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 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 16
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 meowkatt2012
Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 17
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Posted: 6/27/2012 9:23:29 AM
I have really been wondering that for a while now. Im not sure if its because i just haven't found the right person, have gotten used to being single for a lot if years, my last relationships haven't worked out or I've met guys I've really liked who are married and I don't want that. I have a good friend of over a year who wants to take our friendship farther but he really has so little free time due to some things that really can't change right now and I worry he just wont have enough time for me. Im not needy or have to see him.every day, but I'd want to see him enough to build the closeness etc we don't have now as friends. I think its a hard decision except for women who meed to be in a relationship all the time,even with guys who aren't right for them.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 19
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:26:16 PM
It's too simplistic a question to actually answer. What I can say is this, if your mindset is that you have been alone, so you don't know what you may be missing and it doesn't seem to matter, then stay single (AND change your profile!!).

After all it's your life, if you are happy with it as it is, then why change? The way I make decisions is in weighing out risk vs reward. Listing pluses, minuses....whatever, but the thing is that you only have experience on one side of the equation, so considering the pro to the con would be projecting or just plain guessing.

Play it safe with the status quo or take a risk, but please don't make some poor female your lab rat. Be fair. You should ONLY take the risk if the willingness to take it is genuine and sincere, not merely a curiosity. Noone wants to be someone else's "experiment".
 foxonatrain
Joined: 6/9/2010
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Better off single or with a partner???
Posted: 6/27/2012 10:07:00 PM
Sometimes being in a bad relationship is a good thing, in the sense that once it ends you appreciate being single much more.
 vestaceres
Joined: 6/13/2012
Msg: 25
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Posted: 6/29/2012 6:13:03 AM
If you long for a partner, be prepared to compromise and work hard and well for it. If you're inclined to wait for the perfect one to magically appear of out nowhere, expect to be lonely.

You may be inclined in this life time to give more to yourself. There are life-long bachelors/bachelorettes who may find commitment a daunting contemplation. It doesn't mean that they have a pathology in which they can't relate to anybody - perhaps their purposes is to love more broadly.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 6/29/2012 7:47:38 PM
You can think of it as math, if a partner ADDS to your life, it's a good thing. As soon as a relationship starts TAKING AWAY from your life, you're better off by yourself.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 27
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Posted: 6/29/2012 8:58:35 PM

You can think of it as math, if a partner ADDS to your life, it's a good thing. As soon as a relationship starts TAKING AWAY from your life, you're better off by yourself.
Words to live by. Relationships should enhance both lives. Otherwise, why bother? We live in a very disposible society and it is sad.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 6/29/2012 9:33:49 PM
"Relationships should enhance both lives." Miss W, totally agree, I said add you said enhance....much better word, it invokes a much richer meaning.
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
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Better off single or with a partner???
Posted: 6/30/2012 5:59:32 PM
I still think it's babble, they say "settling" down causes a man to stop taking "risks" therefore he lives longer, but what if taking "risks" is a persons livelihood. You take that away that their already "dead" they just don't know it yet.


Married men taking fewer risks isn't a belief or opinion, it's a statistical fact. Insurance companions stake billions of dollars based on their actuarial tables. They aren't doing it on a guess.

Married men DO tend to take fewer risks the same way that older Men take fewer risks. Not necessarily because Women settle them down, but because they have MORE TO LOSE. Acting recklessly when you're 25 and single is one thing, acting recklessly when your death or imminent injury can leave your wife bereaved or children fatherless creates an entirely different decision-making dynamic.

Being married and/or having children can make you rethink that Skydiving or Bungee jumping hobby.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/1/2012 11:06:12 AM
^^^Great lists. I won't be in a relationship where I can't have all the benefits of being single, nor do I find it hard to find the benefits of a relationship while being single - companionship comes in all forms. When I can have both sides no matter what, I'm sticking it out.
 cr4zycupcake
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/4/2012 12:09:42 PM
remain single and die alone, thats about it
 greg42innc
Joined: 7/1/2012
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/4/2012 2:15:02 PM
I am single and I would be thrilled to share my life with an incredible woman. I have learned to be content with whatever is presently going on, accept change and enjoy myself at whatever position I find myself in. Am I looking for a relationship? Yes. I am looking for a relationship just to get out of the single phase? NO. Marriage/Relationships are a committment and I am afraid that so many people are robbing themselves of this and missing out on the finer things in life. So am I going to settle...No way. I thank God for each day and live one day at a time and when that incredible woman walks into my life then I will certainly act accordingly. Good luck in your search
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 37
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Posted: 7/5/2012 5:51:41 PM

remain single and die alone, thats about it

I got news for you. You'll die alone single or not. Married and in a room full of people, you still don't take anyone with ya.
 cr4zycupcake
Joined: 5/24/2012
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:13:01 PM
I got news for you. You'll die alone single or not. Married and in a room full of people, you still don't take anyone with ya.


True. It's easier to die knowing you're loved though
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/6/2012 4:03:09 AM

True. It's easier to die knowing you're loved though

Is it? How do you know? Have you done it?

P.S. We're all loved by someone. Dating and romance aren't the only forms of love out there as most of us have friends and family who love us as well - so not many of us at all will die not being loved. Furthermore, not many of us will die not knowing about it.
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