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 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 4
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Echoing Dino, I always had a cell phone (via work) for a long time, and I for the most part only used it for work (they're paying the bill for my job, not for me to chat).

My current job 'decided' after me being there a year or so that they wanted everyone to 'transfer their cell phones to their name' (which included a whole new year contract), and they'd cover "$40 for the 450minute plan" on an expense report, "because people are running up charges for personal calls" (in a year I'd used it about 3x to call, after a late (8pm+) night in the office, to order a pizza on the way home when I was like 20 mins from the pizza place). I declined to put it in my name, they 'threatened' to cancel it, and I said 'go ahead'... "but what if we have to reach you?"... um, well, if it's that important you'd pay for a cell phone wouldn't you? They bugged me for months, and did finally cancel it.

Since then, I did get a cell phone a few years back - after my Dad was rushed to the hospital for emergency angioplasty (heart), but that number only my family and a few really close friends have (my boss at work has it, with the understanding its only for 'the sky is falling' serious emergencies). A 'girlfriend' would certainly get it, but not right away, and it'd annoy the hell out of me if she was constantly calling my cell phone multiple times a day.

My life isn't tethered to being in constant contact with the world - if I go on a hike with friends, the cell phone doesn't come, I'm out to enjoy time with friends and nature, not be enslaved to my phone (nor does it if I run to the store real quick, or any number of other things - I will take it on longer trips in case of car trouble, etc, but knock-on-wood haven't used it for that yet). Believe it or not, there *are* other things in life than being a slave to other people ('jumping' when they call) and there was life before the internet could be strapped to your hip 24/7.

In fact, quite honestly, I find the constant texting and need to always have someone available "instantly" a symptom of the "instant gratification" society, that I really don't want to be a part of. If that's a reason to not have a relationship with me, well, then that's fine with me, because its not something I would want either.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:03:17 PM
My opinion on the matter is, that you ought to be terribly grateful that so far, you have not stumbled into any Temporal Warp Anomaly Fields, which might have transported you back t0 1980 or so. You would have been alone, owing to your apparent inability to imagine how to engage with someone who is not electronically linked directly to you at all times.

Past that minor observation, I can find no special reason for this thread, since what you happen to want or need on an individual basis, does not require anyone else's approval, in order for you to be perfectly able to stick with it.

Of course, that's pretty much the way I think of anyone's peculiar "deal breakers." You make your choices, and you accept the consequences, in the form of a reduction in the number of possible mates you might manage to get on with.

Simple arithmetic.
 imrrc
Joined: 5/20/2012
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:27:57 PM
just a few comments about cell phones. I am 50, and for years an answering machine/land line was great. Got a cell phone finally in 1997. It was cool, and I still use one plenty. 3 things about them have come up in conversation recently.

first, a friend asked me what the one thing that is wrong with cell phones. I answered correctly. No privacy.

second, I have had people call, then call again, and then text and get mad that I am not answering. My response? I do not have it attached to my head. I may be outside doing some yard work and don't want it getting dirty, I may have left it in my car. leave a voicemail, that is what it is for.

third, before cell phones, we relied on landlines and answering machines. When we talked to someone at work for example, said we were going to meet at a certain time for a beer, we did it. responsibility and dependability.

Cell phones seem to take over some people's lives. Amazing how they alter our schedules. Change our lives enough that you really can't sit down for a 'breather' at the end of the day and decompress without it ringing. Nothing worse than talking with someone and they keep getting texts and responding. And the only thing they say in the conversation is "I'm listening".
Do they still make pagers? As for someone that doesn't have a cell phone, if you meet one, I am sure you will figure out how to communicate. Their work phone, their home phone machine, and email.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:29:37 PM
^ Remember back when answering machines, if you had one, were rather expensive and used tapes? And if you called someone and they weren't home you hung up after 10 rings (if they didn't have a machine) because they probably weren't home? And if they were home and on the phone, you got a busy signal and knew to call back later? (And the person on the phone didn't get a 'bleep' or any other signal you were calling).

I miss those times - people were far less impatient, didn't expect you to interrupt your call to talk to them, drop everything to text them back immediately, etc...
 trh1268
Joined: 2/26/2007
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:33:07 PM
What ever happen to the days of talking on the home telephone? Are those days over? I see now from my experience on this site, females prefer IM or texting - why?
 imrrc
Joined: 5/20/2012
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:49:23 PM
it was a lot easier, and I told my son that one day, if someone doesn't answer in 10 rings, they either aren't there or don't want to talk. And there was no caller ID. I remember moving to the south in 1970, lived just outside the city limits and we had a party line. My grandmother paid a couple hundred to Ma Bell to run a couple miles of line, and she was then called "the rich New Yorker" who wanted her privacy.
 leanco
Joined: 12/7/2006
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Posted: 6/13/2012 1:16:28 AM
I've never had a cell phone, don't want and don't need.

I've also read that some women would not date a man without a cell, on the assumption that he's either married or worse, can't afford one. If I get rejected like that in real life, I would probably thank her for not wasting our time.

As far as communications being more difficult as the OP puts it, I think it's exactly the opposite. So many people involve themselves with idle chatters and mindless texting that real conversations no longer stand out. I wholeheartedly agree with Message #6, which pointed out that cell phones promote speaking without thinking, and the false sense of being 'plugged in'. Also Message #8, where the poster spoke of responsibility and dependability. Yeah, it seems so many people these days resort to their cell phones to overcompensate their lack of punctuality, or to just simply be "fashionably late".

Not a cell phone wouldn't be a deal breaker to me. Quite the contrary, she may even be a gem.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 11
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Posted: 6/13/2012 5:42:31 AM
While I have a cell, I only give the number out to people I have met and actually liked.

I dont sit on it and respond to texts and calls within minutes, unless it was my job trying to reach me. I have a seperate alert for when calls from my job so I know right away.

Many men dont like that.

Im not a dog on some leash that needs to be tethered.

The men who insist on me texting them constantly are not the type of men I like anyways so it is no loss to me if some dude demands I use a cell and I dont comply.

I prefer to live my life, seeing the people I care for and speaking to them directly. While the speed at which we can communicate these days on these tools we now have is great, it is not how I live day to day. I have dated and would again date a man who didnt have a cell, if I were still looking. There really isnt anything that cannot wait til he is at home on his landline. I dont have 'emergencies' on a regular basis that I need to communicate because I lead a stable life surrounded by non drama kings/queens...and the men I like best live a similiar lifestyle, so there just is no need to text each other constantly.

Also, many folks are coming to the realization that the cost of a cell is not worth the value. If a man chooses to dump his cell and go back to just a land line, I applaud the notion of cutting back expenses that are not needed. Too many people have cell phones and cannot afford food. Tell me how that makes sense.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 6/13/2012 8:38:56 AM
I don't have a landline.
I have a cellphone.
I can't imagine not having a cellphone.
I don't text, and I don't have tons of people calling me.

I also can't imagine being without a computer or debit
card, or a car.

But that's just me.

I like technology. I like living in the here and now.

It might not be a dealbreaker, but personally, I like being
in touch with people I'm close to. I like to know I can get
a hold of them in an emergency.

People who are attached to their phones and text non stop
give everyone with cellphones a bad name. Of course the same
could be said for people that are on their computer 24/7.

Not for me to judge.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 6/13/2012 4:04:18 PM

Only old people don't have cell phones now


Probably cause old shiats still know what the word "communication" actually means. One of the major problems with cel phones nowadays is people don't know how to "plan" as well, cause, well, they got a cel phone and any "emergency" supposedly can be quickly "solved" by a quick call. How about thinking and planning before heading out the door????? I'm stunned at how many times I have workers with their phones to the ears instead of "working". Everytime I ask em what's up(thinking an actual emergency happened) they tell me the wife forgot to tell them to pick up something or just forgot to mention,well, something.

And to let ya know, my kid,at 21 shuts her phone off for a weekend every once in awhile,cause, already she is getting tired of the constant contact and so called communication with phuck all actually being said. Just a bunch of noise sayin nuttin. BUT,,,,she's told is always sooooooooooo very "important". It ain't,cause she's still alive.
 BigSwede34207
Joined: 5/18/2012
Msg: 18
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Posted: 6/14/2012 12:00:01 AM
GIVE 'em HELL ...AH !!

I had a CP back in 02-05 ... and I got tired of being "on-a-leash" .... " how-come you didn't answer your phone ...I know you have it with you " ...type garbage. I had just turned-it off. Sure it can be handy ... but I value my privacy more.
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:35:22 AM
I have not owned a cell for 8 years except a pay as go for emergency purposes for trips....Cell phones are beyond the borders of lamedom...
 trh1268
Joined: 2/26/2007
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Posted: 6/14/2012 4:57:01 PM
For those ladies who feel men should have a cell phone: STOP ANSWERING THE CELLPHONE AND SHUT IT OFF ON FIRST DATES! to me that is a dealbreaker. Are you here to get to know your date or answer every call on your cell phone?
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 21
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:17:24 PM
If the woman is really hot, I would date her even if she does own a cell phone.
 Doc_Sage
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 6/15/2012 7:16:09 PM
No cell phone and no text message. I carry a cell phone during my working hours. When I am off, you may reach me on my land-line. Just leave a message and I will return to you. I also have an Email address.

Why must I have a cell phone if I am always with my lover? Physical communication rides circles around any cell phone. It come with awesome 3D video, is interactive and we can touch each other. Try it, you will like it.

Again. Why have a cell phone? Do you need your mate to make all your decisions. I trust my partner and I know she will make the right choices.

Doc Sage
 lynney
Joined: 3/16/2006
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Posted: 6/15/2012 10:45:16 PM
I have a cellphone....and sometimes it drives me nuts. That's when I remember to charge it. Or even remember to bring it with me.

So no, not a deal breaker. In fact, I think it's refreshing to run into someone that cares about their phone as little as I do.
 Sillyandserious
Joined: 11/16/2011
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Posted: 6/29/2012 1:13:29 PM
People shouldn't look at the 'Pay as you go' plans as bad. I have an awesome 'pay as you go' plan...unlimited minutes/ unlimited texts/ unlimited data (on a very sharp) smart phone. I pay $45 a month. I don't have to 'add' minutes. I am on an auto pay system so i never have to be bothered with that stuff.

To anyone this would bother:
Go ahead...count me out for having a cheesy-azz 'pay as you go' plan...but I am laughing at that fact you are paying twice as much for for less benefits.
 Apostrophe7
Joined: 1/3/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 6/29/2012 6:58:28 PM
Not a deal breaker for me. I would never date a cell phone.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 26
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Posted: 6/29/2012 9:27:36 PM

CraicIrish2: does anyone remember Tiger Woods?..... "doesn't own a cellphone?" .......maybe afraid of getting caught the same way he did.....I find it very suspicious when a man doesn't own a cellphone.......I am now looking to meet new people because I ended a relationship of 8 years after I discovered txt messages on his phone......BTW the txt messages were from someone he met on a dating website!


I find that hilarious - so Tiger got 'caught because of his phone', but its 'suspicious if a man doesn't own a cellphone', but she dated one that she 'discovered txt messages' on his phone... from someone on a dating site. Sooo... the two men she used as examples who *did* own cell phones were cheating - and that leads her to believe someone who *doesn't* own one must be hiding something??

.. and, wait... if he didn't have a cell, probably carrying on those 'relationships' would be a lot harder, he wouldn't be available all day every day for all those other women, and wouldn't be sending them phone pics of his 'privates', or them doing the same with him, etc... yes, very suspicious he doesn't have a device with all those 'features' he could use to cheat.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 6/30/2012 7:25:17 AM

browneyesboo
I don't have a landline.
I have a cellphone.
I can't imagine not having a cellphone.
I don't text, and I don't have tons of people calling me.

I also can't imagine being without a computer or debit
card, or a car.

But that's just me.

I like technology. I like living in the here and now.


+1, with the exception that I do text occasionally. And by occasionally, I mean less than 10 a week on average. Text messages are very handy for that quick, "Running late, see you at 5:30 not 5"
 LittleLisa03
Joined: 5/6/2009
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Posted: 6/30/2012 2:24:14 PM
I used to be someone who was very dependent on my cell phone... but within the last 3 years haven't really used one at all. I moved to a new area for school & decided to focus more on my studies - I ended up just getting one of those prepaid phones. To tell the truth, I haven't put any minutes on it for about 6 months & its kind of nice not to have to jump up every time it rings, or run across the room to read a text message.

However, I am open to talking on the phone if it were the only way to communicate... but I'd rather just talk in person.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
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Posted: 7/27/2014 2:07:03 PM
I would LOVE to meet a single woman (that I was attracted to) who did NOT have a cell phone!

Love it!

Problem is, there probably are not 50 single (that I would be attracted to), in the entire US of A, who do not own one.

Hell, nowadays, you'd be lucky if you can meet a woman who doesn't feel the need to CHECK her cell phone 10 times a day and who doesn't "need" for it to "on" during any "one on one" time. Never know when the ubiquitous "emergency" call might come in.........................

"The POTUS is on line 1, and he NEEDS the nuclear launch codes, RIGHT NOW!"

"There's a patient on the table in the operating theater, waiting for that liver that's being flown in from Chicago. The helicopter is on the hospital roof. They need her prepped for surgery, RIGHT now! Check please! Can we get these jalepeno poppers "to go"?
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/27/2014 3:21:16 PM

I would LOVE to meet a single woman (that I was attracted to) who did NOT have a cell phone!


You might to have to go to a village in the jungles in Borneo for that. Even then. it could be iffy.
 NikonGuy007
Joined: 4/1/2012
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Posted: 7/27/2014 3:33:01 PM
^^^^

Maleman, you are 1014% RIGHT! LOL!
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
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Posted: 7/27/2014 3:50:31 PM
Damn, I'm old enough to remember having a party line in our first couple of homes.
I remember back before answering machines.
I didn't have a cell phone (actually it was the family cell phone for trips) until something like 2007 or 8; and then until this year that cell phone was a prepaid trac-fone that still has over 4000 minutes. None the less, recently upgraded to something that does more than make phone calls - and costs much more.

Anyway, my first impression of the twit OP was this was a classic example of a self centered moron who sees the world as revolving around his every petty desire. The only reason to require a date a man/woman to have a cell phone is so that your need for instantaneous communication to be satisfied.
Try this, you fool, take the time and effort to plan a date and stick to it.
Try this, send a hand written letter, or card, instead of a txt. Bet that'll get noticed.

TK

[got more processing power hanging on my belt now than in the first computer I built a quarter century ago; better screen, too. Wow! Where's Buck Rogers and****Tracy?]
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