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 the27thletter
Joined: 1/28/2012
Msg: 6
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Well, the first thing I have to say is that 3 months is quite a while! I was getting to the point with the guy I am seeing about asking him if we had crossed the line into Boyfriend/Girlfriend Land after 1 month. This week he introduced me as "my girlfriend" to his friends, and I texted him on it. I told him that I'm happy to know and that I'd change my facebook status if I had an active account.
I don't check his POF account. I sign on here now solely for the forums. He has never asked me about it. I'd be more than willing to tell him about it if he does. Honestly, I'll probably offer the information at some point... I'm pretty direct with stuff. I don't feel like coming here is wrong, so there's nothing to defend.

If you're curious, you should ask him. There are different ways of wording it. My approach would be something along the lines of:
"I really like my time with you, it's looking like it's working out and I'd like to be your girlfriend if you'd want to be my boyfriend."
 joe_226
Joined: 11/19/2011
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How long do you date before you become exclusive?
Posted: 6/7/2012 9:05:21 AM
I agree with all that say...you should have the "exclusive" talk with him. Communication is the # 1 key to any relationship...if it doesn't exist, then there is no "relationship". However, if I may suggest hun, do not "assume" that since he's still logging onto this site, that his interests are still floating around; Many people, including myself, keep in contact w/friends on here and/or enjoy reading & posting on the forums here...and that's all the activity there is. I would "ask" him though if he's "keeping his options open" on here though.
Good luck & God bless ;)
 StraylightRunn
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 8
How long do you date before you become exclusive?
Posted: 6/8/2012 5:38:37 PM
Exclusivity? As soon as both parties agree to it.
 quelinda007
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 9
How long do you date before you become exclusive?
Posted: 6/10/2012 6:37:29 PM
Good idea ;) lol!
 quelinda007
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 10
How long do you date before you become exclusive?
Posted: 6/10/2012 6:50:00 PM
So , I had the "talk" with him about being exclusive. Everything went very well. We both are on the same page as far as not dating other people and have the same goals relationship wise for the future!
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