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 tjl503
Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 26
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It's just one of those stereotypes that will never go away. If a guy sleeps around it's ok and if a Woman sleeps around she's labeled a whore. Some things will never change.
 saveta
Joined: 4/23/2012
Msg: 27
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 3:14:37 AM
LathaMath comments on my post: [I merely like sex] with
[Okay, liking sex doesn't make you a bad girl. Loving sex makes you a bad girl. Craving sex makes you evil. So the more sexually aroused you become the badder you get. When you start mumbling bad words and then screaming nothing intelligeable at all, that's evil. Pure evil. You are the "done thing".]

I wrote I merely like sex, not I just like sex. I like sex. Love it. But this does not make me bad, evil, or whatever. Liking/loving/craving sex doesn't imply good, bad, nice, naughty, or anything else. It's a statement of fact.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 28
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 3:43:32 AM
So.......you do think there are "Bad Girls"......they would be the ones that have "no shame in expressing their sexuality" outside of YOUR defined parameters.

You seem to be jumping from one side of the fence to the other here.......



Yep.....and I will continue to speak my mind in whatever way I so choose.
Just as you will continue to promote/defend casual sex for more risk taking women,than I.
 Happy Dude 63
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 29
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 4:13:48 AM
Men and women deal with the "deal" of sex differently.
Most men want women to be sexy....HOT and all these mental and emotional desires we have for you ladies. BUT, we,GUYS, (not all mind you), want to totally control, how,when and whatever else we can think of about you being sexy. What is hot for one guy may be different for the next.
Some guys want "us" as a couple, to show off your sexiness. some want to hide it only for ourselves. In most cases, guys who place "sex" as a factor in a relationship are making a mistake. And those guys judge you on how you act sexually. So once a guy gets what he thinks he wants OR worse get s rejected, he judges you SOLELY on that emotion. SEX. Which as we all know is an emotion that, pardon the pun, comes and goes!



I feel attraction,communication,trust,fun and all those similar relationship connectors lead to desire/passion and intimacy. And when that is present then it is not just sex, it is more.
Then there is no games,or battles of who is in charge or if there is honesty in giving ones body to the other. There is total trust. Which creates a real bond...and should eventually lead to love. Then that is when sex is so amazing!!!
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 6:49:34 AM

Yep.....and I will continue to speak my mind in whatever way I so choose..

Speak away........but rest assured when you speak out of both sides of your mouth the only one you are
making to looking "bad" is yourself.


Just as you will continue to promote/defend casual sex for more risk taking women,than I.

I do believe you are the one that loves to remind us you screwed your man on the first date (and moved him in..).
so who's the risk taker here?

I do not "promote" casual sex.....I merely state that it is a woman's choice to act on her sexuality.
Which is exactly what you stated in your first post in this thread.....
before you jumped the fence and decided to set your boundaries (that you didn't follow) as a guideline for all women.

How can you state
And you can throw out the word "slut" to boot as a way of shaming woman into curbing thier sexuality!
when you, yourself, are basically saying any woman that is having sex outside a committed relationship is "bad" ????


UH OH.....an assertive "bad girl" is on the loose on POF!

wannabe bad girl maybe.....like I said...."those that can't are the ones most judgemental of those that do".
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 31
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 7:15:11 AM

I do believe you are the one that loves to remind us you screwed your man on the first date (and moved him in..).so who's the risk taker here?



Umm...I didn't screw him on the first date....I blew him.And because I wasn't looking to hit it and quit it,
and we were both looking for a LTR,he was separated and miserable sleeping on someone's couch...yes,He did move in very fast.And yes,I take risks that I don't have to answer to you about.

I KNEW you would call me out one way or another for my past posts in regards to women who have casual sex.
I WORRY ABOUT THEM.....emotionally and physically.But are they "BAD" HELL NO!

I do believe exactly what I said and live by it for my own personal reasons.
I don't consider ANY WOMEN to be ' BAD'.
Not to mention,I don't have commitment issues or intimacy issues so I actually enjoy being with one man who I know loves me and whom I love.Am I better than others? No.I just do what works for me!
And why is it so wrong to promote meaningful relationships?


Why not enjoy our sexuality within the safety of the arms of a man who actually CARES about us is my contention.
It's not about GOOD OR BAD,it's more about being self protective.To me,it's about having some sort of healthy boundaries that help protect ourselves emotionally,sexually and physically.

I live within MY defined parameters and that simply means that I do not have casual sex or put myself in positions where the definition of a relationship is too blurry for me to know where i stand.I tend to believe that sex should have SOME meaning other than instant gratification for both sexes.
Archaic,in this day and age,I know.

Other woman can take THAT risk all they want to and still not be considered "BAD" in my book and really what does MY opinion mean to YOUR life?
God, I am tired of explaining myself to YOU!!!!!!!!!


50,000 people STILL get AIDS yearly,not to mention ALL the other STD's that run rampant.
If that risk is WORTH getting off to some......all the power to them!
'Bad' is a moral judgement that has nothing to do with a woman's sexuality.

GOOD JUDGEMENT comes from having been down the casual sex route in my youth and found it left me feeling badly about myself, not to mention having put myself and my health at RISK and it triggered my childhood sexual abuse issues to boot.We all have reasons for why we are the way we are and for whatever reason,you are in perpetual defense of your own lifestyle.Why?
Relax already.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 6/5/2012 8:46:38 AM
My lifestyle??
I'm in a committed, loving relationship having the best sex of my life.....
oh you mean the fact I had a FWB for many years and had sex with him, and only him, without moving him in or committing my whole life to him.....
oh yes, I'm such a bad girl!!

BTW......why do YOU feel the need to explain yourself to me?
(when in truth it's is the rest of the forumites you feel the need to explain your behavior to......)
I'm just the one pointing out your (and anyone else's) inconsistencies!!
seems your the one being defensive about your choices (btw, I wouldn't know those choices if YOU hadn't told the whole forum world about them)

anyhoo........noone gets to decide that their parameters are what defines good or bad for someone else.
 charlieusn
Joined: 10/27/2010
Msg: 33
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 8:52:34 AM
I don't think women who like to have sex are bad girls. I love it when a woman is confident enough to make a move on me. For some men the "Bad Girl " label goes to women who like sex , just not withn them, the old "sour grapes " thing.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 34
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 9:22:31 AM
hearton64, I am not sure what to call certain women's behavior, so slut seemed like a good term at the time, just like some men are manwhores, but I like as$hats as a pejorative myself.

But maybe you have a better term?

What do you call a women that I was dating, we spend the whole day together, every date we have sex, and I am sleeping overnight at her house and in the middle of the night she gets a phone call, goes out for an hour to blow the guy, then comes back to sleep with me? And to make my point even weirder, she tells me she has never gotten an orgasm from sex.

So what do you call this sort of behavior?

I never thought of her as bad, more like a women with no soul that takes all the pleasure out of sex. Whatever you call it, it is not healthy. She was emotionally dysfunctional, but that has such a clinical feel to it.

People are so used to society condemning normal sexual behavior that no one wants to label some behaviors as dysfunctional.

Some men & women use sex for reasons other than pleasure / enjoyment / bonding.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 6/5/2012 9:42:54 AM

Some men & women use sex for reasons other than pleasure / enjoyment / bonding.

most definately.....
some use sex as a commodity to get a relationship.....
some use sex as a means to feel "desired"......
some use sex as a way to get even with some percieved act against them.....

I won't say those people are "bad".......but in serious need of mental counseling on how to feel better about themselves and how to get the things out life they want without "using" their sexuality to get it.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 6/5/2012 9:59:12 AM
sex, sexuality, sex drive, is a huge part of the human condition
it is really a very important part of who we are as individuals
so no your not any kind of 'bad'
you at least know something about who you are!
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 37
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 10:22:39 AM
please be very careful ladies ..as heart and others have said these are the first signs of a guy being narcissistic .. any guy who has a healthy mental outlook will appreciate a woman who loves sex..any guy who dont will show other more controlling demeanor later on
 SecretSub
Joined: 11/10/2011
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Posted: 6/5/2012 10:27:27 AM
It's not that we THINK they're bad girls.

It's that we HOPE they're bad girls! ;)
 akanova
Joined: 8/14/2011
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Posted: 6/5/2012 10:53:31 AM
I guess it's the same mentality in a lot of men with the equal thoughts of if the girl had more men than that guy had more girls then she must be viewed as less that the average woman.

Personally I have a bit more respect for a woman if she is upfront and honest in how she loves or hates sex. Being honest to yourself is the key, why hide it, and if a guy feels uncomfortable with her expressing so then that's their problem that any women doesn't need to spoil her day.
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 40
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 11:47:08 AM
And some people are so afraid of commitment and intimacy,they learn to self protect by compartmentalizing
love and sex so as to avoid getting hurt as they have in the past, and then look down on people who don't compartmentalize,by claiming they are healthier for separating love from sex.I find it sad,not bad,that these people both men and woman,can't handle feeling anything beyond an orgasm and call it evovled.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 6/5/2012 12:17:50 PM

And some people are so afraid of commitment and intimacy,they learn to self protect by compartmentalizing
love and sex so as to avoid getting hurt as they have in the past, and then look down on people who don't compartmentalize,by claiming they are healthier for separating love from sex.I find it sad,not bad,that these people both men and woman,can't handle feeling anything beyond an orgasm and call it evovled.

Show me where one person has said they are healthier or better than someone else for separating love from sex..........
If it is "right" for them........why does that become an issue for you?
Maybe.....just maybe, it is their choice to only have a sexual relationship without the romantic commitment.....
why do they have to be "damaged" in your eyes to make a choice that is right for them?
Not everyone needs/wants a daily commitment to someone, and just because you don't understand that does not mean those people are uncapable of feeling love.
Just because you were so needy to have moved in a man you just met, sure as fuk doesn't mean the rest of us are!!
(See.....I can make assumptions too!)
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 42
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Posted: 6/5/2012 12:57:43 PM
Pretty sure you have mentioned that you had "SEX" on the first date with your man on several different occasions.


Oral sex is sex to me.I didn't realize I needed to clarify that it was one sided oral on him.My bad.



Yea, you do NOW because your in a LTR with someone.....there IS no reason for you to have casual sex NOW.


I was married for 24 years and went without sex more than I had it and then separated and spent a year alone without sex before I went out on a limb with my first date.And I didn't even get off .So in reality,even given the chance to get laid,I chose to wait for someone who might actually want more from me than sex as I have serious issues with feeling exploited sexually thanks to my own childhood sexual abuse.

I also have a problem with either sex who see's people as a mean's to an end sexually speaking because of what happened to me as a child,a teen and even throughout my marriage which happened to exist in a meaningless sex mode.

But for those of you who can handle it,all the power to you.

Perfect way to claify what men like Jaimes.I think you are onto something there.
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 6/5/2012 12:59:59 PM
Men think women who like sex with several different partners all the time are bad girls.

Men think women who like sex a lot are good girls!
 baldguy500
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 44
Why do some men think women who like sex are bad girls?
Posted: 6/5/2012 1:15:05 PM
funny why people actually care what others think of them....the so called good girls are hypocrites...the so called bad girls are very good girls that other women hate...the haters are all hypocrites who put on a happy face everyday while they're crying inside.
 yesreallyitsme
Joined: 6/2/2012
Msg: 45
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Posted: 6/5/2012 1:18:43 PM

If it is "right" for them........why does that become an issue for you?


Yep thats it in a nutshell. I totally agree!
 HeartOn64
Joined: 5/31/2012
Msg: 46
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Posted: 6/5/2012 1:33:38 PM
It's not an issue for me.I do what I think is best for me.That's all I was saying.
You made this into a way to judge me like you claim I am judging others.
I never called anyone out personally and put them in thier place as you have me.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 47
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Posted: 6/6/2012 10:32:24 AM
Since when is "liking sex" a euphemism for being promiscuous? Hell,
promiscuity doesn't necessarily even indicate an enjoyment of sex.
 AlchemistAdam88
Joined: 3/27/2012
Msg: 48
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Posted: 6/6/2012 11:19:01 AM
Actually the mentality of this whole thing goes WAY back. In western culture and religious beliefs with Adam and Eve it was the Woman who became tempted in the garden to eat the forbidden apple of knowledge, and then tempted the Man in doing so resulting in the downfall of humanity to what we know of now. I'm taking a psychology elective class and this topic was brought up a few days ago. Due to this story or event....whatever the case set this in the back of the minds of all people in our unconscious mind, back where it exist but we never really think about it since it's deemed "norm" this is what was "told".

In the East the first original Myth created was similar to the story of Adam and Eve before it had existed, it's argued to be the "original" but again no one really knows. The Epic of Gilgamesh. In it's variation the God in the story was a Woman a Goddess, and during that time Women were the ones that were symbolized as more of a value than man. Fast Forward a few 1000's of years later and the story drifting towards the West over time the variation changes to what we now know of Adam and Eve. Who knows what it would change in the next 1000's of years to come.

Anyway without going too off topic...the mentality is really due to society and word of mouth. Look at the advertising in media alone and you can see it. When I say the word sex symbol which pops into your head first a man or a woman? Back in our heads we ALL know the story of Adam and Eve, and she was the one that brought the fall of man to Earth and something so drastic is looked as wrongly and "bad". This is why Men and Women when they hear of someone who has more of the excelled appetite for intimacy and demonstrates or expresses it open and freely it's looked at in such away as "bad". For a Man not so much, but when you hear of a Woman all hell breaks lose. It's because of what we constantly are being told planting seeds in our minds indirectly! It's just the way the world is due to society. Look at advertisements alone! The media knows this and uses it. Even in Porn an industry driven by sex, it's not the man that is selling it it's the women who actually gets paid a lot more than men, and are more iconic. However things change...not going to happen in our time, but maybe in the next several millenniums sure.
 cassand
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Posted: 6/11/2012 6:10:28 PM
i love woman who love sex what u ppl talking about ???
 cassand
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Posted: 6/11/2012 6:10:38 PM
i love woman who love sex what u ppl talking about ???
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