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 CynthiaSM
Joined: 3/29/2014
Msg: 163
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Long-lived threads like this one can be very interesting at times. I posted on this one 2.5 yrs ago, not too long after the final break-up of a 2.5 yr relationship with a man I met through the POF forums. Which was my second LTR met through the forums. When I last posted on this thread I was hoping to find a 3rd relationship from POF but here I am years later and still ambivalent. So I guess my answer is 'yes' I've had a good relationship with someone I met through POF but not confident there will be another.
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 164
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Posted: 11/15/2014 9:49:35 PM
Nope. I met one, but we didn't hit it off. We became friends, but I can only take her in small doses. After that, I have yet to meet with any other. She does tell me about all the others- are guys THAT strange? I knew a few others, (friends of my now ex) that were on here, and they told me stories about all the weird guys they met. I did meet a few of them- they were JUST as screwy as they were described to me. I wouldn't own up to knowing them. What, they saw in them, I have no idea. And I always thought they were pretty level headed. When I started out on here, I thought that it would be easy for me to meet a lady. Women that have known me for years, think that I'm pretty reasonable. I'm still friends with them. If they had issues with me, I doubt that they would call, just to shoot the breeze with me. A best guess is, that I don't present a challenge to most. I'm predictable. (Read boring) Oh well.
 Mentisnow
Joined: 6/29/2014
Msg: 165
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/16/2014 2:39:10 PM
Not myself. My daughter met her husband six years ago, and two babies. They are a happy married couple. She's the one that suggested I get a profile here.
 TerrieLynnC70
Joined: 6/22/2013
Msg: 166
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Posted: 11/16/2014 3:29:21 PM
Nope not at all.........I've been on this site off and on for quite a few years and never had any luck at all..............
 Cycling99
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 167
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/17/2014 6:36:45 AM
No me either... although there is this crazy chaparrita from El Paso I would like to meet... ;-) And if we meet, I still need milk for tomorrow's coffee... Just saying... lmao
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 168
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/17/2014 6:49:38 AM
It looks like POF stands for Plenty Of Failures. I don't expect the site to be shut down because of lack of single people anytime soon.

The problem with any dating site is people are looking for and expecting to find a totally perfect person who happens to live in their area-no matter how much some claim to be looking for someone who is just "perfect for me"-which is a crock of BS. Then people get a stick up their butt when a totally perfect Prince Charming or Cinderella who is meant to be with them (in their minds) doesn't magically fall and land on their lap when they log on to their computer.
 Mentisnow
Joined: 6/29/2014
Msg: 169
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/17/2014 5:01:44 PM
Ay! Forgot the milk for the coffee. On topic, I don't want a prince charming, I'm not six years old. I think flaws come with every human being (dogs, and cats are exempted from this flaw thing) lucky me I'm more mobile than I was a few years back, my kids are grown and can pretty much fend for themselves. I am not bitter, nor do I have endured the hardships of dating, this by my own choice. I can stop what I don't like immediately, so I really don't waste my time and effort. I live an uncomplicated life ( according to me, though that depends on the opinions of those close to me.)

There's this one highly elusive cyclists that lives in a place that's not on my map, that I would really like to have a cup of not so hot coffee, don't really enjoy getting burned specially when I'm bursting into laughter.
 Cycling99
Joined: 10/24/2014
Msg: 170
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/17/2014 5:26:24 PM
You have my number... Stop with the excuses, chaparrita! lol You will be laughing... I will bring Jose Cuervo... lmao Don't blame technology, and let's get it done! UR GPS may not work: I will send smoke signals.
 patchjoker13
Joined: 8/24/2014
Msg: 171
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/18/2014 10:16:57 AM
The real question should be "How many people have even gotten a date on this site?" I wish there was a way to see how many guys and girls on this site never get a single date. I bet the number would blow our minds. I would be willing to bet that out of the hundreds of thousands of people on this site, the monthly percentage of dates generated is probably around 5% of the total number of subscribers.
 Eternityboresme
Joined: 8/20/2014
Msg: 172
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/18/2014 10:20:16 AM
Dates, yes. LTR, not yet.
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 173
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Posted: 11/18/2014 1:11:51 PM
The woe is me is deep in this thread, I'm sure you'd be surprised at how many do get dates, or whatever it is they want from this site. I'm also sure there are plenty who aren't getting dates in real life either. It really doesn't matter what anyone posting has as a score card number, what you are looking for is how it works for you. If you aren't happy here and need to whine and vent, wouldn't leaving make more sense?
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 174
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/18/2014 1:33:13 PM
I met a couple of guys from POF in the past that were okay but nothing special. Had more success with another site and the standard seems to be higher there. No names.....
 averagewhitechick
Joined: 8/28/2014
Msg: 175
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/18/2014 1:47:16 PM
I've been on POF for 7 years and have yet to have more than 2 dates with anyone I've met. So, yeah, anyone who has some magic dust they can toss my way it would be appreciated lol But all the guys I've met are still here too -- I guess they just weren't looking for me :(
 purplerider1200
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 176
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Posted: 11/18/2014 8:03:08 PM
You're far more successful than I. You've had two dates with any one person? I've only met one in 4 years. Wouldn't we make a grand advertisement for PoF?
 Onyxbutterflies90
Joined: 10/14/2014
Msg: 177
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Posted: 11/19/2014 7:24:00 AM
POF is a tool, not a magical wand. If you only contact people who find you unattractive, then you won't get any dates. The fact you find people attractive that find you unattractive isn't POFs fault. All it could do was give me a medium to meet men I wouldn't meet in real life.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 178
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/19/2014 9:50:26 AM
"POF is a tool..."

I better check my toolbox for another tool that might work better or sharpen the blade on the tool that I'm using. I wonder if using power tools would help.
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 179
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Posted: 11/20/2014 1:19:39 AM
^^^^ I'll regret this later, but post a picture wearing your tool belt. That might help.
 melissa0607
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 180
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Posted: 11/20/2014 12:37:33 PM
I have been meaning to pop on here and give an update on my situation for quite some time. This thread seems like the perfect opportunity.

I an engaged to someone that I met on POF. Christmas will be a year that we have been engaged. We have had ups and downs but I wouldn't trade him for the world. It is probably the best relationship I have ever been in. The funny thing is that when we first started emailing, I decided that I wasn't into it, I blew him off for about a week and then thought about it and got back in touch with him. Then he backed off. Then we finally talked a bunch on the phone and he was scared to meet me. I was the first (and as it turns out, the last) person that he met online. Then when it was really time to meet he sent me an email saying that we should just be friends and that he wasn't ready for a relationship. We talked a few days later and went back to talking everyday. Finally met a month after we started talking on the phone and have been pretty much inseparable since.

It blows my mind that after all the times one of us almost called it quits that he's the one I am going to marry. Makes for a cute story though. :)

Best advice, keep an open mind. You never know what's going to be until it is. Happy fishing to all of you.
 Iam_RFSF2014
Joined: 9/4/2014
Msg: 181
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/20/2014 12:41:17 PM
^^ Congratulations Melissa0607

Nice story in general and also to illustrate that although there are 'best practices' (related to OLD) that people may want to follow, things can (and do) work out even if you don't follow the prescribed path.

It sounds like you both had doubts and a bit of back and forth, but keeping an open mind won the day!
 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 182
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Posted: 11/20/2014 4:32:19 PM
A few, yes.

Messages this short may not be posted, though!
 QT4one
Joined: 11/2/2014
Msg: 183
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/20/2014 6:24:39 PM
I have to say for the most part NO I have been on here on/off for 4 yrs. It's the good, the bad and the ugly. I have made a few male friends that I still talk to. We had a few dates, no chemistry but good conversations.
 Yamanu
Joined: 7/9/2014
Msg: 184
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Posted: 11/22/2014 12:12:05 PM
I've had the same with moving to real life and a man becomes a poofer.

Likewise, I haven't been able to meet or something doesn't feel right and it seems wise to not meet.

Sometimes poofing or disappearing is easier than saying something negative and both are rotten...honesty sure is best.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 185
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 11/22/2014 12:26:58 PM
There's a part 2 to the question: How many have found a good relationship with someone from POF and deleted their profiles from POF and all other dating sites they were signed on to? This wouldn't be able to be answered if someone deleted their profile, so let's change the question to: Why would you want to keep a profile on any dating site if you're in a relationship?
 mike11091
Joined: 8/25/2013
Msg: 186
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Posted: 11/22/2014 12:50:27 PM

Why would you want to keep a profile on any dating site if you're in a relationship?


When I met my LTR from POF, neither one of us bothered to delete our profiles. Not because we thought it wouldn't last. Just...never thought about it. I never cared if she had hers still up or not and, since it's purpose was fulfilled, just forgot about mine.

Lady I'm dating now likes to read the forums with me...so...
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 187
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Posted: 11/22/2014 1:43:18 PM
Why would I want to keep a profile up on a dating site if I'm in a relationship? I have no idea how many dating sites I might still be on, I don't use them anymore, wouldn't have the slightest idea what my username was on any of them much less my password and I don't have any clue as to if they are even still there. Not that I'm in a relationship now, but if I were to be in one, as long as POF has the forums, I'll still come here and read them and comment on things that interest me. As I've said many times, I'm perfectly able to not cheat, to not flirt, to not be in a situation where cheating could somehow sweep me off my feet. If that doesn't work for someone I might want to date, then I understand, we all have deal breakers, but yes, I will be here on POF not messing around, I like the forums. If I did stop coming here, I still probably would not take down my profile, to each his own. You can believe what you want, I know what I'm doing...and not doing.
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