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 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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happy in pink,

are you the cute blonde gal with adorable dogs who visit the hospitals? If so, welcome back!!!. I can imagine men wanting to snare you as soon as but as you say if they are needy, delusional, unhealthy and abusive then it is on them, not you.
 Chromis1
Joined: 9/9/2015
Msg: 44
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Posted: 1/6/2016 8:36:51 PM
Counselor, please approach the bench ...

Yes, Happy in Pink was indeed the cute blond gal with adorable dogs. However, the Court will caution counsel to refrain from further questioning of a witness who hasn't been in the courtroom for at least several years.
 loveisatemple
Joined: 3/28/2014
Msg: 45
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Posted: 1/7/2016 1:10:29 AM
"I just had this experience on POF. I actually found what I thought to be a nice guy on POF. Good educational background, divorced, someone who I thought was very attractive."

(Yeah, its confusing when " decent" men want a one night stand.)Apparently, all kinds of men want casual sex, consequences be damned.

"So we spent about three weeks talking on and off and I ended up going to NC for about two weeks after that (he lives there but I stayed with my girl friend) and met a couple of days after I arrived. "

The 3 weeks talking, gives a false sense of intimacy.

"My friend and I actually had a small dinner party at her house and we invited a friend of hers and my new friend. We all had a great time and my friend and I ended up kissing each other for almost an hour. "

So, you accelerate on the first meet, based on a false sense of intimacy.

"Then he tells me he wants me to come over to his house the next nite (mind you he has a 17-year-old daughter living at home with him). Also tells me I can stay overnite."

One has to wonder if women flying to provide casual sex isn't a thing he does without impunity, no skin off his nose.

"Understand I have been involved with a couple of wacky men and don't really know this guy that well.
I am attracted to him but felt it was not the right thing to do at that point. "

Yeah.

"I did not go to his house and after that he became distant. I think he wanted an instant relationship, too. What do you think?"

He wanted something right then, instantly and it was not a "relationship".
A guy interested in that, continues to attempt to develope a ltr.

A guy just wanting attention for that minute, a reward, is no longer interested, and you live far away.
Who contacted whom? Bad set up for a relationship.

I think, don't fly anywhere, let him meet you halfway, be cautious with strangers, as you have been, and don't second guess yourself
because "he did not seem like that type of guy". He was.

People like that will pretend it's your fault for "not trusting him"/ maybe after you try out the springs on his mattress you might grow on him" but really they just wanted the fleeting experience, and likely didn't value you except as a one time thing, or they would be in touch.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/7/2016 8:25:01 AM
if others found him "Very attractive", then perhaps he's used to people overlooking his potential red flags and flying in to put out. There could be more to this story, but the point for the poster of it is, she made the right choice. and the right choice for each individual is, do only what you're comfortable with.

I once met an online date who planned our wedding on our first meet. As soon as her lease ended, she was going to leave her city of few rentals to live with me and then we'd be married. How nice of her to plan it for me. BUT, it did give me a lot of view of how she was and how she approached life. I couldn't complain about that type of "heads up"
 CallaLily004
Joined: 6/27/2015
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Posted: 1/7/2016 9:43:15 AM

So we spent about three weeks talking on and off and I ended up going to NC for about two weeks after that (he lives there but I stayed with my girl friend)


Being that your profile states that you live in Greensboro, NC... just wondering how long of a flight it was to get to NC??? ;-)
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 48
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Posted: 1/7/2016 10:37:44 AM

swan_spirit
^^^when I sent that message about relocating and becoming Mrs GTO, too soon?
What I meant was lets just marvin gaye....





Let's get it on, let's get it on
You know what I'm talkin' 'bout
Come on baby, let your love come out
If you believe in love
Let's get it on, let's get it on baby
This minute, oh yeah let's get it on
Please, let's get it on
I know you know what I been dreamin' of, don't you baby?
My whole body makes that feelin' of love, I'm happy
I ain't gonna worry, no I ain't gonna push
I won't push you baby, woo
Come on, come on, come on, come on darling
Stop beatin' round the bush, hey
Oh, gonna get it on, threatin' you, baby
I wanna get it on
You don't have to worry that it's wrong
If the spirit moves you
Let me groove you good
Let your come down
Oh, get it on, come on baby
Do you know the meaning?
I've been sanctified, hey hey
Girl, you give me good feeling
So good somethin' like sanctified
Oh dear I, baby
Nothing wrong with love
If you want to love me just let your self go
Oh baby, let's get it on

Damn, Gto, you’re gonna get lucky!!! Color me green with envy!

CallaLily004
Being that your profile states that you live in Greensboro, NC... just wondering how long of a flight it was to get to NC??? ;-)


If there’s anything worse than a blonde, it’s a wisea__ blonde. But then you are cute, so we’ll cut you some slack. But only this once!
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 49
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Posted: 1/7/2016 4:18:59 PM
i'm sorry, I must have passed out in disbelief...what just happened again?

thank you, swan. you just made me smile. and the room got a few degrees warmer :)

as my English Prof taught me, better to be a wise ass, than to be a dumb ass....

 CallaLily004
Joined: 6/27/2015
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Posted: 1/7/2016 4:32:35 PM

If there’s anything worse than a blonde, it’s a wisea__ blonde. But then you are cute, so we’ll cut you some slack. But only this once!


Oh My, Ohenryx…. Then I better hide as I believe my wisea__ - e – ness just appeared again in the “Dating & Love Advice” category. :P :P :P
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