My chance of finding a fit, athletic, intelligent man in his late 50s is slim-to-none in America.
Since your profile states you are what, 58? This is probably true. When I was in my late fifties I was dating pleasant, attractive, intelligent and well educated women 15 to 20 years younger than myself, not a woman near my age. The other fit, athletic and intelligent men I knew were dating women at least 10 years younger than themselves.