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 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
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I don't usually 'bang' someone when I first start dating them, dating is to get to know someone and see if you want to move onto boy/girlfriend and sex. To me 'hanging out' is more like just having sex with someone you like enough to screw but don't really care if it goes anywhere.
 ITLN4Life
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 21
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:45:55 PM
I just read your profile smarterndumbernmost...

you're a weird dude hahaha
 Iona_Bob
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 22
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:55:42 PM
1) Difference between dating and hanging out - dinner at restaurant versus take out. Man pays.

2) Wants to date but nothing serious - Needs escort to corporate event, wedding, etc. Done with you after. Man pays for incidentals and his own tux rental. Should offer to pay for his date's pre-event spa treatment (hair, nails, massage).

3) Not seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment - need to get family off back, so expect to be invited to holiday dinner. Man pays for wine/ hostess gift. Also, please keep track of her car's mileage, since you will be doing the oil changes.

4) Nothing intimate occurs. They said they aren't interested in sex without a relationship but are interested in dating...(???) - they want to dispel rumors they are lesbian without actually touching a d!ck. Be prepared to bring kitty treats to her house and a quart of Ben and Jerry's which you will leave behind for her to devour later.

If the "no sex" without a relationship (with the emphasis on "no sex," because, face it, they don't want a relationship any more than they want sex) continues to the "Fudge Brownie" level, you may even be honored to provide her with a sexless weekend getaway. Man pays. Accommodations should be cat friendly.
 RandomFish123
Joined: 5/30/2012
Msg: 23
What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/26/2012 2:55:44 PM
I have no idea but here is my guess:

Dating = there is emotional & financial investment

Hanging out = there is less to no emotional investment and less financial investment

??
 MDIYM59
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 24
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Posted: 6/26/2012 3:14:23 PM
My first thought is, "dating" means we will only see each other until we can figure out if there is enough mutual interest
to become more serious or go our separate ways. And while we may be intimate at times, she reserves the right to kick you to the curb without any advanced noticed.
Where as "hanging out" means we can spend time together but she is also seeing other people, so don't introduce her as your girlfriend. And she may have sex with you if things go well when you two are hanging out, but don't count on it. And it is much more likely that she will kick you to the curb at the slightest sign a nicer guy is interested in her.
That's my take on it.
 onewayoranuther
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 25
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Posted: 6/27/2012 5:02:28 AM
When did getting to know become something you do that included sexual activity?

Awe maybe it is the mixed messages we recieve at the movies we love so much that shows Kate and Leo having sex after knowing eachother only a day and a half or...... when Ashton Kutcher meets a woman and has sex with her minutes later then asks her to dinner and she says she is not sure if she wants to get that intimate.

WTH is going on with people????

Sex is something you do when you are in a relationship and not with just some homeboy you met on the strip. GEESH!

Guys, get a reality check. Dating does not include sex. It includes going to the movies, going to dinner, going to the beach, going bowling, going somewhere and getting to know one another mentally...not sexually.
 Greatcatch12345
Joined: 5/2/2011
Msg: 26
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Posted: 6/27/2012 6:27:23 AM
one ur getting sex...the other ur fixing chit around her house and going shopping with her..which one u want?/ lol..
 Triumph800rider
Joined: 10/10/2009
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What's the difference between dating and hanging out?
Posted: 6/27/2012 10:39:42 AM
Here is what various people mean by the terms they post:

When a woman posts that she is looking to "hang out" -- Basically she is looking for a guy to share a hobby with. This is especially true if she owns a motorcycle or likes to fish, hobbies that fewer women participate in. She might be open to you putting the moves on her but she is not basing her decision to "hang out" on your looks, attractiveness or personality. She is into you for your Road King, Boston Whaler or Yankees box seats and is being completely honest about this. You have no right to be angry if she friendzones you. She has no right to be angry if you won't pick up the check.

When a man is looking to hang out -- He wants to have sex but does not want to put forth the effort of setting up a date, wining and dining, etc... He just wants to come over to your house, order pizza, have sex during halftime and go home.

When a younger woman is looking to "date but nothing serious" -- She wants you to spend money on her but there is no guarantee that she is going to give it up. She considers herself "arm candy" and believes you should be honored just to be in her presence.

When a younger man is looking to "date but nothing serious" -- He is willing to buy dinners and show tickets in exchange for sex but it won't be exclusive.

When an older woman is looking to "date but nothing serious" -- After a bunch of failed marriages and relationships she wishes she could wash her hands of men. If lesbianism was an option for her she'd take it in a heartbeat. But it isn't. Men make her laugh, turn her on and know how to change a set of brake pads. She is willing to date you and even sleep with you. But she is going to keep you at arms length. She does not want you hanging around her apartment watching football, leaving the toilet seat up or tossing your drawers on her bedroom floor. She might comment that your grandkids pictures are cute but the thought of spending a holiday dinner with your extended family is about as attractive as a root canal. She has her own grandkids and you better agree that they walk on water. She will enjoy your company provided you don't complain about your ex during conversation. Don't let her talk about her exes because you might decide that they are the sort of guy you might like to go hunting with and that spells danger.

When an older man is looking to "date but nothing serious" -- He has e.d. but is afraid to ask his doctor for a viagra prescription.
 im_a_rockstar
Joined: 12/29/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 6/27/2012 10:41:40 AM
Dating IS Hanging out...

The difference is WHY.
 onewayoranuther
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 6/27/2012 1:58:38 PM

Just keep in mind, the above are your own definitions. Nothing more. And, again, that it is very obvious that many others - both male and female - do not share your own definitions


Really because I didn’t write the following. Both men and women on this thread did.


Dating is dating. That means I have made NO leap into sex and won't try on a guy to see if he's good. That comes when it's an agreed upon commited relationship because we really DIG each other!


Dating is to see if your compatible with that person. Why spread like butter .. that has nothing to do with your compatiblity at first. Geez. How do you even know if you like him enough after a first date to give it up. Get real.. look for those who want intimate encounters..

"Dating" means you have to put pants on and take her out and pay for a nice meal and go dancing and if you are lucky get a peck on the cheek.


Dating - quite simply means you want to date and see what happens, in other words go to the cinema, meal, drink but get to the know the person not on an intimate level just as a person, when you've dated a while they may discuss starting a relationship.




Which is why the OP asked the question, and all of the answers have proven his point.



Why do you single me out when it is obviously not all? Not my thread. Just my response; like all the others gave their response. Pretty normal behavior in a forum. Or is it preferred that I agree with the mainstream and just have sex with anyone I want…to say that is OK? But to say it is not OK, in my opinion, to have sex with people you don‘t know in some cases but for a few hours…well, now that is a horrible opinion and therefore someone must smite.
 sweetrose52
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:11:23 PM
Wow!!! so many different views about dating and hanging out......I agree with date to see what happens

Hangout ... friends without benfits...I hangout with my children and family ,I'm certainly not banging them...
 sirslayer
Joined: 4/8/2009
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Posted: 6/28/2012 3:42:55 AM
basically both have the same objective.. to spend time with another and to enjoy a activity... dating is like buying expensive wine while hanging out it will cost you a 12 pack..
 vestaceres
Joined: 6/13/2012
Msg: 32
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Posted: 6/28/2012 6:27:08 AM
Those terms are euphemisms for intimate encounters, in this venue. This is the pervs way of bypassing the I.E, Filters, and push their luck.
 roadrunner2525
Joined: 2/12/2013
Msg: 33
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Posted: 2/17/2013 9:59:49 PM
None none none none none none none none none none none none none none none none none none none none none none
 THEMEPACK
Joined: 12/17/2012
Msg: 34
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Posted: 2/18/2013 9:12:24 AM
I have had them all listed at one time or another....all with the same results.
 tnt144
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 35
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Posted: 2/18/2013 9:29:36 AM
I hate multiple choice questions! The bottom line is, you really don't know what a person's real intentions are until you get to know them. Don't prejudge. I would suggest going through the dating ritual and see where it leads. people will often say one thing and do another. Actions don't speak louder than words, actions scream. And the cat-and-mouse game will continue.
 RussArtLover
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Posted: 2/18/2013 10:15:55 AM
I can only state what they mean to me. If I'm dating a girl and meet another I would date if I weren't already, I might ask her to hang out some time. That happened recently. I'm interested enough in a girl I met on here that even though we aren't dating, I'm only allowing myself to hang out with a girl I met at the grocer a few months ago. Bites too but wth, they're both worth it.
 nubeginnings64
Joined: 4/8/2012
Msg: 37
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Posted: 2/18/2013 11:09:34 AM
Ok to hang if in a group setting but not one on one & least of all when you don't know someone that well.

Young women assume hanging to mean getting to know but young guys assume it to mean the sexual benefits of a relationship without having to make the commitment & especially when hanging at their place. Tell my 24 yo daughter all the time not to hang at guys places & instead date, which means out & about, even if meeting up for something as simple as coffee.

Now at my age there's no hanging till AFTER knowing someone. Don't want some psycho knowing exactly where we live just in case we may not like them after a few dates & expose our families, kids & such to them. So we date & are out & about till we're comfortable enough to let them into our everyday life to hang.
 tampasmiles
Joined: 11/12/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/18/2013 11:42:27 AM
It is very subjective...so you will have to ask each woman...

but to me...dating equals having sex....maybe it is from watching too many movies where the prostitute asks the guy...are you looking for a date?

hanging out ...is what I do with my girlfriends and non-sexual friends...usually involves doing something that is of a common interest...I hang out with my art friends...I hang out at the beach with my girlfriends...I hang out when there is nothing better to do...
 MeggieMugster
Joined: 1/28/2013
Msg: 39
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Posted: 2/18/2013 11:55:16 AM
Your confusion is understable, so let me interpret for you. I speak pretty well perfect womanese.

"Dating" means that they are banging whoever it is they are "dating". Don't confuse this with "I'm looking to date" which means that she wants you to take her out, probably spend money on her, but will not likely bang you unless you have really good game.

"Hanging out" means that she'll bang you if you have decent game, are good-looking enough. Think of it as not Mr. Right, but good enough for Mr. Right-Now. The good news is that you may get banged and she's likely to leave right after. It's better though, to "hang out" at her house so you can just wipe off on the curtains and leave.....

If you aren't very good-looking and don't really have any game, "hanging out" means that you are the equivalent as the gay boyfriend.

... smiple, really....


I totally disgree with this. Just because your hanging out or dating, doesnt necessarily mean your banging the person. Maybe in your eyes, and in your world.

To me hanging out means you can hang out, date other people. when you say your dating, it sounds more exclusive, and you might as well be offical if your just dating one person. but if your dating around, you might as well say sleeping around.
 stayinalivefl
Joined: 8/23/2012
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Posted: 2/18/2013 12:46:53 PM
Judging by some pics I've seen........some are almost hanging out..lol.


""""Alas poor gentlemen a dog is always far more faithful."""""""'
& always happy to see you when you come home.....lol .

 stayinalive-2-44691
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Posted: 2/18/2013 7:59:56 PM
Iona bob--

gotta' agree with you. i was with someone who was on this site for 'dating'. in her mind this meant we did mostly what she wanted to do--when she wanted to do it--and i paid for everything. what a great deal ! using this ploy she could go out every night on someone-elses' dime. i think this technique is pretty much reserved for the female set. we didn't last long.
 mark777771
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Posted: 2/18/2013 8:33:28 PM
Doesnt matter what they call it. Hanging out, dating, etc. If they like you and find you attractive it will become a full relationship. But after a date or two you'll know what the deal really is. Just dont spend a lot time and money until you know.
 kari135
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Posted: 2/19/2013 7:29:43 PM

gotta' agree with you. i was with someone who was on this site for 'dating'. in her mind this meant we did mostly what she wanted to do--when she wanted to do it--and i paid for everything. what a great deal ! using this ploy she could go out every night on someone-elses' dime. i think this technique is pretty much reserved for the female set. we didn't last long.

And that's worse than someone who wants no strings sex how? Nearly everyone who puts anything in their profile has their own interpretation of what they think it is. I'm clear about what I will and won't do, most especially once a correspondence or phone calls start. I do get a lot of messages from men who say they just want to hang out - and we do have a lot of interests in common - but they also expect sex immediately. Me, I want to know who I'm doing, but so far the only ones I've come across who are willing to accept that are either way too far away or liars. It's a real waste of time when someone you spend months or a year or more getting to know turns around and tells you they ''used to do all that and more before that first heart attack.'' Sorry, but I'm not a total couch potato. Or yeah, they do want someone to hang out with cuz it's lonely going to a restaurant for breakfast or lunch alone - but they also want sex immediately cuz they don't need those little pills, wink wink.
 NonamousDog
Joined: 4/20/2011
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Posted: 2/20/2013 10:36:46 AM
Do you mean 'dating' as synonymous with 'going steady'? Or do you mean 'dating' as in going out on dates with various people?
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