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 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 51
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?Page 3 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
I think around 1/2 hour, up to 5 times in 15 hours, but the refractory time keeps getting longer.

As far as how long I last, I haven't have a woman be able to make me orgasm if I didn't want to, but sometimes it has been a close call and shutting down an orgasm isn't always the best idea. When I was in my 20s I used to try to master self control and do various exercises to increase my performance. Breast stroke, cardio, abs, kegals. You could say sexual performance was an avocation.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 52
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 10/11/2012 6:17:25 AM
when I was younger I could last for maybe 15 minutes the first time and be ready to go again in about 10 minutes..now that im older I can last as long as I want to the first time ...all night if I need to... and thought the recovery time may be a little longer I have still been ready to go again before any woman I have been with was ..so you take your pick
 AstroCat505
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 53
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 10/11/2012 7:48:51 AM

re-arousal is completely dependant on how sexy/erotic/exciting the woman he's with is.


Bingo! I find that reload time is relative to how attractive my partner is, and how exciting and satisfying the first round was.
If I'm participating just for the sake of the moment with an average counterpart then the time inbetween will be greater than if I were giving my full college try to a partner who was smoking hot and had touched in all the right places to properly escalate the tension and arousal and was just as into the experience as I...
 InShapeAndToned56
Joined: 9/23/2012
Msg: 54
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 10/11/2012 12:28:22 PM

IDK but I was seeing a guy that would stay hard the whole night and never wanted to cum until I was finished (and I mean completely finished as in me cumming several times). . I still wonder how common it is for a guy to be able to hold his cum like that? I can't even "hold my cum" like he could? Lol


I have no idea how common that is for other men, but that's the way I've always been. I'm pretty much satisfied with one orgasm and have no problem controlling my excitement during intercourse. Oral is a bit harder for me to control myself and a woman's hands make it virtually impossible for me to remain in control so I have to be careful in "those" two areas. I have no idea why I'm that way, and I don't care why either. As long as my partner is satisfied, so am I…
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 55
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 10/11/2012 2:50:27 PM

After the first volley is fired (minus physical ability) a guy's re-arousal is completely dependant on how sexy/erotic/exciting the woman he's with is.


I would have to agree also.
 HowRJ
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 57
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 10/12/2012 8:37:55 AM
After I cum.......I'm usually good to go again after a trip to Hawaii.........
 passion2pleaseaz
Joined: 8/23/2012
Msg: 58
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 11/3/2012 2:15:02 AM
come back in about 25 or 30 minutes and i'll let you know.LOL
 eattoplease55
Joined: 10/22/2012
Msg: 59
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 11/3/2012 5:44:18 AM
Woooof....never been trained bfore....lol...its usually the other way around....as with woman having strong orgasms for the first time.....orally of course ....anyway....Ive been able to go as you say it three times bfore...only to the womans dilegence...and she was the recipient of it as it takes that much longer to climax every time soo she was able to enjoy it more....love when a woman takes charge....not to many do...in my opinion its a 50/50 thing in the bedroom and many dont get that.....and many men dont get the long foreplay thing either....nothing turns her on more than teasing and pleasing....its all in her motions and sighs....lol!
 r3altalk513
Joined: 10/26/2012
Msg: 60
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How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 11/3/2012 7:43:53 AM
The trick is to jack off before you have sex with your girl and you will give yourself the power of the second nut going in.
 passionteman
Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 61
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 11/3/2012 10:49:44 AM
It all depends on a lot of factors and the persons involved. For instance, a woman that demands sex from me REALLYYYYYYYYYYYY turn me on and can get the bad boy up soon after round one.

But..................

If she gets her orgasm and just cuddles and no more sexual desire, it kinda puts me in the mood that she doesn't want anymore sex. :(((((
 RedDelPaPa
Joined: 5/21/2011
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Posted: 11/3/2012 11:10:41 AM
What works for me the fastest after an orgasm is to have my lady put back on just enough clothes to hide her goods again. For whatever reason, this causes my imagination to fire back up and usually gets me hard again in about 10 minutes. Especially if my junk is still wet and exposed to cold air. :)
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 11/3/2012 3:14:41 PM
The best way I can contribute to answering your question is to describe how it goes for myself. But this is only me, not everyone, of course. Although, I'm sure the following describes at least a few more men than just myself.

One the one hand, I am almost a "one-time" guy. (almost) But, on the other hand, it's been hard for me to understand other people's issues with a guy just getting his and her not getting hers, or him not lasting very long or getting his too early...because I never was in a hurry getting there in the first place. To me, the end was never the only thing always on my mind. I enjoy the journey there almost more than the destination. My time-period can potentially be measured by hours...though not many - I don't want to give the wrong impression or sound ridiculous. I was like this in youth as well as my present age, it hasn't changed. (if you're too confused by my statement about my virginity in my profile compared with what I'm saying here, and you post a ditsy response, don't be surprised if I call it ditsy.) So, the question of recovery time with someone like me can sometimes be irrelevant. It would be important when she wants to enjoy me getting mine more than once, but she would get plenty herself already otherwise, and ideally would appreciate the fact that I'm having as good of a time this way as the next guy has by simply getting off. In fact, when I get close, I fight against it. I just don't want it to be over with. The closer I get, the more it makes me want to back off and just enjoy and just keep going without taking it all the way. It's never been something that I have to "practice" or "learn" how to do...having to learn how to do this is alien to me.

And, afterwards, instead of thinking of a recovery, I might do that thing where I go to sleep. (The other thing it might do to me is just the opposite - I'll be compelled to jump up and "do something".) And by the way, a clarifying note on the sleeping-afterwards thing (at least for me) - it's not because of being tired. Instead it's as if the short nap afterwards is like the rest of the orgasm. It's not complete until that nap happens. That nap is the best "sleep" experience ever. The best dreams can be had during this period. It's like ecstasy. The woman has to allow this to happen, and be there in my arms during it, or it's ruined. The same as when a guy takes you to the brink but then disappoints you and stops.

But, after giving a helpful context, now about the applicable recovery period and possible second go-round: It can definately happen, and possibly within as short as 15 minutes (without the nap). (Or I can unexpectedly accost you for more an un-predictable hour or half-hour later, for maybe just as much as the first time.) But, to best understand the recovery period question - this is something that is very much dependent on the particular mood, the nature of the relationship, and the sexual/intimacy mannerisms and "vibe" of the woman in question.

Hope this gives a little perspective or adds to anyone's overall understanding : )
 PartPopsicle
Joined: 8/22/2012
Msg: 64
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 11/4/2012 2:21:09 PM
It depends on how loving, stimulation and affectionate the woman is. If she is a turn on, no problem. Erections aren't mental. It's not a bicep. It has to be stimulated. I have been with a woman who kept me hard for over 36 hours off and on. Sometimes not even getting flaccid in between because she was on it. A fellatrice or fellatrix can do that for a man because that is what she loves. His loins. So they respond to her. Better than some playboy girl with her arms folded telling you to get it up. How exciting ha? Only a loving, tender, coaxing and considerate woman gets the bone. The rest, get spineless males who will do anything for THEM.
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
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How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 11/9/2012 11:25:47 AM
It used to be...: Just let me get my Breath back...!!
I _Have_ had ~sessions~ where we stayed fully(or as fully as possible) engaged, and she had 14 'O's and I had _4_!!!
But it's been 14 years of Widowhood, and I couldn't make a Guess on how long it takes , now!
It looks like 15-20 mins is the general ~recharge~ time...so I'll go with that.
 zonavar68
Joined: 8/16/2015
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Posted: 3/16/2016 4:39:07 PM
For me, I can't orgasm again and enjoy it for at least 24 to 48 hrs, but I can physically force one to happen around 6 hrs after sex but it's not enjoyable and is in fact quite painful after it's happened, then I won't be in any mood for sex for days. The most embarrasing thing for me is that I will either orgasm really quick, or often not at all, regardless of how much I try. In that situation, I'm generally more ashamed and not wanting sex again for ages. Last time that happened I was basically frigid/asexual for a month. I didn't even want to masturbate at all.

It's just the way my body is and I have to live with it. There's nothing I can do to change it, but it definitely destroys a lot of romantic/intimate moments because women I've been with even those I have strong friendship/relationship bonds with are ready to go again almost straight away and I just can't.

I feel completely and utterly inadequate because of it. I know that everything works fine much of the time. It's like I don't have the wired connections in my brain to correctly link triggers for sex/arousal with the proper ways to pleasure and please a woman, and at the same time have my body do what it's apparently supposed to be doing erotically.

Other men are sex dynamos and never stop. I know guys my age (mid-40's) like that who are doing it every day. More than once a day for me would be stressful and difficult, even though when I'm in the mood properly with someone equally in the mood properly, I can do everything right. That 'window' where it happens seems perpetually elusive.
 Inner_Gorilla
Joined: 12/3/2015
Msg: 67
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 3/17/2016 2:28:55 PM
When having dry orgasms the recoup time for me is about 10 minutes. But when having a big ejaculate it used to be about 45 minutes. But then if the woman talks to me about what she would like me to do to her next, in graphic detail can get me back at it in 10 minutes.
 HalftimeDad
Joined: 5/29/2005
Msg: 68
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 3/17/2016 3:10:11 PM
Two to three weeks and I'm good to go again.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 69
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 3/17/2016 3:21:03 PM
Approximately one minute - when viagra is in close proximity to me it hisses like a demon in a church.


What can I say ?

OLE !


ARRIBA ARRIBA ! ANDALE ANDALE !
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 70
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 3/17/2016 7:40:58 PM
It depends. In general if I didn't have sex in a while ( or no masturbation ), I will often cum quickly. But get hard again quickly. If it took me a while to cum, then it will often take me longer to get hard again.
 8inscrew
Joined: 11/17/2014
Msg: 71
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 3/18/2016 6:39:06 AM
Umm none?

I like to orgasm and stay there. Then slowly start sliding in and out... keep going.

All women say they want a man like that. Very few like to screw for days.
I can come six times and still wake up hard.
Also don't really care if I even have an orgasm. I don't get "blue balls".
I think it's a made up thing to shame women into submitting to a guy.

Also, even if I'm not aroused... I just kind of squeeze it... push the pressure to the end.
Then use it like a toy until it's hard.
If that won't work?
Try slamming it in the bathroom door a few times. Show that bastard who's the boss...
 oneday57
Joined: 10/17/2015
Msg: 72
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 3/19/2016 4:28:37 AM
haha....another who likes to talk....well....been my experience that even at 58 sometimes I can regroup quick...then other times takes me a while but theres alway more kissing and holding between the finality....on the other hand Ive been with woman who could not regroup either for round two.....mostly after good oral with all the teasing and foreplay I like......two sides of the coin along with how well the two jell...lol
 witty_gwailo
Joined: 1/21/2010
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Posted: 3/20/2016 7:20:15 AM
Really depends, but I guess I am 'lucky' in that it never takes me long. Essentially it depends on the strength of the orgasm...if it is a weaker one, I could pretty much just keep going...if it is a stronger one, then I might need 5-15 minutes. Also typically need to go 2-4 times to get it out of my system.
 AlphaCuck
Joined: 5/20/2015
Msg: 74
How long is the recovery time for men between orgasms?
Posted: 3/27/2016 8:06:28 AM
Only as long as it takes the next hottie to undress! LOL

I used to think I was a one-shot-wonder until I had more than one girl at a time...Hmmm...
 dragonbytes
Joined: 9/15/2015
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Posted: 3/27/2016 8:29:05 AM
At my age, we are talking decades.
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 10/21/2018 4:27:13 AM
after I climax the first time and if she's willing to suck me to hardness it takes approx. 10-15 minutes and in between we just kiss and go for more foreplay....in saying that I have gone for more....once I'm hard after the first time I stay that way longer and she usually gets her moneys worth....lol....I find we get more from long foreplay and good oral techniques...been at it for a while and enjoy a woman's physic totally!....lol
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