rules to live by
#1 Before sex, no good deed goes unpunished.
If you gift, compliment, put your own life on hold for her, or otherwise kiss a woman's azz before you've copulated with her, she will identify you as weak and needy and will discard you.

#2 NEVER get heavier(emotional) than her.
If you express emotions and feelings towards a woman before she expresses hers to you, she will identify you as weak and discard you.



Oops. There is truth to this, but it's not the whole story...
If I really like a guy, say - after four dates or so - he can't really be too attentive. That start of attraction into something more can be a scary time for females. Trust can be really hard. So, if, in this fragile stage, he waits 3 day to call, I'd likely squelch whatever affection is blossoming, figuring that he's playing games or not really into me, and who wants to get hurt?

The only time I've been scared off by a guy making the first emotional move was when I wasn't all that wild about him anyway...
 RedDelPaPa
Joined: 5/21/2011
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My latest dating experience (was I wrong?)
Posted: 5/23/2012 3:49:54 PM


Oops. There is truth to this, but it's not the whole story...
If I really like a guy, say - after four dates or so - he can't really be too attentive. That start of attraction into something more can be a scary time for females. Trust can be really hard. So, if, in this fragile stage, he waits 3 day to call, I'd likely squelch whatever affection is blossoming, figuring that he's playing games or not really into me, and who wants to get hurt?

Sure. It's more complicated than that. But it's a good start. I wouldn't recommend waiting 3 days to call either. I would call the next evening, and then probably skip a day before calling again. Or have her make the next call. Better approach in my opinion.


The only time I've been scared off by a guy making the first emotional move was when I wasn't all that wild about him anyway...

Makes sense. Allow me to explain my comment further. It's not necessarily about being scared off, but generally when a man lays his emotions on the table first before a woman does, most women find that to be unattractive behavior, and usually causes them to lose some interest. Possibly even all interest. Again, this is especially important in those beginning stages of attraction and relationships. I would say that kind of behavior very rarely helps his cause with his woman of interest. And most often hinders it. Therefore, just don't do it. Be mentally strong and let the woman go first.
 Gertrude13
Joined: 5/14/2012
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My latest dating experience (was I wrong?)
Posted: 5/23/2012 3:58:05 PM
^^^^ahhhh...that makes more sense. Funny how I have a hard time viewing from outside the lens of my own perspective, as it were. I bet you're right, though. I'm likely just a lil more skittish than normal women...

My favorite man ever definitely made the first "emotional" move. We had just talked a bit, and he knew I was really down, and that I had a deep mistrust of males. So he sent me "just haven't met you yet". No message. For valentines day, he wrote me a poem. Funny, snarky, pervy, and sweet. Perfect. He didn't declare his undying love, but he gave just exactly enough to touch me, without pressuring me or making it about him. Lordy, I wish Texas were closer...:)
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