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 livingwithadog
Joined: 7/11/2011
Msg: 24
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I dunno. For some reason, I've the urge to go see a production of "Fiddler on the Roof"...
 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 7/10/2012 12:01:51 PM
I introduced 2 of my friends to men I knew. One of them is being married to the guy for almost 10 years, another one lived with the guy for 6 or so months before they broke up.
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 26
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Posted: 7/10/2012 12:16:29 PM
Blonde Angel always shows great insight on these forums. She is one of the few women I would ever have any confidence in understanding what some guy is looking for in 'a match'.

A fellow above said of past hook ups...'what were they thinking?' so true. I shudder when I imagine two women talking about setting up some guy with a match and they conclude 'they'd be good for each other'...shivers! How do they know if she's good for him?. I doubt if part of their criteria would be that she knows how to dress like a slut and likes to jerk off her guy off when he's driving.. No, they'd say she is 'responsible' and dresses her age, blah, blah...and in their profiles they both enjoy dogs, wine and reading mystery novels.
 BmyGoddess
Joined: 6/21/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 7/10/2012 12:22:05 PM
Nice to see a genuine pearl here, hoping a future post is about your matchmade
 pfif
Joined: 6/11/2012
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/10/2012 6:38:56 PM
The POF database engine is constantly picking suggestions I'm
very interested in .. way above random, even to type, age and
so forth. It doesn't seem to weight for those few I look at whom
I knew I wasn't interested in for a mate, prior to mouse-clicking
their avatar -- but just curious about who they represented
themself to be in their profile.

It's uncanny.
 stellavixen
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 29
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Posted: 7/11/2012 4:30:54 PM
I am now kicking myself in the butt for not meeting chances from MD. But.... I live in Florida and plan on staying in Florida... I would only be setting myself up for a letdown.
 tzemeplzme11
Joined: 2/16/2011
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/12/2012 3:58:23 PM
matchmaker matchmaker, make me a match..........................lol was singing it when I read your comment.....and hey blondie? MAKE ME A MATCH PLEASE!
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/12/2012 8:14:57 PM
Well, I gave it a try, suggesting an old friend meet one of the lovely forumites here when he was in her neck of the woods. But I haven't gotten any cheery updates, so either they didn't meet or didn't click.

But I am trying to do my part!

And anyone who has a suggestion--toss it my way! My filters are pretty minimal so that other forumites can reach me. C'mon, use the opportunity that God and POF have given you! :)
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 32
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Posted: 7/12/2012 9:02:58 PM
Oh I'm sooo good at that giving advice. Co-workers, friends and family come to me for relationship advice. Sometimes I have to shake my head. Why me? I am the single one and have been that way for some time. I am probably the last person who should be consulted..lol

I have the same thing going on, but not from co-workers, most of whom are happily encumbered. When single friends ask me, I give the disclaimer of "said the relationship 'expert'".


I HATE WHEN PEOPLE TRY AND SET ME UP!!

Me too. Although they have good intentions, they don't seem to get that most of the time is that the only thing we have in common is that we are both single. Off topic: great to see you Janet!

On the plus side, I am hosting a house party for an acoustic version of a band next month and a psychologist friend has asked if she could invite some of her "normal" single male friends to the event. I'm game for dating, but am all over meeting people in real life these days as online enables people who misrepresent themselves.
 1388SmartBlonde
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 33
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Posted: 7/12/2012 10:13:28 PM
My exhusband and I had a mutual friend who knew we would get married before we even started dating. And even though the marriage ended 27 years later, I have no regrets...it was a good marriage for a long, long time. I have been "fixed up" by well-meaning friends since the divorce and have had some really nice dates as a result. Keep up the matchmaking, Blonde Angel...an objective party is often able to see at a distance what two people cannot up close.
 pfif
Joined: 6/11/2012
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/13/2012 2:01:40 AM
Meddling in the affairs of others tells me more about the so-called
matchmaker than the two people to be matched. In one case, the
person doing the match-making was clearly interested in dating
the woman, himself -- except he was married. So he wanted to see
her get courted (by me) and live vicariously, through my experiences.

Worse, she was the sister of the one we both were wowed by.
I took a pass.

This is why I stay the heck away from dating women who know anyone
I know very well. If you want to go that route, meet at a party where
it turns out she was invited there because she knew someone you didn't
know, and few others there. Less chance of a Peyton Place thing happening,
later on.
 realmofthought
Joined: 12/7/2011
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/13/2012 4:06:28 AM
I'm much better at matchmaking than finding someone ...I should just pretend I don't know me!
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/13/2012 9:48:25 AM

I live in Florida and plan on staying in Florida... I would only be setting myself up for a letdown.


You must have missed SmartBlondes post on "Relocating and Starting Over"
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts15401358.aspx


But since you asked those places were Charleston, SC, Savannah GA, Sarasota, FL and several spots along the FL panhandle.


Interesting dilemma. Can't date the women that are local, because you aren't staying. Can't date the women you might go to, because you aren't there yet. I guess I don't need anyone to screw me. I'm doing a pretty good job of that myself. : /

I was in your area for alittle more than a visit and making a friend there that knew the area would have been priceless to me.

You night want to do some self evaluation on that mindset of "I would only be setting myself up for a letdown". Isn't that what everyone risks entering a relationship? Even just meeting someone is a risk. Sure we can reduce our risks by taking precautions, but it's always opening yourself up for a possible letdown.

But it's also opening yourself up for a possible long lasting friendship or something even better.
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
Msg: 37
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Posted: 7/13/2012 12:24:53 PM
pfif:
This is why I stay the heck away from dating women who know anyone
I know very well.... . Less chance of a Peyton Place thing happening,
later on.


Agreed. When I returned home to France after doing military service my sister introduced me to a nice girl who I escorted to her family's tent at our town's annual winefest. We get there and lo and behold there's also two of my former girlfriends. All these ladies are chit chatting about me.

Anyways it's not 'the' reason but a big reason i left and eventually immigrated to Canada. I knew nobody and it was refreshing to meet a woman when everything about her is enigmatic.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/13/2012 7:49:57 PM

Posted By: Judi14 on 7/12/2012 1042 PM
Subject: What 2 look 4 when u r over 45...
Message: ^^^^dmzvisitor, you're in Madison, WI?? (I'm in Milwaukee area.) Oh, I may have a guy for you in Madison, but he's on another dating site. Can you message me? I'll tell you what site and what his user name is. Who knows, you may hit it off.


Aww, thanks! So nice to think that someone is looking out for me.

I live between Madison and Milwaukee; you and I should get together some time!
 15111958
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/13/2012 8:21:45 PM

Of course women look for money & looks, so do guys!


Don't know many guys that look at money when it comes to finding a woman. Most don't care what job she does either.
 onemoretimeforfun
Joined: 1/28/2011
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/14/2012 10:14:50 AM
It's my first time in this forum, as I've never needed advice in this area before. That being said as I was reading i couldn't help but notice just how on target this blond angel truely is ....So I pose a question ,why? why is it that women who once looked at the heart have changed and become so shallow( formally a man's domain).In two and a half years I have dated over two hundred women some not as steller as others. Since my operation that effected my looks some what negatively in my opinion,I have taken this huge dive in my dating life,a small scare above my lip isn't a reflection of my fun personality,and hasn't effected my humor to any major degree I hope,if anything its given me more ammunition to laugh at myself.lol.However what I'm asking here is what can I do to take the focus off the scare that will effect a girls heart? most sincerely .D
 Sand Dunes
Joined: 8/19/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/18/2012 4:42:02 PM
This match making talk reminds me of a recent episode of the new t v show "Louie" on TBS when he was fixed up by two friends for a blind diner date, and how THAT turned out. I laughed my a s s off..couldnt believe it was on regular tv. wow! Worth looking for a rerun of it or internet play.
 Plenty_of_FreeTime
Joined: 10/26/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/18/2012 5:03:14 PM
I'm having a hard time believing that BLoNde can't seem to find the right match for herself....what's up with that?
You seem like one of the "good" people around here!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 43
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Posted: 7/18/2012 5:38:36 PM
Cause it is a forum, I'll ask a question or two.


The irony is, I can see who would make a good couple when it comes to other people, but for me...LOL


And how do you define a "good couple"???? Period of time together???? Them enjoying themselves "while" together,(for whatever period of time that is).

I honestly think it's pretty hard to get two people together,and they magically become one. It's a process,with ups and downs, and the "outcome" is relative to the two people involved. And unless you truely "know" a person(or would that be two people?????) it's gonna be pretty tough to match up for the truely "long term". Short term, yep, easily possible. Long term, I will always question. Especially if actually have never met them, and see them react/act in real life situations. Cause,sooner or later, reality always comes into play.
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 44
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Posted: 7/18/2012 6:04:14 PM
BLoNde can't seem to find the right match for herself....what's up with that?


HE needs 2 find me ;0D
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/11/2012 6:13:09 AM
Decent English skills?
 realmofthought
Joined: 12/7/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/11/2012 6:19:10 AM
I'm batting 1.000 when it comes to matchmaking...so now I'm turning my skills upon myself(with mixed results thus far).
 BLONDE_ANGEL845
Joined: 6/30/2012
Msg: 47
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Posted: 8/11/2012 7:01:09 AM

so now I'm turning my skills upon myself

I've been doing that alot lately myself, LOL!
 missmermaid4u
Joined: 6/23/2012
Msg: 48
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Posted: 8/11/2012 11:26:34 PM
sounds like you are a great match maker..and you will find someone..I was just going to point out that mayb ppl log on to profiles just for the forums out of boredom, not to date..his profile was still up, just saying..trust is just that..unseen~ believing without looking back..
seems to me you were not checking it was just by accident~just something to consider..
mayb I am missing something~I always over analyse things.. all the best to U op and to everyone
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