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 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 158
Advice on getting responses from good looking womenPage 7 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)

In which case it simply boils back down to how fussy they are when it comes to choosing what they determine to be "above average". The bar is set so high it would give most Olympic pole vaulters a second thought. It's worse when you notice they don't even look at your profile, i.e. they don't appear on VIEWED ME. I mean that's just typical of them really, somehow they're able to tell instantly whether someone is right for them simply by a tiny thumbnail picture (as they appear smaller when not on profile itself).

Tell me about it, and you wanna know whats funny is, i remember when i did have pics up and a well written profile, i had no luck (which is usual) Anyway, in that "About leagues" thread, some posters accuse us of whining and claim we only chase super models (Which isn't the case) I only chase those i think are decent looking. Even average looking women on here are so nit picky on a guys looks. Women not as visual as men? B.S! lol.

Also the another double standard is when women complain, thats ok but when guys complain, its whining. Funny how women get away with so much.
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 159
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Posted: 5/21/2013 9:23:15 PM

Also the another double standard is when women complain, thats ok but when guys complain, its whining. Funny how women get away with so much.

I have never encountered that double standard in my experience as I find almost every time a gal complains it's belittled or dismissed in as either nagging, b*tching, pmsing, or overreacting. Funny how you seem to think gals can get away with so much. I'd like to live in such a world as in my country, America, it seems gals are heavily criticized, hated, and held responsible and accountable for actions that aren't their own such as being told how it's their fault that they were raped, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed, or abused.
 Meeting_At_The_Crossroads
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 160
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 12/12/2013 6:36:02 PM
The attractive gals are NOT going to go looking for you. They don't have to...

This was only thing written in the About Me section of a very good looking gal living in Alberta... "Doesn't matter what I put here because if you like the photos you are going to message me anyways."

Nuff said??
 naysaying_knicktwist
Joined: 11/19/2009
Msg: 161
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 12/13/2013 4:41:05 AM

Advice on getting responses from good looking women


Be a good-looking man.
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 10/8/2013
Msg: 162
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 12/13/2013 8:28:10 AM
If you want to be noticed by attractive women, you need to stick out from the crowd. I used to get so many messages every day, and when I logged on to read and answer some of them, new ones kept coming in by the minute, there was just no way to keep up with this. It took me several hours just to read through the oldest ones, and many times the guys got PISSED that I didn't respond to them right away and started flinging insults at me - WTF????? I became a subscriber just so I could hide my profile and be able to catch up with older messages without being bombarded with new ones the second I logged on. The guy I"m currently seeing stuck out because of his mesmerizing eyes and a bright red shirt he was wearing in his profile pick. He got his foot in the door so to speak, and during our convos he was very polite, non-pushy, not creepy, sounded intelligent and he NEVER started any sexual innuendo (that would have been the kiss of death for me). Of course, he also met all of my other criteria, but I might have overlooked him just because of the sheer amount of messages I used to get. Heck even now that my profile is hidden and I stated I'm no longer looking, I STILL get messages from the hundreds of people who messaged me before (I believe once you've talked to someone, they can still see your profile even after it's hidden).
 GJBrown
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 163
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 12/15/2013 7:35:50 PM
1 man's good looking is another man's butt ugly!
 dahlingdarling
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 164
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Posted: 12/27/2013 7:25:22 PM

Just so you know, girls here on POF are more picky when it comes to appearance that they are IRL. IRL you can use your charm, wit, and intelligence to make up for what you lack in appearance. So IRL go ahead and approach an "attractive" woman. If you actually have something to offer, they will usually give you the time of day. Here on POF I have been shot down by some pretty "attractive" women. However I don't let this bother me, because I have had more "attractive" women IRL show positive interest in me than a lot of the girls that don't give me the time of day here.


LMFAO @ this. Amusing how it's being more picky about appearance for an attractive gal to turn down an average guy...yet nothing on the average guys pickiness for wanting a much better looking partner. Male logic is so funny and exactly when I tend to feel no sympathy for guys when they whine about gals income standards.
 forumiteinca
Joined: 12/4/2013
Msg: 165
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 12/27/2013 8:28:06 PM
Lie to them and tell them you are a billionaire (similar to Aston Kutcher in Two And A Half Men). Women aren't stupid. The looks might fade with time, but the money makes it all worth their while.

On the same vein, let them think you are very rich, very old and have a weak heart...
 notwhatyouthinkatall
Joined: 2/2/2012
Msg: 166
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/13/2014 9:02:11 AM
Why dont you tell me why i get no responses then.

Is it because its obvious i dont have trouble in real life. I feel that online daters are all just people who have admitted defeat and are ready to settle.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 167
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/13/2014 9:28:16 AM
hot people--ie ,the ones who dress as though they know they are hot, and are showing it off to get favors that make their lives so much easier--know they can get sex more often than most people. so, coming at them with body language that clearly says, "boy, I'd sure love to have sex with you" doesn't offer them anything they haven't seen elsewhere this week.

so, what else do they want? do they want someone who's fun (part of being fun is, not making demands)? someone who's loyal? can speak intelligently and enjoy creative activities? someone who goes to the "see and be seen" cool locations and do the right drinks and drugs?

offer 'em what they want. maybe you'll just become a friend...or maybe not.
 ramon2005
Joined: 3/16/2014
Msg: 168
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/13/2014 3:38:09 PM
Well if you want to get responses from good looking women, here is my advice, put some pictures on your profile that imply that you have a lot of money and wait for your inbox to flood also change the amount of money that you make a year to a somewhat high number Or you can lower your standards and go for the less good looking ones. It's all about the money. This really unattractive guy that works with me won a million dollars on the lottery, suddenly all the women even the ones married in my department were trying to find out if he was single or married. A friend of mine hook up with a hot chick at a club when she saw the car he was driving suddenly changed her mind and when home with a guy driving a Mustang instead. So my advice, make a lot of money and get yourself an awesome sport car and you will have all the hot women you want
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 169
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/15/2014 4:19:16 PM
If you messaged the hot girl, so did every other guy. Either be the best or you lose. That's it. That's online dating.

If looks matter to you, then look offline. They're typically not approached anywhere near as much on as the girls on here. The reality is you are not going to get the hot girl on these sites. Occasionally, someone gets lucky, but most of the time, someone better comes along and she forgets you exist.

And ramon sadly has a good point. Since so many girls on these sites are single mothers, seemingly almost every girl on here, money will get you some hot gold diggers.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 170
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/15/2014 8:12:15 PM
Better photos might help get a few more positive replies from attractive women.
 The_Duke_of_POF
Joined: 5/27/2012
Msg: 171
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/16/2014 2:01:28 PM
Put up a picture of a male model.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 172
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/16/2014 2:14:54 PM

Put up a picture of a male model.


Standing next to a Ferrari.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 173
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/16/2014 7:10:31 PM

My actual tips for messaging hot babes:
-Don't mention or imply sex. (Ever really, but be comfortable about sexuality.)
-Brevity.
-Humor.
-Be congruent
-She's hot. So what. She knows she was born that way. Notice the other things about her that you think are valuable and point them out.
-There's a lot of lame hot girls out there... so your entertaining words will be your most powerful tool.


The content of the email doesn't matter that much. Unless a man writes something that is clearly crude. Such as sexual remarks. The pictures are the most important thing. Followed by the profile. A good profile might make the difference when a woman finds you to be borderline attractive.
 jessebunnies
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 174
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Posted: 6/17/2014 8:01:59 AM

The pictures are the most important thing. Followed by the profile. A good profile might make the difference when a woman finds you to be borderline attractive

This is correct in my opinion.


messages are absolutely crucial. If you don't build a real connection and make her feel comfortable in the messages, you'll never meet her.

As SouthCity said pictures are the most important. Followed by the profile. I won't even open a message if I don't find the person attractive. I will open a profile and read it if I have some interest.
For me it goes like this:
1) profile pic if I find you attractive I will read your profile. If not this is where it ends
2) view profile
3) Open message. I've responded to "hi" "hey" "your pretty" messages before. If I find you attractive I'll try to make it work. Later on yes it's important to build a real connection but.... if your pictures and profile suck you will never get the opportunity to build such a connection.

You have to remember that most attractive women receive any where from 50-100's of emails a day around here. Therefore when your inbox looks like it's a full time job conservation of energy is required. Those whose pics aren't attractive messages/profiles don't even get opened. Just being straight forward here.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
Msg: 175
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/17/2014 8:17:25 AM
Become a good looking guy:)
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 176
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/17/2014 7:43:10 PM
I totally disagree with this statement. Have you actually pulled hot women off of POF and met with them? I have and the messages are absolutely crucial. If you don't build a real connection and make her feel comfortable in the messages, you'll never meet her.

Profile content doesn't matter much. Brevity is fine.


I was referring to the initial email not being that important. Like JesseBunnies said, if a woman doesn't like your photos and/or profile, she may not read your email. If she does like photos and profiles and sends you a positive reply, then the quality of the subsequent emails might determine if you can get a date with her.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 179
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/29/2014 10:06:33 AM

Good looking guys suck bc they do same exact thing they toty ignore u , use u only for sex or treat u like a crap so lay of women bc good looking guy won't give me time of a day so they are doing same exact thing


The better you look, the more options you have. Like I pretty much said in my post, you have to be perfect. There is ALWAYS going to be someone better that comes along. Like me, I make great money, have my own home, car, money to go out and do stuff, treat girls with respect... But then someone fit is going to message her, or someone who owns his home instead of rents. And that's just how POF works. You're going to get what you're looking for.

In your case, you're looking for the type of guy who can bang any girl he wants, when one that's willing messages him, he's going to forget you. Don't cave for them. That's just reality though on here. You have to leave no room for someone else to get that person's attention. Once that happens, they're gone, only returning if it doesn't work out and you were the best choice of what's left.
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 180
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/29/2014 11:45:45 AM

Good looking girls want good looking guys.
From what I hear some of the more mature ones want the whole package, good character + a nice personality. Looks fade as a man ages...
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 181
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/29/2014 11:47:17 AM
There are always exceptions, but generally, as looks go up, so does maintenance. The question you have to ask is, "Do I really want a high maintenance trophy wife? They are no fun long term (won't work). Just because a woman is beautiful and breathing does not mean she's good relationship material.

By the way, do you know what's good about marrying an ugly woman? - if she ever leaves you, who cares?!
 TrustInKarma
Joined: 2/14/2014
Msg: 182
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/29/2014 11:57:37 AM

Good looking guys suck bc they do same exact thing they toty ignore u , use u only for sex or treat u like a crap so lay of women bc good looking guy won't give me time of a day so they are doing same exact thing


This has not been my experience at all. The good looking guys were the nicest, most humble ones. The average ones seem to have a chip on their shoulder and they seem to want to make up for their shortcomings by being extra "tough" or whatever. Also, good looking guys know they can have any girl they want, so it's not a challenge to them anymore, and they actually like it when they meet someone they click with. Average guys, when they finally land a woman that is, in their perception, "out of their league", think this is too good to be true and they seem to need other women in their sphere as a "safety net", when things with the "hot woman" don't work out. Again, this has been my personal experience and those of my attractive lady friends who are dating online.
 Mensches
Joined: 6/26/2014
Msg: 183
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/29/2014 4:18:09 PM
Funny you mention this I did this as an experiment years ago and for my text in my "about me" section I had blah blah blah.. down the entire page and in a span of 10 mins I had 10 girls tell me I sounded so interesting and that we should hang out and get to know each other better.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 185
Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/30/2014 11:08:23 AM

I feel that online daters are all just people who have admitted defeat and are ready to settle.

Really?
So why are YOU here, birching about getting no responses?
Nobody is defeated enough to settle for you?
Cindy O
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