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 scareymush
Joined: 8/9/2011
Msg: 5
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is there something in the human brain which says to be in control or life is a failure?

I'm not too sure OP if you are thinking along the lines of a macro or micro environment (it seems you may have confused them both)

With regards to a micro environment type example as in who is in the driving seat throughout a relationship, I would say that is between the two people involved and I wouldn't like to guess at what goes on between two people within their relationship - it's none of my business...the dynamic of their relationship has absolutely nothing to do with me personally.

On a somewhat broader scale I can take umbrage with people exercising their control over a group of people quite easily and imagine that an unqualified, unsolicited spokesperson for that particular group has a terrible cheek...I've seen it happen with one of my son's group of friends a while ago where some female elected herself as the person who would organise the group re nights out and get togethers.....she refused to invite along people she didn't approve of..namely the people who were most popular and surpassed her looks and personality wise - they all copped onto her and realised she was just a jealous cow and the took the power away from her which previously they had conceded to her - I have to say she was a dreadful bully ( I read what she wrote on Face book), such a ****...

On a far broader scale......hmmmmmm, you'd have to be fairly politicised to deal with that and in this day and age very i]au fait with economics because apparently that is what rules our everyday lives for now.
 badge73
Joined: 1/17/2009
Msg: 6
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Posted: 6/29/2012 9:34:23 AM
i only used the car driving as a bit of an example, i should of worded it a bit better as really was on about a group of people or an event.

think more of the realms of characters of the capt mainwaring and mrs bucket, who automatically put themselves in charge without any consent whats so ever, as soon as they step forward the groups doomed from the start and better off walking away.

could even be the case of upbringing and gene debate of those who are born to lead etc or to the point those that think they are born to lead.
 scareymush
Joined: 8/9/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 7/6/2012 2:53:01 AM
^^^ goodness gracious me!!

There used to be a woman on here (probably another fake persona in reality..she was slightly ott) who'd quite possibly have fallen head over heels in love with you just because of your alpha male type post above haha...(if not head over heels in love, she'd certainly have flicked her bean like a good 'un after reading that post!)

love it, in case you hadn't picked up that vibe. And no apologies for offensive schmaltziness - if you were where I am now, you'd get it. And want to sing it from the rooftops.

I can't wait to discover why you feel the need to join a dating site whilst happily ensconced in an apparently very satisfactory relationship where both of you play the role of master and slave equally......maybe you're kinky or something and both of you are in search of an easily dominated slavish third wheel/gooseberry - it's all so very Ma and Pa West of you I must say.

I need a bath after reading your post.
 safaa30
Joined: 3/1/2012
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Posted: 7/10/2012 5:28:09 AM
^^^True that. It only makes sense to let him take control in things I know less about. Otherwise I'll end up like Awwwshuck's ex, my foolishness splashed all over a dating website lol. I think the more people are alike the more they have power fights as they generally have the same interests and want the same things so will tend to clash more especially if they are too stubborn to compromise.
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