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Joined: 2/25/2008
Msg: 71
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Women remember men are different. We don't ramble on and on. We get to the point and don't just talk about everything especially when trying to find out if you're interested. Once you reply then we'll go into more detail and answer your question. Like some said here, there's no point to a large initial email if the woman is not going to reply or say not interested. That's what the profile is for. It tells some about the person, likes dislikes, hobbies etc.
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 72
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Posted: 7/21/2012 8:11:37 AM

Msg. 71: I figure they are boring, vacuous, shallow people with poor conversational skills and move on.

If someone sends you a 1 or 2 paragraph message, do you always send a reply back, whether you're interested or not? People who do not respond to someone who put some effort in their opening pitch are vacuous, shallow people.
Joined: 1/12/2012
Msg: 74
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Posted: 7/21/2012 2:53:20 PM
there is no reason for a person to send out a message that contains more then 3 or 4 lines.
and to all the people that think the sending out long messages some how makes you a great conversationalist it dosent.
Joined: 11/24/2011
Msg: 75
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Posted: 7/21/2012 10:06:13 PM
I agree completely. I always comment on something from their profile, maybe something we have in common. I would hope this shows my genuine interest in the person rather than just his looks. When I receive a "vague" message like "hi, nice profile", my first impression is that there was no effort. If one can't expell the energy to write something that will catch my attention then maybe that's a prelude to their conversational skills. First impressions count !
Joined: 8/19/2011
Msg: 78
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Posted: 9/14/2012 2:20:46 PM
When you're contacting someone for the first time, there's a delicate balance between being too brief and telling someone the story of your life without being prompted. There's nothing wrong with a one-liner that shows the person has read your profile and is creative or politely funny. At first you want to establish if there is mutual interest based on your pictures and whether there might be chemistry in person (feel free to call me shallow, but these are the facts of life).
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 79
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Posted: 9/14/2012 2:29:17 PM
Some women get 400 notes from guys in less than a day. They cruise through the detritus of our dreams quickly.

So,. short notes seem to work better for many. I responded to, "You'd be perfect if you weren't completely inappropriate". A local hottie answered, "You're always up so late.."

The longer notes with all types of secondary business can fail to grab attention. Usually simply having a photo and something pleasant and appropriate to say is better. Much better.
Joined: 9/7/2012
Msg: 80
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Posted: 9/14/2012 2:35:45 PM
The first message is usually just a bait dangle. Often won't be long, but hopefully at least says something to catch your attention in a good way. It's designed to get you to check out our profile to find out if you are interested enough to respond back. Now, if you do respond with something more than "hey", this is the man's chance to really come back with something interesting enough to get you to actually take a bite so he can try to set the hook. If he just leaves it dangling there and doesn't put any effort into the presentation, I suggest you move on to a better looking piece of bait. Because believe me, there's plenty of us guys out there who are willing to put in a LOT more effort to get the chance to meet you! And remember, a pretty face and nice muscles does not always equate to intelligence.
Joined: 10/24/2010
Msg: 81
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Posted: 9/14/2012 2:43:53 PM
Honestly, its best to keep it short and to the point b/c we aren't tryin to stay online. We are trying to get me up off of this webpage and go on to meeting in person. Hence, writing an essay is unbecoming of a guy trying to do something and not scared off doing that.
Joined: 11/23/2010
Msg: 82
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Posted: 9/14/2012 3:40:55 PM

What do you want a damm shakespearian sonnet?
Personally I am done wasting any amount of time writing something that has a high probability of being unreplied to.

Wow, now that comes as a surprise. (Incidentally, nice way to exploit the OP's mere question with your own rant. Is SHE one of the women that did not respond to you? I think not, so why punish her with your vitriol?)

CJ, I have also written first messages to gents of which have not been answered. Silence makes a very loud reply, but at least I get my "answer" quickly and painlessly; moreover, I do not have to live with the regret of not having "dropped a line" to try to "hook" a response so to speak.
OP, I ran into this situation as well and did what another poster suggested (using the message filter where a minimum amount of characters must be used in order to be accepted). Not sure if it is really the filter or if chaps are not writing short messages to me, but I do not have that problem anymore.
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 83
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Posted: 9/15/2012 6:54:22 PM
chessiecatt- You are getting replies like that from people who have been here for at least a little while. It gets old after a while to put effort into a long reply and then never hear back. What I have learned (and what you will learn if you stay here) is to accept the short reply's a couple of times, if they are responding at all they are interested. Once you do a couple of short reply's, TELL them that you want to know more about them. You will either get no response, which tells you what you want to know. OR, you will get a longer response, which still tells you what you want to know. Don't sweat it, stick around and you'll figure it out.
Joined: 10/26/2007
Msg: 84
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Posted: 9/15/2012 7:15:46 PM
Oh I know what you mean by the one word replies. They make the effort initially which is great, but do they expect you to carry the conversation after that, its a two way street. But I bet if sex was brought up right away they would have more than enough to say...just sayin!!!!!!!
Joined: 2/27/2009
Msg: 86
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Posted: 9/16/2012 9:16:14 PM
what i've learned:
there is no "online conversations to try and get to know men" before dating. it doesn't work like that any more.
now there are a few brief emails, like you said, then you are to talk on the phone and meet soon as possible.
you meet for a brief time too - enough to somehow see if you're interested.
if you both are interested, then you date.
i'm guessing that is when you "get to know" that person ?
i might be wrong - but that seems to be the new way to date.
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