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 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 45
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trust me, i put plenty of energy, creativity, attention into our sex. That's why i suspect it may have been an excuse/cover for something else she didnt want to talk about. I have never used my inability to CUM as leverage for anal sex


Dude, what do you think you are doing right now. YOU ARE using your inability to cum as your excuse, and shift the blame to her. Perhaps you are the only one that does not see it. But you are.

There are women like like and love anal. There are women that tolerate it on occasion. There are woman that simply hate it. It is painful to them and it simply does not jive with their anatomy.
You as a guy can reach orgasms in any number of ways. Do you masturbate? Do you reach an orgasm when you do so? If you can do that, then you can achieve the other and the rest is just b ull shi t.
 josdar
Joined: 6/24/2011
Msg: 46
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 6/8/2012 7:56:50 AM
increasingly difficult to get off with a woman, now leaning towards anal... Is this some sort of coming out party ?? I can not imagine telling a woman that, never mind posting on a dating site..
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 47
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 6/8/2012 8:45:30 AM

60:YOU ARE using your inability to cum as your excuse, and shift the blame to her. Perhaps you are the only one that does not see it.

OP is not "the only one that does not see it." I don't see it either. I don't see excuses. I don't see blaming.
 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 48
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 8/11/2012 2:23:46 PM
Be more creative. Can.u cum on.her?. Are her tits big enough to hold u tight? If her ****'s not tight enough. Don't say that. Can u put dildo in her ass? Or thin one in puusy with u. Or try a vibe in there. An egg vibe is good. Ill bet u'll. Cum lol. And she'll. Cum hard prob. I don't know her. But u both wanna have fun. And I totally agree w others. To loosening ur solo grip. Maybe lube will help that
 HowRJ
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 49
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 8/11/2012 4:36:43 PM
Just get the Fleshlight with the anal attachment......problem solved......
 hotmerlot
Joined: 2/25/2012
Msg: 50
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 8/11/2012 9:58:47 PM
I think you prefer anal sex and you made that statement to your partner to be manipulative.

I can stay hard but I can't get off???

Really.. I"m not buying it. You want what you want and you are delaying your orgasm to make her feel bad so that she will do what you want.
 _Full_of_Awesome_
Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 51
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Posted: 8/15/2012 12:16:28 PM

I think you prefer anal sex and you made that statement to your partner to be manipulative.

I can stay hard but I can't get off???

Really.. I"m not buying it. You want what you want and you are delaying your orgasm to make her feel bad so that she will do what you want.


Actually, I have had that same problem on occasion. Some times I just last forever, which isn't always a good thing.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 52
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Posted: 8/18/2012 12:09:12 AM
SOILED BY ANAL...sorry, but thats the first thought that jumped to mind....just a play on words & no contribution with an opinion..hope someone giggles though ;-)
 tronvillain
Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 53
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Posted: 8/18/2012 9:03:28 PM
I personally love anal, and generally get to have it on a regular basis, but it has never "spoiled" me. Of course, I have never found anal to be "better" or "tighter" to any significant degree, just different. Perhaps it is just that you find anal especially exciting (forbidden, exotic, "dirty" or whatever it happens to be to you), and that makes it easier to cum?
 tronvillain
Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 54
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 8/19/2012 12:34:24 PM
What? Perhaps if you are higher end porn star huge, she is completely inexperienced at anal, and you just shove it in there, but a normal healthy anus is definitely capable of being penetrated without damage or severe discomfort as long as it is done cautiously and with plenty of lube.
 sassyscorpiochick
Joined: 9/29/2010
Msg: 55
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 10/22/2012 9:38:04 PM
My guy sometimes says he's spoiled by oral. He has a hard time getting off sometimes . I've read about it on here before. He waits for me, and I take a long time. He says if he waits, it makes it harder to cum. It doesn't bother us. I like that he lasts a long time.

I can always get him off from oral, but sometimes he says not to, that he would rather just wait. He knows if we do it later, I'll tell him to just go for it, and not wait for me. He can get me off later too. It's all good.

Has this always been your problem, like you've never gotten off unless it's anal? Not even with oral?
 AngelofHonesty
Joined: 1/4/2012
Msg: 56
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 10/24/2012 9:47:45 AM
I look at it like this if a guy can't CuM, that's his problem not mine....really doesn't mean I'm not sexual enough, or I'm an inadequate lover, really it means that he needs to research his issues. I'm a giving lover, enjoy my man busting his nuts, but hey it's not my fault if he doesn't. And I will say, there's nothing wrong with being spoiled in regards to anal, I'm spoiled in that department too, I love to lick a man's anal hole, and love it when he f.cks me in mine keeping in mind he doesn't it with care, I actually Cum more when he plays in the backdoor.....the only thing I can say is that if both partners aren't aboard the back door than a conversation is due, but the anal is a beautiful experience if the people involved are in tune....damn I'm wet just thinking about my next anal encounter.....Thanks see what you have done!!!!
 ARTSYLADEEEE
Joined: 9/7/2011
Msg: 57
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Posted: 10/24/2012 4:17:05 PM
So what you are saying is that you are concerned that you didn't finish, but don't care if she did? Sounds like this is all about you.
 seafoodandeatit
Joined: 12/23/2011
Msg: 58
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Posted: 10/24/2012 4:31:08 PM
SushiGirl1: I think your right.
 B01605
Joined: 1/20/2013
Msg: 59
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Posted: 2/11/2013 5:41:15 PM
Try spending more time on the foreplay with her kissing, rubbing, sucking, licking, and you can even try her lubed hand while her mouth is busy elsewhere. That should increase your tension to cum long before you get to the pumping stage inside her. Don't be too quick to penetrate...that's where most guys fail to please HER! As for the anal, obviously she's not into it and maybe you pushed the issue too hard.
 ImJustSomeF_nGuy
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 60
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Posted: 2/11/2013 5:56:53 PM
i dont think its a womans place to comment on a man reaching orgasm because a mans climax and a womans are two different things.. ours is absoloutely paramount to existence and if it cannot happen then thats a problem..

myself lately i have been having the same issue i am only 30 and seem to be able to knock the door down for hours on end but to me personally hole number 1 on the average female does not feel as great as it used to.. as well anal is not the answer either its ok here and there but for the most part i would have suggested kegels to the lady friend because with time all muscles become weak when not worked.. and kegel yourself i found it makes it easier to get where i am going then before i started..
 ImJustSomeF_nGuy
Joined: 8/25/2011
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Posted: 2/11/2013 6:00:54 PM
i believe all women who have children should kegel because i have never been with a woman who had children who felt fantastic that didnt kegel and im not small in the packaging department.. and maybe i have spoiled myself with more women than the average man but when comparing a 19 year old with no children to a 38 year old with 3 or 4 there is a vast difference in stimulation.. so ladies kegel and men make sure you knock her socks off to make it feel like you are worth the effort to keep that thing tight :)
 kalllz12
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 62
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 2/12/2013 2:01:44 PM
anal is the best
 ToddMuskoka
Joined: 12/31/2012
Msg: 63
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Posted: 2/12/2013 2:23:29 PM
Anal sex can be great if done right. Is it easier to cum that way can't say I found that. The advantage with it can be the fact that it is different and maybe a little taboo. As for being spoiled I doubt it.
 demux21
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 64
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Posted: 2/12/2013 2:30:42 PM
I have only heard of his with a guy that was Bi. He could finish with guys but not women unless it was anal. To each his own. You need a committed relationship to deal with this. Casually tryig to be full filled seems difficult as the only women I know who enjoy anal are in lomg term relationships or not people I would casually want to have anal sex with.
Its not an age thing its a desire issue. Good luck. Be safe!
 demux21
Joined: 1/7/2013
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Posted: 2/12/2013 2:35:13 PM
Who are you guys sleeping with? Never sealed the deal with oral? Wow. I guess I am fortunate. Try 2 women, it works very well.
 inkibaludo2
Joined: 3/17/2013
Msg: 66
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 4/19/2013 5:27:24 PM
My best advice would be to go see a professional therapist (sexologist to be more precise if we're going to use grown-up terms).

You'll get a thousands different points of views and answers in a public forums. I am neither a medical expert, nor a sexologist, nor a psychologist or psychiatrist and neither are the majority of the people on this forum.

You should take these questions to your doctor or a sexologist. Simple as that. Easy to do. Get up, go see your doctor.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 67
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Posted: 4/21/2013 1:58:15 AM
i didn't read all the posts so I don't know if I am repeating advice.

Cialis works.

Quit smoking weed, It softens your boners.
 ponkman
Joined: 7/19/2013
Msg: 68
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Posted: 11/18/2014 6:50:40 PM
Just wanted to say that you are very wise..read your responses on several subjects, and you are spot on everytime!
 SD2131
Joined: 7/29/2014
Msg: 69
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Posted: 11/19/2014 3:02:38 AM
I suggest you try Viagra or Cialis to seal the deal.. That way, you can stay long and hard for hours...
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