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 Oh_WOW_What_A_Great_Guy
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 106
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This list sounds like my ex... I think this is bang on the money folks!!


1. Blaming
2. Excuses or a pattern of "little lies"
4. Escapism/fantastical thinking
5. Oppositional or Defiant parent/child past relationship complaints (A need to secrecy or a sense of wanting to "be naughty" as opposed to being an open and honest woman... wanting to place you and herself into potentially compromising positions so that you "prove" your love to her)
6. Miss. Perfect whatever you are looking for, she claims to be.
7. Low Emotional IQ (low tolerance for frustration or not getting her way)/ Egotism/sense of entitlement


 masterotaku
Joined: 7/20/2012
Msg: 107
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/17/2012 11:23:57 PM
In my experience people (or at least women given they are the ones I have experience with) will project their own fears and jealousy along these lines towards you. I have been accused many times of this, and it has always been the accuser who ended up getting caught doing it.
 Phil_an_derer
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 108
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/19/2012 9:18:57 AM
They are called cheaters for a reason, because they can get away with it and did get away with it....
The only sure way is to rip out their heart, if it still beats he/she was a cheater....
 geekymister
Joined: 7/7/2012
Msg: 109
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/20/2012 10:33:02 AM
Have a hot friend try to seduce them. If they're seduced, then they're a cheater.
 greenIsis777
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 110
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/20/2012 7:24:41 PM
look at your beliefs and expectations about being cheated on. that is the only way you will stop attracting cheaters
 boaterguy7
Joined: 5/24/2011
Msg: 111
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/20/2012 7:39:39 PM
If you find it, please let me know.
 mark777771
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 112
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Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/20/2012 9:52:46 PM
good luck. Unfortuneately you have to take a risk. No guarantees in life. Get to know them better before you bed them down might help. Guys cheat, gals cheat. Evidently there is more and more of it going on. Hard to find good genuine people. Good luck.
 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
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Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/21/2012 3:16:54 PM
Not effective but there are some clues. Never wants you around only when they say so, sneaking around, tells you they have to leave early even when you had a great time, hiding cards, paranoid about cell phone and you seeing the number, won't let you use cell phone if you need to, won't let you use their computer, paranoid if you happen to see their mail on the table, doesn't want you to look at pictures on his dresser or fireplace, watches you like a hawk and follows your eyes to see what you are looking at, accuses you of snooping, flirts with women in front of you, doesn't want you to meet his friends or family, doesn't want you to meet anyone he works with, never wants you to meet his family or go to any family events or grandchildren events. Embarrasses you in front of people, is very controlling and jealous of you because he is the one cheating not you.
It is hard to catch a cheater. They are usually good at their game. Just be honest with them when you get some proof because they lie and confront them about it, set boundaries and then break away no matter how hard. You can't change anyone but yourself.
 blkknightx
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 114
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/21/2012 9:14:39 PM
Well said Motown....

90% of cheaters are on a time constraint! They only have a few hours here and there, they always got something to do or somewhere to go after....these are the ones that are easy to figure out. The other 10% you can never sniff out cause they have a green card. These guys with the green card.... their partner never asks questions just accepts. The guy can leave in the middle of the night, talk to women on the phone or be gone for days. I heard of a married couple where the man never sleeps home on Fridays and she never asked where he goes and this has been the case for years.

But here are some quick signs to look for :

1) You never get invited to his house
2) You never get his home phone number just his cell
3) He txts you at night but never calls
4) He never can sleep over your place or you his
5) His weekend visit are non existent or very short
6) Dates are cancelled alot and alot at the last minute
7) His reasoning for all the above does not make sense
8) He wont add you as a friend on FB eventhough you been seeing each other for a while

*The biggest sign is when you get a call or email from his partner ;)
 OCRebellion
Joined: 2/8/2011
Msg: 115
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/21/2012 9:48:32 PM
To add to blkknightx list:

- He is always going to/from somewhere when he calls
- He always pays cash for things
- If the two of you do something that requires a credit card, he asks you to do it and then pays you back
- He accuses you of some level of cheating (frequently)

In all honesty, a cheater isn't all that hard to spot. We just have to see the truth for what it is and turn off the blinders.
 cashleys
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 116
Is there an effective way to weed out cheaters?
Posted: 9/22/2012 5:02:15 AM
I would say NO! People are selfish, and seek to do what makes them feel good at the moment, not too many people care that much about others first or if they hurt them. But, will say if cheating on you is the worst thing that happens to you with someone, count yourself lucky.
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