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 Hi_D_1978
Joined: 7/15/2008
Msg: 240
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I ask this all the time made worse by the fact my 3 are asperges. The men i meet just assume i must be desperate for casual ..... Hell no. Or that i want a dad for them. No thanx they got 1 for what ever hes worth. Is it so strange for a man to think maybe i just want to find love like any other human being out there?? But a ready made family is hard enough without the fact my ready made family is a special needs 1. Is there still hope out there for 1 like me?
 AceofDiamonds29
Joined: 12/25/2008
Msg: 241
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:15:09 PM
This man would but I also have children. I'm 29 and am a full time dad. I depends on your situation and what your looking for.
 airesboys
Joined: 11/29/2008
Msg: 242
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:27:36 PM
Well I am a single mom of 4 boys and had no problem. You do not have them meet at first till you are comfortable and then your partner become a friend not a father figure. It makes it more comfortable for all involved.
 dis56
Joined: 1/16/2009
Msg: 243
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:48:00 PM
Well girls, I dated and married a woman that was 35 who had 4 kids! What a mistake that was. Obviously I was thinking with the wrong head. After 13 years years of selfish abuse I finally dumped the 5 ****es. No wonder they have a designation for sucker fish on this site.-jimmy
 smileyeyesf27
Joined: 2/23/2008
Msg: 244
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heres a mans point of view(some men just dont understand)
Posted: 1/20/2009 8:17:18 PM
Kids get use to people and who punishes them and if some guy comes along and they r not the father but ment to be the father figure rushing and trying to do it your way is not a good idea the child needs to be punished the way they r use to the same routine . And changing things just makes things harder on us and the children yes if u have ur own kids you can do it the way you always have ,but when a child comes in to ur life cause u fell in love with there mothers or fathers there are things we all need to understand they are little people use to what there mommie or daddie did to raise them and if we do a dramtic change like this is what we use to do now we dont it will confuse them i know cause my mom did it to me for years everytime a new guy came around his rules went and then he and my mom didnt work and then a new guy and so on and so on i felt like i was being bounced around then i go to my dads and he was so calm and mellow and quiet it was very confusing for me so when a women says please leave the punishing up to me its for the kids sake not cause she is trying to make it all her way and i have dated a few guys w kids i have had no problem with it the more the merrier
 hockeyguy613
Joined: 1/13/2009
Msg: 245
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/21/2009 2:13:31 AM
I think it really depends on the person

I have a daughter so Im kinda living a double standard kinda life. On one hand I hope to find a woman that will both love me and my daughter for everything we're worth but I dont think I would be able to be with a woman that has a kid.

My reasoning's probably go beyond being selfish though. I only get to see my daughter every second week end so I would feel like I was giving another child more affection and attention then my own blood sorta deal.

everyone thinks differently tho so its a verry difficult question to answer and all youre really gonna get is peoples personal opinions on this.
 legalgirlfriday
Joined: 1/8/2009
Msg: 246
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Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/21/2009 6:53:36 AM
Well, long story short. The mother who adopted me died in July, 1977 and left my dad a widower with 8 adopted children. I was 17 at the time of her death with my oldest brother being 25. My dad went through the church stage and then the drinking stage while grieving. I lived in a very small town with 2,000 people and 1 stoplight with 4 bars. One was a bar and grill where my stepmother worked as a cook. My stepmother had 5 children from 2 previous marriages. She heard my dad was widowed and knew he came in the bar every once in a while. My stepmother went home one night after work, changed clothes, refreshed makeup, etc. and drove the 4 blocks back to work to sit on a bar stool and wait for my dad to show up. Good thing she did. 31 years later we are a blended family of 13 children, 30 grandchildren and 18 great grandchildren.
 legalgirlfriday
Joined: 1/8/2009
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Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/21/2009 6:57:48 AM
Well, long story short. The mother who adopted me died in July, 1977 and left my dad a widower with 8 adopted children. I was 17 at the time of her death with my oldest brother being 25. My dad went through the church stage and then the drinking stage while grieving. I lived in a very small town with 2,000 people and 1 stoplight with 4 bars. One was a bar and grill where my stepmother worked as a cook. My stepmother had 5 children from 2 previous marriages. She heard my dad was widowed and knew he came in the bar every once in a while. My stepmother went home one night after work, changed clothes, refreshed makeup, etc. and drove the 4 blocks back to work to sit on a bar stool and wait for my dad to show up and he did. Good thing she did. 4 months lated on April 12, 1978 they married. 31 years later we are a blended family of 13 children, 30 grandchildren and 18 great grandchildren.

And I myself am a 49 year old single mother of a 9 year old autistic son.
 ABOVE AVERAGE MAN
Joined: 5/13/2007
Msg: 248
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 4/17/2009 5:14:07 AM
I have two boys , I dated a woman with two children , We combined them all eventually and tried to make a family . I did not judge or treat my boys better. they in my eyes are little humans with needs too . I believed i loved the mother, and i really believe i loved her children too, I think of them often.We camped we biked, we bbqd .when the ex came for his children there were arguments,I always stood back and listened and allowed her to deal with her family..cause that is what an ex will always be..the outlaw in the FAMILY.
Cant ever avoid them at funerals and weddings.
Any way Step son died at 15 by a drunk driver .yes step son!! he adopted me , cause he trusted me I showed love .women with three children??? just more potential to have even more love .dont have to be the DAD just be the Adult!
 ProdigalSon81
Joined: 1/18/2009
Msg: 249
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 4/17/2009 6:25:29 AM
I'm sure there are men who are willing to date a woman with three kids.

Myself, no. That seems like quite a lot to handle there.
 bigben1731
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 251
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 6/23/2009 10:12:30 PM
no to be honest just to much to handle and alot of guys wont raise another man children then you have the baggage to go with it with there ex and i would rather have a family of my own and thats my opion i would rather pass thanks but im not intrested in single mums they are the last resort place to cate no thanks not my cup off tea
 *Respited*Heart*
Joined: 9/19/2007
Msg: 252
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 6/23/2009 10:12:47 PM
They are far and few between.
 bigben1731
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 253
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 6/23/2009 10:13:40 PM
no to be honest just to much to handle and alot of guys wont raise another man children then you have the baggage to go with it with there ex and i would rather have a family of my own and thats my opion i would rather pass single mumsthanks but im not intrested in single mums they are the last resort place to date no thanks not my cup off tea
 Daddyfish78660
Joined: 4/17/2009
Msg: 255
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 6/23/2009 10:55:28 PM
It would be a privilege to date a woman with three kids. I have three girls of my own, and believe that God gave me the best gift of all: being a Dad. Time to share and nurture her's, as mine are ready to leave the nest for College.
I am age 51 and know my job is only half done.
 jenn8131
Joined: 3/19/2009
Msg: 256
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 6/23/2009 11:16:39 PM
Could we please please stop referring to children as BAGGAGE how about we call them KIDLETS... say I wouldn't want to raise someone else's KIDLETS its the exact same amount of key strokes. So it will not take any more effort just a conscious decision not to use a negative term when describing a children.

I will be the first to admit I have baggage from bad dating experiences just like anyone that has ever dated but my daughter is not baggage rather the best thing that has ever happened to me. You know what after having my daughter I feel less jadded because I got the best gift a man can ever give u -- a beautiful healthy baby.
 jenn8131
Joined: 3/19/2009
Msg: 258
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 6/23/2009 11:47:15 PM
Well my daughter isn't a trunk, isn't a suitcase. With a baby you do have to carry a diaper bag but some women carry more in their purse then what I have in my diaper bag.

Daughter isn't portable equipment of an army...

Daughter has made me realize I need to be the best woman I can be. Because she needs the best mommy I can be. I have to be the best role model I can possibly be for that little girl. I have to teach her to respect people, to be kind and generous and to believe in herself. So she hasn't encumbered my freedom. She's helped my progress and development. You have to be adaptable when you have a child. You have to be able to multi-task.

My daughter has brought nothing but joy into my life it was my ex that made me miserable and I got ride of that 240 pounds of dead-weight. Now he was baggage dragging me down. But my daughter is only 25 pounds much lighter and always makes me smile.

So see the definition in itself doesn't describe a child.
 NorthwestPixelChick
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 259
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/3/2009 6:50:17 PM
I know for a fact that some men will - my ex left me for a woman with three kids.
 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/4/2009 8:45:20 PM
[any man would be terrified of dating someone with three kids who is 37. Would men actually date someone with that much baggage?}

No offense, but the bigger problem may be that you see your kids as "baggage". I am older than you, have 3 kids, and had little problem finding someone to date after my 20 year marriage ended. Take some time to yourself. When you're no longer terrified & see your kids as something besides baggage, you will likely become more attractive. While everyone is entitled to preference, and some men may not be interested in dating anyone with kids, it's about attitude. Good luck!
 hannity
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 263
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:49:38 PM

I know for a fact that some men will - my ex left me for a woman with three kids.


That's a damn shame..Did your ex have kids himself?
 jenn8131
Joined: 3/19/2009
Msg: 264
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:55:47 PM

because I got the best gift a man can ever give u -- a beautiful healthy baby.

Hmmm that's going to set the bar awfully high for the next guy isn't it? How is the next guy(s) going to feel knowing they can never give you something as good...?


If a guy loved me and my child well I really couldn't ask for more that would be the greatest gift. The next guy could give me the best gift ever he could give me another child maybe 2 more and be a wonderful father. I have one child I wanted at least two if not three. After seeing how "some" men view other men's children I really don't even know if I want to date.

I don't want anyone viewing my daughter as baggage or a burden. So the bar is really high for the next guy. I probably won't date and maybe it'll just be me and my lil one which is okay with me. My first priority is keeping my daughter safe and taking care of her needs. I wanted a child because I really wanted to become a mother. It was just unfortunate for me that my ex changed his mind about wanting to be a father.
 wasillaman
Joined: 5/6/2009
Msg: 265
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:22:46 AM
my three children are the greatest gift i have ,, i have all the love a man can ask for ,,
i welcome any woman with children to come and play have fun , join us for soda and cakes .
we make a point of having fun every day , shopping all the time .
yes my life is full and a bit lonely , but i have all the love a man can want.
at 52 years old my heart is very young and wise.
trouble is women my age or younger have, had, or do not want children.
their loss not mine.
 sharptack
Joined: 5/31/2009
Msg: 267
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:02:28 PM
I think a man will! Not every man though will. Having young children at my age CAN factor in the percentage of eligible men whom are interested in dating me. And remember, they have to LIKE ME FIRST and then ALSO like the kid scene. I love my kids and I will always gladly remember them FIRST. It is just sometimes harder to date when one has kids. They are worth it of course!

I know that I have met many nice guys who upon learning that I had small children told me that they thought that given my age they assumed my children would be older, more teen aged or even out of the house at this point. That they had themselves had gotten married young and had kids who at this point were almost grown. That while they liked me and they liked the kids, they just didn't want to "start all over again" with some so young. Of course, it does make a BIG difference in the OP's age and my age. I am looking at another age set of men probably. The younger mothers might have an easier time because a younger man may be more open to being a first time dad or have children that are youngish also.

Good luck and happiness to all the mothers, fathers and children in the world!
 Cool and collected
Joined: 9/15/2009
Msg: 268
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 9/24/2009 3:06:16 PM
I just finished dating a women with 3 kids, the only problem was that she just came out of a 9 yrs relationship 3 months before. I love kids and have none of my own but I didn't care. There was alot more behind the story on her side but if your a guy/or women.. Take my advice don't get to attached to them and don't let her / him introduce you to them right away. I spent the whole spring and summer with them , seeing them once to 3 times a week. I loved her so much, beautiful lady, great kids, then after a little arguement it was all done. If you do something like this, make sure they have there stuff together and you don't do through what i did. Its alot easier for the one with the 3 kids to get over it. But when your the one thats been there for everything from weekly hospital trips for one childs illness, to having to be hidden because of a small town and her reputation. Then it gets hard, trust me. She loses one person, I have to get over losing 4. Just a note from experience.
 InNCsearching
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 269
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 9/25/2009 7:57:52 AM
well...it's going to be tough but there's someone out there for everyone. just remember out here in the dating world is very tough for the single people, just be very, very, very patient and deal with the lonliness and don't date a guy if your lonely because then he'll probably just use you. just be very patient. most men don't want to deal with 3 children but there are some but that requires patience on your part and not going after someone that clearly doesn't want someone else's children. and if you do meet a guy go extremely slow.
 sharptack
Joined: 8/26/2009
Msg: 270
Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/26/2009 1:47:04 PM

Posted By: NorthwestPixelChick on 8/3/2009 917 PM
Subject: Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Message: I know for a fact that some men will - my ex left me for a woman with three kids.

Burn!



sigh....I have 2 of my own and can't get a date to save my life. Course I am too picky.
Hey! Where are all you guys that want to go out with me anyways? HUH?


laugh a little....it helps.
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