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 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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I have it and it's not an easy thing to bring up on a date so I reference it on any dating profile I post for either men or women.

Yikes. I wouldn't do that, any more than saying "I have a 5 inch pen!s," on the profile. I think those things are best kept aside until you meat the person. There are things you can do to combat it, to at least make it less of an issue where you wouldn't have to think about posting it online.

If they have health issues and heart complaints, taking Viagra for example, is risky.

Well, not necessarily. Viagra and Cialis lowers your blood pressure. If you're already on low-blood pressure meds, yeah (it'll lower it too low). Many guys can take 2.5mg cialis (low dose) every day or every other day. Or a regular one on a Friday afternoon to cover him for the weekend. Guys can take L-Arginine, and nitrous oxide boosters (that many guys in the gym take), along with stress-lowering activities, exercise, etc. if they want to go the natural route. Some guys can't be helped at all, but it's a real low %.

I think as one poster said, too many people (women) assume that a guy gets an erection at the drop of a hat. I've heard some girls (late 20s / early 30s) say they get weirded out if they start making out with a guy and he's not hard when her hands roam. Girls do need to understand that (a) When a guy is in a cold pool, his pen!s shrinks, and (b) It takes more than kissing a gal for most guys @ 30+ to get hardons... and no, they don't instantly spring up when he's generally in the mood.
 aremeself
Joined: 12/31/2008
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Posted: 1/31/2016 5:54:36 PM
Soooo.......5 inches is too big…...or too small???/\ /\ /\
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 92
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Posted: 2/23/2016 5:01:46 AM
Well I would like to find a woman that takes the time to prep a guy for sex as I do woman....and as for the ED thing I've even had issues but mostly a mood thing.....woman who **** about this might as well get a toy....and I've given woman stronger orgasms during GOOD oral sex which is my forte.....oh intercourse is great but for those who think wam bam...get a young pup because your as lame as all those viagra commercials....lol.....
 Inner_Gorilla
Joined: 12/3/2015
Msg: 93
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Posted: 2/23/2016 1:08:12 PM

get a young pup because your as lame as all those viagra commercials....lol.....


How about the bathtub. Do you take it everywhere you go? Oh wait, that Cyalis, right.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 2/23/2016 4:54:00 PM
I am up there age wise and just don't bother with men in my age bracket for that reason. I guess that only the younger hotter women will do it for a guy that age, if at all???. Viagra is fine if you are otherwise healthy and then you would not really need it. lol!!

Become a cougar and go for the younger guy but he wont want any sort of commitment or real relationship more than likely. It is a dilemma that many mature people face and they just give up on dating and get on with their lives.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 2/23/2016 8:15:40 PM

Become a cougar and go for the younger guy but he wont want any sort of commitment or real relationship more than likely. It is a dilemma that many mature people face and they just give up on dating and get on with their lives.


Or become a swinger / have an open relationship. LOL. Some men will let their wife have sex with other men because they have ED and can't perform like they used to.
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 96
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Posted: 2/24/2016 1:41:29 PM
Or maybe you’re gay.

Nothing wrong with that.
 Kodanshi
Joined: 9/19/2015
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Posted: 2/25/2016 6:11:33 AM

Excellent response. Why not just throw in those other stupid comments like:
1. Bet you have a small****- that's a popular one these days, or
2. Bet you live in your moms basement.


I love the way it's absolutely fine for women to rag on not wanting to date short guys, but if a man doesn't want to date a fat woman then he's lambasted eternally. Fat people CAN lose weight. Short adults can't grow any taller.

Then again, the way you worded your original comment was quite... curt.
 Inner_Gorilla
Joined: 12/3/2015
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Posted: 2/25/2016 6:41:10 AM

Or maybe you’re gay.

Nothing wrong with that.


Some people are constantly rude to others and entitled when what they need to do is look in the mirror.
 whynottrythis1234
Joined: 2/2/2016
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Posted: 2/25/2016 4:01:51 PM
where would someone get Tadafil in Toronto?
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
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Posted: 2/26/2016 8:03:14 PM
Oh. You didn't know. It's illegal in Toronto. You're screwed.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 2/26/2016 8:26:10 PM

Oh. You didn't know. It's illegal in Toronto. You're screwed.


Don't you mean, you are NOT screwed?
 caballerosiempre
Joined: 12/5/2015
Msg: 102
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Posted: 2/27/2016 12:58:02 AM
I'm guessing the poster meant "Tadalafil" ? generic name , Cialis is a brand name ?
 WHC999
Joined: 2/24/2016
Msg: 103
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Posted: 2/29/2016 9:54:15 PM
Short time lurker (today)...first time poster.
I have type two diabetes and one of the problems that can develop is ED. (I got educated on a lot of the other causes of ED such as scar tissue, trauma to the penis, plaque that forms on the walls of the blood vessels beginning around 40 years old etc... but for MY purposes it was diabetes)
The medicines were working ok....just ok. But I knew as I got older it could become a more serious issue. So, when I was 47 years old I got a penile implant and it has been wonderful. I control when my erection occurs and for how long it lasts. Yes I can still pee and orgasm and everything feels just fine.
So if any of you guys want to be the most popular guy in the nursing home one day ask your urologist about it!
 NJgirl116
Joined: 7/3/2015
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Posted: 2/29/2016 10:49:09 PM

So if any of you guys want to be the most popular guy in the nursing home one day ask your urologist about it!

Uh oh! We girls need to remember too to stay in shape too and keep honing our A game to ahead of the competition for the popular guy.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 3/1/2016 8:38:08 AM
"So if any of you guys want to be the most popular guy in the nursing home one day ask your urologist about it! "

"Uh oh! We girls need to remember too to stay in shape too and keep honing our A game to ahead of the competition for the popular guy."

So what is the female equivalent of a Penile Implant?

http://www.coloplastmenshealth.com/treatments/erectile-dysfunction-treatment/penile-implants/ (The animation made me chuckle. )

Some sort of motorized squeeze box?
 caballerosiempre
Joined: 12/5/2015
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Posted: 3/1/2016 9:22:36 AM
^^

Motorized accordion? LOL..
 SunshineGirl__
Joined: 10/7/2014
Msg: 107
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Posted: 3/1/2016 3:15:31 PM

Some people are constantly rude to others and entitled when what they need to do is look in the mirror.


No sh!t, InnerGorilla.


Perhaps if so many women weren't quite so fat men wouldn't need quite so much viagra?


This guy’s ^^^^ comments are constantly rude and “entitled.” (might want to look that up.) But his problem has been outed in another thread. Passive aggressive doesn’t look so good on you.

“Curt?” most people would call that being an azzhole.

Is there something wrong with being gay?
 woodnymph4
Joined: 2/15/2016
Msg: 108
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Posted: 3/3/2016 1:23:00 PM
^^^^ Where did she go? A little disfunction in the junction perhaps?
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 109
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Posted: 4/24/2016 11:38:54 AM
Had to dig out this thread. My current guy is 50, is in great shape, is VERY attracted to me and is very into me, introduced me to his friends, shows me off wherever we go ....yet can't get it up. At all. Super frustrating and something I've never encountered. Not a good feeling at all. It sucks that I finally found a decent guy, but now this issue. Not sure if I want to deal with that this early in the relationship. I should just stay single, it's always another issue.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 4/24/2016 12:16:38 PM

shows me off wherever we go ....yet can't get it up. At all. Super frustrating and something I've never encountered.

If he's a new (and especially older) guy, it may take a bit for the motor to get running. Intimidation/nerves underneath it all (he doesn't have to at all show it on the surface) plays a much bigger role than you think. Usually this will just make it Not go "schwing!" super quick, but needing a little foreplay to get "it" in the mood -- hence, not even noticed by many as foreplay's in their book anyway. But sometimes it runs deeper than that, and Good foreplay (to his tastes) is required, otherwise he'll be like a sputtering old lawn mower.

Of course it can be worse than that, where intimidation/nerves is just the lid on the can of ED. If I were you, I'd google around and buy some cheap knock-off Cialis overseas. As in one of my previous posts -- younger guys will do it (and only need a piece of the pill)... as it lasts for days. Good for when you drink too much and/or want to go multiple rounds rock-hard-as-nails. It also prevents you from 'coming' too quick, too. Younger guys shouldn't use it regularly though, as your body will get too dependent on it. But for your new guy? Get him some of that. It'll be like he's 25, not 50. If you're already bedding with him, and he's a great guy, it'd be really sad if you say nothing-and-leave and lie about his ED being a problem if asked why.
 TrvstInKarma
Joined: 9/1/2015
Msg: 111
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Posted: 4/24/2016 12:28:57 PM
norwegianguy, the first time we were intimate, he got it up but was done in like 15 seconds, I kid you not. He was very embarrassed about it, and it didnt' bother me too much at the time. But the second time, we spent HOURS in the bedroom, and I tried everything (cuddling, hand, oral, you name it) and NOTHING. I did not make an issue out of it, and if he was embarrassed that time, he sure hid it very well. I was pretty angry and frustrated when I left. Never showed it to him though. And no, I really don't want to buy him meds for this, this is his issue, not mine. He needs to get checked out or whatever and take care of it. We just started dating, it's not my place to fix it for him.

We went out last night, no sex obviously, and he just showed me off like some trophy, which also bothered me. He also talks non-stop, almost as if he is nervous, and it got on my nerves big time. I thought it was sweet that he is so into me, but now I'm starting to feel smothered. Add to that the whole ED, and I'm questioning if this is the right guy for me. I want someone to make me feel good, not smothered and sexually frustrated. I just have no tolerance anymore for any sort of thing that makes me feel uncomfortable. Does that mean I'm ruined for life to be in a relationship, or I just still haven't met "the right one"? I don't know, but being single and just dating around is starting to look better and better.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 4/24/2016 12:42:43 PM

Add to that the whole ED, and I'm questioning if this is the right guy for me. I want someone to make me feel good, not smothered and sexually frustrated. I just have no tolerance anymore for any sort of thing that makes me feel uncomfortable. Does that mean I'm ruined for life to be in a relationship, or I just still haven't met "the right one"?


I would suggest to him to get his testosterone levels checked and to see how low they are.

As for your problem, there isn't any perfect person, and there is no quick meds to take, so maybe you be better just dating around. I dated one woman that was 50 in 2010, she dated around her entire life and is still doing that, so it works for her. I think it can work up to maybe 75 years old.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 4/24/2016 12:42:47 PM

the first time we were intimate, he got it up but was done in like 15 seconds, I kid you not. He was very embarrassed about it

He was like a sophmore in high school losing his virginity. Got it. Shows he can get it up. Nerves is a big factor.

But the second time, we spent HOURS in the bedroom, and I tried everything (cuddling, hand, oral, you name it) and NOTHING.

And after being embarrassed about the first 15-second-boom, nerves got the best of him. You not saying anything about it and it being weird -- ouch. Not saying his junk is in tip-top shape -- it likely isn't of course. But you'd be surprised how much nerves can play a Huge role, when they're not showing nerves either.

And no, I really don't want to buy him meds for this, this is his issue, not mine.

It IS your issue, though. It's not his lawn mower that's acting up -- THAT's his issue. This junk is for you too. It's meant for female use (and tube socks). :) If you're in any relationship, it's about you too. Not talking about it is playing Chicken. You don't have to order it for him, but help a brother out, ya know? Calm his nerves, too. Google around, find some place where it's inexpensive and high mg (cheaper all around; one can use slices of it) -- and let him know that even the placebo effect would probably help. If he was a guy you were just having a 1 night stand with or just a potential FBuddy, I understand just walking. But a guy you really like and are dating? Come on.

He also talks non-stop, almost as if he is nervous, and it got on my nerves big time. I thought it was sweet that he is so into me, but now I'm starting to feel smothered.

His nerves are the main reason for his ED. But I think you're Not liking him because of the ED -- it's not "another problem to add". Not to say he's the pick of the year or anything, but come on. You initially said how great he was but dammit -- that ED! Don't take it out on him. It's too high-schoolish (or petty adulthood) to take something frustrating that's of no fault of said person -- and have it bend the perception of everything to make them bad. It's a natural thing some people will do to have a good excuse to walk from someone and not confront it. They literally will lose interest about Other things that aren't that big of a deal. Much the same as meeting someone out of their league, where things that Are an issue will be seen as non-issues. :)
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
Msg: 114
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Posted: 4/24/2016 12:50:47 PM
Sorry Ms. Karma, I was hoping this one would work out for you.


I have never experienced such a situation so I have no advice in that regard but it sounds like there is more than his ED that is bothering you so maybe it's for the best ? I am sure you will have no difficulties finding future prospective partners so don't give up hope. :)
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