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 stephon3748
Joined: 4/20/2012
Msg: 110
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The first women I ever had sex with used me for sex only cause I was a virgin at the time of course. I ended that relationship because of the fact that I had a problem with it ones I realized that was all she was after.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 112
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 7/22/2012 5:13:22 PM
Actually a more mature man does not want casual sex a lot with a woman who gives it cheaply, at least not for long.
Using each other physically is ultimately empty with nothing else going on. It is the fantasy of the man who rarely gets that offer.
 1975giggles
Joined: 12/24/2011
Msg: 113
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 7/22/2012 7:39:49 PM
Maybe he likes you alot and wants more out you then sex
 Zoe_
Joined: 7/5/2012
Msg: 115
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 7/22/2012 8:37:17 PM
shoot for alpha males
 HappyRocker
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 116
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Posted: 7/24/2012 2:36:23 PM

shoot for alpha males .


Hah ha ... I love to watch pretentious pseudo-intelectual women use terms when describing men such as "alpha male".

The term "alpha male" is (correctly) used in biological terms to describe some herd animals. It would never be used (by the educated) to try to describe much more complicated carnivore and certainly never hominids.

Herd animals usually have relatively uncomplicated social orders where the males usually remain away from the breeding age females and calves until breeding season. The males are all beta males during this period. During breeding season the males group with the females and start accumulating "harems" to breed with. If they manage to accumulate a "harem" and fight off all the other competing males their genes become dominant in the next generation and for THIS reason only they become "alpha males.

Beta males also get to mate sometimes by "slipping in" while two alpha males are fighting or otherwise distracted. But their genes are less dominant in the next generation ... although their prodgeny are probably more "creative".

Now given this .... girls ... do you REALLY want an alpha male ... a greedy philandering agressive and usually while physically gifted tactically deficient partner?
 Smokee42
Joined: 7/12/2012
Msg: 120
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Posted: 7/29/2012 6:00:28 PM
That is nicely put.. Sex is just that.. Sex but the connection is so hard to find. Who wants a one night stand just to be in the same situation the next day. Happiness is where it's at and that is what I think most want.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 121
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Posted: 7/30/2012 5:40:59 AM
yea............... go ahead and use me
 sassie09
Joined: 3/12/2009
Msg: 122
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Posted: 7/30/2012 12:33:05 PM
You know I thought it was just younger men or when i was younger that happened, however men say one thing and do another just to get laid. :)
 lady_love1
Joined: 10/20/2012
Msg: 123
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Posted: 11/5/2012 11:02:36 AM
Either he has feelings or its a power/control issue. Men are used to calling the shots but when they see a strong woman going after what she wants they feel weak. They feel less masculine when women are bold and go after what they want. They expect women to catch feelings and be clingy..and when that doesn't happen they question their masculinity. They are rigid in their gender roles. Being confident in your sexuality and dominant like that, you probably attract the more submissive/emotional men
 Loyalethegreat
Joined: 4/19/2012
Msg: 124
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Posted: 11/5/2012 8:54:00 PM
That's because in all reality he either has feeling for you still or trying to use the opportunity to respark old flames
 secure49
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 127
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/6/2012 6:11:13 AM
Some what true, but we always like the great sex anytime of any day........
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 128
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/6/2012 9:30:48 AM
nope not one bit ..loves me an aggressive woman who knows what she wants ..but just be true-full about what it is you want ..if it is just sex ..great we can both use each other ..however I hate being lied to..dont profess feelings and then use me for sex ..no one male or female likes to be played
 dartmouthjames
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 129
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Posted: 11/6/2012 9:40:18 AM

So, do guys secretly not like just having sex like they always reckon they do.
Sounds like more "woman logic" trying to justify one thing with something else entirely unrelated. Yes, if you lie to a man they might get angry. There's probably more details you aren't telling us, which is fine.


Becuase they tend to get an attitude after.
Then there's more to the story then what you're telling us.

What's the psychology behind that?
That there's probably more to the story then what you're telling us, or that you may be aware of.



Can't you just act like normal, don't have to get all snotty and pish posh afterwards- chill out.
I can and all of my friends can. Sounds like you should chill out and maybe become more aware of the world around you.
 BeingaLady
Joined: 11/18/2010
Msg: 130
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/6/2012 1:42:33 PM
Yes they hate it! There was this guy who wanted me for so long n we met n did suff... Then after that the only time I called to texted him was wen I was horny n wanted to meet up after few times he started acting the same he was like how abt let's be friends we don have to want sex to meet up :) so everytime I was horny he wouldt meet up lol
 dartmouthjames
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 131
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/6/2012 1:51:02 PM
Actually yea, I do hate being used for sex! Can't we just be friends and flirt and stuff but then not have sex ever?
 BeingaLady
Joined: 11/18/2010
Msg: 132
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/6/2012 2:02:43 PM
Hahaha finally a guy who says he hates it lol
 darringreen
Joined: 5/16/2012
Msg: 134
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/7/2012 10:25:50 AM
hell no,If both parties can keep their mouths closed,then enjoy
 Brodigy
Joined: 10/26/2012
Msg: 135
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/7/2012 10:27:40 AM
Women either just roll over and go to sleep after or they jump out of bed and drive home - no cuddling, no spooning.....SNIFF , SNIFF
 wildlifelover79
Joined: 8/15/2012
Msg: 136
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/7/2012 10:55:03 AM
In a way I do! I don't have sex with a woman for the sheer fun and joy. I get automatically attached to a woman once I had sex with them.
 Brodigy
Joined: 10/26/2012
Msg: 137
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/7/2012 10:59:23 AM
^^^^^^ Another victim of Oxytocin !
 bigprime
Joined: 8/1/2012
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Posted: 11/7/2012 6:43:32 PM
I love a woman just called me for sex because when I get there it's on and poppin but you can't just Golden Gate your stuff off I want to make sure she called me back for more I'll give it to her the way she wants she has to come at least 5 * before I go i love it
 _Meta_Man_
Joined: 7/2/2012
Msg: 139
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/7/2012 6:49:22 PM
I am tired of being used as a boy toy...and then once we do it they want it more and more and more and more....

It ends up defeating my confidence in women and my self respect. No thanks.
 eattoplease55
Joined: 10/22/2012
Msg: 141
Do men secretly hate being used for sex
Posted: 11/8/2012 2:21:10 PM
LOL....You must not have a life.....cept talkin on this thing.....as for FWB....as adults I would think If YOU want that YOU must know how to get it......do woman like to be treated that way?....absolutely!....everyone has quirks and yours must be dumb questions....go figure!
 davidtrainerread
Joined: 5/19/2012
Msg: 142
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Posted: 11/9/2012 10:03:44 AM
Happened to me and While not realizing it at the time, (I did enjoy the time I spent with her) I hated it when I realized it.

As much as sex feels good, having sex within 30 seconds of getting to my place really has caused more issues for me than I realized.

That's my shame and my problem sadly.
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 143
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Posted: 11/12/2012 1:20:35 PM
* I Hate When That Happens!! *
There's nothing more disgusting than a beautiful woman that wants to use me to Paint her Tonsils....
4 or 5 times a day!!!
It's always distracting me from doing _Important_ things!!!
Like Vacuuming , Cooking , Laundry , and Especially the Dishes!!
How Entirely R U D E ! ! !
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* CHORTLE!! *
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